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Posted: 10/28/2013 5:07:19 AM EDT
[Last Edit: Bama-Shooter]
No shit.
I'm laying here at Harris Hospital in Fort Worth Texas realizing my final days are upon me. It started back in April when I was diagnosed with stage IVLymphoma cancer. Couldn't just be normal Lymphoma, it had to be Burkitt's lymphoma. And a rare one at that. It's what's called a triple hit Burkitt's. Meaning there are three bad chromosones they have to fight. Basically it's a fast growing tumor they throw everything at. We started with Chemo called Hyper/Cvad....one of the strongest doses of chemo they have. The tumor responded and went from 22cm to 8.4 cm then got pissed off and started growing again. They took me off Chemo and Sent me to MD Anderson in Houston to be on a clinical trial. I tried that and the tumor got bigger after a month so they kicked me off and sent me back. Now I'm laying here with this huge belly, a bad prognosis, and hooked to what they call "salvage" chemo. It doesn't look good. Basically if this chemo does not shrink the tumor I am going to die. If it does shrink the tumor, then I have to have a bone marrow transfusion immediately to help fight the cancer. There will be a small window of opportunity and we have to find a donor match. I"ve gone from a 32 inch waist to almost a 44". I know what a pregnant woman feels now.......you cannot get comfortable no matter what position you lie in. My back is killing me, I'm tired, exhausted, I can't eat without throwing iit back up and I have not pooped in three days because the tumor is wrapped around my intestines. I'm only 45 years old and not ready to die. But here I lay wondering wtf happened and how did this happened. For the first time in my life I'm actually afraid. 9 years in the Army I served. I'm proud of that. I went to college and got a degree.........I have a beautiful family........I guess I've had a good life., I've shot more deer than most people have seen over the years.......hell I have killed lots of animals over the years. Shit loads of doves....... I can't even think about the number of bullets I've fired over the years. It would be funny to see that mountain of brass. We would all smile and be proud and say "damn Jeff, you have a trigger finger left?" The mountain of brass would shade my two story house. I can be proud of that. I have an 8 year old son I have not taught much too. I've been pretty sick all year. He has a chipmunk rifle ready to go......Dad just needs to get better......and there are days I can barely get off the couch I'm so sick. Will somebody teach him when I'm gone? I sure hope so.....he's a good kid and if he's got some of his Dad in him he's gonna be a damn good shot. Yes....these are the words of a truly dying man. I don't think I'll have any regrets.........I've always wanted to work on a project car.....you know......rebuild an old classic. 65 mustang or 72 Chevy pickup... If I get better that's what I want to do. Chances are small and slim though and I think I finally realized that tonight. The nurses act different around me. They look sad.......they must have read my chart and seen my prognosis. It's in their eyes and faces. They won't look me in the eye......and I've been coming here for months for treatment. Things feel different......they know. They just are not saying. I don't know whether to laugh or cry. I'm scared..........I do know that. I guess if I had a shoulder to cry on right now I would. Well I'll just dump this here in GD and let the ball roll. I'm in room 700 if you got a shoulder.7th floor Harris tower... |
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Posted: 12/5/2013 11:33:51 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. Im bawling right now. God Bless your family. |
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Posted: 12/5/2013 11:36:44 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By DVCAPI:
Reta & others, My Cousin wrote me in my Wife's last days from Cancer..... He said... God answers all prayers for healing, but sometimes he has to bring them home to his house to heal them...... I truly hope you find some peace in that ....... AMEN |
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Posted: 12/5/2013 11:39:51 PM EDT
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Can anyone closer to the family tell me what firearms Travis will have to learn with? I know there's an M1A in the house now, and I'm sure there's more, just wanting to make sure there's age appropriate things for him to learn with.
For instance... A young man his age should DEFINITELY own a .22 rifle or two, like a 10-22 and/or M&P 15-22. Oh, and Mom should for sure own a .22lr pistol that he can learn with as well. Anyone interested in helping me to make sure that is the case? Shoot me a PM, I'm pretty sure we can find a way. (In other words, I'm in for some cash, and willing to do the legwork as well. I have access to a FFL who can help with transfers.) |
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Posted: 12/5/2013 11:41:20 PM EDT
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Thank you so much Mr. Reed and family. Your battle has touched us like so many others.
