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Posted: 10/20/2016 7:50:45 PM EDT
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Truth is some men just get bored. Sex becomes routine and dull after a while. No naughty board game or corny role playing actually fixes that. It's still the same person you've been sleeping with all along. After a while you just lose interest. Of course my ex wife had her own hangups that just made sex awful but I think for a lot of men it's all down hill after that initial rush of walking into a new womans bedroom for the first time. There will be exceptions and some guys here would fuck a snake if somebody held its mouth open but I do think they're in the minority. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Of the women I'm close enough to that we'd discuss it, I've known 2 who say their husband expects it every day and if he doesn't get it he pouts and gets bitchy. And 4 who say it's like pulling teeth to get some action from him. I guess everyone else is pretty evenly matched or they just don't want to talk about it. Truth is some men just get bored. Sex becomes routine and dull after a while. No naughty board game or corny role playing actually fixes that. It's still the same person you've been sleeping with all along. After a while you just lose interest. Of course my ex wife had her own hangups that just made sex awful but I think for a lot of men it's all down hill after that initial rush of walking into a new womans bedroom for the first time. There will be exceptions and some guys here would fuck a snake if somebody held its mouth open but I do think they're in the minority. I don't know if I would say bored maybe frustrated. If the lady only has a y button and up on the d-pad it gets annoying when you know that even the NES had more going for it. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 7:55:57 PM EDT
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Mixnmatch24, I would like you to meet bakkbakk.  Quote HistoryQuoted:
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if my wife doesn't put out, then i'm going to go on the prowl for dick Quoted:
porn is faster easier and you dont need to please a computer.? not me, i fuck whatever 
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Posted: 10/20/2016 7:58:13 PM EDT
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:02:40 PM EDT
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Fuck that, life is too short. If I don't get it at least a couple times a week I'm either bouncing or will get some on the side. I try to make this perfectly clear to my woman.
I'm 30 now and would be just fine with once or twice a day.. Been this way from probably the age of 12.
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:03:43 PM EDT
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Let? Hell no. Long story short. Gave her three options. Put up, put out or get out. She refused to discuss or work on her issues. Married 33 years and never ONCE has she given oral, anal or even a hand job. No interesting positions nothing. About year 12 we divorced and seperated for three years. I remarried her for our kids and on the promise of her issues being fixed as she was in therapy. Mistake two on my part. 3-4 years ago I gave her the ultimatum. Told her straight up shes not getting shit and has zero say what, where my dick goes and she made her choice to live with and forfeited the right to complain. But no, i dont chase tail but yes ive been with another. My notches number three to include my wife and a ex i was going to marry but got cold feet. Nomex on Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Not going to help. 15 years or so since she wanted sex. Been at least ten since she was medically able. FML Does she let you sleep with other women? Let? Hell no. Long story short. Gave her three options. Put up, put out or get out. She refused to discuss or work on her issues. Married 33 years and never ONCE has she given oral, anal or even a hand job. No interesting positions nothing. About year 12 we divorced and seperated for three years. I remarried her for our kids and on the promise of her issues being fixed as she was in therapy. Mistake two on my part. 3-4 years ago I gave her the ultimatum. Told her straight up shes not getting shit and has zero say what, where my dick goes and she made her choice to live with and forfeited the right to complain. But no, i dont chase tail but yes ive been with another. My notches number three to include my wife and a ex i was going to marry but got cold feet. Nomex on Ha nomex on. So on the fire line day one your perspective is all messed up a 3 a 7 and so on, vs on day 14 on line a 10 is a 30and a1 is a 10. Wild land FF jargon. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:04:07 PM EDT
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Counseling. Now. Your daughter will be hardwiring her little brain chemistry in the next couple years, setting things about what couples are, what healthy relationships feel like, and what love looks like. You think being a pent-up, hurt, resentful husband during all of those years is going to do her ANY favors? It's going to create a person who makes bad choices in their relationships, because you gave her the template. Children soak that shit up like a magic sponge, you won't be hiding it. Fix your marriage, and that starts by having a long honest conversation to your wife....and convey that very thing. Neglecting intimacy and doing so coldly is not going to make a good marriage, and that will be something she's teaching to her child....a lesson you can't undo. If she's not willing to work on that, then you have a tough road ahead of you. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Count me in on this train too. The other night I tried to just cop a feel before she got in the shower and I offered to do anything she wanted me to do. She said " I don't want anything from you sexually" When she does cave it's like once a month. We have a 14 month old and I'm not sure what to do. I'm fucking pissed but don't want to lose everything I've worked so hard for. Guess I'll hang in there till I can't no more. I love me daughter to much to not see her everyday.   Counseling. Now. Your daughter will be hardwiring her little brain chemistry in the next couple years, setting things about what couples are, what healthy relationships feel like, and what love looks like. You think being a pent-up, hurt, resentful husband during all of those years is going to do her ANY favors? It's going to create a person who makes bad choices in their relationships, because you gave her the template. Children soak that shit up like a magic sponge, you won't be hiding it. Fix your marriage, and that starts by having a long honest conversation to your wife....and convey that very thing. Neglecting intimacy and doing so coldly is not going to make a good marriage, and that will be something she's teaching to her child....a lesson you can't undo. If she's not willing to work on that, then you have a tough road ahead of you. This post should automatically appear in arfcom relationship threads. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:06:26 PM EDT
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if my wife doesn't put out, then i'm going to go on the prowl for dick Well you could start here in GD, plenty of dicks to pick from. Props for a classic line too.
