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Posted: 12/18/2014 11:43:21 PM EDT
ETA: Aimless has thrown the flipper. He will do your paperwork if you adopt a damn Yankee kid from New York state.
Here are some damn Yankee kids: http://www.ocfs.state.ny.us/adopt/photolisting.asp Leslie is 11 and Angel is 9. YOU can rescue them from a childhood spent in a snowy anti-gun liberal wasteland. YOU can prevent them from becoming a New York lawyer who eats kippers for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and having a passion for the Mini-14. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Not what you were expecting, was it? ARFCOM is famous for our dog rescues. Do we have the heart for a people rescue? http://www.dfps.state.tx.us/Application/TARE/Group.aspx/Siblings/75380 Indea, Asia, and China are three Texas sisters that need a loving family to adopt them. Can't deal with a 15 year old, a 13 year old, and a 12 year old? Search for your ideal child HERE. Hate Texas? