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Posted: 6/23/2017 7:36:18 AM EDT
What does your wife accomplish during the day while you are at work? What time does she get up? Who does the cooking cleaning Etc?
ETA: when we had our first kid the agreement was my wife would stay at home until all of the kids were in school full time. Now they are. After several discussions shall we say she finally got a part-time job at a local school as a lunch mom. 2.75 hrs per day when school is in. We go to bed at the same time, I get up between 4 and 5, she gets up around 7 when school is in. When school is not in session she gets up in time to make a 9 a.m. class at the gym a couple of times a week. She also walks at the gym a couple of times a week Maybe I expect too much but I think she has plenty of time to stay on top of the shopping cooking cleaning laundry cutting grass. She does most of the cooking, I help with the housework, yard work and laundry. Yet she seems to always have plenty of time to play games on her phone and tablet. I feel she should be up and moving by 7 a.m. at the latest every day with the house being a priority |
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Mine didn't do shit.
TC ETA: That's not entirely true. She sucked down Vicodin and wallowed in self pity... |
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Mine took care of all the housework, cooking, shopping, and kids for 13 years until she went back to work. It was nice.
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Tread lightly OP, tread lightly.
Serious answer: I have no idea what my ex wife did. I always cooked. Did about half the laundry. On weekends she always had "errands" to run. She would disappear with her cunt mother to "go to Wal Mart" or Target. She'd be gone all fucking day. Reality is she just wanted to get away from the kids because being a mommy is such a burden. After my divorce a former friend of hers and current friend of mine told me that she would see my ex at the spa an awful lot during the day. |
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Cleans, cooks, works out, runs errands, takes care of anything I can't due to being at work
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What does your wife accomplish during the day while you are at work? What time does she get up? Who does the cooking cleaning Etc? View Quote Feed the kids, grocery shopping, some cleaning (she is very pregnant, so doing deep cleaning is getting hard), run errands, FaceTime the grandparents. During parts of the year she take the kids to a Mother's day out program twice a week. I don't really know what time she gets up...I guess whatever time the kids do. I think I cook more than her, but I enjoy it more and she doesn't like as much variety as I do right now. |
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Her day usually starts when kids wake up, around 6:30. She keeps the kids alive, cooks, cleans, puts up with my crap.
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What does your wife accomplish during the day while you are at work? What time does she get up? Who does the cooking cleaning Etc? View Quote She keeps the kids from burning the house down while I'm gone. She also does most of the cooking. |
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What does your wife accomplish during the day while you are at work? What time does she get up? Who does the cooking cleaning Etc? View Quote My wife stayed at home for 25 of our 28 years together. As near as I can tell, she changed into her Wonder Woman costume as soon as I left the house. I've never found where she keeps it. Our home was immaculate, except for my gunsmithing bench which I asked her not to touch. Our meals were hot, delicious, and varied. Clothes magically cleaned and folded mere moments after being deposited somewhere in the same zip code of the dirty clothes bin. Fridge always fully stocked. Somewhere in there, she managed to squeeze in homeschooling our two children. Our oldest just graduated college with a dual major of Organic Chemistry and Pharm. Chemistry, so she must have been a pretty good teacher. Since retiring, I've taken over a lot of the cooking, and a little bit of the housework. I got a good one! |
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Watch kid get on the bus
Watch TV, Facebook Maybe cook a meal That went on for the last 12 years, she finally got a part time job this year. |
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When mine was home....
The house was clean, kids were clean, clothes were clean , dinner was always ready when I got home. She did stuff with the kids during the day. She was and is super mom. She is quite amazing. Because of her we have three fine young ladies. She works now that the youngest is in Middle school and all is pretty close to same but my three daughters and I also help to make house run smooth. I honestly believe she still could do it by herself but why would we do that to her. One thing I will say she did exactly what her mom did. |
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It's a real simple agreement between my wife and I, she is responsible for everything to run the family and I am responsible for making the money to allow for that.
I do most of the lawn care, major repairs, technical stuff, etc... There was a big learning curve for the first two years and it sparked a lot of fights but we have both learned our roles and settled into them just fine. |
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What does your wife accomplish during the day while you are at work? What time does she get up? Who does the cooking cleaning Etc? View Quote Thankfully my wife has a job....but a guy I work with has a stay at home wife (no kids). He says she sleeps until noon, sits around and eats all day, doesn't accomplish anything, but loves to spend money. Go figured.... |
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When mine stayed home she did all the house keeping, cooking, grocery shopping, and any other shit that needed doing. She also worked out multiple days a week. Somehow she got bored and wanted to start working, went to school, and got a job. Now she runs her own business and I do the laundry.
