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Posted: 11/18/2015 11:37:51 PM EDT

My wife and I have had two wonderful boys that are brothers in our care (foster) for the past two and a half years. We were recently able to adopt them. Our oldest was born with only an ear lobe on the right side of his head. Since hes been with us he has been through 5 surgeries to build him an ear and one to remove all that had been done because it didn't take. Thats a lot for a little guy. We are taking him to a Dr. that can do it all in one surgery using rib cartilage instead of plastic. This is his last shot for a real ear. We want to give him this chance. We just need some help getting there. The rest of the story and a pic of his current condition are at the link. Please help if you can and share on whatever social media you use. If you have any questions I'll answer the best that I can and thank you.

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There are some good questions below so I want to add this.
The surgery is scheduled. Our insurance is going to pay. We have cover all travel expenses and the deductible which is a lot. We have to be there long enough to make sure its going to heal up and not need additional surgery, 2-4 weeks. Between plane tickets, hotel, food, rental car, etc. it adds up to a lot. Not to mention lost pay from work if it goes past the 2 week mark.

ETA - received confirmation from Striker - thread approved, GTG. - T7

Posted: 11/18/2015 11:41:00 PM EDT

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You need to IM Striker for approval before posting this.

Posted: 11/18/2015 11:43:25 PM EDT

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yeah, the other thread got locked and deleted

Posted: 11/18/2015 11:43:26 PM EDT

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Posted: 11/18/2015 11:43:56 PM EDT

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Sent him a message, he said it was okay.

Posted: 11/18/2015 11:45:49 PM EDT

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Posted: 11/18/2015 11:46:12 PM EDT

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Posted: 11/18/2015 11:47:20 PM EDT

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Have you talked to or looked into Scottish Rite.

Posted: 11/18/2015 11:48:21 PM EDT

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Does the hospital in TX do that too?

Posted: 11/18/2015 11:49:43 PM EDT

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I sent him a link. Sorry for another gofundme thread. We just need a little assistance. I also apologize for not doing it right on the first go round.

Posted: 11/18/2015 11:52:04 PM EDT

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Never heard of it. I'll google.

Posted: 11/18/2015 11:52:55 PM EDT

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I sent him a link. Sorry for another gofundme thread. We just need a little assistance. I also apologize for not doing it right on the first go round.

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You need to IM Striker for approval before posting this.

Sent him a message, he said it was okay.

Typically he posts in the threads he approves.

I sent him a link. Sorry for another gofundme thread. We just need a little assistance. I also apologize for not doing it right on the first go round.

Have you heard back from him? Please read the announcement thread at the top of the forum. I understand your desire to help your son, but you (and everyone!) REALLY need to do this right, as reposting this without express permission from Striker will get you banned from the site. "I sent him a link" doesn't sound like "he said it's okay."

Posted: 11/18/2015 11:58:00 PM EDT

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I'm so tapped right now I can't help. Believe me I would at least give something, I've done it several times before. If i can give Zack money for a house fire, I sure as hell will help your family. Keep this thread going at least a week or so, maybe two, and I'm in. Sorry for your sons situation. I haven't prayed yet tonight. What's his name so I can add him in. Best wishes.

Posted: 11/18/2015 11:59:17 PM EDT

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Have you heard back from him? Please read the announcement thread at the top of the forum. I understand your desire to help your son, but you (and everyone!) REALLY need to do this right, as reposting this without express permission from Striker will get you banned from the site. "I sent him a link" doesn't sound like "he said it's okay."

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You need to IM Striker for approval before posting this.

Sent him a message, he said it was okay.

Typically he posts in the threads he approves.

I sent him a link. Sorry for another gofundme thread. We just need a little assistance. I also apologize for not doing it right on the first go round.

Have you heard back from him? Please read the announcement thread at the top of the forum. I understand your desire to help your son, but you (and everyone!) REALLY need to do this right, as reposting this without express permission from Striker will get you banned from the site. "I sent him a link" doesn't sound like "he said it's okay."

Do it right so you can help your kid, maybe even get a stickyl

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:02:14 AM EDT

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Have you heard back from him? Please read the announcement thread at the top of the forum. I understand your desire to help your son, but you (and everyone!) REALLY need to do this right, as reposting this without express permission from Striker will get you banned from the site. "I sent him a link" doesn't sound like "he said it's okay."

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You need to IM Striker for approval before posting this.

Sent him a message, he said it was okay.

Typically he posts in the threads he approves.

I sent him a link. Sorry for another gofundme thread. We just need a little assistance. I also apologize for not doing it right on the first go round.

Have you heard back from him? Please read the announcement thread at the top of the forum. I understand your desire to help your son, but you (and everyone!) REALLY need to do this right, as reposting this without express permission from Striker will get you banned from the site. "I sent him a link" doesn't sound like "he said it's okay."

He asked me to send him the link so he could post in it so it wouldn't get deleted. My initial message to him included me asking how to do this right so as not to get suspended or banned from my favorite site.

