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Sadly I have a friend that fell asleep drunk and was raped by a trusted platonic friend she has known for over 10 years. Needless to say she is pretty messed up and thinks she would have been better off if she didn't report the rape, she thinks no one will believe her because this scumbag is denying the entire thing and his good buddy is corroborating his story. After she had a rape exam done at the emergency room and filed a report with the police they told her that the DNA evidence could take anywhere from 2 weeks to 2 years to process depending on how fast they wanted to proceed with it. The police also said they are going to wait until the DNA evidence is processed to question this guy. For me and her especially those numbers are almost unbelievable, I could see 2 weeks but is upwards of 2 years really a accurate depiction of how long DNA takes to process?
I've spent the last several days reassuring her that everything will workout and be OK with time. I've told her in the meantime to get a restraining order and to see a councilor, hopefully she listens to me.
How do most rape cases like this play out? Is there anything I can tell her to bring her confidence up that this guy will be prosecuted and sent to prison?
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Reference the above part in red....I'm not calling your friend a liar but....I see a bunch of red flags here. Not enough info to tell at the moment but definitely see some things that aren't adding up.
As far as the restraining order....for what? She might not get it anyway and with an open investigation, getting one just tips him off that something is going on....of course with him talking about having a buddy corroborate the story, sounds like he already knows what's up. Unless he's bothering her now in some fashion, a restraining order isn't needed. Could create more problems for the investigator later.
Her story sounds suspiciously like someone who got drunk and had sex with someone who she later regretted having sex with. The guy is a moron for having sex with a drunk girl....and she clearly made some poor decisions that night too.
I know you want to believe your friend....but remember, your opinion doesn't matter.....only the truth matters. If he truly raped her, then he should be punished. But, if she gave him the green light in her drunken stupor and then wishes she had not.....that's not rape. Poor decisions on both parties....yes. But not rape.
Good luck. Hopefully the truth will come out....regardless of what happens in the end.