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Posted: 2/6/2016 9:32:21 PM EDT
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you should probably talk to her about it first. a simple "this is not OK with me--what's going on?" can work wonders.
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Only saw the title of this thread. Any time you have to ask, the answer is YES! |
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Five months is long enough to figure out if it is working or not.
Evidently it isn't. |
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No, you should have an honest discussion. Then decide whether to eject or ride it out.
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Sounds to me like you are being replaced, but she's still keeping her options open. Either that, or you are the clingy type.
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Mine has had her thyroid removed due to cancer as well, and she starts getting tired in the evening. She doesn't get sick very often, other than the occasional cold or migraine.
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you should probably talk to her about it first. a simple "this is not OK with me--what's going on?" can work wonders. She gets sick pretty often. Is she still getting cancer treatments or taking drugs for the cancer? |
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She's screwing another dude but you probably have good taste in food.
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There is some information missing like her bra size.
There is a sliding scale and this is a metric on same. |
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you should probably talk to her about it first. a simple "this is not OK with me--what's going on?" can work wonders. How much money do you give her? Buy things for her? Paying bills? Etc. |
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is she on something for her now lost tyroid? I know before I was on my meds I was tired all the time and very forgetful. If that is stable move on.
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I've been dating a woman for 5 months now and she makes me feel lately like I'm an inconvenience, Can't get her to answer the phone ,takes hours to get a reply to a text not just a hey,what are you doing but ones where she makes plans and if we're doing them or not .it's like pulling teeth.. And whenever we are supposed to meet up she always get's tired and cuts it short. I really like her and she tells me she loves me but it doesn't feel like it. There's more and this has no bearing whether I stay or go,she had her thyroid taken out from cancer so she get's sick pretty often and I assume that is making her tired too? Wasn't at all like this till about 2 weeks ago ,I know she isn't talking/seeing anyone else,so that isn't a worry. Really hitting a cross roads type thing with this,Do I have a legitimate gripe or am I just being a bitch? Not a chance I'm posting pics View Quote She's got another guy she's interested in......but she's too chicken-shit to tell you. If something feels wrong......trust your gut. Eject. Plenty of girls out there...no need to settle for one that doesn't make you happy. |
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Sounds like the relationship just started with the new car smell wearing off. Your call OP.
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Don't Call or text her and see how long it takes her to make contact with you. If and when she makes contact you can see how it plays out.
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is she on something for her now lost tyroid? I know before I was on my meds I was tired all the time and very forgetful. If that is stable move on. She may need a dosage adjustment. |
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Especially if she's only been like this the last two weeks. Two weeks is nothing. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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No, you should have an honest discussion. Then decide whether to eject or ride it out. Especially if she's only been like this the last two weeks. Two weeks is nothing. Someone that is interested in you wouldn't do this |
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you should probably talk to her about it first. a simple "this is not OK with me--what's going on?" can work wonders. https://totakesometime.files.wordpress.com/2012/10/200891941.jpg That |
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She started talking to someone else and isn't sure what to door or feels bad and doesn't want to be the one to axe it…so she's pushing you away with the goal of you ending it.
Stop initiating contact and stop trying. If she cares, she will realize she's losing you and will make an effort. If she doesn't care, you won't hear from her again and your problem will be solved. |
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you should probably talk to her about it first. a simple "this is not OK with me--what's going on?" can work wonders. a good friend of mine hit that point with a woman he was desperately in love with. like, he was making lifetime plans and had already bought (not given) a ring, but she was starting to fade out a bit. so one night, without freaking out or giving up his man card, he calmly said something to the effect of: "look, something is going on here, and you're not telling me what it is. if you're in a weird place, i can handle that, as long as i know that you're committed to this. but right now, i'm not getting what i need out of this relationship. you need to decide what it is that you want, and if i'm it, then something has to change. i love you, but i'm not going to wait around forever. call me when you want to talk." he said that the next 3 days--while waiting for her to call--were downright torture. but she finally called, crying. 12 years on, they're married, deliriously happy, and working on a 3rd kid. what's interesting is that she--not my buddy--was the one who told me this story. she also told me that she had gotten a little complacent--he treated her like a queen, which she wasn't used to. she said that his confidence in calmly laying it out there--and being willing to walk away--reminded her that she had a lot to lose. this is not advice--just a story about self-assurance. |
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She went and hung out with my mom yesterday.My mom said she talked bout me all day saying how much she likes me and I'm so sweet , blah,blah,blah
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I faced this exact same thing today. Two phone calls went unanswered. I bought her a present for her house, and thought I'd take it over. When I get to the house, she's not there. I sent a text asking where she was, and after some time I got a reply saying "Out". I texted back that I knew that, I was sitting in front of her house and wanted to know when she would be back so I could figure out whether to wait, or leave and come back later. No answer. Wouldn't pick up the phone.
This woman has chronic pain problems compounded by depression. I think the woman in the OP may have depression. It won't get better without recognition of the problem on her part. So, blade at 45, FO and eject, just like I have(n't). |
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I'm not sure two weeks is a big enough sample size. A lot of cancer survivors deal with chronic fatigue as well.
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Stop contacting her and see what happens. I'd probably move on.
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