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:06:03 AM EDT

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I'm so tapped right now I can't help. Believe me I would at least give something, I've done it several times before. If i can give Zack money for a house fire, I sure as hell will help your family. Keep this thread going at least a week or so, maybe two, and I'm in. Sorry for your sons situation. I haven't prayed yet tonight. What's his name so I can add him in. Best wishes.

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Prayers are appreciated, his name is Joseph. Other than having to constantly push up or adjust his glasses he doesn't miss a beat.

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:06:56 AM EDT

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Never heard of it. I'll google.

Shriners hospitals do facial repairs too.

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:09:17 AM EDT

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Best of luck to you. My daughter was born with the same condition. I love her to death and wouldnt trade her for the world.

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:18:35 AM EDT

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Mr helper

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:19:37 AM EDT

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Best of luck to you. My daughter was born with the same condition. I love her to death and wouldnt trade her for the world.

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When they brought them in the room to us I never even noticed it. I couldn't get past his smile. My wife and I both fell in love with them the day they came home with us. With everything they've been through they still are compassionate loving little boys. And no, even with all the I don't wanna do my home works, we wouldn't trade them for anything either.

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:19:44 AM EDT

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+1 for Shriners......look them up.

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:28:20 AM EDT

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Have you heard back from him? Please read the announcement thread at the top of the forum. I understand your desire to help your son, but you (and everyone!) REALLY need to do this right, as reposting this without express permission from Striker will get you banned from the site. "I sent him a link" doesn't sound like "he said it's okay."

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You need to IM Striker for approval before posting this.

Sent him a message, he said it was okay.

Typically he posts in the threads he approves.

I sent him a link. Sorry for another gofundme thread. We just need a little assistance. I also apologize for not doing it right on the first go round.

Have you heard back from him? Please read the announcement thread at the top of the forum. I understand your desire to help your son, but you (and everyone!) REALLY need to do this right, as reposting this without express permission from Striker will get you banned from the site. "I sent him a link" doesn't sound like "he said it's okay."

Here is the IM from Striker minus his first name. I realize I didn't do it right the first time.

From: Striker
To: BigJ72
Date: 11/18/2015 9:01:08 PM EST
Subject: Re: go fund me?
Is it ok for me to post a gofundme thread for my son in GD? Just want to make sure its ok. I enjoy the site too much for a suspension or ban.
https://www.gofundme.com/jtafkmtg

Thanks for your time, Jason

certainly Jason.
Send me the link and I will post in it so the mods know it's approved.

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:30:36 AM EDT

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Will do, Thank you

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:31:22 AM EDT

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That's what you need--thanks. He must have gotten busy and forgot. Carry on and good luck! Please post a pic of your son with his new ear!

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:34:52 AM EDT

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Contact St. Jude's hospital, too.

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:37:58 AM EDT

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Here is the IM from Striker minus his first name. I realize I didn't do it right the first time.

From: Striker
To: BigJ72
Date: 11/18/2015 9:01:08 PM EST
Subject: Re: go fund me?
Is it ok for me to post a gofundme thread for my son in GD? Just want to make sure its ok. I enjoy the site too much for a suspension or ban.
https://www.gofundme.com/jtafkmtg

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certainly Jason.
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I think he wants to have you send him the link to this thread so he can post in the thread then everyone will know its approved.

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:43:39 AM EDT

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It may sound crazy, but my wife watches a show called "Botched" on E! channel. The two doctors on the show are highly recognized plastic surgeons who specialize in difficult surgeries. Maybe send the show your story and who knows, they may be able to help.

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:46:08 AM EDT

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If I can talk my wife into it I'll post a pic of them helping me finish up a deck we built for our church. Definitely one of his new ear.

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:52:32 AM EDT

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What a good story. I could never foster animals or children... my heart is on my sleeve when it comes to innocents.

I'd keep everything I fostered haha

Posted: 11/19/2015 12:55:21 AM EDT

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It may sound crazy, but my wife watches a show called "Botched" on E! channel. The two doctors on the show are highly recognized plastic surgeons who specialize in difficult surgeries. Maybe send the show your story and who knows, they may be able to help.

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The surgery is scheduled. Our insurance is going to pay. We have cover all travel expenses and the deductible which is a lot. We have to be there long enough to make sure its going to heal up and not need additional surgery, 2-4 weeks. Between plane tickets, hotel, food, rental car, etc. it adds up to a lot. Not to mention lost pay from work if it goes past the 2 week mark.

Posted: 11/19/2015 1:03:28 AM EDT

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What a good story. I could never foster animals or children... my heart is on my sleeve when it comes to innocents.

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You are correct sir. The goal of fostering is for the parents to fix their lives and get the children back. This is by far the hardest thing I've ever done in my life and I worked corrections for a few years, lol. Even after the adoption of the boys the stress is still kind of there. The parents live not too far from us. It makes the loss issue for the boys that much harder, we see them all the time going through our small town.

