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Posted: 5/7/2024 12:35:27 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: Well, at least that's not a "no" to the possibility of things going somewhere with this one. But dangit, it's taken a long time just to get to this point... Sure it's no 30 year long subconscious wait to hear back from a girl you still love from when you were a kid, but still.  Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: With Jamie, if I had to guess, probably thinks I'm moving too fast. She said she wants to get to know someone slowly, see if we can be friends, and then if it feels right begin a relationship. Well, of course, that's kinda how it should work, right? Maybe her idea was to meet a few times to see if we could be friends and exchanging numbers would be the next step after that. IDK, that's the only thing I can think of. Then you have girls like Hannah who asked for my number right off the bat. Not gonna lie, that kinda spooked me, wasn't expecting that at all. Whatever, plenty of fish in the sea. Well, she actually responded. I told her "If you're not comfortable exchanging numbers, it's cool. I just thought it might be easier to communicate that way. You still want to talk?" She tells me this morning "Sorry, been busy this week with work blah blah blah, did stuff with family this weekend blah blah blah....yes, I guess it feels too early to be exchanging numbers...some other stuff ." Gotta say I'm surprised she even responded, but maybe not all is lost. Still not getting my hopes up, but I suppose it's a good sign if she still wants to talk. Well, at least that's not a "no" to the possibility of things going somewhere with this one. But dangit, it's taken a long time just to get to this point... Sure it's no 30 year long subconscious wait to hear back from a girl you still love from when you were a kid, but still. Lol, right! It's fine, I have nothing but time.  No need to rush anything. But it does give me a useful bit of information: she's shy, and spooks easily. So I gotta be really careful not to come on too strong. Patience is a virtue. Which I have quite a bit of. Except when it comes to people doing really stupid things.I'll message her again later tonight. Probably just chat with her for another week or two before asking when she wants to meet up. Let her ease up. Mother's day is this weekend anyway. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 6:34:35 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: Well, at least that's not a "no" to the possibility of things going somewhere with this one. But dangit, it's taken a long time just to get to this point... Sure it's no 30 year long subconscious wait to hear back from a girl you still love from when you were a kid, but still. I see that as a "no". But then again, I'm not experienced in these matters and am not exactly in a position to be giving such advice. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:40:41 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: I see that as a "no". But then again, I'm not experienced in these matters and am not exactly in a position to be giving such advice. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Well, at least that's not a "no" to the possibility of things going somewhere with this one. But dangit, it's taken a long time just to get to this point... Sure it's no 30 year long subconscious wait to hear back from a girl you still love from when you were a kid, but still. I see that as a "no". But then again, I'm not experienced in these matters and am not exactly in a position to be giving such advice. Don't put yourself down too much. You have waaaayyyyyyyy more experience than myself.  No one should listen to any advice I might have on these kinds of things. This thread made that painfully obvious.
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:43:38 PM EDT
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This went from "do single guys like race cars on the weekend and stuff?" To a dating thread lol
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:47:42 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By WhiskersTheCat: This went from "do single guys like race cars on the weekend and stuff?" To a dating thread lol FWIW, my not-even-retired-yet father has been far more "adventurous" in some of the respects that the OP was alluding to as compared to my perpetually-single self. For example, he's done far more spontaneous motorcycling trips than I would ever consider. (Though sadly he decided to give up riding a few years back after a heart attack.) |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:48:36 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Lol, right! It's fine, I have nothing but time. No need to rush anything. But it does give me a useful bit of information: she's shy, and spooks easily. So I gotta be really careful not to come on too strong. Patience is a virtue. Which I have quite a bit of. Except when it comes to people doing really stupid things.I'll message her again later tonight. Probably just chat with her for another week or two before asking when she wants to meet up. Let her ease up. Mother's day is this weekend anyway. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: With Jamie, if I had to guess, probably thinks I'm moving too fast. She said she wants to get to know someone slowly, see if we can be friends, and then if it feels right begin a relationship. Well, of course, that's kinda how it should work, right? Maybe her idea was to meet a few times to see if we could be friends and exchanging numbers would be the next step after that. IDK, that's the only thing I can think of. Then you have girls like Hannah who asked for my number right off the bat. Not gonna lie, that kinda spooked me, wasn't expecting that at all. Whatever, plenty of fish in the sea. Well, she actually responded. I told her "If you're not comfortable exchanging numbers, it's cool. I just thought it might be easier to communicate that way. You still want to talk?" She tells me this morning "Sorry, been busy this week with work blah blah blah, did stuff with family this weekend blah blah blah....yes, I guess it feels too early to be exchanging numbers...some other stuff ." Gotta say I'm surprised she even responded, but maybe not all is lost. Still not getting my hopes up, but I suppose it's a good sign if she still wants to talk. Well, at least that's not a "no" to the possibility of things going somewhere with this one. But dangit, it's taken a long time just to get to this point... Sure it's no 30 year long subconscious wait to hear back from a girl you still love from when you were a kid, but still. Lol, right! It's fine, I have nothing but time. No need to rush anything. But it does give me a useful bit of information: she's shy, and spooks easily. So I gotta be really careful not to come on too strong. Patience is a virtue. Which I have quite a bit of. Except when it comes to people doing really stupid things.I'll message her again later tonight. Probably just chat with her for another week or two before asking when she wants to meet up. Let her ease up. Mother's day is this weekend anyway. No expert here (as has been made very clear), but seeing as she might be the shy/spooks easily type (similar to myself), would it be better to let her ask you about meeting up or is that not really an acceptable order of things? Literally clueless here, so that's not really my advice.
