That's funny, I thought this was the women's forum, but everyone with an opinion seems, at first glance, to be male. I wonder why that is. Not that there's anything wrong with that. Although...204 views at this time for the thread? Heeheee, the thought that we would have that many women on the forum, lol. You wacky men, lurking in the women's forum.
I don't know how she feels about her size per se, but I do know how she feels about bra shopping judging from all the bitching emanating out of the dressing rooms, lol. I will ask her, of course, but what I wanted to know was thoughts from the ladies before I go wading into landmine territory.
Edited to add daughter's age: She is 17. And yes, the idea of encouraging her to pursue more physical activity and a healthy approach to diet is the approach by default. I had typed an enormous TL;DR post at first but hit the wrong button on the keyboard in process and lost the whole post. So I posted the short one and did not include the whole back story.
She is more of a social butterfly, musician artsy-type, whereas her brother is a fireball on the fields. The two couldn't be more unalike physically, either. Quite literally, he would vanish when he turned sideways, and yet he eats like a pig. Fortunately for him he has discovered weightlifting in addition to his participation in school sports, and is showing more muscle mass these days. She just doesn't have the metabolism like him, and never was much into athletics. I tried at first with her, encouraging participation in softball, soccer, and track, but she had other ideas. She is very much involved with band, but not having been involved in serious physical pursuits, considers marching to be strenuous exercise. I know she does not eat as much as her brother, but then, she is more sedentary. It isn't the food...we cook pretty healthy in my house. Lots of fruits and vegetables, lean meats, moderate carbs.
I signed us up both for a step aerobics class once and it was a disaster for me. She enjoyed it tremendously but I couldn't keep up because when my legs get fatigued I can't lift them high enough to avoid tripping on the step boards and trying to break my neck. Embarassing to me, but a side effect of a health condition of mine that I have no control over. When I want to work out these days I swim or lift weights, but she is so social that for her it is drudgery to work out alone. I will talk to her and see if she might like to join a spinning class or another aerobics class on her own...if we did spinning together at least I wouldn't have to worry about falling off the bike and making a spectacle of myself.