1 Have portable lighting system-surefire & co.
2 Control timing of lights on, incorporate into tactics.
weapon ready
portable light ready
listen
eyes closed-all lights on
interior lights off-eyes open
scan for silhouettes
move family to safe room
clear house-
cover, scan, lights on, scan, lights off (you have the remote right?) move to new cover, repeat...
Use home turf advantage, lighting to place intruder at disadvantage. Be able to clear house in the dark. Light up and cause loss of night vision in intruder, keep yourself in the dark and be mindful of light behind you that might silhouette you. Have it all figured out before you have to face this. Have your family be aware of what is going on and in cover, safe zone.
If you are going to spring for the x10, put in a couple of those cameras.
Forget everything I said, I made it up.
Get a dog and you'll be way ahead of the game.