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:09:11 PM EDT
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I feel for you fellows, we went through a spell like that when she started menopause. I just made her understand I just need 10-20 mins of her time And she agreed and learned other fun ways to please me on down days. Good thing is her period ended a few months ago and she is a changed woman Like the older gal from sex in the city. Just sit down and explain how much it means to you to Enjoy your wife sexually don't yell, be kind. If she truly understands she will come to an agreement that works for both of You. Good luck. Another good one. When my wife and I tapered off to only once or twice a week, I sat down and discussed it with her like an adult. We both had stuff to say. We both listened to each other. We didn't point fingers. This didn't just happen once, but it took several times before she realize that I'm wired differently than her. Now, because she loves me, she ensures my needs are met. I guess hers are. I dunno. (  )
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:22:54 PM EDT
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A little bit of sexting goes along ways:
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:35:37 PM EDT
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Count me in on this train too. The other night I tried to just cop a feel before she got in the shower and I offered to do anything she wanted me to do. She said " I don't want anything from you sexually" When she does cave it's like once a month. We have a 14 month old and I'm not sure what to do. I'm fucking pissed but don't want to lose everything I've worked so hard for. Guess I'll hang in there till I can't no more. I love me daughter to much to not see her everyday. Counseling. Now. Your daughter will be hardwiring her little brain chemistry in the next couple years, setting things about what couples are, what healthy relationships feel like, and what love looks like. You think being a pent-up, hurt, resentful husband during all of those years is going to do her ANY favors? It's going to create a person who makes bad choices in their relationships, because you gave her the template. Children soak that shit up like a magic sponge, you won't be hiding it. Fix your marriage, and that starts by having a long honest conversation to your wife....and convey that very thing. Neglecting intimacy and doing so coldly is not going to make a good marriage, and that will be something she's teaching to her child....a lesson you can't undo. If she's not willing to work on that, then you have a tough road ahead of you. This post should automatically appear in arfcom relationship threads. Swingset. My wife was raised in a hateful marriage of her parents. They showed each other no affection. So, (we don't fight like they did) but she was raised seeing that "normal" is an emotionless pit. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:39:42 PM EDT
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I'm betting a combination (of at least one or more parts of):
Spousal frigidity Low T Getting Tired of Asking, so he's jerking it 5 times a day, every day (Just like me! )
Significant Spousal Weight Gain Sorry...but sexually speaking, I know lots of guys who are very visual in a sexual sense. If your wife has put on like 30-100 pounds and is just not sexually attractive in any way anymore), it can have an effect on libido. Seriously. Quoted:
if my wife doesn't put out, then i'm going to go on the prowl for dick WAIT...WHAT?!! |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:42:28 PM EDT
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Chaining yourself to another individual who you can not predict the future behavior of is not something I see as a winning proposition. I will keep my variety thank you very much.
