Since so many people here seem to have crappy relationships (some one right after another) let me give you a tip. Buy and read and re-read this book.
[url]http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/068485015X/qid=1006916456/sr=8-1/ref=sr_8_3_1/103-1577491-3041415[/url]
Dr. Peck has been on Oprah (ugh) and is internationally renowned. It was a profound read for me. (hint: you have to be willing to do some self analysis, think about what you are reading and why/how it applies to you)