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3/20/2017 5:03:23 PM
Posted: 11/15/2001 7:32:25 AM EDT
Another post just reminded me of this. Tuesday night I was coerced into meeting the parents of a girl I recently started dating. Mom: Not too bad. Dad: What an a$$hole! He hated me. He hates guns.He hates Republicans. He thinks the ongoing war is "uncalled for" because "those people" are not to blame for 9/11. I was on my best behavior,clean cut,well disciplined,all around nice kid. I will never be good enough for his little girl. (Not that I give a damn what he thinks.) Anyone else ever been in this situation?
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 7:47:21 AM EDT
Don't forget to let him know that you will be "Doing the nasty" with his little girl That'll get ya some bonding time with him.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 7:48:16 AM EDT
I was engaged to a girl that both parents hated me. There was nothing I could do that was good enough and her mother would always say "(insert ex-boyfriends name here) does this or used to do that, why don't you call him again sometime" right in front of me. So, I decided to call it off and broke the relationship off quickly. Ended up marrying someone 150% better and her parents are the best in-laws I think a guy could have. Very sweet people. Funny thing is, the girl ended-up marrying the ex-boyfriend and I saw her recently...she's miserable to say the least.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 7:53:12 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 11/15/2001 7:46:09 AM EDT by Avalon01]
I've gotten along VERY well with my fiances parents. Her dad likes to go shooting, her mom was a peacenik in the 60's, but is VERY cool. I also got her brother involved in shooting. We get along great, and they invite me to places with them all the time. Av.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 8:17:25 AM EDT
[Last Edit: 11/15/2001 8:12:26 AM EDT by garandman]
Fist time I met my wife's dad..... Got off a bus in South Philly at midnite. He was 6'6" (I'm 6'3") a full beard, a baseball cap, and a pickup truck with a gun rack in the back window. I weighed my options - Big Bad John, or the locals. If you know anything about South Philly.... The next time, I drove up to his house, There was a nickel-plated .45 pointed out the window.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 8:21:50 AM EDT
The first time I met him, we went down to meet him for lunch while he was on duty, he's a motorcop. Tried to intimidate me with the badge, Swartzenegger glasses and his shiny boots. Too bad I grew up the son of an L.A.P.D. Lt. who worked as a homicide detective.....a little more hardcore than a traffic cop. [:)] Needless to say, I wasn't affected by his attempt to play "tough guy". He turned out to be a jerk anyway, so I couldn't care less.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 8:23:21 AM EDT
We'd already been married for 5 years. They were estranged because of a horrible divorce situation. Talk about a very bizarre experience. Since then we have gotten along great. He's a shooter too.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 8:24:51 AM EDT
I've dated my fiancee for roughly 14 years (more off than on). Didn't meet her dad until this year when her grandfater pass away. Her dad was wearing a Viagra watch, cracking jokes, knew my dad and invited me to the parking lot to check out his "new" Colt Delta Elite. For a minute I was kind of nervous about the Colt.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 8:26:58 AM EDT
Me and the father-in-law never got along in the begining he thought I would break his little girls heart(8 years and going of mariage) well one night he got into it with my best friend/man but hadnt met him yet. Told my friend he was going to kick his ass..day of wedding he meets my friend and shakes his hand meekly when he saw my friend was 6'5" 250LBS AT ABOUT 4%-5% BODY FAT. HE WAS A PERSONNAL TRAINER AT THE TIME. it was pretty damn funny.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 8:28:59 AM EDT
Before I got married I met lots of fathers. I never met one that intimidated me in any way. I met some I liked some I did not like. The bottom line is the parents don't have to like you, only your girl so forget about it.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 8:48:19 AM EDT
I've met a lot of parents in my dating, and I always found it weird that the parents always loved me. Then again, I'm an honest and nice person, and fairly intelligent. I always ended up scoring points by being good at something the mother or father was into without really knowing it. For one set of parents it was games, and for another it was being aware of political issues and modern philosophy. Anyway, my father-in-law is a Marine and very religious. He did not like me at all. When I was dating his daughter, I had long black hair, a goatee, and both my ears, tongue, and septum pierced. When I was around him, I always kept my hair in a ponytail and knew to hide the piercings. Anyway, he did not like me at all. I think the first time he met me I had worked a long shift at work and had come over to hang out and watch TV with his daughter, as she was living at home and going to school at the time. Anyway, I fell asleep on her bed and her father came home. He was pissed, and tried to kick my out of the house, but my mother-in-law stopped him. He was worried