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Posted: 12/28/2014 11:07:35 PM EDT

Now what

married 31.5 years, clueless how to continue

Posted: 12/28/2014 11:19:02 PM EDT

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I am so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers.

Posted: 12/28/2014 11:30:17 PM EDT

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Im sorry for your loss, but take things one step at a time.

The pain you feel will deminish and you will continue on.

Posted: 12/28/2014 11:35:36 PM EDT

[#3]

Very sorry for your loss. Cancer is something that scares me to no end.

Just take it one day at a time.

You will never get over it but may you find peace in your heart and soul.

Posted: 12/29/2014 12:46:46 AM EDT

[#4]

Thoughts and prayers

Posted: 12/29/2014 12:50:01 AM EDT

[#5]

Prayer offered that you may be comforted.

I can't even imagine.

Posted: 12/29/2014 12:55:24 AM EDT

[#6]

Thoughts and prayers incoming. I'm so, so sorry.

Posted: 12/29/2014 1:00:33 AM EDT

[#7]

I'm sorry for your losed if your in Vegas LMK if you need anything...

Posted: 12/29/2014 1:03:52 AM EDT

[#8]

Get over it no. Remember them and appreciate that they made your life far more wonderful then if they never were in it, always.

My condolences on your loss.

Posted: 12/29/2014 1:03:59 AM EDT

[#9]

"Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before. How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!"

Posted: 12/29/2014 1:07:31 AM EDT

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Sorry for your loss..No words of wisdom' Because it's a grey hollow well one shouts at too fill' No words can currently fill this void, but time heals and one hopes that love one will be their to help fill that hole in your soul.

Posted: 12/29/2014 1:41:05 AM EDT

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308Sako hate to hear you lost your Wife and Best Friend. I hope you have lots of family support to help you through this terrible time. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and all those affected by this. Stay strong my brother and carry her memory proudly.

Posted: 12/29/2014 2:03:29 AM EDT

[#12]

So sorry for your loss.

Posted: 12/29/2014 2:12:24 AM EDT

[#13]

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through.

Posted: 12/29/2014 2:18:31 AM EDT

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Same for me too, brotha..

It's never easy. But have solice in the known fact there is no more suffering...

Posted: 12/29/2014 2:28:49 AM EDT

[#15]

I've been married for 35 years and my wife is the world to me. I honestly do not know what to say except keep putting one foot in front of the other. In time it'll all come together, but for now just keep making forward progress as best you can.

God bless.

Posted: 12/29/2014 2:39:33 AM EDT

[#16]

I'm so sorry for your loss. May God help you find peace.

Posted: 12/29/2014 2:49:05 AM EDT

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Sorry man. I know exactly what you're going through - lost my wife of 21 years to cancer 2 yrs 9 mos, and 1 day ago. There is no worse feeling in the world, and it is very difficult to describe. It's a complex thing. For me one of the worst things was the feeling that it was my job to protect her, and that I failed. That has not gone away.

I got through it with the help of friends (mostly her friends, as I had few of my own), work, and my dog. Having something to keep your mind occupied helps.

Posted: 12/29/2014 2:54:09 AM EDT

[#18]

Sorry for your loss.

Posted: 12/29/2014 3:05:39 AM EDT

[#19]

i am sorry for your loss

Posted: 12/29/2014 4:41:40 AM EDT

[#20]

My deepest condolences to you! Prayers inbound.

Posted: 12/29/2014 4:46:40 AM EDT

[#21]

Does your church or another local community organization have a group that meets and discusses coping with grief?

Posted: 12/29/2014 5:23:53 AM EDT

[#22]

Sorry for your loss....

Posted: 12/29/2014 11:47:50 AM EDT

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Sorry man. I know exactly what you're going through - lost my wife of 21 years to cancer 2 yrs 9 mos, and 1 day ago. There is no worse feeling in the world, and it is very difficult to describe. It's a complex thing. For me one of the worst things was the feeling that it was my job to protect her, and that I failed. That has not gone away.

