I had seen your post here and wrote the other thread as a detailed guide and log of my experience. Though a bit long winded, the information you seek is in there but i'll recap the key points of the general issue and solution.
For starters, its important to know that the bolt/recoil assembly and gas/pressure system MUST be addressed as a symbiotic whole since the gas system drives teh recoil assembly and so the recoil assembly must be matched to the available gas supply lest you be under or over gassed and result in malfunctions, excess recoil or undue wear and tear. Simply put, you really cant go to a lightweight system unless you have the ability to fine tune the gas system through either an adjustable gas block or through load tuning.
Adjustable gas parts is an easier approach since its just a matter of a simple hardware swap and some wrench turning whereas load development takes quite a bit longer and locks you into that lightweight setup with no recourse to switch back to regular components if ever the need arises. Now if you wanted to just use the lightweight carrier, you probably could with simple changes to your load, but with all the other lightweight buffer components out there, you might as well take it to the max and lighten the entire system to reap maximum benefits.
The major hitch in these DI pistol uppers is in the proprietary gas systems. Many times the gas block is a non-standard item in a non-standard location that you just cannot replace with an aftermarket adjustable gas block. In some cases you can, but in others its a no go. For a DI 9mm, you're definitely locked into the proprietary gas block unless you have more advances fabrication capabilities so we must look to other options.
The new RCA Adjustable GAS KEY is perfect for this application since you can use it with any standard AR15 DI bolt carrier of which all these DI pistol uppers use so we're in luck. Combine that with the RCA lightweight buffer or any other and you instantly have the new found ability to adjust and compensate as needed with the simple turn of an allen wrench.
At long last, with an adjustable gas system available for this and any AR system where the gas block is non-negotiable (pinned/welded comp on a short barrel for instance), you can complete the puzzle with all the other lightweight goodies. Add a Taccom Delrin 2-piece carbine buffer, Wolff or TTI 10% reduced carbine spring, lightweight carrier from whomever you like and you have the lightest possible recoil assembly available on the market. I guarantee your carbine will never run as soft as this!