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Posted: 10/22/2014 6:16:39 PM EDT

would you.....

1) ask her for her phone/text records?

2) if she went ballistic and refused, is that totally "guilty" or what?

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:17:13 PM EDT

[#1]

If you have to ask, you already know.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:18:29 PM EDT

[#2]

If you convince yourself you need to prove that she is by taking such actions, she is.

Well byeeee

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:19:53 PM EDT

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Yup. And... seeing it doesn't stop the feelings either. She could be sneaky, have a second identical looking phone, be using skype, google phone app, etc. etc.

Gotta go back to figure out why you don't trust her and go from there. Investigate that.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:20:19 PM EDT

[#4]

Pretty much this.

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Posted: 10/22/2014 6:21:03 PM EDT

[#5]

"When in doubt, there is no doubt."

~Friend of mine

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:21:26 PM EDT

[#6]

Hope it's another women and ask her to let you join in. If not then bye.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:21:27 PM EDT

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It's crazy how often the first post nails it.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:21:48 PM EDT

[#8]

Tell her its cool and ask for MFM 3 some.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:21:53 PM EDT

[#9]

that's a pretty deep level of distrust. her being pissed isn't necessarily proof positive she's cheating, but one thing's for sure; the relationship is damaged.

Sounds like you asked, she asploded, now you're dealing with the aftermath?

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:22:56 PM EDT

[#10]

Lawyer up now!

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:23:27 PM EDT

[#11]

Post 5150? Psych Hold!

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:25:06 PM EDT

[#12]

The question is do you want to install a GPS tracker, computer key logger, spy programs, interrogate her telephone, snoop through texts and emails. etc, etc.

Don't live your life like that brother. You will be the only one suffering in the end.

If she doesn't want to be an open book, and acts sketchy about your inquiries, then just cut her loose.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:25:42 PM EDT

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I don't know. Some dudes see shit that just isn't there.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:25:47 PM EDT

[#14]

FPNI

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:26:43 PM EDT

[#15]

Once I stopped trying to convince myself it wasn't happening, all the signs jumped right out at me.

Of course, finding her at the guys house pretty much confirmed it.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:26:47 PM EDT

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This^^^^^

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:27:18 PM EDT

[#17]

Don't make me say it. Are you a man or a MouseBoy?

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:27:57 PM EDT

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Yep

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:28:13 PM EDT

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Posted: 10/22/2014 6:28:14 PM EDT

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If you are a sane, level-headed man in a happy relationship - and something is off, and your gut is telling you it's off.. then you are probably right.

But if you tend to be emotional and jealous, then that might just be on you.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:28:47 PM EDT

[#21]

Devil's Three-way! And if you stick with "Chinese Fingercuffs", you don't need paper plates!

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:29:14 PM EDT

[#22]

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1) ask her for her phone/text records?

2) if she went ballistic and refused, is that totally "guilty" or what?

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I'd thank the guy and tell him he could take over payments.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:31:00 PM EDT

[#23]

Sounds like a good time to ask for pictures. Oh and eject! !

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Posted: 10/22/2014 6:31:05 PM EDT

[#24]

In before "Better Call Saul"

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:31:35 PM EDT

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I just want to be your wiener dog

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:31:43 PM EDT

[#26]

http://youtu.be/TGGA5aWxKKk

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:33:05 PM EDT

[#27]

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2) if she went ballistic and refused, is that totally "guilty" or what?

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I don't worry Myself about that sort've stuff.

My Wife and I have a great relationship but.....We're both grown-up enough to know that "shit Happens" (lol!)

and as long as we end-up in bed together at the end of the day(?) It's all good

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:34:21 PM EDT

[#28]

Bring the paper plates.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:35:03 PM EDT

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If you are a sane, level-headed man in a happy relationship - and something is off, and your gut is telling you it's off.. then you are probably right.

But if you tend to be emotional and jealous, then that might just be on you.

I just want to be your wiener dog

I'll let you two fight it out.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:35:55 PM EDT

[#30]

it would suck if my wife had an affair with my girlfriend

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:36:03 PM EDT

[#31]

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I don't worry Myself about that sort've stuff.

My Wife and I have a great relationship but.....We're both grown-up enough to know that "shit Happens" (lol!)
and as long as we end-up in bed together at the end of the day(?) It's all good

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Quoted:
would you.....

1) ask her for her phone/text records?

2) if she went ballistic and refused, is that totally "guilty" or what?

I don't worry Myself about that sort've stuff.

