Some of us remember his prior incarnations and some obviously do not.


Regarding the OP's assertion, static parenting may work out well for a single child family, it could by chance work for a family with more than one, but dynamic parenting is a surer bet.

Dynamic parenting along with the nurturing effect that it and the child's overall environment provides, coupled with the effects of the child's natural predispositions is the recipe that is responsible of for the outcome.

Do not discount the individuals ability, should they be fortunate enough to realize it, to correct their own shortcomings.

The variables that pertain to this discussion are many and most will not be mentioned here. Take your brother's example, he grew up with the guy formerly known as Dusty_C here, on that basis alone I would feel comfortable with assuming that you may have been a bigger influence in his life than he in yours.

Your questioning his lack of accomplishment strikes me the same way an obviously shitty parent does when they're bemoaning the child's issues, which are nearly always the result of their parenting or lack thereof, though they're oblivious of it or at least they pretend to be.

Look on the bright side, at least you got to point out your accomplishments again though I don't get why you think it necessary to stand on your brother's back to do so.

Perhaps it's just the product of you nature, nurture and environment.

A lot of people seem to be emotionally invested in the idea that how we are as adults is in no way determined by which particular sperm happens to fertilize the egg. Logic (and scientific data) would seem to argue otherwise, but most people just don't care. They want to believe in equality of opportunity (in terms of ability). They just don't want to accept that we are not all born equal.

XCR probably knows as much or more about me as any arfcommer other than my wife or a few HTF guys. She knows what's up.

Now for the rest.

Don't quit your day job, a shrink you are not.

One can usually see differences in personality when kids aren't even walking yet. You can definitely see differences in toddlers. Personality may or may  not be genetic, or wired early in childhood, but it definitely takes hold very early in life.

Good parenting can help, but if they are born sociopaths or psychopaths or just assholes, there isn't a lot you can do to change them unless they want to change.

BOOM!!!