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:43:48 PM EDT
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I can't count how many times I've read posts by members, claiming that their wives were completely uninterested and they were just hanging in there for the kids. I've even known some men IRL that had similar situations. Today, my wife was telling me that her co-worker broke down and said that her husband hasn't touched her in 6 years. When I expressed shock at this (she's hot), my wife said she knows other women that claim that they have husbands with no interest in them sexually. This got me thinking that this could be a loop, created by poor communication in the relationship. I mean seriously, everyone wants sex at some point. I can see getting wrapped up in the daily chaos and realizing that it's been a couple of weeks. To go "years" without sex, there has to be some desire. Maybe you guys that are in this boat, should take her out, get a few drinks in her and act like it's your first date. What's the worst that could happen? This thread is fail without pics of wife's hot coworker. Let us judge for ourselves. Odds are he is getting sex, somewhere. If she is really hot and wants it and he ain't giving it to her maybe he has gone to other team? |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:50:24 PM EDT
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A little bit of sexting goes along ways: http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a77/millersho/20161020_172131_zpsexmvzep1.png My god was that cringe worthy sexting  . You could've had two or three good sexts out of what you said. Use your imagination a little bit more, but I guess you got her wet so good for you Not too mention she was the one who initiated it...
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:50:57 PM EDT
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My brother is in one of these marriages, sex maybe every 6 months and usually when she wants another kid. Case in point... He told her earlier this year he wants no more kids, and wants her to wake up just once a month to cook breakfast so he can sleep in for the first time in 8 years (she doesn't work). She said she wants to move to FL. He said ok hoping that would shut her up. She came up and told us she controls him in the bedroom and whether or not they have kids. Last week, she told us she's pregnant. She still hasn't woken up once to cook the kids breakfast and now says it's because she's pregnant and too tired. Hell on earth. Holy fuck. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:56:46 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Living in one right now. Once or twice a month if Im lucky. What I have found during our almost 21 yrs together is this....sometimes, life gets busy. Sometimes, you annoy each other, lol, yes, it's true. Sometimes, there are medications involved that knock down one's libido. And sometimes, you or her are just TIRED. Lol. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 8:57:04 PM EDT
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My brother is in one of these marriages, sex maybe every 6 months and usually when she wants another kid. Case in point... He told her earlier this year he wants no more kids, and wants her to wake up just once a month to cook breakfast so he can sleep in for the first time in 8 years (she doesn't work). She said she wants to move to FL. He said ok hoping that would shut her up. She came up and told us she controls him in the bedroom and whether or not they have kids. Last week, she told us she's pregnant. She still hasn't woken up once to cook the kids breakfast and now says it's because she's pregnant and too tired. Hell on earth. Holy fuck. No kidding, what a prison that guy has made for himself. I would be gone, I don't care what it cost me. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:06:48 PM EDT
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Hard to have any type of relationship when you don't want to be in the same room with them or even listen to their voice.
We don't have anything in common. She:
Counting down until the kiddo is 18 & graduated from high school. 
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:09:34 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Swingset. My wife was raised in a hateful marriage of her parents. They showed each other no affection. So, (we don't fight like they did) but she was raised seeing that "normal" is an emotionless pit. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Count me in on this train too. The other night I tried to just cop a feel before she got in the shower and I offered to do anything she wanted me to do. She said " I don't want anything from you sexually" When she does cave it's like once a month. We have a 14 month old and I'm not sure what to do. I'm fucking pissed but don't want to lose everything I've worked so hard for. Guess I'll hang in there till I can't no more. I love me daughter to much to not see her everyday. Counseling. Now. Your daughter will be hardwiring her little brain chemistry in the next couple years, setting things about what couples are, what healthy relationships feel like, and what love looks like. You think being a pent-up, hurt, resentful husband during all of those years is going to do her ANY favors? It's going to create a person who makes bad choices in their relationships, because you gave her the template. Children soak that shit up like a magic sponge, you won't be hiding it. Fix your marriage, and that starts by having a long honest conversation to your wife....and convey that very thing. Neglecting intimacy and doing so coldly is not going to make a good marriage, and that will be something she's teaching to her child....a lesson you can't undo. If she's not willing to work on that, then you have a tough road ahead of you. This post should automatically appear in arfcom relationship threads. Swingset. My wife was raised in a hateful marriage of her parents. They showed each other no affection. So, (we don't fight like they did) but she was raised seeing that "normal" is an emotionless pit. My wife was raised in a loveless marriage. They got along, but were like brother/sister, and her mom hated sex. It informed my wife's view on marriage in a very negative way, and gave her some hangups which she had to overcome. She did, for the most part and we're doing good, but it's pretty remarkable how a parent's relationship can imprint on how children choose their love lives (both good and bad). |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:10:20 PM EDT
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A little bit of sexting goes along ways: http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a77/millersho/20161020_172131_zpsexmvzep1.png Well that takes me back to early highschool 
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:13:45 PM EDT
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Haven't been laid in years, wife claims it hurts and has no desire. Great wife other than that.
