I'm pretty much on my own again these days, my son is 19, independent and extroverted.

I'm naturally an introvert, I truly enjoy being alone, being around other people is exhausting. I made myself miserable for years trying to be something I'm not, tried to drink it away, etc. I just wake up everyday now and do what makes me happy, it's really that simple. If being alone makes you happy then do that, if being around other people makes you happy then do that. If nothing makes you happy, then maybe go talk to someone about that.

 
I'm with him. ^^^


I have a great girlfriend, someone I'll very likely marry.


Neither of us really want kids at this point. Possibly in the past its crossed our minds, but we're doing great as it is and see very little reason to add children to the landscape.

And bang single people until you find one that blows your skirt up

It is actually the only way to fly. It forces you to seek out things you would not if you are traveling with someone.

My life would be incredibly empty without my kids.

You guys taking about divorced women (with no kids) and how rare they are make me realize why I get some of the offhanded comments on dates that I do.

I've had men gape at the house I live in, comments about furnishing it, about how they "don't believe" I do all my own yard work...a few have asked if there was something wrong with my reproductive parts.  

Must be a lot of crazy shit out there.

Yeah, that money will be real warm when you're old and infirm.

only Retards think your kids are going to be there to help.

They have their own lives to lead.

Those comments always make me laugh.

 
Exactly.

Really?  My parents' kids were there for them.  Maybe you just weren't raised right.

Me too, saw plenty of folks with kids wasting away alone on the cancer ward of the hospital I worked at.

If I was a parent, I just couldn't imagine how heartbreaking that would be to be abandoned by your kids in your darkest hours.

"This is what it feels like when you don't have love,
it's like there's a party going on and everyone was invited,
except for you. And you just happen to be walking by that house,
in the rain ...

"Ohh. I wasn't invited to this party."

That's what that feels like. But then again, once you're in love,
you know what that's like?

That's like being inside the party going,
"Where's my jacket? I wanna get out of here. Where's my jacket?
I've been at this party for six years and I wanna see other parties."

find a nice woman and fuck her or get some dogs.

Yeah, after my sister's kids graduated college and being 'grandpa' became an empty job, my dad just kind of faded. It breaks my heart I never got married and had kids. Wasn't rich enough or "cool" enough.

Would definitely suck to have a shitty family.



My grandparents are awash in kids and grandkids and great grandkids. Have plenty of money as well. They have a pretty damn good quality of life for being in their late 80's. Guess they did something right.

 

Get tired of what?

Being able to spend my entire paycheck on myself?

Deciding I want to go somewhere, packing a bag, and going?

Not having to listen to bitching?

No shitty diapers?

Watching whatever I want on TV, whenever I want?

Sleeping as long as I want because I'm tired from working a 12, 16, or 20 hour shift?

Not being stuck with some terrible bitch of a woman because she grew into a different person after getting married?


If you haven't figured it out yet... no, I'm not tired of it. I've been with the same girlfriend for 2.5 years now, I don't want to get married, and I don't want any kids. I made that clear from the beginning.

I've been married twice and no kids.  First wife wanted kids, but we weren't financially ready.  I guess she wanted them real bad since that was pretty much what led up to our divorce.  Current wife is fixed, so no kids.  Been together for 10 years now and we are perfect for each other.  If I had any kids there is no way I would have as many toys and be able to spoil us with great vacations.  I lack patience, so if I start to think about maybe messing up about not having children I go to my brothers house.  He has 4 in between 2 and 5.  When I go there it usually turns into a riot zone, but that may be my fault.  I get them all riled up since I can leave, lol.

ill be 30 next week

im single and no kids
I enjoy doing whatever I want, buying what I want, eating what I want, saving however much I want.
If I take a notion to do something then i'll go do it. I dont have to check in or ask for permission to buy a new gun if I want one.

the freedom is nice, but at the same time there are times when it would be cool to just sit around on the couch and watch a movie with someone I enjoy
and getting laid anytime I want (which I hear is a myth for some married couples).
But with that comes bitching and dealing with twice as many problems (if she has a problem it becomes yours too).


Either way i'll take it in stride.
Kick back drink a beer im here for the ride until im gone.

You can also be stuck in a limbo, where you have all the freedom that being single provides but you seek a normal relationship.

Such is my case where I wouldn't have a relationship with most of the girls I date but when I find one I really like, she is a cheater.  Not just the cheater that sleeps with other guys, but the type of cheater that will play with the little feelings I have left.  Shame on me for even giving this last one a chance.  She has two kids by two guys, she was only married to one of those guys.  But I overlooked all that and some more.  

I have to deal with liars at work and my personal life.  I still need to count my blessings that none of these women were able to trap me with a kid or marriage.  But nowadays I wouldn't trust any woman in her thirties that is single for anything serious.

You seem to want to justify your inability to understand something you can't relate to.


Being single is great.... for me.

My job has me meeting hundreds of new people a year, including young international women who throw themselves at you.

I had a wife who didn't trust me at all, and every night I would wonder why she couldn't just trust me. Every night I worked late I would come home to her yelling at me because she thought I was cheating on her with these women.

The truth is that I never even considered cheating on her.

I just got tired of coming home to that shit after a long day where all I wanted to do was be with HER.

I separated from her because work was stressful, and she made life outside of work stressful.

I just got the fuck out of there, and life got better.

I have friends all over the world, and I visit them every year. I value this. I couldn't possibly do this if I wasn't single.












And now I bang all those young international women who throw themselves at me.

Ok, since this thread seems to be like the Energizer Bunny, and I keep seeing it at the top of my subscription list, I'm going to rant..

All of you single selfish assholes who say how great your lives are - one of the reasons this country is going to shit is because of you.  This country needs more people who are moral, respectful, honorable, pro 2A and smart.  If you have a good-paying job, then it's your duty to your country to produce offspring with the same values.  As Kennedy said, "Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country."  This country needs to see an increase in birth rates.  My wife and I have a combined IQ well north of 300.  At the risk of sounding arrogant, we felt like it was our moral duty, for the benefit of society, to have children.  

I make a ton of money (top 3% of income earners, according to IRS numbers).  If we didn't have kids, we'd have two or three homes, super-nice cars, and probably a boat and an RV.  Instead, we raised three beautiful, smart children, and now I'm going to spend $750,000 educating them in college, and I'm ok with that.  My oldest is starting at Rensselaer in the fall ($68k a year).  My youngest is the smartest, and he'll probably end up attending an Ivy League school.  My children will become productive, valuable members of society that will contribute to the greater good.  Politics aside, this country especially needs more smart people.  If you've never watched "Idiocracy," you should watch it.  Now.  We're rocketing in that direction.

My wife went to Harvard.  Her five roommates all married Harvard graduates, and those combined ten Harvard graduates have a total of 6 kids.  That's a shame.

Take your selfish asses out, find a decent woman (or man) and start a fucking family.  Stop feeling sorry for yourself if you're divorced.  Shit happens.  Get over it.  Get back in the saddle and find someone else.  If everyone in your area is batshit crazy (like, say Long Island), then move to where people are more normal.  

If you think your life is great being single, well, that's just swell.  You're putting your own pleasure and satisfaction ahead of what's good for our society.  Thank you for contributing to the demise of the greatest country civilization has ever seen.  Enjoy your fucking toys and your money.  Keep fiddling while Rome burns.  Make your life count for something.  In the end, we all end up in a box.  But I will live on in what I've taught my kids and grandkids.  That's what a real man does.

I have been trying to find a nice woman to start a family with.  The nice ones are either taken, unavailable, don't like me, or I don't like them.  I meet women that I think are decent, only for them to prove me wrong later.  Not every single guy in this thread is happy with their situation.  I would kill to have a woman that I was in love with and she was my best friend, but those cards were not handed to some of us.  Enjoy your wonderful family.  You deserve it!  Maybe some day I'll get that....