better? well it all depends on the user...for me, i'm a .45acp/9mm/10mm guy
i dont like the .40sw as i prefer the 10mm instead; for HD/SD, i prefer the shootability of the .45acp and the cost of the 9mm
if the .40sw suits you, shootability wise, its a great cartrige, disregarding its higher pressures and snappier recoil
you can get a hi-cap .40sw that fit in 9mm frames, while the .45acp double stacks tend to be wider
you get relatively the same accuracy of each bullet, depending on the brand and load; 'stopping power' is relative, and only hits and reliablity and expansion count
.45acps are high weight, low speed, low pressure; .40sw is moderate speed, moderate grain weight, and high pressure--a good go-between 9mm speed and .45acp weight
both have thier benefits and shortcommings (while many would argue that .40sw is perfect) and either would suffice for a carry caliber