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:13:53 PM EDT
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That happens to men who only see sex as conquest or getting off. If you don't have a strong emotional component to sex, and share it with a partner you care about, it's gonna get dull. I don't have that problem, never have, in 25 years of marriage my wife still trips my trigger. Even when it's routine (physically), we're having fun and it's good. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Of the women I'm close enough to that we'd discuss it, I've known 2 who say their husband expects it every day and if he doesn't get it he pouts and gets bitchy. And 4 who say it's like pulling teeth to get some action from him. I guess everyone else is pretty evenly matched or they just don't want to talk about it. Truth is some men just get bored. Sex becomes routine and dull after a while. No naughty board game or corny role playing actually fixes that. It's still the same person you've been sleeping with all along. After a while you just lose interest. Of course my ex wife had her own hangups that just made sex awful but I think for a lot of men it's all down hill after that initial rush of walking into a new womans bedroom for the first time. There will be exceptions and some guys here would fuck a snake if somebody held its mouth open but I do think they're in the minority. That happens to men who only see sex as conquest or getting off. If you don't have a strong emotional component to sex, and share it with a partner you care about, it's gonna get dull. I don't have that problem, never have, in 25 years of marriage my wife still trips my trigger. Even when it's routine (physically), we're having fun and it's good. Perhaps. I have come to terms with the fact that I'm what some would call emotionally unavailable. Chalk it up to life experiences and general upbringing I suppose. I don't think I'm at all alone in that however. Different strokes and all. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:17:09 PM EDT
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A little bit of sexting goes along ways: http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a77/millersho/20161020_172131_zpsexmvzep1.png Well that takes me back to early highschool Girls like to feel young. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:17:28 PM EDT
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I work night shift so I'm gone 4 nights a week. We usually only fuck Friday and Saturday, Sunday if the kids are asleep or something. Working nights is hard on that shit. Still by Friday she is ready for anything even if we are both tired. 30 and 2 kids. I'll take twice a week working nights. For what it's worth, I think men have a lot to do with there lack of sex in relationships. Why? Because 70% of American men are fat slobs who drink too much and eat garbage while not getting off the couch. You think your wife is interested in banging your fat ass? No she is not. She wants to bang the guy who does Crossfit/lifts heavy 6 days a week and doesn't spend all his free time drinking. Yep, I do crossfit or Olympic lifting 6 days a week. Yep, my wife (and most of her friends) are quite attracted to me because of this. Don't let anyone sugar it, being physically attracted to someone plays a HUGE part in sex drive, married or not. It's called alpha. Obtain it. I remember when I was 30 with two kids and said the same stupid stuff. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:20:18 PM EDT
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I'm betting a combination (of at least one or more parts of): Spousal frigidity Low T Getting Tired of Asking, so he's jerking it 5 times a day, every day (Just like me! )
Significant Spousal Weight Gain Sorry...but sexually speaking, I know lots of guys who are very visual in a sexual sense. If your wife has put on like 30-100 pounds and is just not sexually attractive in any way anymore), it can have an effect on libido. Seriously. WAIT...WHAT?!! Quote HistoryQuoted:
I'm betting a combination (of at least one or more parts of): Spousal frigidity Low T Getting Tired of Asking, so he's jerking it 5 times a day, every day (Just like me! )
Significant Spousal Weight Gain Sorry...but sexually speaking, I know lots of guys who are very visual in a sexual sense. If your wife has put on like 30-100 pounds and is just not sexually attractive in any way anymore), it can have an effect on libido. Seriously. Quoted:
if my wife doesn't put out, then i'm going to go on the prowl for dick WAIT...WHAT?!! Maybe everyone is assuming that the poster is a man, instead of a gay or bisexual chick in a marriage with another woman. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:20:27 PM EDT
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Living in one right now. Once or twice a month if Im lucky. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:20:32 PM EDT
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Damn, I found this thread to be funny. Lucky I never got married, started a business, made enough money to retire by 50. Stayed in shape so I looked like a 35 year old and living in a college town full of horny women. Life is good.