about his "little girl," and I can understand it now that I have a daughter of my own. We were at a dinner one night with a lot of her family and my mom, stepdad and little brother, and we decided to make it public that we were getting engaged with, provided we could have her parents' blessing. He was stunned, and told me that he'd like to "take me out and introduce me to the men in his family." The next night, he picked me up and we went to play pool. I was expecting to get "jumped in" to the family, but really all that happened was her father asked me what my intentions were, if I really loved his daughter, and if I was going to make sure that I took care of her to the best of my ability. I answered to his satisfaction and we've been great friends since. We go play pool regularly, go to gunshows, and I even helped him repair his father-in-law's Savage pistol that was willed to him. We've been shooting a few times, but don't get to do it often enough. I have the best in-laws I could have ever imagined, and I'm glad of that. Having grandkids helped too. [:)] Go Bless Texas
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 8:50:26 AM EDT
I bought a bag of weed from him.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 8:59:25 AM EDT
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 9:09:02 AM EDT
I have [b]ZERO[/b] respect for my father-in-law, and also do not recognize him as such! After years of openly cheating on his wife, he eventually walked out on his own wife and kids ([i]after emptying the bank accounts and leaving them basically homeless[/i]), to go raise someone elses' family... After 5 failed marriages, he finally settled down is is now in a common law situation! The first time I met him, he immediately began telling me all of the sexual things that I should be doing to his daughter, because that's what a man does and what a woman is for... mind you, she was in the same room! I said it then, and every other time his name comes up, that he is NOT her father, but rather a worthless POS sperm donor! Her mother is the absolute reverse side of the coin, but while living with US for several years, nearly cost us our marriage, and it was somewhat intentional, as she wanted Cathy ([i]my wife[/i]), all to herself, due to insecurities from her own failed marriage. For lack of a better word, I kicked her Mom out and we have repaired our marriage... In 9 1/2 years, we have never been closer or loved each other more!
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 9:21:25 AM EDT
I have never met my wifes father - never had the chance. he died of colon cancer when she was 12. He mom, now, that's a different story - she never remarried, and has the attitude that life dealt her a bad hand, and she's mad at it. I wish I could change her attitude somehow, but I can't - AntiUSSA, I know what you mean about your mother inlaw - my biggest fear is that my wife will come home from visiting her and announce that she's moving in with us. Of course, I've moved us over 2000 miles away (so I stole the only child of a widow!) so I'm a really bad guy and she'd have to move that far to do it, but I always tell my wife that it's an option if she wants to. I think if she has the option, she's actually less likely to excersize it. At least I hope so... From what I've heard, her dad would have been a cool guy to know, though.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 10:31:10 AM EDT
On our first date I asked my wife what her father did. She told me that all he ever does is lay around. Found out later that he had been dead for about fourteen years. He had bi-bolar and did himself in with car exhaust. I don't know if that is what made my wife wierd or if she would have turned out wierd anyway. Her mother always referred to me as That Bastard. Always wanted to ask her if she was just kidding but she died of liver disease before I got a chance to ask her.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 11:36:52 AM EDT
I always tell my wife that it's an option if she wants to. I think if she has the option, she's actually less likely to excersize it. At least I hope so...
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If she [b]must[/b] be with you, then a superior option would be to rent her an apartment very close by, and pay the rent for her if possible. Hell, if you are in a position to do so, buy her a small home, but keep it in your name for when the inevitable comes... There are options that can/will save your marriage. While it is truely honorable to care for your parents in your home, there are better ([i]not necessarily easier[/i]) ways of handling the situation. My mother-in-law now has an apartment 30 miles away, but at this point spends most of her time staying with her own mother that is in her late 80's, and over 2 hours away. Since our "incident" this past winter, I rarely see or speak with Cathy's mom, but they still maintain a VERY close relationship... from seperate dwellings! For the first time in years, we are able to go and do things by ourselves, without feeling an obligation to bring her mother along and/or worry about what restaurant we dine at. Her mother is EXTREMELY picky and will only eat certain things, and ethnic food is out of the question, although we personally prefer it... [u]Brother to brother:[/u] In order to keep total peace and harmony with your wife, you really should begin having these discussions BEFORE the situation arises!
