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Thanks for the replies guys. I know this thread is a little more "touchy feely" than the usual threads on here lol
My parents house was "home" from day one. I grew up there my whole life. Spent 24-1/2 years there until I moved into the apartment.
I loved the apartment to be honest. Was on the 6th floor (top floor) and was perfect size for us (about 750 sq feet). A little small for when we wanted to have a party, but perfect for just the two of us. However, I did not like the area, nor the neighbors. There were very few "normal" people in the building. Allot of sketchy people and allot of people who needed outside attention (mentally handicap or section 8). The cops were at the building probably 2 or 3 times a month. Our neighbors use to have shouting matches all the time, and the apartment below us would play loud music all night. Plus the "community laundry room" was never a fun place.
If we had normal people in the building, I probably wouldn't have moved out as soon as we did.
One of my favorite things about the CTHTF... real people discussing real life. Gun talk is obviously plentiful as well, but it's always a good place to seek advice on almost any topic and there's always friendly, local people offering their help/support/advice
Seconded!
OP, we're in almost the exact same boat. Lived with my parents for 23-24 years, two of which I was in a dorm but came home most weekends. My girlfriend (of 6 years) and I lived in an apartment together for ~2 years, and just moved in to our first house 4 months ago. She is madly in love with it, thinks its our forever house already.
Im more, well, "indifferent". Its a great neighborhood and everything, but I'm just looking forward to skyrocketing the equity in it and moving on in 8-10 years. That said, I wouldn't mind raising a kid through high school here and moving on after.
We closed on a Monday, painted/cleaned for 3 days and moved all our stuff in one shot. Move in day was lease termination day at the apartment, so it was all or nothing.
When Im driving home from work, I still go into autopilot and take a wrong turn back toward the apartment or my parents house once in a while. I laugh at myself when it happens. It definitely did not feel like "home" the first month or two, and there are still aspects and parts of the house that feel alien to me. I can say with certainty, the more work I put in to it, the more at home I feel. I just replaced all the windows, and now every surface has been painted, so that is really nice. But all the doors still need replacing, the trim is in really sad shape etc. All inside work I will do over the winter. Im trying to buckle down the insulation etc before the cold gets here.
I feel VERY awkward outside. Most of my neighbors are retired (except for the female divorce attorney across the street, and her two daughters), and I feel like no matter what Im doing outside, somebody is watching me (and they are). They are all very very nice, I've met them all and we're all very cordial, but they have ALL been in these homes for 25+ years, and Im the new guy. Its not that they aren't welcoming or anything, its just that, well, I guess I just don't really feel "at home" out there yet.
If I've got anything to add, I guess its that a house is just a house, its up to you guys to make it a home. Whatever that means, full on renovations or just decorating, Im sure its different for everyone, and every different scenario.
While we were waiting for closing, my SO bought a flagpole to hang Old Glory off the front of our house, right next to our front door. It is the very first thing we did. We closed, got the keys, drove to the house, and hung up that flag. Damn I love that woman.