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:51:09 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: FWIW, my not-even-retired-yet father has been far more "adventurous" in some of the respects that the OP was alluding to as compared to my perpetually-single self. For example, he's done far more spontaneous motorcycling trips than I would ever consider. (Though sadly he decided to give up riding a few years back after a heart attack.) Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: Originally Posted By WhiskersTheCat: This went from "do single guys like race cars on the weekend and stuff?" To a dating thread lol FWIW, my not-even-retired-yet father has been far more "adventurous" in some of the respects that the OP was alluding to as compared to my perpetually-single self. For example, he's done far more spontaneous motorcycling trips than I would ever consider. (Though sadly he decided to give up riding a few years back after a heart attack.) The single gayest thing I didn't do was hike the Appalachian Trail at the origins two weeks to stop the spread meme. I knew it wouldn't be two weeks because I'm aware of how incremental power works. I only console myself because I think they shut down the trails at some point. I was very very seriously considering doing it. I was still getting health insurance through my job, I had mountain house thanks to GD and I had a good backpack |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:52:25 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: You have waaaayyyyyyyy more experience than myself. I take it you don't recall what I've posted before in other threads about my own comparative lack of experience, let alone anything resembling success, in these endeavors. Though a mere fraction may seem huge in comparison to zero, such a small amount is better viewed from a larger perspective, to see how small it really is. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:54:04 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By WhiskersTheCat: This went from "do single guys like race cars on the weekend and stuff?" To a dating thread lol I think the title of the thread is why we haven't heard most of the ARFCOM women chime in at some points honestly.  It went so off topic it's not even funny. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:57:47 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: I take it you don't recall what I've posted before in other threads about my own comparative lack of experience, let alone anything resembling success, in these endeavors. Though a mere fraction may seem huge in comparison to zero, such a small amount is better viewed from a larger perspective, to see how small it really is. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: You have waaaayyyyyyyy more experience than myself. I take it you don't recall what I've posted before in other threads about my own comparative lack of experience, let alone anything resembling success, in these endeavors. Though a mere fraction may seem huge in comparison to zero, such a small amount is better viewed from a larger perspective, to see how small it really is. That's exactly right.  I would say my future seemed bright at age 11 though... If I had only known.
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:58:23 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By WhiskersTheCat: The single gayest thing I didn't do was hike the Appalachian Trail at the origins two weeks to stop the spread meme. I knew it wouldn't be two weeks because I'm aware of how incremental power works. I only console myself because I think they shut down the trails at some point. I was very very seriously considering doing it. I was still getting health insurance through my job, I had mountain house thanks to GD and I had a good backpack  The INSANE Solo Cannonball Record Claim! who's with me? |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:59:01 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By WhiskersTheCat: This went from "do single guys like race cars on the weekend and stuff?" To a dating thread lol alternatively: disregard females, acquire currency. 
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:59:35 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: That's exactly right. Don't neglect the bigger picture - and don't forget that in certain respects, my experience is also zero. I'm also not that much younger than you, either. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 7:59:43 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: I see that as a "no". But then again, I'm not experienced in these matters and am not exactly in a position to be giving such advice. best see to that, son. 
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:00:32 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: Don't neglect the bigger picture - and don't forget that in certain respects, my experience is also zero. I'm also not that much younger than you, either.