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 12:07:30 PM EDT
uh oh... i just got had a girl that i was courting turn inot a girlfriend. i suppose i'll have to meant her father eventually. i were "together" as of this monday 12nov2001 and now i'm going down to dance where she lives this friday, i'm ready to meeet but i don't think it'll formally happen. parents all like me. clean cut, no piercings or tattos (sp?), not in a gang, smart, good manners, helping attitude. let me put it this way: i'm the kind of guy i'd want my daughter to date. (i don't have a daughter) OffRoad
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 12:15:52 PM EDT
I get along great with my inlaws. He treats me more like a drinking buddy than a son in law. Which can be good and bad at the same time! We were only dating about 2 weeks and we were there for supper one evening. I was doing some grilling, he comes outside, we talk alittle bit then he asks me a VERY uncomfortble question! (I guess I should lead you in to this, I had a syst on my left nut which was sore and I had to get surgery on it in 1 week.) Back to the story, He then asks me,"Doesn't that hurt your nuts when they are slapping against her ass!!" I could have died! I told him my mind was in other things at that time. He just laughed! But we all get along great. He has no sons or brothers so I guess I am both!
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 12:37:50 PM EDT
"Doesn't that hurt your nuts when they are slapping against her ass!!"
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Re-read my first post in this thread! What kind of father would refer to his daughter in such a way..? How far will a guy like this take his "fantasies"..?
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 12:39:28 PM EDT
Kind of funny... I always got along great with the girlfriend's parents. When we broke up, I usually missed them more than the girl! Anyway, when I was dating my wife, it was kept a secret for a while (I'm white... she's black) from her mother and my parents. As it turns out, my mother turned into a real bitch and wanted to disown me. My dad was cool about it. My mother-in-law (my wife's father took off someplace... never met him) was one of the greatest people I knew. I wished she had been my mother at times. She lived 5 miles away with two other daughters, cooked for me everyday, kept the kids while we worked, etc. She passed away 2.5 years ago. The two sisters moved in with us, but it didn't work out. One sister found her own condo a couple miles away. The other is 'emotionally unstable' and stayed with us. Since we had a 3 bedroom house with 3 kids already, I just added 3 more rooms and a bath. She has her own room, the kids theirs, and now I have an office. It works out pretty good, as she helps with housekeeping and laundry.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 12:52:09 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 11/15/2001 12:47:00 PM EDT by jhasz]
Originally Posted By antiUSSA:
I always tell my wife that it's an option if she wants to. I think if she has the option, she's actually less likely to excersize it. At least I hope so...
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If she [b]must[/b] be with you, then a superior option would be to rent her an apartment very close by, and pay the rent for her if possible. Hell, if you are in a position to do so, buy her a small home, but keep it in your name for when the inevitable comes...
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Nah, lately things have become obvious that the chances of her moving in with us are fairly small. She is a frail 80+ and after having TB and smoking for most of her life (yeah, that was an interesting choice) she is now on O2. There are some "in-laws" still in her area, that look in on her from time to time, but if it came down to it, she would move into an assisted living place - either where she is now, or out here with us.
There are options that can/will save your marriage. While it is truely honorable to care for your parents in your home, there are better ([i]not necessarily easier[/i]) ways of handling the situation.
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yeah, I know. In some ways I count myself fortunate that my mom passed in her sleep, and dad was fine, check himself into the hospital cause that day he felt really tired and his BP was way down, and expired that night - no pain, no long drawn out illness.
Since our "incident" this past winter, I rarely see or speak with Cathy's mom, but they still maintain a VERY close relationship... from seperate dwellings! For the first time in years, we are able to go and do things by ourselves, without feeling an obligation to bring her mother along and/or worry about what restaurant we dine at. Her mother is EXTREMELY picky and will only eat certain things, and ethnic food is out of the question, although we personally prefer it...
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Oh boy does this sound like my mother in law - If I didn't know my wife was an only child, I might call you "Brother!"-in-law [;)] Picky is an understatement! The overwhelming feeling of responsibility that my wife used to have for her mothers well being (and sometimes still does) is really, truthfully, one of the reasons we moved out to the west. Once we got out here, her personality blossomed into the person I saw trapped inside, so many years ago [:)]
[u]Brother to brother:[/u] In order to keep total peace and harmony with your wife, you really should begin having these discussions BEFORE the situation arises!
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Yup! That's pretty much an ongoing discussion here and has been for just over 18 years now - of course, it wasn't quite so easy in the first few years - her mom being a liberal and all [:o]
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 12:54:50 PM EDT
Hey anti, He is the kind of guy who gets a second job to put his daughter through college, he is the kind of guy who puts 50 bucks a week in his grandsons savings account, he is the kind of guy who took care of my vehicles and house and yard while I had back surgery, he is the kind of guy who takes his wife out to dinner every saturday, shall I continue? Before you become judgemental look at your position. Mine is totally different so FUCK OFF!
