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Bang the daughter in-law, then burn their house down; or you could simply mind your own business.
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My mom overheard a phone conversation between my now ex and the guy she was going to leave me for when my cancer treatment was done. She kept her mouth shut as she didn't feel it was her place to possibly cause a problem in case she misunderstood. It all came out in the end soon after, and I had no hard feelings about it. If it had been me doing it, I would have gotten a talking to, but they would have figured I was an adult and it's my choice.
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I know my dad told me when I got married that if I didn't treat my wife right or ever cheated on her, he would come and personally kick my ass.
I guess if there are no kids in the mix yet, I would probably bring it up with him/them so things could either get worked out or ended before kids are brought into that situation. If they had kids already (my grandkids), I would probably take him out behind the woodshed for a beatdown. If he wanted to screw up his own life, that is his problem, but once his actions start involving and affecting innocent children and spouse, corrective actions are needed. I definitely would lose most of any respect I had for him. I wonder how many on here that say they would support their child are adulterers themselves. |
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In for "Oooops, son and his wife are swingers and have cut off the parents for getting in their business."
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It would be time to have a little counseling with my son one on one. After that hopefully things will be corrected.
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Quoted: Having this very problem w BiL, my in laws think he is pure as driven snow but he is cheating. Wife filed for divorce, they think she is the one at fault. View Quote Sucks all the way. Blackmail? No. Anonymous letter? Sure but we need a dead drop PO box, in another state. Have a public mail drop box right across the street. Mail me the letter containing letter and their address and I'll supply new envelope with no return addy.
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Parenting never ends, but does transition to an "advise" only role. View Quote So true. Ad I've yet to get so old that I don't miss that advice. If it were me I would have to pull my son aside and have a talk about it. But that would be the end of my involvement. Nothing good could come from me getting further involved. |
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In for "Oooops, son and his wife are swingers and have cut off the parents for getting in their business." View Quote Definitely not the case with the story I mentioned. Son is lying to the wife and saying he's doing other things while going to another woman's house, who is single and lives alone. He also sometimes goes after work, stays for less than an hour, then leaves. A mutual acquaintance lives near said woman's house and sees it. There is no swinging going on. This is a smallish area (only about 160,000 people in the county.) Shit gets around. |
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I know my dad told me when I got married that if I didn't treat my wife right or ever cheated on her, he would come and personally kick my ass. I guess if there are no kids in the mix yet, I would probably bring it up with him/them so things could either get worked out or ended before kids are brought into that situation. If they had kids already (my grandkids), I would probably take him out behind the woodshed for a beatdown. If he wanted to screw up his own life, that is his problem, but once his actions start involving and affecting innocent children and spouse, corrective actions are needed. I definitely would lose most of any respect I had for him. I wonder how many on here that say they would support their child are adulterers themselves. View Quote Same talk I got from my Pops. +1 on the red letter. If you wanna f&*% up your life fo right ahead, but hurt the kids and |
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Tell the wife. Even with blood, there are lines you don't cross, and betraying your spouse is one.
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Meh. I'm really big on family, but if my kid is acting like a scumbag and hurting his wife and/or children, you're damn right I'm going to call him out on it. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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I back my kid. Meh. I'm really big on family, but if my kid is acting like a scumbag and hurting his wife and/or children, you're damn right I'm going to call him out on it. Sure. But in the case of this example, its a man getting a little something on the side. Not exactly a historically unprecedented situation, no? Give advice, give guidance, and when he ignores all that, back him however reasonably possible. It's what is done for family. |
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I'd think long and hard before I'd do anything. You could potentially burn a bridge and lose access to your grandchildren. If that's a risk you are willing to take then by all means light that match.
I personally would stay out of it. They're adults and they will sort things out themselves. |
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Quoted: It's none of your business, and it's not your place to get involved. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted: Quoted: I'd be pretty pissed at my kid, to the point I'd say "Either tell your husband/wife this within a month, or I'll do it for you." |
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I've burnt more than one bridge in my life including blood. Character matters. Tell the son to unfuck himself and make things right or he's no longer my son.