I got through it with the help of friends (mostly her friends, as I had few of my own), work, and my dog. Having something to keep your mind occupied helps.

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married 31.5 years, clueless how to continue

Sorry man. I know exactly what you're going through - lost my wife of 21 years to cancer 2 yrs 9 mos, and 1 day ago. There is no worse feeling in the world, and it is very difficult to describe. It's a complex thing. For me one of the worst things was the feeling that it was my job to protect her, and that I failed. That has not gone away.

I got through it with the help of friends (mostly her friends, as I had few of my own), work, and my dog. Having something to keep your mind occupied helps.

No family here, no job (retired) and a few loose friends as we had moved to Vegas after retiring.

The lack of direction or purpose is what seems at the moment insurmountable... baby steps I'm told.

Thank you all for responding.

Posted: 12/29/2014 8:07:00 PM EDT

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No family here, no job (retired) and a few loose friends as we had moved to Vegas after retiring.

The lack of direction or purpose is what seems at the moment insurmountable... baby steps I'm told.

Thank you all for responding.

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married 31.5 years, clueless how to continue

Sorry man. I know exactly what you're going through - lost my wife of 21 years to cancer 2 yrs 9 mos, and 1 day ago. There is no worse feeling in the world, and it is very difficult to describe. It's a complex thing. For me one of the worst things was the feeling that it was my job to protect her, and that I failed. That has not gone away.

I got through it with the help of friends (mostly her friends, as I had few of my own), work, and my dog. Having something to keep your mind occupied helps.

No family here, no job (retired) and a few loose friends as we had moved to Vegas after retiring.

The lack of direction or purpose is what seems at the moment insurmountable... baby steps I'm told.

Thank you all for responding.

Yeah, baby steps. For a while, you won't want to do anything except wallow. Find something to keep you busy. I don't recommend frequenting the casinos though... nothing good can come from that. Maybe get involved with a dog rescue group?

Posted: 12/30/2014 12:57:04 AM EDT

[#25]

I am so sorry for your loss.

You will be in my prayers.

Posted: 12/30/2014 1:44:54 AM EDT

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Posted: 12/30/2014 2:08:12 AM EDT

[#27]

Sorry for your loss.

My wife is an RN in Oncology, she said there should be some support groups thru local hospitals to help, not that it gets rid of the pain but people going thru similar straights.

Posted: 1/12/2015 8:16:05 PM EDT

[#28]

OP... how are you doing? I hope you're finding your way through this. Sorry for your loss.

Posted: 1/12/2015 8:44:46 PM EDT

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Sorry for your loss.....OP

Posted: 1/12/2015 8:45:40 PM EDT

[#30]

My condolences Sir. You and your family are in my thoughts...

Posted: 1/12/2015 9:10:50 PM EDT

[#31]

I wish I could say it's going to be easy, but it's not. I lost my wife of 39 years to muscular dystrophy just under a year ago, and it's hard to get up every day. BUT, YOU MUST! Remember and cherish the good times you had together. Moving on will happen when it happens . . . little by little. One piece of advice: don't make any major decisions right now. Find a new hobby that you can be interested in. For me having something that I could focus on that didn't have memories attached to it was a big help.

IM me if you'd like to.

Posted: 1/27/2015 3:34:32 AM EDT

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So sorry for your loss, brother.

In time, I'm sure you'll come to find you'll see her in your day to day. She might not be present but she is still near. Very near. Embrace what you had and still have. Live life the way you know she would want you to.

Thoughts and prayers inbound, friend.

Stay strong.

Posted: 1/27/2015 3:39:21 AM EDT

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Posted: 1/27/2015 3:51:28 AM EDT

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My condolences

yall had good times, remember those.
now is time for family & close friend support. if not , as someone else mentioned - look for local support group.