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:21:11 PM EDT
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They're getting sex. Just not from their wives. This. Just because she is not giving it to him doesn't mean he is not getting any. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:22:24 PM EDT
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My god was that cringe worthy sexting . You could've had two or three good sexts out of what you said. Use your imagination a little bit more, but I guess you got her wet so good for you Not too mention she was the one who initiated it...Quote HistoryQuoted:
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A little bit of sexting goes along ways: http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a77/millersho/20161020_172131_zpsexmvzep1.png My god was that cringe worthy sexting . You could've had two or three good sexts out of what you said. Use your imagination a little bit more, but I guess you got her wet so good for you Not too mention she was the one who initiated it...Let's see yours romeo? 
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:24:07 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: truth Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: After a guys is turned down enough times, he stops fucking asking. truth I believe that would be learned helplessness |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:26:36 PM EDT
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if my wife doesn't put out, then i'm going to go on the prowl for dick You Like Dick? |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:27:59 PM EDT
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if my wife doesn't put out, then i'm going to go on the prowl for dick It's good to have a plan B. doesn't sound like he's going to need Plan B if he goes that route. 
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:28:19 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Well that takes me back to early highschool Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: A little bit of sexting goes along ways: http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a77/millersho/20161020_172131_zpsexmvzep1.png Well that takes me back to early highschool That is pretty much how my coworker and his wife still text/flirt with one another and they're in their 50s...great couple too. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:30:09 PM EDT
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Haven't been laid in years, wife claims it hurts and has no desire. Great wife other than that. Heartiste |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:30:15 PM EDT
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After a guys is turned down enough times, he stops fucking asking. Half the humans on the planet have vaginas, finding one to stick your dick into isn't all that hard. Most spot on and accurate post on the internet. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:30:47 PM EDT
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With her beta husband? Ick. She's not into that kind of stuff anymore. An Alpha Widow spends a lifetime pining for that 15 minutes of sloppy uninhibited monkey sex she gave to Chad McThundercock back in HS/college and you're not him and never will be. So shut up and enjoy your reluctant once-a-month missionary sex with your rapidly aging wife and keep paying those bills dammit. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I wonder how many women are ashamed to bring up their preferences. What decent woman is gonna come forward and say they want to be slapped around and choked like their old boyfriend did lol. With her beta husband? Ick. She's not into that kind of stuff anymore. An Alpha Widow spends a lifetime pining for that 15 minutes of sloppy uninhibited monkey sex she gave to Chad McThundercock back in HS/college and you're not him and never will be. So shut up and enjoy your reluctant once-a-month missionary sex with your rapidly aging wife and keep paying those bills dammit. Fucking poetry. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:32:10 PM EDT
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Oh look, another thread explaining why I'm content to date casually and jerk off on an old shirt.
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:35:33 PM EDT
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Has anyone successfully asked the wife for a threesome? If so, please share your wisdom. Once but only once. I agree it was a bit much to ask if her sister could join. That was a shity Christmas..... |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:38:27 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Perhaps. I have come to terms with the fact that I'm what some would call emotionally unavailable. Chalk it up to life experiences and general upbringing I suppose. I don't think I'm at all alone in that however. Different strokes and all. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Of the women I'm close enough to that we'd discuss it, I've known 2 who say their husband expects it every day and if he doesn't get it he pouts and gets bitchy. And 4 who say it's like pulling teeth to get some action from him. I guess everyone else is pretty evenly matched or they just don't want to talk about it. Truth is some men just get bored. Sex becomes routine and dull after a while. No naughty board game or corny role playing actually fixes that. It's still the same person you've been sleeping with all along. After a while you just lose interest. Of course my ex wife had her own hangups that just made sex awful but I think for a lot of men it's all down hill after that initial rush of walking into a new womans bedroom for the first time. There will be exceptions and some guys here would fuck a snake if somebody held its mouth open but I do think they're in the minority. That happens to men who only see sex as conquest or getting off. If you don't have a strong emotional component to sex, and share it with a partner you care about, it's gonna get dull. I don't have that problem, never have, in 25 years of marriage my wife still trips my trigger. Even when it's routine (physically), we're having fun and it's good. Perhaps. I have come to terms with the fact that I'm what some would call emotionally unavailable. Chalk it up to life experiences and general upbringing I suppose. I don't think I'm at all alone in that however. Different strokes and all. If it has negative outcomes in your relationships, then it's something to work on. Relationships are emotional pairings, afterall. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:39:49 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Damn, I found this thread to be funny. Lucky I never got married, started a business, made enough money to retire by 50. Stayed in shape so I looked like a 35 year old and living in a college town full of horny women. Life is good. Let's talk when you're 65, and creeping all the girls out. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:46:55 PM EDT
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I get frustrated if not multiple times per week, but I don't keep count--probably 3. I'm never satisfied with the frequency, but the sex is great. Anything goes. Wife and I work out regularly and eat well. I get turned down if I approach her too late (she's up at 5am every morning to run) or if we've had sex in the last 24 hours, apparently. Frustrating as hell sometimes.