My Wife and I have a great relationship but.....We're both grown-up enough to know that "shit Happens" (lol!)
and as long as we end-up in bed together at the end of the day(?) It's all good

"honey I slipped and fell into another woman's honey pot today." "hahahaha Treadhead,golly jee, shit happens."

Is that how the conversation goes?

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:36:55 PM EDT

[#32]

pix?

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:37:17 PM EDT

[#33]

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1) ask her for her phone/text records?

2) if she went ballistic and refused, is that totally "guilty" or what?

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and OP, a good PI can usually handle this. Might cost 2-5k, but you'll get an answer.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:37:52 PM EDT

[#34]

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I don't worry Myself about that sort've stuff.

My Wife and I have a great relationship but.....We're both grown-up enough to know that "shit Happens" (lol!)
and as long as we end-up in bed together at the end of the day(?) It's all good

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Quoted:
would you.....

1) ask her for her phone/text records?

2) if she went ballistic and refused, is that totally "guilty" or what?

I don't worry Myself about that sort've stuff.

My Wife and I have a great relationship but.....We're both grown-up enough to know that "shit Happens" (lol!)
and as long as we end-up in bed together at the end of the day(?) It's all good

WTF does this even mean?

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:39:56 PM EDT

[#35]

If you don't want your SO to cheat, stay away from ARFCOM

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:41:57 PM EDT

[#36]

I already had the phone records and she denied,denied, denied.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:41:58 PM EDT

[#37]

Run away

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:42:39 PM EDT

[#38]

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I don't worry Myself about that sort've stuff.

My Wife and I have a great relationship but.....We're both grown-up enough to know that "shit Happens" (lol!)
and as long as we end-up in bed together at the end of the day(?) It's all good

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Quoted:
would you.....

1) ask her for her phone/text records?

2) if she went ballistic and refused, is that totally "guilty" or what?

I don't worry Myself about that sort've stuff.

My Wife and I have a great relationship but.....We're both grown-up enough to know that "shit Happens" (lol!)
and as long as we end-up in bed together at the end of the day(?) It's all good

LOL! You'd be cool with your wife sleeping with some dude? As long as at the end of the night she sleeps in the same bed as you?

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:42:44 PM EDT

[#39]

I don't the think the response is:

"If you've got nothing to hide, you have nothing to fear."

Based on principle, I will not show you, although I am not guilty.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:43:50 PM EDT

[#40]

Just confront her with it, period.

Tell her if she is cheating, to either stop or leave the house.

If she still willfully continues to betray you, anything is fair. If a lot of money, property or kids are at stake. Its private investigator time.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:47:36 PM EDT

[#41]

your answers lay here.

dont do it unless your ready for the pain.

https://mobile-tracker-free.com/

scary powerfull for a free product.

if you hit install .. accpet that your marriage has already failed.
if you listen/view the records you have only yourself to blame for the pain that WILL come.

i say again ..
scary powerfull for a free product.
if you hit install .. accpet that your marriage has already failed.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:49:31 PM EDT

[#42]

Just walk away like it's no big deal. Don't look back or yell or get mad, it really ain't worth it. Just walk away unphased.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:50:02 PM EDT

[#43]

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would you.....

1) ask her for her phone/text records?

2) if she went ballistic and refused, is that totally "guilty" or what?

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The trust is gone, eject.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:51:21 PM EDT

[#44]

Tell her it's OK, you accept her offer of an open relationship.

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:51:33 PM EDT

[#45]

Log in and check myself. If she used your computer you already have her info. Then flip my shit and make her change her name twice and move once

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:53:05 PM EDT

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would you.....

1) ask her for her phone/text records?

2) if she went ballistic and refused, is that totally "guilty" or what?

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If the government asks for your phone records and you refuse, are you guilty of whatever crime they deem?

Posted: 10/22/2014 6:55:10 PM EDT

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I don't worry Myself about that sort've stuff.

My Wife and I have a great relationship but.....We're both grown-up enough to know that "shit Happens" (lol!)
and as long as we end-up in bed together at the end of the day(?) It's all good

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Quoted:
would you.....

1) ask her for her phone/text records?

2) if she went ballistic and refused, is that totally "guilty" or what?

I don't worry Myself about that sort've stuff.

My Wife and I have a great relationship but.....We're both grown-up enough to know that "shit Happens" (lol!)
and as long as we end-up in bed together at the end of the day(?) It's all good

Erm, what exactly are we talking about here?