Of course this is assuming that the father is a man of character himself and the son isn't just following his example. |
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How many of you would take the MYOB path if it wasn't your son cheating, but your son-in-law?
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If I had a son (and I don't) I'd tell him that adulterous whores are not welcome in my house, and to not come back until he isn't one any more.
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Yes. The safety of the cuckolded spouse trumps everything else. Fuck privacy.
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I would let the son know, and also how I learned about it. I would tell him what I thought of the situation, but that it is his life and he needs to seriously think about the potential consequences of his actions.
I would recommend he stop cheating, but never tell the wife about it. No good could come of that. |
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Quoted: Dad, is that you? . My dad used the same never too old line when I was growing up. I guess I'd express my disgust of his actions and myob. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted: Quoted: Tell them I'll never be to old to whip their ass. And to straighten up or get a divorce. Dad, is that you? . My dad used the same never too old line when I was growing up. I guess I'd express my disgust of his actions and myob. |
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I'd support my grandkids. Do what I can to avoid/prevent/stop any drama in their lives. If that means interfering with my adult child's life, then so be it.
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I would force him to tell his wife and then do what I could to help get both into some form of marriage counseling to try to keep the divorce from happening. Parents getting divorced is the suck, no matter how old the kids are. No kids? I'd force him to tell her, then I'd let them fight it out however they wanted. He would not get financial support for the divorce in either case, he will have been "raised better than that" unless I totally fuck up in the next 14 or so years. |
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Kids? I would force him to tell his wife and then do what I could to help get both into some form of marriage counseling to try to keep the divorce from happening. Parents getting divorced is the suck, no matter how old the kids are. No kids? I'd force him to tell her, then I'd let them fight it out however they wanted. He would not get financial support for the divorce in either case, he will have been "raised better than that" unless I totally fuck up in the next 14 or so years. View Quote Force? Are you one of these badasses here that think at 60+ years old you are "taking your adult son behind the woodshed" for corrective action? LOL |
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If it was me I would talk to him. I would not beat him down just let him know I am disappointed and his selfish acts will hurt the kids the most. Then remind him I can still kick his ass if I wanted to.
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My mom overheard a phone conversation between my now ex and the guy she was going to leave me for when my cancer treatment was done. She kept her mouth shut as she didn't feel it was her place to possibly cause a problem in case she misunderstood. It all came out in the end soon after, and I had no hard feelings about it. If it had been me doing it, I would have gotten a talking to, but they would have figured I was an adult and it's my choice. View Quote I would be irate if my mother found out my SO was cheating and didn't tell me. In the OP scenario, I would privately chew my kid out. |
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Force? Are you one of these badasses here that think at 60+ years old you are "taking your adult son behind the woodshed" for corrective action? LOL View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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Kids? I would force him to tell his wife and then do what I could to help get both into some form of marriage counseling to try to keep the divorce from happening. Parents getting divorced is the suck, no matter how old the kids are. No kids? I'd force him to tell her, then I'd let them fight it out however they wanted. He would not get financial support for the divorce in either case, he will have been "raised better than that" unless I totally fuck up in the next 14 or so years. Force? Are you one of these badasses here that think at 60+ years old you are "taking your adult son behind the woodshed" for corrective action? LOL Yes, force. It's not that difficult, because my 60 year old father who doesn't have a violent bone in his body did it. You drive 8 hours, walk into shithead's office, and tell him he's driving home to tell his wife/your daughter he's cheating again (she gave him one freebie to try to save the marriage), or you're driving to their home to tell her. His choice. I would give my son a chance to pull his head out, but if it came to that I'd have no problem protecting my innocent daughter in law and grandchildren. |
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Part of what's wrong with America. If it's your neighbor it's none of your business. If it's your kid, you never magically unbecome their parent. Very flawed logic there. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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I'd be pretty pissed at my kid, to the point I'd say "Either tell your husband/wife this within a month, or I'll do it for you." Thinking you can control your family is pretty fucked up, Grandpa. You keep them safe, you feed them, you raise them, you teach them. You are there to give advice when asked, or when warranted. Then, you let them learn by their mistakes, just like you did. What are you gonna do beyond having an initial discussion? |
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