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:00:33 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: when the next fake plague starts the next lockdown i'ma renting a rustang and going cannonballing.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EvQFDtJUdHwwho's with me? Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: Originally Posted By WhiskersTheCat: The single gayest thing I didn't do was hike the Appalachian Trail at the origins two weeks to stop the spread meme. I knew it wouldn't be two weeks because I'm aware of how incremental power works. I only console myself because I think they shut down the trails at some point. I was very very seriously considering doing it. I was still getting health insurance through my job, I had mountain house thanks to GD and I had a good backpack https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EvQFDtJUdHwwho's with me? Dude I think the cannonball record got broken 3 times during covid |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:02:45 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By WhiskersTheCat: Dude I think the cannonball record got broken 3 times during covid if the next fake plague don't get me into a house in montucky and a dickload of cheap rentals to pretire on i'ma be pissed, bubs.
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:08:00 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: when the next fake plague starts the next lockdown i'ma renting a rustang and going cannonballing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EvQFDtJUdHwwho's with me? Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: Originally Posted By WhiskersTheCat: The single gayest thing I didn't do was hike the Appalachian Trail at the origins two weeks to stop the spread meme. I knew it wouldn't be two weeks because I'm aware of how incremental power works. I only console myself because I think they shut down the trails at some point. I was very very seriously considering doing it. I was still getting health insurance through my job, I had mountain house thanks to GD and I had a good backpack https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EvQFDtJUdHwwho's with me? You best pick me up bruddah. Jamal and Dan wreaking havoc across the country sounds pretty fucken epic to me. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:09:46 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By denverdan: You best pick me up bruddah. Jamal and Dan wreaking havoc across the country sounds pretty fucken epic to me. 
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:14:57 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: Originally Posted By denverdan: You best pick me up bruddah. Jamal and Dan wreaking havoc across the country sounds pretty fucken epic to me.  Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas | Bat Country |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:16:05 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: Don't neglect the bigger picture - and don't forget that in certain respects, my experience is also zero. I'm also not that much younger than you, either. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: That's exactly right. Don't neglect the bigger picture - and don't forget that in certain respects, my experience is also zero. I'm also not that much younger than you, either. So it's maybe kind of like we're just on different sides of the same very small boat in our experience levels. I got ya, I know you've kinda followed most threads I've been at all involved with in GD over the last few years, so we must share some similar experiences. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:17:32 PM EDT
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Quote Historydamn fine documentary. damn fine. i used to get lunch at the woody creek tavern with the Aspen Earthmoving bois who built the pad for the rocket that launched HST's ashes into orbit. https://www.nyswritersinstitute.org/post/hunter-s-thompson-s-ashes-were-blasted-out-of-a-cannon-on-this-date-15-years-ago RIP HST  |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:18:03 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: So it's maybe kind of like we're just on different sides of the same very small boat in our experience levels. I got ya, I know you've kinda followed most threads I've been at all involved with in GD over the last few years, so we must share some similar experiences. not every man lives. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:22:21 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: damn fine documentary. damn fine. i used to get lunch at the woody creek tavern with the Aspen Earthmoving bois who built the pad for the rocket that launched HST's ashes into orbit. https://www.nyswritersinstitute.org/post/hunter-s-thompson-s-ashes-were-blasted-out-of-a-cannon-on-this-date-15-years-ago RIP HST Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: damn fine. i used to get lunch at the woody creek tavern with the Aspen Earthmoving bois who built the pad for the rocket that launched HST's ashes into orbit. https://www.nyswritersinstitute.org/post/hunter-s-thompson-s-ashes-were-blasted-out-of-a-cannon-on-this-date-15-years-ago RIP HST Holy shit that’s funny. In my early twenties I used to deliver water softener salt to both the Tavern and HST’s house. I never met him just him the caretaker of his property. Oof that was a long time ago. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:23:21 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By denverdan: Holy shit that's funny. In my early twenties I used to deliver water softener salt to both the Tavern and HST's house. I never met him just him the caretaker of his property. Oof that was a long time ago. Hunter S. Thompson |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:27:30 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: every man dies. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: every man dies. On the edge of that experience... I don't want to die yet though, don't jinx my luck! Originally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: not every man lives. Now that I know well.
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:30:00 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: you need to kick it up a notch or you're gonna be alone and weird for the rest of your life. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: Originally Posted By Walkure: Don't neglect the bigger picture - and don't forget that in certain respects, my experience is also zero.I'm also not that much younger than you, either. When the friendly gals at work aren’t friendly. When your gal pals act like you’re their ex. When the gal you have an interest in gives ya the cold shoulder. Being alone and weird ain’t so bad |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:30:58 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: "I hate to advocate drugs, alcohol, violence, or insanity to anyone, but they've always worked for me." Hunter S. Thompson Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: Originally Posted By denverdan: Holy shit that's funny. In my early twenties I used to deliver water softener salt to both the Tavern and HST's house. I never met him just him the caretaker of his property. Oof that was a long time ago. Hunter S. Thompson HST was my spirit animal. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:32:35 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By rtlm: When the friendly gals at work aren't friendly. When your gal pals act like you're their ex. When the gal you have an interest in gives ya the cold shoulder. Being alone and weird ain't so bad |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:33:39 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By rtlm: When your gal pals act like you’re their ex. I don’t understand this part. Like your female friends take out their frustrations about exes (is that a word?) on you? |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:33:43 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By denverdan: HST was my spirit animal. big fan of his work. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:38:41 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: i'll see him in hell. big fan of his work. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: Originally Posted By denverdan: HST was my spirit animal. big fan of his work. There’s a member here that used to live in the area and see him all the time at the tavern. I can’t for the life of me remember his username though. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:40:30 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By denverdan: I don’t understand this part. Like your female friends take out their frustrations about exes (is that a word?) on you? Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By denverdan: Originally Posted By rtlm: When your gal pals act like you’re their ex. I don’t understand this part. Like your female friends take out their frustrations about exes (is that a word?) on you? Not really, just they were in a “mood” today. My day was not meant to be with the ladies. And the icing on the cake: A late lunch with a gal pal whose mood improved as the day went on….and then she proceeded to get sick while we’re having lunch. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:41:36 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By rtlm: Not really, just they were in a "mood" today. My day was not meant to be with the ladies. And the icing on the cake: A late lunch with a gal pal whose mood improved as the day went on .and then she proceeded to get sick while we're having lunch. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:43:28 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: pics of lunch? Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By JLPettimoreIII: Originally Posted By rtlm: Not really, just they were in a "mood" today. My day was not meant to be with the ladies. And the icing on the cake: A late lunch with a gal pal whose mood improved as the day went on .and then she proceeded to get sick while we're having lunch. 
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Posted: 5/7/2024 8:47:59 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By rtlm: Not really, just they were in a “mood” today. My day was not meant to be with the ladies. And the icing on the cake: A late lunch with a gal pal whose mood improved as the day went on….and then she proceeded to get sick while we’re having lunch. Getting sick I can understand and deal with. Moods on the other hand I have no patience for. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 10:05:45 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: No expert here (as has been made very clear), but seeing as she might be the shy/spooks easily type (similar to myself), would it be better to let her ask you about meeting up or is that not really an acceptable order of things? Literally clueless here, so that's not really my advice. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: With Jamie, if I had to guess, probably thinks I'm moving too fast. She said she wants to get to know someone slowly, see if we can be friends, and then if it feels right begin a relationship. Well, of course, that's kinda how it should work, right? Maybe her idea was to meet a few times to see if we could be friends and exchanging numbers would be the next step after that. IDK, that's the only thing I can think of. Then you have girls like Hannah who asked for my number right off the bat. Not gonna lie, that kinda spooked me, wasn't expecting that at all. Whatever, plenty of fish in the sea. Well, she actually responded. I told her "If you're not comfortable exchanging numbers, it's cool. I just thought it might be easier to communicate that way. You still want to talk?" She tells me this morning "Sorry, been busy this week with work blah blah blah, did stuff with family this weekend blah blah blah....yes, I guess it feels too early to be exchanging numbers...some other stuff ." Gotta say I'm surprised she even responded, but maybe not all is lost. Still not getting my hopes up, but I suppose it's a good sign if she still wants to talk. Well, at least that's not a "no" to the possibility of things going somewhere with this one. But dangit, it's taken a long time just to get to this point... Sure it's no 30 year long subconscious wait to hear back from a girl you still love from when you were a kid, but still. Lol, right! It's fine, I have nothing but time. No need to rush anything. But it does give me a useful bit of information: she's shy, and spooks easily. So I gotta be really careful not to come on too strong. Patience is a virtue. Which I have quite a bit of. Except when it comes to people doing really stupid things.I'll message her again later tonight. Probably just chat with her for another week or two before asking when she wants to meet up. Let her ease up. Mother's day is this weekend anyway. No expert here (as has been made very clear), but seeing as she might be the shy/spooks easily type (similar to myself), would it be better to let her ask you about meeting up or is that not really an acceptable order of things? Literally clueless here, so that's not really my advice. Nah, girls want you to make the moves usually. Ain't no girl has ever asked me to do anything. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 10:11:48 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Nah, girls want you to make the moves usually. Ain't no girl has ever asked me to do anything. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: With Jamie, if I had to guess, probably thinks I'm moving too fast. She said she wants to get to know someone slowly, see if we can be friends, and then if it feels right begin a relationship. Well, of course, that's kinda how it should work, right? Maybe her idea was to meet a few times to see if we could be friends and exchanging numbers would be the next step after that. IDK, that's the only thing I can think of. Then you have girls like Hannah who asked for my number right off the bat. Not gonna lie, that kinda spooked me, wasn't expecting that at all. Whatever, plenty of fish in the sea. Well, she actually responded. I told her "If you're not comfortable exchanging numbers, it's cool. I just thought it might be easier to communicate that way. You still want to talk?" She tells me this morning "Sorry, been busy this week with work blah blah blah, did stuff with family this weekend blah blah blah....yes, I guess it feels too early to be exchanging numbers...some other stuff ." Gotta say I'm surprised she even responded, but maybe not all is lost. Still not getting my hopes up, but I suppose it's a good sign if she still wants to talk. Well, at least that's not a "no" to the possibility of things going somewhere with this one. But dangit, it's taken a long time just to get to this point... Sure it's no 30 year long subconscious wait to hear back from a girl you still love from when you were a kid, but still. Lol, right! It's fine, I have nothing but time. No need to rush anything. But it does give me a useful bit of information: she's shy, and spooks easily. So I gotta be really careful not to come on too strong. Patience is a virtue. Which I have quite a bit of. Except when it comes to people doing really stupid things.I'll message her again later tonight. Probably just chat with her for another week or two before asking when she wants to meet up. Let her ease up. Mother's day is this weekend anyway. No expert here (as has been made very clear), but seeing as she might be the shy/spooks easily type (similar to myself), would it be better to let her ask you about meeting up or is that not really an acceptable order of things? Literally clueless here, so that's not really my advice. Nah, girls want you to make the moves usually. Ain't no girl has ever asked me to do anything. Bro this is 101 stuff. I've never asked for consent and (I was going to say never) made the first move. It is not an overly complicated idea that men are men and women are women. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 10:27:41 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: I see that as a "no". But then again, I'm not experienced in these matters and am not exactly in a position to be giving such advice. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Walkure: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Well, at least that's not a "no" to the possibility of things going somewhere with this one. But dangit, it's taken a long time just to get to this point... Sure it's no 30 year long subconscious wait to hear back from a girl you still love from when you were a kid, but still. I see that as a "no". But then again, I'm not experienced in these matters and am not exactly in a position to be giving such advice. I would have thought if the answer was "no" she just wouldn't respond at all. It had already been 4 days. Maybe she'd rather meet face to face before giving me her number. I'll find out soon enough. Now, if she flakes on meeting up, there's my answer. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 10:45:45 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Nah, girls want you to make the moves usually. Ain't no girl has ever asked me to do anything. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: With Jamie, if I had to guess, probably thinks I'm moving too fast. She said she wants to get to know someone slowly, see if we can be friends, and then if it feels right begin a relationship. Well, of course, that's kinda how it should work, right? Maybe her idea was to meet a few times to see if we could be friends and exchanging numbers would be the next step after that. IDK, that's the only thing I can think of. Then you have girls like Hannah who asked for my number right off the bat. Not gonna lie, that kinda spooked me, wasn't expecting that at all. Whatever, plenty of fish in the sea. Well, she actually responded. I told her "If you're not comfortable exchanging numbers, it's cool. I just thought it might be easier to communicate that way. You still want to talk?" She tells me this morning "Sorry, been busy this week with work blah blah blah, did stuff with family this weekend blah blah blah....yes, I guess it feels too early to be exchanging numbers...some other stuff ." Gotta say I'm surprised she even responded, but maybe not all is lost. Still not getting my hopes up, but I suppose it's a good sign if she still wants to talk. Well, at least that's not a "no" to the possibility of things going somewhere with this one. But dangit, it's taken a long time just to get to this point... Sure it's no 30 year long subconscious wait to hear back from a girl you still love from when you were a kid, but still. Lol, right! It's fine, I have nothing but time. No need to rush anything. But it does give me a useful bit of information: she's shy, and spooks easily. So I gotta be really careful not to come on too strong. Patience is a virtue. Which I have quite a bit of. Except when it comes to people doing really stupid things.I'll message her again later tonight. Probably just chat with her for another week or two before asking when she wants to meet up. Let her ease up. Mother's day is this weekend anyway. No expert here (as has been made very clear), but seeing as she might be the shy/spooks easily type (similar to myself), would it be better to let her ask you about meeting up or is that not really an acceptable order of things? Literally clueless here, so that's not really my advice. Nah, girls want you to make the moves usually. Ain't no girl has ever asked me to do anything. And that will be the lesson of the day, but I will still likely be none the wiser because of the "usually" part.
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Posted: 5/7/2024 10:49:20 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By WhiskersTheCat: Bro this is 101 stuff. I've never asked for consent and (I was going to say never) made the first move. It is not an overly complicated idea that men are men and women are women. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By WhiskersTheCat: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: With Jamie, if I had to guess, probably thinks I'm moving too fast. She said she wants to get to know someone slowly, see if we can be friends, and then if it feels right begin a relationship. Well, of course, that's kinda how it should work, right? Maybe her idea was to meet a few times to see if we could be friends and exchanging numbers would be the next step after that. IDK, that's the only thing I can think of. Then you have girls like Hannah who asked for my number right off the bat. Not gonna lie, that kinda spooked me, wasn't expecting that at all. Whatever, plenty of fish in the sea. Well, she actually responded. I told her "If you're not comfortable exchanging numbers, it's cool. I just thought it might be easier to communicate that way. You still want to talk?" She tells me this morning "Sorry, been busy this week with work blah blah blah, did stuff with family this weekend blah blah blah....yes, I guess it feels too early to be exchanging numbers...some other stuff ." Gotta say I'm surprised she even responded, but maybe not all is lost. Still not getting my hopes up, but I suppose it's a good sign if she still wants to talk. Well, at least that's not a "no" to the possibility of things going somewhere with this one. But dangit, it's taken a long time just to get to this point... Sure it's no 30 year long subconscious wait to hear back from a girl you still love from when you were a kid, but still. Lol, right! It's fine, I have nothing but time. No need to rush anything. But it does give me a useful bit of information: she's shy, and spooks easily. So I gotta be really careful not to come on too strong. Patience is a virtue. Which I have quite a bit of. Except when it comes to people doing really stupid things.I'll message her again later tonight. Probably just chat with her for another week or two before asking when she wants to meet up. Let her ease up. Mother's day is this weekend anyway. No expert here (as has been made very clear), but seeing as she might be the shy/spooks easily type (similar to myself), would it be better to let her ask you about meeting up or is that not really an acceptable order of things? Literally clueless here, so that's not really my advice. Nah, girls want you to make the moves usually. Ain't no girl has ever asked me to do anything. Bro this is 101 stuff. I've never asked for consent and (I was going to say never) made the first move. It is not an overly complicated idea that men are men and women are women. Well, in today's world that's a big fat question mark.
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Posted: 5/7/2024 11:07:47 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: And that will be the lesson of the day, but I will still likely be none the wiser because of the "usually" part. Just do it. If they get mad some Reddit trolls feign outrage. If they don't you get laid. |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 11:28:10 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: And that will be the lesson of the day, but I will still likely be none the wiser because of the "usually" part. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: With Jamie, if I had to guess, probably thinks I'm moving too fast. She said she wants to get to know someone slowly, see if we can be friends, and then if it feels right begin a relationship. Well, of course, that's kinda how it should work, right? Maybe her idea was to meet a few times to see if we could be friends and exchanging numbers would be the next step after that. IDK, that's the only thing I can think of. Then you have girls like Hannah who asked for my number right off the bat. Not gonna lie, that kinda spooked me, wasn't expecting that at all. Whatever, plenty of fish in the sea. Well, she actually responded. I told her "If you're not comfortable exchanging numbers, it's cool. I just thought it might be easier to communicate that way. You still want to talk?" She tells me this morning "Sorry, been busy this week with work blah blah blah, did stuff with family this weekend blah blah blah....yes, I guess it feels too early to be exchanging numbers...some other stuff ." Gotta say I'm surprised she even responded, but maybe not all is lost. Still not getting my hopes up, but I suppose it's a good sign if she still wants to talk. Well, at least that's not a "no" to the possibility of things going somewhere with this one. But dangit, it's taken a long time just to get to this point... Sure it's no 30 year long subconscious wait to hear back from a girl you still love from when you were a kid, but still. Lol, right! It's fine, I have nothing but time. No need to rush anything. But it does give me a useful bit of information: she's shy, and spooks easily. So I gotta be really careful not to come on too strong. Patience is a virtue. Which I have quite a bit of. Except when it comes to people doing really stupid things.I'll message her again later tonight. Probably just chat with her for another week or two before asking when she wants to meet up. Let her ease up. Mother's day is this weekend anyway. No expert here (as has been made very clear), but seeing as she might be the shy/spooks easily type (similar to myself), would it be better to let her ask you about meeting up or is that not really an acceptable order of things? Literally clueless here, so that's not really my advice. Nah, girls want you to make the moves usually. Ain't no girl has ever asked me to do anything. And that will be the lesson of the day, but I will still likely be none the wiser because of the "usually" part. Sometimes a girl might make an overt move on you, but you shouldn't count on it. If she does, she must like you a lot. Of course, I can be totally oblivious to the hints they give you. Until after the fact. Then I go "well, I fucked that up." |
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Posted: 5/7/2024 11:32:30 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By iwouldntknow: Just do it. If they get mad some Reddit trolls feign outrage. If they don't you get laid. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By iwouldntknow: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: And that will be the lesson of the day, but I will still likely be none the wiser because of the "usually" part. Just do it. If they get mad some Reddit trolls feign outrage. If they don't you get laid. 
