I also live in Bangor and commute to NYC 7 days a week. My job location can change but it will always be within one of the 5 boroughs of NYC. If I have a 7am start I typically wake up at 4am, leave the house by 4:30 and this gives me more than enough time to get anywhere in NYC by 6:30 the latest. I do not work in Queens too often due to the distance from my house but my union hall is located in Flushing, at the time of morning I would be going there I never hit any traffic. I can take 80 to GW and then cross over in BX and take the whitestone or I can take 80 to 280 and take the holland tunnel, go up canal, hop across the willamsburg bridge to 278, or can take 80 to 287, to 24 to 78 and then go holland, canal and williasburg bridge to 278.. lots of ways to go, just depends on the traffic/constructions/time of day.. I'd recommend the Waze app for your phone, it is a peer reported traffic app that has become a life safer in avoiding traffic jams, construction and the occasional speed trap
I would stay out of Stroudsburg and Monroe county.. especially if you have children. My development has a few lots left if you're looking for a new home, just about all of my neighbors shoot.. most are late 20's early 30's and most have young children. Upper Mt.Methal, Mt. Bethal, East Bangor, Rosetto, Bangor, Washington Twp.. you'll be good in any of these areas. You have several FFL's in the area, Jerry Wilson is right off main st in Bangor (Wilson Sporting Goods) he carries mostly hunting type guns but he's a very nice guy and only charges a $20 transfer fee (he'll cut you a break if you order multiple items at once) I'm working with him to get his SOT setup. Several gun clubs in the area as well.. east bangor sportsman association is a no frills range (although we do have cover from the elements now..) it's $25/year, usually have the range to yourself and they host some nice steel shoots every few months.
My wife and I moved out here in '09 to raise our son, we're both very happy with that decision. I'll gladly take the commute for our way of life out here vs ny/nj.. Once you get out here get a trust setup and start your NFA collection
If you have any questions feel free to shoot me an IM.
I'd also recommend a diesel VW, mine has saved me a ton of money on commute costs.. 600-650 miles on a tank (diesel is currently $2.9X here in Bangor but can fill up little cheaper in NJ) I have 235K miles on mine and all I've had to do is regular maintenance.. Car pays for itself IMO..