Dear Lord, cradle the Reed family in their trying times, sooth their pain of spirit and body, we beseech thee amen. |
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Posted: 12/5/2013 11:43:09 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By FW_wife: In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. I am moved beyond words. If you need anything, I'll be home in Ft Worth until the first of the year. God bless you all. |
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Posted: 12/5/2013 11:45:22 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this.  Prayers for peace & comfort
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Posted: 12/5/2013 11:52:26 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By DVCAPI:
Reta & others, My Cousin wrote me in my Wife's last days from Cancer..... He said... God answers all prayers for healing, but sometimes he has to bring them home to his house to heal them...... I truly hope you find some peace in that ....... CAPI my friend and brother, the truth you speak is truth indeed..... |
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Posted: 12/5/2013 11:52:37 PM EDT
[Last Edit: freqlord98]
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Tonight I was joined by the Indefatigable Trio. My two best friends. These two heard the story tonight. Reta, we prayed, for you and the family. I'm in the first two
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Posted: 12/5/2013 11:54:13 PM EDT
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Jeff and Reta. My dog, Luca, has never been allowed on the sofa or any other furniture. Well, see the pic below. You made me realize that I need to loosen up and enjoy life. Thank you! I was the typical cold, hard, ass, etc, Arfcommer a few months ago. Thank you for showing me the way to happiness!
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Posted: 12/5/2013 11:58:01 PM EDT
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Posted: 12/5/2013 11:59:39 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. Why this whole story is affecting me so much I don't know, but after reading this I had to walk away from this thread, physically walk in the other room. Couldn't help but hit my knees and pray more for you and your family, and cry a good bit, well ok a lot. Jeff has affected so much, but me personally more than I can ever express, and I don't know why but its a debt I can never repay. Thank you Jeff. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 12:03:19 AM EDT
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Jeff, No one that has followed your journey will ever be the same. Thank you Reta for keeping us informed and making us witness to Jeff's uncompromising strength and faith. Please go be with your family and give them the same strength that you give us. We will be here with prayers for all of the Reeds. God Bless.
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Posted: 12/6/2013 12:05:40 AM EDT
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Posted: 12/6/2013 12:11:17 AM EDT
[#14]
Prayers for peace for you and your family Jeff
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TX, USA
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Posted: 12/6/2013 12:21:58 AM EDT
[#15]
God Bless you.
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Posted: 12/6/2013 12:45:46 AM EDT
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Now, that I'm done crying.
OK, not Dang it. I've started and stopped typing a half a dozen times. Just blurting out here. For the lives that have been changed, for the money donations, for the blood donations, the marrow matching, the Geissele Company move, For what will surely happen in the future... Folks taking young boys shooting, listening to the boys talk about their dads. Friends, bonding. Men, not afraid to share their feelings. People praying for a complete stranger. Yet, a stranger they have come to know. Pictures shared, moments spared. A life, cared. A simple prayer tonight from me, to God, in private. For Jeff, for Reta. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 12:54:28 AM EDT
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Posted: 12/6/2013 1:18:30 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By LMTRocks:
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Posted: 12/6/2013 2:36:51 AM EDT
[#19]
More prayers sent from my family for you and your family, Jeff and Reta. Stay strong Reta and don't hesitate to let all here know if you need anything even just a shoulder to cry on.
We'll all meet in heaven with God's blessing. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 3:22:56 AM EDT
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I have seen so much suffering, misery, grief, harm and death in my life, but this moves me beyond words. 
Praying for Jeff, Reta and the Reed family. My thoughts and prayers are with you constantly. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 3:38:28 AM EDT
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I have been following this thread since a day or two after Jeff posted it, and I can honestly say I cried.
I haven't posted to this point, because I simply cannot find the words. Jeff, Reta, Thank you. I cannot describe just how much you have changed me, your sharing of this has truly helped me put everything into perspective. For that, I am forever grateful. If you ever need anything, please do not hesitate to ask. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 4:00:30 AM EDT
[#22]
God bless you Jeff, Reta and kids.