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Posted: 5/7/2024 11:49:39 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 556Cliff]
[#45]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Sometimes a girl might make an overt move on you, but you shouldn't count on it. If she does, she must like you a lot. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Sometimes a girl might make an overt move on you, but you shouldn't count on it. If she does, she must like you a lot. Well the one girl I used to know did, so you're not wrong.  Unfortunately, I believe now that that experience handicapped my thought process on these kinds of things. So I will have to keep your advice in mind if there ever is a next girl for me. And that's very doubtful, but at least I have that advice. Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: Of course, I can be totally oblivious to the hints they give you. Until after the fact. Then I go "well, I fucked that up." Wait, you think you're oblivious to the hints? Nooooo one is as oblivious as me... Do I need to post that picture of Nicole blowing me a kiss again? Which was a few years after she pulled me behind a tree and kissed me. It finally clicked all of 30 years later that she wanted me to make a move, and her Mom was encouraging it... And I still missed it!  Teenage Cliff must have been a bit of a moron looking back on these things. This reminds me that I need to go dig through wherever my Mom has all those old pictures of Nicole stashed away... At this point I'd like to see the originals. Might be an awkward conversation though.
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Posted: 5/8/2024 1:36:34 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: Well the one girl I used to know did, so you're not wrong. Unfortunately, I believe now that that experience handicapped my thought process on these kinds of things. So I will have to keep your advice in mind if there ever is a next girl for me. And that's very doubtful, but at least I have that advice. Wait, you think you're oblivious to the hints? Nooooo one is as oblivious as me... Do I need to post that picture of Nicole blowing me a kiss again? Which was a few years after she pulled me behind a tree and kissed me. It finally clicked all of 30 years later that she wanted me to make a move, and her Mom was encouraging it... And I still missed it! Teenage Cliff must have been a bit of a moron looking back on these things. This reminds me that I need to go dig through wherever my Mom has all those old pictures of Nicole stashed away... At this point I'd like to see the originals. Might be an awkward conversation though. Looking back, so was I. For Christ sake, Kata literally told me "I want to bang you" in science class one day. But I thought she was screwing with me because she was older. She used to sit with her friend even though we were supposed to be table partners, then one day she started sitting by me all the time. She'd always walk past my table in the commons, chose to sit next to me in ceramics. She wasn't very pretty, but she was cool and I would have got with her if only I realized she liked me. But this was high school, and I had feelings for Cloe. Nothing ever happened, but we became friends after high school when I no longer had a crush on her. |
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Posted: 5/8/2024 8:06:50 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Looking back, so was I. For Christ sake, Kata literally told me "I want to bang you" in science class one day. But I thought she was screwing with me because she was older. She used to sit with her friend even though we were supposed to be table partners, then one day she started sitting by me all the time. She'd always walk past my table in the commons, chose to sit next to me in ceramics. She wasn't very pretty, but she was cool and I would have got with her if only I realized she liked me. But this was high school, and I had feelings for Cloe. Nothing ever happened, but we became friends after high school when I no longer had a crush on her. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Originally Posted By 556Cliff: Well the one girl I used to know did, so you're not wrong. Unfortunately, I believe now that that experience handicapped my thought process on these kinds of things. So I will have to keep your advice in mind if there ever is a next girl for me. And that's very doubtful, but at least I have that advice. Wait, you think you're oblivious to the hints? Nooooo one is as oblivious as me... Do I need to post that picture of Nicole blowing me a kiss again? Which was a few years after she pulled me behind a tree and kissed me. It finally clicked all of 30 years later that she wanted me to make a move, and her Mom was encouraging it... And I still missed it! Teenage Cliff must have been a bit of a moron looking back on these things. This reminds me that I need to go dig through wherever my Mom has all those old pictures of Nicole stashed away... At this point I'd like to see the originals. Might be an awkward conversation though. Looking back, so was I. For Christ sake, Kata literally told me "I want to