CP mags were always hit or miss. I guess they served a purpose for some when the original Colt (Metalform) mags were $50+. Now that you can get Metalform mags for as low as $20 though, there's little reason not to buy them.
Metalform mags (direct, Colt, Brownells, PSA) are the original 9mm mag and much less troublesome, so you may want to try and pick up a single metalform mag and try it out in your build to see if it works without issue before you do anything else.
Or, you can search for old posts from people that went through various steps to get the CP mags to work. I think some people ground on the followers, others tweaked/ground the feed lips, some modified their magblock or lower, and so on.
As far as recoil and weight, if you want a lighter build, you can get a lighter weight stock and/or handguard, or have the barrel profile altered, but at the end of the day, it's a blow back 9mm AR and a lot fo the mass is in the bolt and buffer. You could also try one of the hydraulic or other specialty buffers - some say they totally change the feel of the gun. The more you shoot with it though, the faster you should get as you get used to it.
Joe Bob's has 7.5 oz. 9mm specific buffers for $34.95. I have picked them up for less in the past, but I $35 is the best price I've seen recently without too much searching. I have a few, but most of the time I just use a 5.5 oz buffer and standard spring in my 9mm AR's. I don't really notice a significant difference in feel between the 5.5 oz and 7.5 oz buffers in semi auto use.
Good luck.