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Posted: 12/6/2013 4:08:42 AM EDT
[#23]
Wow... Tears shed.
Words are inadequate but prayers sent for you Mr. Jeff, Reta and the kids... Folks way smarter than me have said better words, but Jeff, you've inspired many and in GREAT ways. Reta, your strength and love is unbelievable and you've moved many as well. B2 Please know you're loved and the Reed family will have an 'extended, somewhat dysfunctional' family here. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 4:31:27 AM EDT
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Wow. Not the update I was hoping for. I guess I sort of thought that he was gonna beat it, and I mean beat the shit out of the cancer and carry on. I sent up some prayers tonight and I hope that you find peace in this, there is a silver lining somewhere. You are not alone, this has gotten much bigger than Jeff ever intended and with that came a support system of great people. Jeff, I know you probably won't read this ever, but thank you. Thank you for allowing us an un-flitered, real view into your battle with cancer. You have impacted the lives of a ton of people and I have learned that I should never quit no matter how bad the situation. Give cancer hell until the end, I know you will. One last thing......FUCK CANCER
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Posted: 12/6/2013 5:49:06 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By I-M-A-WMD:
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By I-M-A-WMD:
Originally Posted By txpopgun:
Originally Posted By 1extremeGTO:
https://www.zeemaps.com/map?group=732434 ARFCOM to add a marker Donate funds - http://www.gofundme.com/4zxjjk Bone Marrow Donation - http://bethematch.org/Support-the-Cause/Donate-bone-marrow/Join-the-marrow-registry/Medical-guidelines/  as we go about our day let us all keep the REEDS in our thoughts and prayers. ps, and each other
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Posted: 12/6/2013 5:57:54 AM EDT
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Posted: 12/6/2013 6:53:19 AM EDT
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Posted: 12/6/2013 7:28:55 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. God's blessings on your family, Reta. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 7:44:51 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By alphajaguars:
God's blessings on your family, Reta. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By alphajaguars:
Originally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. God's blessings on your family, Reta. This mom has it in spades. God bless, we are all praying for your family. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 7:59:30 AM EDT
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I do. Thank you.
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Posted: 12/6/2013 8:07:32 AM EDT
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I just woke up.
My first thing to do usually is get into Proverbs. Just checking in to say prayers are still being made, and Jesus is listening and hearing them. I hope He is providing a miracle here. Reta- Please tell Jeff I'm praying hard for him right now. I'm also praying for peace and comfort. I'm tired of cancer----it's taken too many of my family. Jesus please send more angels to Jeff and Reta and their children right now and heal Jeff of this cancer. You are the Great Physician and can heal him of this. Please hear this and listen and do so. Jesus we love You. Amen. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 8:22:50 AM EDT
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We might not have ever met, and we might not have ever spoken. But we are brothers Jeff, and I will carry you with me for the rest of my life.
Thank you for coming into our lives and making a difference. Godspeed brother. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 8:23:16 AM EDT
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Reta and Jeff;
We never know how each day is going to turn out. I would be willing to bet that Jeff never thought when he first posted on October 28, he had so many friends. Jeff's struggle has shown this community to be a community with honor, integrity and caring for a good man and his family. We are all better people I think because Jeff chose to share. In turn I am encouraged by the caring community of AR15.com. Look at the people who have taken time to stop by, call, share photos, send money, and last but not not least send prayers. Reta and Jeff we all continue to think about you all and your struggles. In my family's experience with Hospice, it was a very positive experience and the people here were very caring and loving people. I hope the same is true for your family. I pray for peace and comfort for your family. May God Bless. Jeff |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 8:30:07 AM EDT
[#34]
Godspeed Jeff
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Posted: 12/6/2013 8:30:08 AM EDT
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I pray, now that it has come to this, that as your time with us comes to a close, it is peaceful. Know that your family is taken care of. That your son will remember. That your story will be spoken, your name not forgotten.