Posted: 11/19/2015 1:19:47 AM EDT

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I think the OP only sent him the Gofundme link, not this one.

OP I hope you kid gets his ear.

Posted: 11/19/2015 1:30:28 AM EDT

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Edited...VA-gunnut

Posted: 11/19/2015 1:33:20 AM EDT

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Posted: 11/19/2015 1:36:08 AM EDT

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One of our questions to the Dr. was will it grow like his other ear. He said yes :)

Posted: 11/19/2015 1:39:55 AM EDT

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Hope it all goes well for you and the little guy!

Posted: 11/19/2015 2:00:16 AM EDT

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God Bless. $sent.

Posted: 11/19/2015 2:08:29 AM EDT

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First off, thanks, again, for being a positive influence in the Universe and fostering/adopting kids in need! Truly a remarkably good thing to do.

Second, your boy sounds like a strong kid. I can't imagine the disappointment he must have experienced when he lost the first attempted ear. I'm sure there is a lot of hope pinned on this Idaho procedure.

Finally, is there a scheduled date for the procedure yet - i.e. a make it or break it fund raising deadline? Our income was just cut in half, but we'll do what we can and I'll pass the word for sure.

Posted: 11/19/2015 2:14:29 AM EDT

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Posted: 11/19/2015 2:18:36 AM EDT

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Since the other thread was locked and deleted I'll ask again. Since you are a foster home, doesn't that require you to have medical insurance and why isn't that taking care of it? Either way good luck and I hope you got this approved this time.

ETA looks like it was approved, good.

Posted: 11/19/2015 2:19:38 AM EDT

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Posted: 11/19/2015 2:21:07 AM EDT

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Since the other thread was locked and deleted I'll ask again. Since you are a foster home, doesn't that require you to have medical insurance and why isn't that taking care of it? Either way good luck and I hope you got this approved this time.

ETA looks like it was approved, good.

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Since the other thread was locked and deleted I'll ask again. Since you are a foster home, doesn't that require you to have medical insurance and why isn't that taking care of it? Either way good luck and I hope you got this approved this time.

ETA looks like it was approved, good.

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It may sound crazy, but my wife watches a show called "Botched" on E! channel. The two doctors on the show are highly recognized plastic surgeons who specialize in difficult surgeries. Maybe send the show your story and who knows, they may be able to help.

The surgery is scheduled. Our insurance is going to pay. We have cover all travel expenses and the deductible which is a lot. We have to be there long enough to make sure its going to heal up and not need additional surgery, 2-4 weeks. Between plane tickets, hotel, food, rental car, etc. it adds up to a lot. Not to mention lost pay from work if it goes past the 2 week mark.

Posted: 11/19/2015 2:22:56 AM EDT

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Since the other thread was locked and deleted I'll ask again. Since you are a foster home, doesn't that require you to have medical insurance and why isn't that taking care of it? Either way good luck and I hope you got this approved this time.

ETA looks like it was approved, good.

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It may sound crazy, but my wife watches a show called "Botched" on E! channel. The two doctors on the show are highly recognized plastic surgeons who specialize in difficult surgeries. Maybe send the show your story and who knows, they may be able to help.

The surgery is scheduled. Our insurance is going to pay. We have cover all travel expenses and the deductible which is a lot. We have to be there long enough to make sure its going to heal up and not need additional surgery, 2-4 weeks. Between plane tickets, hotel, food, rental car, etc. it adds up to a lot. Not to mention lost pay from work if it goes past the 2 week mark.

I missed that. I was figured it was some insurance bs that some places pulled. I hate it when those things happen, especially with kids. I'm glad they are taking care of it.

Thanks for digging that up zero.

Posted: 11/19/2015 2:24:21 AM EDT

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I missed that. I was figured it was some insurance bs that some places pulled. I hate it when those things happen, especially with kids. I'm glad they are taking care of it.

Thanks for digging that up zero.

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Since the other thread was locked and deleted I'll ask again. Since you are a foster home, doesn't that require you to have medical insurance and why isn't that taking care of it? Either way good luck and I hope you got this approved this time.

ETA looks like it was approved, good.

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It may sound crazy, but my wife watches a show called "Botched" on E! channel. The two doctors on the show are highly recognized plastic surgeons who specialize in difficult surgeries. Maybe send the show your story and who knows, they may be able to help.

The surgery is scheduled. Our insurance is going to pay. We have cover all travel expenses and the deductible which is a lot. We have to be there long enough to make sure its going to heal up and not need additional surgery, 2-4 weeks. Between plane tickets, hotel, food, rental car, etc. it adds up to a lot. Not to mention lost pay from work if it goes past the 2 week mark.

I missed that. I was figured it was some insurance bs that some places pulled. I hate it when those things happen, especially with kids. I'm glad they are taking care of it.

Thanks for digging that up zero.

Not a prob