bang you" in science class one day. But I thought she was screwing with me because she was older. She used to sit with her friend even though we were supposed to be table partners, then one day she started sitting by me all the time. She'd always walk past my table in the commons, chose to sit next to me in ceramics. She wasn't very pretty, but she was cool and I would have got with her if only I realized she liked me. But this was high school, and I had feelings for Cloe. Nothing ever happened, but we became friends after high school when I no longer had a crush on her. Okay, I have to admit that that was one heck of missed signal. But, it might have been easier for it not to "click" for you since you had feelings for another girl at the time. Me personally, I wouldn't want to have anything to do with a girl I didn't have any feelings for. But that's just me, I know many here would and that's why there have been so many recommendations throughout this thread saying to just go to a prostitute/hooker/escort, or whatever you like to call women in that business.I just can't make the leap to sex without strong feelings for someone preceding it. Not only would I have to know someone well, but I'd actually have to like them after getting to know them, plus they would have to be attractive to me. And they would have to like me back just as much... Pretty daunting list honestly. And I'm not even sure I could make that leap after a full year of getting to know someone because I'm just so uncomfortable being around people due to the anxiety. Even just forming a crush on someone, be it a celebrity or someone I know in person is incredibly rare. And that again might be in part due to the 10/11 year bonding experience I had with Nicole. |
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Posted: 5/8/2024 9:49:31 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 556Cliff: Okay, I have to admit that that was one heck of missed signal. But, it might have been easier for it not to "click" for you since you had feelings for another girl at the time. Me personally, I wouldn't want to have anything to do with a girl I didn't have any feelings for. But that's just me, I know many here would and that's why there have been so many recommendations throughout this thread saying to just go to a prostitute/hooker/escort, or whatever you like to call women in that business.I just can't make the leap to sex without strong feelings for someone preceding it. Not only would I have to know someone well, but I'd actually have to like them after getting to know them, plus they would have to be attractive to me. And they would have to like me back just as much... Pretty daunting list honestly. And I'm not even sure I could make that leap after a full year of getting to know someone because I'm just so uncomfortable being around people due to the anxiety. Even just forming a crush on someone, be it a celebrity or someone I know in person is incredibly rare. And that again might be in part due to the 10/11 year bonding experience I had with Nicole. Yeah, I also had very little confidence. "Why would she want to bang me? She's gotta be screwing with me." I wonder if you're what they call Demisexual? |
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Posted: 5/8/2024 1:48:51 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Yeah, I also had very little confidence. "Why would she want to bang me? She's gotta be screwing with me." Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By CastleBravo91: Yeah, I also had very little confidence. "Why would she want to bang me? She's gotta be screwing with me." I get that. Confidence is a quality that's majorly lacking in me. And it's not specifically anything related to talking to women, but it's due to other things in my life that have not been addressed as early as they should have been (I'm just not an accomplished person for my age). I just lack anything that I would need to bring to the table in a relationship, so I have to address that before I can really consider trying to get into one. Heck, I didn't get my driver's license until the age of 29. Originally Posted By CastleBravo91: I wonder if you're what they call Demisexual? Actually, a few years back in another bizarre thread of mine that I posted here in GD, someone pointed out the Demisexual thing, which falls under the Asexual umbrella. I'm not a big fan of how everything has to have a label nowadays, but it really is a great description for how I feel about women and relationships... When it fits, it fits. I don't think being that way is a bad thing at all. I can't be attracted to dudes though... That's not happening. 
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Posted: 5/8/2024 3:48:57 PM EDT
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By the way. I went in for an imaging appointment today so that they could do an ultrasound of my carotid arteries and the small talk with the lady doing the ultrasound actually went very well. I felt pretty comfortable talking to her... But she was in her late 50s or possibly 60s, so there was no potential for romance there.
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