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 1:14:08 PM EDT
Mine is totally different so FUCK OFF!
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I take it this is a "quality" family trait..? Obviously you fit into the family quite well!
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 1:23:57 PM EDT
Hey anti, This topic was started to hear stories, not for you to become on here and act like Oprah. It seems that you believe to be "godlike" to every post on here that you reply to. How can you make accusations of things that you know nothing about? Have you met this man? Maybe I should have not got so pissed, but like I said you do not know him. This guy would give my wife and I everything he had to help us out. Just because he cracks a joke does not make him a sexual abuser or whatever it was you implied.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 1:57:04 PM EDT
My soon-to-be father-in-law had considered pulling the "cleaning his gun" bit, just to mess with my head. It's a good thing he didn't because all he had was a broken BB gun, and I would have quickly recognized it as such. My girlfriend/fiance was worried that her dad's sense of humor would run me off, but it turns out that I have an uncle with the same sense of humor. I ended up fitting right in. Viper Out
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 2:09:10 PM EDT
First time I met my father-in-law was over 20 years ago. I was (still am) 5'9" and 165 lbs, Willy is 6'4" and well over 200 lbs. He spoke no English, I spoke no German at that time. Corina introduced us and I stuck out my right hand, it dissapperd in his and he tighted his grip, I just smiled and was thinking I might be able to break his knee if I hit it just right. I never moved even when my little finger snapped, he let out a laugh and handed me a beer. We have been friends ever since. Found out later he was famos for that little trick.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 8:55:24 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 11/15/2001 8:50:03 PM EDT by biggun]
The first time I met my wife's father....was when I was dating her sister!!! Her mom told me she would get me into the family one way or another.
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 9:04:56 PM EDT
The first time I met her father I could not understand a word he said, I just nod when he says something. He`s english with a VERY heavy accent. To this day I kind just let out a little grunt and say yup when he speaks. I am sure he thinks I am retarded. LOL
Link Posted: 11/15/2001 9:12:29 PM EDT
The first time I met my (ex)wife's father.The only thing he said to me was, "watch out for that one,she'll take you for everything you're worth"...in the end he was pretty much right.
Link Posted: 11/16/2001 2:01:24 AM EDT
My father-in-law is like my best friend, we got along great since the first time we met. He got me into his hunting club, we go fishing, shooting or some times just hang out. my wife gets mad because he calls the house for me more than he calls for her. [:)>]
Link Posted: 11/16/2001 3:54:06 PM EDT
Ah, the first time... I had hair down 4 inches past my shoulders. No shirt, no shoes and a really great pair of patch jeans (remember patch jeans?). I knocked on the front door and he answered. Door opens- (big smile) "Hi! I'm here to pick up Pat." (bigger smile) "No you're not." Door closes. We get along very well now.
Link Posted: 11/16/2001 4:03:59 PM EDT
Link Posted: 11/16/2001 4:49:02 PM EDT
I worked with my father in-law at the same co. for 8 years then he set me up on a blind date with his little girl you could say thst he likes me .After we got married my mother -in-law tried to run things ,I told her that she did not pay my bills or feed me everything has been fine for 6 years
Link Posted: 11/16/2001 5:36:01 PM EDT
Met the girlfriend's father when he flew into town with some friends for a long weekend in Vegas. Nice enough guy, VERY country (black cowboy shirt w/little pink and blue cowboy boots on it, tight ass pants and genuine cowpoke boots). We get along well, he hunts and has a fair selection of weapons, but he's not the black rifle type. Even brought some deer meat with him. Prior to and while he was visiting he had no idea that his daughter and I were basically living together (I had to sleep at my place for the first time in months, just to keep up appearances!) Well, I was sitting on the livingroom couch with Sheri, and dad was giving his two buddies a tour of the house, and they stopped at the hall closet to take a peek in. Of all the closets in the house to pick, they got the one that has all my clothes in it. His buddies smiled and winked at each other, and dad just stared for a moment, like he was putting together why there were all these guy clothes in there... then I think he got embarrassed, and shut the door. It was akward for a few seconds, but he just shrugged it off. I think he gave me a bit more respect after that, 'cause his lil girl is rather picky about men, and had never shacked up with one before, and I think he trusts her judgement.
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