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mine
cooked, always had a nice homemade meals cleaned, house was always clean and orderly did laundry, all my clothes were always hanging in the closet and stowed away orderly in dresser she took care of finances, I didn't need to worry about money for bills etc, she knew what we could afford and what we couldn't and we lived well within our means most importantly she took care of our 3 kids, our kids never got into trouble, no drugs, no teenage pregnancies and they turned out to be self supporting responsible adults. She worked at first when we first got married, it became obvious that it made more sense to take care of our kids rather than farm out to strangers. the extra money to buy crap that we could do with out is less important than our family. we went without new cars, without the latest gadgets but it was well worth it. Don't sell stay at home wives short, mine was the heart and soul of our home/family |
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Laundry, keeping the house clean, taking care of our 4 little ones (and 2 dogs). Grocery shopping and running errands. We've discussed her going back to work. She's an RN so could make a decent amount of money but I don't want to go back to helping with all of that stuff. I'm lazy. It's also nice to have her take care of all the misc. errands and stuff that I can't do while at work.
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What does your wife accomplish during the day while you are at work? What time does she get up? Who does the cooking cleaning Etc? View Quote My wife does just about everything. She tends to the kids and their schedules, gets them to school, etc. She does nearly all of the housework, mows the grass, fixes what she can around the house, grocery shops, cooks most meals (what I don't smoke or fix myself). I've tried to stop her from mowing and doing all the things she does, but she insists. I do the taxes, budgets, pay the bills and handle most things financial since I am the CPA. My wife also does some of the bookkeeping for my company. I have a great wife. But I made it clear when she stopped working that she wasn't retiring. We all have jobs to do and everyone plays their part. |
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I don't see how some of you do it. I could never be married to a woman whose greatest talent/ambition in life is cleaning and dishes....what a waste.
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Her day usually starts when kids wake up, around 6:30. She keeps the kids alive, cooks, cleans, puts up with my crap. View Quote My wife is considering staying at home after we have a kid, but I'm not sure she would be able to take it. Some people need the social interaction of work to stay sane, my wife is one of those people. She does the majority of the house work as is, except the dishes, the woman refuses to wash dishes. |
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Bills paid, kids fed and clothed, Dinner planned at least an hour or more of paid work done (remote paralegal) Shopping her Bible study and Litter box scooped.
I married above my paygrade. |
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Adding, I would never want to do her part. I worked at home full-time and had a really boring job that kept me busy about 30% of the time. So I could do the carpool and such, so we sent her back to work.
My very first day of making breakfast and getting them to school, I got an email from my first grade daughter's teacher (both my wife and I went to school with her) saying "if you want your daughter to go to gym, she will need tennis shoes". My first thought was "dear lord, did I even send her to school with shoes on?". But she wore boots I had no idea she owned! Would have been my luck to send her to school without shoes the first day I did it! No thanks I'll get a second job if need be. |
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My wife was a stay at home wife between graduating and finding a job.
The apartment was always clean, there was a cocktail waiting for me when I walked in the door, and interesting food for dinner shortly after that. It was glorious. After a few months she was looking hard for that first job. My wife has promised a return to the same if we can get to the point where that's viable again, but she's 50% of our income now and everytime she wants to quit they give her a raise. |
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I dont know how anyone can stay home w/ small kids all day. God bless those women.
I love my kids but lord in heaven they drive me crazy sometimes. Some of you guys are lucky, we both work full time. |
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I don't see how some of you do it. I could never be married to a woman whose greatest talent/ambition in life is cleaning and dishes....what a waste. View Quote But that brings up a big sigma item from men and women who consider a stay at home mom some sort of sell out or lazabout. It's a job like any other, everyone has a part. Sorry Archie Bunker, times they be a changin' |
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We still have a few little ones of our 8 at home during the day. She gets up before 6:00 and is busy until she goes to bed. Sometimes that is after I get home from 2nd shift. She gets the kids up for school, takes them, comes home takes care of little ones, shuttled around a lot. Was on the school board and taught religious ed the last few years plus a bunch of committees. On top of all that she is working on her RN to BSN through online courses. Believe it or not we still have hired help a few days a week. Going to work is the easy part for me.
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I don't see how some of you do it. I could never be married to a woman whose greatest talent/ambition in life is cleaning and dishes....what a waste. View Quote Nuclear family destroyed Couples don't want to have kids Strong independent women doesn't need to be tied down to a man. Can go ride the cock carousel. More confused gender children now than ever in history Wages driven down because work force doubled once women started working Kids being raised by strangers or no one have a higher chance of being shit |
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Literally everything we need done, beside make money.
Having my wife stay at home with our daughter is the best thing that we have done. She still picks up 1-2 photo shoots a week in the evenings when I'm home so she is still making some money also which is nice. |
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I don't see how some of you do it. I could never be married to a woman whose greatest talent/ambition in life is cleaning and dishes....what a waste. View Quote My better half has a graduate degree / Ivy league education...and had a thriving career when we decided to have kids. Part of the deal was her staying home to raise our daughter. 5 years later, the kid is starting to have her own social life outside of mom and dad, and when she begins full-time school, mom is going back to her work. Although I had a corporate / leadership type of job for the last 5 years, I think my day-to-day was much easier than my wife. She got up at the ass crack of dawn every day and had to attend to 100% of the child care. Being a stay at home mom of an infant isn't exactly "cleaning and dishes"...a little more to it than that. |
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Mine puts in about 1.5 hours worth of work.