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:47:47 PM EDT
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Haven't been laid in years, wife claims it hurts and has no desire. Great wife other than that. Uh, similar. Wife need maoi type drugs, kills libido, and really oppressive Christian demonizing of sex kills it psychologically. She also says it hurts. We're great otherwise, she's great too, and realizes my needs aren't met. It's a small matter really. Sometimes she drinks a few drinks and jumps my bones, I take it when I can. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:51:45 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Uh, similar. Wife need maoi type drugs, kills libido, and really oppressive Christian demonizing of sex kills it psychologically. She also says it hurts. We're great otherwise, she's great too, and realizes my needs aren't met. It's a small matter really. Sometimes she drinks a few drinks and jumps my bones, I take it when I can. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Haven't been laid in years, wife claims it hurts and has no desire. Great wife other than that. Uh, similar. Wife need maoi type drugs, kills libido, and really oppressive Christian demonizing of sex kills it psychologically. She also says it hurts. We're great otherwise, she's great too, and realizes my needs aren't met. It's a small matter really. Sometimes she drinks a few drinks and jumps my bones, I take it when I can. What kind of Christian demonizes sex between husband and wife? |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:52:05 PM EDT
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Once but only once. I agree it was a bit much to ask if her sister could join. That was a shity Christmas..... Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Has anyone successfully asked the wife for a threesome? If so, please share your wisdom. Once but only once. I agree it was a bit much to ask if her sister could join. That was a shity Christmas..... Sister? Man you went all out right there! Balls to the wall and full steam ahead.
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:52:59 PM EDT
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Some of you guys better hope you die young, since you seem to think that when you can't use your dick any more your life is over.
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:55:50 PM EDT
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That is pretty much how my coworker and his wife still text/flirt with one another and they're in their 50s...great couple too. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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A little bit of sexting goes along ways: http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a77/millersho/20161020_172131_zpsexmvzep1.png Well that takes me back to early highschool That is pretty much how my coworker and his wife still text/flirt with one another and they're in their 50s...great couple too. I cant imagine a grown man talking like that.
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:56:03 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: What kind of Christian demonizes sex between husband and wife? Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Quoted: Haven't been laid in years, wife claims it hurts and has no desire. Great wife other than that. Uh, similar. Wife need maoi type drugs, kills libido, and really oppressive Christian demonizing of sex kills it psychologically. She also says it hurts. We're great otherwise, she's great too, and realizes my needs aren't met. It's a small matter really. Sometimes she drinks a few drinks and jumps my bones, I take it when I can. What kind of Christian demonizes sex between husband and wife? The kind that doesn't realize that demonizing sex outside of marriage often carries over into married sex. Lots of those kinds, unfortunately. When you tell kids sex is morally wrong, and that pleasures should be suppressed, they have a damned hard time letting all that shit go. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:57:45 PM EDT
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What kind of Christian demonizes sex between husband and wife?
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Haven't been laid in years, wife claims it hurts and has no desire. Great wife other than that. Uh, similar. Wife need maoi type drugs, kills libido, and really oppressive Christian demonizing of sex kills it psychologically. She also says it hurts. We're great otherwise, she's great too, and realizes my needs aren't met. It's a small matter really. Sometimes she drinks a few drinks and jumps my bones, I take it when I can. What kind of Christian demonizes sex between husband and wife?
Her family demonized everything sexual. Her father was more easygoing after marriage, but the damage was already done. Parents don't realize the psychological affect during childhood/teen years. |
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Posted: 10/20/2016 9:59:00 PM EDT
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This thread is in SUCH contrast to the other thread about "does your wife or SO have sex toys".
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Posted: 10/20/2016 10:00:03 PM EDT
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Sad. I don't understand sexless marriages other than for health reasons. And there are ways around that issue. Can't imagine not wanting to please your partner if all is good in the relationship. But I can see where underlying marital issues affect intimacy, heck, I've lived it myself. Not fun. I don't have any women friends who complain, but a few men friends do. Complain the wife isn't interested and never gets any and the romance is gone. Yet, they stay...and complain.
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