You have touched so many lives. Your work is done. Be at peace. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 8:31:08 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Slappy600cc:
We might not have ever met, and we might not have ever spoken. But we are brothers Jeff, and I will carry you with me for the rest of my life. Thank you for coming into our lives and making a difference. Godspeed brother. I couldn't say it any better. I never met you Jeff, but you've made a difference in my life. Rita, I feel comfortable in saying this and speaking for GD, if you ever need help with anything, we're here for you and your family. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 9:05:23 AM EDT
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Reta, you are amazing. You have great strength and are persevering through something I hope I never have to. I only hope I can summon the same fortitude if the situation ever calls for it. We are here for all of you. If you need anything, just ask.
Also, let that boy know that he has several thousand uncles and aunts that will teach him how to shoot and hunt, talk to him about girls, whatever he needs. All he has to do is ask. And we're here for the girls too. God be with you, Hagdaddy |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 9:16:20 AM EDT
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So many tears shed for a man I never met. Every page of this thread has been amazing, the outpouring of love and support has been miraculous, in the truest sense of the word.
I think we all wonder what our purpose in this life is, or if we even have a purpose. Jeff, be comforted knowing that you have fulfilled at least one of the reasons you were put here on earth. You have inspired many, myself included, to look in the mirror and figure out how we can be better people. Countless good deeds, which will never be known, have been and will continue to be carried out in your name. This is a legacy that you can be damn proud of and from which we can all draw inspiration. Cancer hasn't beaten you Jeff, it just happened to be the catalyst needed for you to engage in one of your life's finest moments. This journey that you have taken us on transcends any other act of kindness and sharing that I have ever witnessed. It continues to be something very special in so many different ways. How you have chosen to share your story and emotions with all of us, how it has bonded so many people together for a singular purpose is a miracle all in itself. God Bless you, brother. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 9:17:56 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By TheAngryPilgrim: So many tears shed for a man I never met. Every page of this thread has been amazing, the outpouring of love and support has been miraculous, in the truest sense of the word. I think we all wonder what our purpose in this life is, or if we even have a purpose. Jeff, be comforted knowing that you have fulfilled at least one of the reasons you were put here on earth. You have inspired many, myself included, to look in the mirror and figure out how we can be better people. Countless good deeds, which will never be known, have been and will continue to be carried out in your name. This is a legacy that you can be damn proud of and from which we can all draw inspiration. Cancer hasn't beaten you Jeff, it just happened to be the catalyst needed for you to engage in one of your life's finest moments. This journey that you have taken us on transcends any other act of kindness and sharing that I have ever witnessed. It continues to be something very special in so many different ways. How you have chosen to share your story and emotions with all of us, how it has bonded so many people together for a singular purpose is a miracle all in itself. God Bless you, brother. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 9:25:41 AM EDT
[Last Edit: brakeman123]
[#40]
God Bless you Jeff, Reta, and your family. Our prayers are with you. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 9:28:13 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By USMC_7222:
AMEN!! Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By USMC_7222:
Originally Posted By TheAngryPilgrim:
So many tears shed for a man I never met. Every page of this thread has been amazing, the outpouring of love and support has been miraculous, in the truest sense of the word. I think we all wonder what our purpose in this life is, or if we even have a purpose. Jeff, be comforted knowing that you have fulfilled at least one of the reasons you were put here on earth. You have inspired many, myself included, to look in the mirror and figure out how we can be better people. Countless good deeds, which will never be known, have been and will continue to be carried out in your name. This is a legacy that you can be damn proud of and from which we can all draw inspiration. Cancer hasn't beaten you Jeff, it just happened to be the catalyst needed for you to engage in one of your life's finest moments. This journey that you have taken us on transcends any other act of kindness and sharing that I have ever witnessed. It continues to be something very special in so many different ways. How you have chosen to share your story and emotions with all of us, how it has bonded so many people together for a singular purpose is a miracle all in itself. God Bless you, brother. Wow....awesome post. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 9:28:15 AM EDT
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Trouble finding any words through the tears, continued prayers & support from Jeff's ARFcom army.