1/2 the time, dinner comes as a surprise to her. It's awesome. |
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It's been a disaster and I wish like hell I'd never gone along with it. My Valentine's eject is still ongoing, and I hate my fucking life.
That's the very, very short version. |
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I don't see how some of you do it. I could never be married to a woman whose greatest talent/ambition in life is cleaning and dishes....what a waste. View Quote My wife has a masters degree and had a successful career before we had children. Her priorities changed when our first son was born. She has dedicated the past 15 years to making sure our three kids become intelligent, hard working, productive members of society. It's not just about cooking and cleaning, it's about the satisfaction she receives from creating a loving, caring, home for our kids. She also did a tremendous job of establishing a strong foundation in primary education before the kids even started school. She would constantly read to them and do other educational activities. All three of our kids could read and knew their numbers before they started kindergarten. On top of that she kept them active, time outside walking, hiking, playing in the park took priority over screen time. When the kids started school she became active in the school system, getting to know the teachers, volunteering in the classes. Now that the all kids are older and in school, she has started working part time again and is transitioning back into a career. She has been getting back into working out and teaches several fitness classes now. |
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Mine bitches about how empty and vapid her life is...
...she's a passive-aggressive hypochondriac who hasn't felt well a day since we got married. ...she wonders why our adult son won't come home from college to see her. ...and generally makes me eagerly look forward to my own death. ...and other questions? |
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This one gets brownie points. My wife is considering staying at home after we have a kid, but I'm not sure she would be able to take it. Some people need the social interaction of work to stay sane, my wife is one of those people. She does the majority of the house work as is, except the dishes, the woman refuses to wash dishes. View Quote |
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Mines great at converting O2 into CO2.....
Shes does literally NOTHING but sit and watch TV or screw around on Facebook. No cooking, no cleaning, no dishes, no laundry. I literally do whatever needs to be done 99 times out of a 100. If I could I'd have a bed at work so I didn't have to go home. |
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Cleans, cooks, works out, runs errands, takes care of anything I can't due to being at work View Quote |
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My mom was a stay at home mom for the most part. She worked part time at the pre school we went to (discounted tuition). Once I (youngest) started middle school she took a job as a para at the middle school so we had the same schedule. She didn't get a full time job until I hit high school. She would bring is on all kinds of trips, adventures, the beach, etc. It was awesome, and she loved being so involved and having the time to do so. We struggled financially sometimes, but my parents made it work.
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Mine bitches about how empty and vapid her life is... ...she's a passive-aggressive hypochondriac who hasn't felt well a day since we got married. ...she wonders why our adult son won't come home from college to see her. ...and generally makes me eagerly look forward to my own death. ...and other questions? View Quote |
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Now that summer's in session she's doing a lot more with the kids. They went to the pool yesterday; not sure what she's got planned for today.
She does all the grocery shopping (besides incidentals I might pick up on the way home for a specific thing), virtually all of the cooking/cleaning around the house (I do my own laundry... mostly), etc. When school's in session she's up by 7am or so to get the kids on the bus. |
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From birth to the time Kindergarten starts…you don't want her job.
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Mine gets a LOT of texting, facebook, etc taken care of, in between that, she gets her nails and hair done, and has her make up applied at the Mall on girls night out days, and calls her Daddy to whine and beg for money.
She washes her own clothes, and during the year manages to wash the boys uniforms and make sure the kids get too and from school while I'm on shift. If I raise enough hell, occasionally she will lightly clean the bathroom, help me sweep the Labradors daily dump truck load of dirt off the floors, and help wash the dishes. I do 99% of the cooking, cleaning, and 100% of home & auto maintenance. I have three teenagers at home, 13, 15, and 48. On the bright side, she's fun and willing in the sack, and after 17 years figured out she has a pretty good gig and it's easier to spend 5 minutes giving me what I want than listening to my bitch and pester her for 2 days.... |
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On the bright side, she's fun and willing in the sack, and after 17 years figured out she has a pretty good gig and it's easier to spend 5 minutes giving me what I want than listening to my bitch and pester her for 2 days.... View Quote Mine hasn't had any interest in sex in years. I finally got tired of begging and just gave up. Forgot to mention: We were discussing the other night how she hasn't even worked enough in her entire life to draw social security, but she likes to look at realtor's house for sale books, circle pictures of her dream houses, and then tell me all about how we can't afford to buy anything more than a Maytag dryer shipping box. If this thread makes into page 2, I think I'll get out the yellow pages and start looking up divorce attorneys. |
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My wife is going to be staying at home shortly and taking over one of our businesses. Hopefully we can have a couple of kiddos in the mean time.
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If we had kids, my wife would home school them. She would also be responsible for doing the cooking and laundry. We'd hire out for cleaning and yard work. But then again, this is all theoretical.
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Mine is at home because of a disability.
She can still do the grocery shopping, laundry, and keeps up with the finances. I do most of the cooking and cleaning. |
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You're mostly right, except cutting the grass is your job, not hers. Assuming you're in good health and all.
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