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Posted: 12/6/2013 9:29:44 AM EDT
[#43]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By TheAngryPilgrim:
So many tears shed for a man I never met. Every page of this thread has been amazing, the outpouring of love and support has been miraculous, in the truest sense of the word. I think we all wonder what our purpose in this life is, or if we even have a purpose. Jeff, be comforted knowing that you have fulfilled at least one of the reasons you were put here on earth. You have inspired many, myself included, to look in the mirror and figure out how we can be better people. Countless good deeds, which will never be known, have been and will continue to be carried out in your name. This is a legacy that you can be damn proud of and from which we can all draw inspiration. Cancer hasn't beaten you Jeff, it just happened to be the catalyst needed for you to engage in one of your life's finest moments. This journey that you have taken us on transcends any other act of kindness and sharing that I have ever witnessed. It continues to be something very special in so many different ways. How you have chosen to share your story and emotions with all of us, how it has bonded so many people together for a singular purpose is a miracle all in itself. God Bless you, brother. Very well said. Godspeed Jeff. |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 9:40:16 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By TheAngryPilgrim:
So many tears shed for a man I never met. Every page of this thread has been amazing, the outpouring of love and support has been miraculous, in the truest sense of the word. I think we all wonder what our purpose in this life is, or if we even have a purpose. Jeff, be comforted knowing that you have fulfilled at least one of the reasons you were put here on earth. You have inspired many, myself included, to look in the mirror and figure out how we can be better people. Countless good deeds, which will never be known, have been and will continue to be carried out in your name. This is a legacy that you can be damn proud of and from which we can all draw inspiration. Cancer hasn't beaten you Jeff, it just happened to be the catalyst needed for you to engage in one of your life's finest moments. This journey that you have taken us on transcends any other act of kindness and sharing that I have ever witnessed. It continues to be something very special in so many different ways. How you have chosen to share your story and emotions with all of us, how it has bonded so many people together for a singular purpose is a miracle all in itself. God Bless you, brother. Well said. Jeff has touched so many lives with a positive, peaceful and loving hand. Go rest high on that mountain now, brother. God has blessed you. 
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Posted: 12/6/2013 9:46:14 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By redfish86:
Im bawling right now. God Bless your family. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By redfish86:
Originally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. Im bawling right now. God Bless your family. Yeah, me too. I was wondering why this thread went from highlighted to tacked. Now I know
Seems there's been a turn for the worse. God Bless |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 9:54:59 AM EDT
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Prayers sent!
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Posted: 12/6/2013 10:23:28 AM EDT
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How is it that a man can type on the Internet about dying and touch so many hearts, Teach so many about life, Teach so many about what a family is, Teach so many about friendship, Teach so many about true courage, Teach so many about wisdom? And I could go on.
Jeff, Rita and family you are special. I think that we are all better because of you. I send more prayers. An unknown friend from across the country. EBR |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 10:40:08 AM EDT
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I hope this is a reminder of how fragile life is for us all. it sure has been for me. hug your family a little tighter and pray for peace for the family left behind. only the Lord is able to bring strength through tragedy. thank you jeff for showing courage, strength, determination and the will to fight even if it was a battle you knew you couldn't beat.
may the Lord keep you always and may your family be covered w/ peace that cannot be described. Reta, remember that you still have a purpose and so does your son. our God doesn't make mistakes no matter if we understand His process or agree w/ Him. you were allowed to spend great times w/ Jeff and I hope this will give you comfort in your days ahead. 
Godspeed soldier. you have fought the fight and you have kept the faith.
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Posted: 12/6/2013 10:42:22 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By NUJbrown:
I couldn't say it any better. I never met you Jeff, but you've made a difference in my life. Rita, I feel comfortable in saying this and speaking for GD, if you ever need help with anything, we're here for you and your family. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By NUJbrown:
Originally Posted By Slappy600cc:
We might not have ever met, and we might not have ever spoken. But we are brothers Jeff, and I will carry you with me for the rest of my life. Thank you for coming into our lives and making a difference. Godspeed brother. I couldn't say it any better. I never met you Jeff, but you've made a difference in my life. Rita, I feel comfortable in saying this and speaking for GD, if you ever need help with anything, we're here for you and your family. +1, truth......... |
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Posted: 12/6/2013 10:45:24 AM EDT
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I hate to hear Jeff is in hospice. Back in early November I posted I was saying prayers that Jeff would be at home with the family at Thanksgiving. When that happened I was so happy. Now this turn for the worse. Prayers continue.
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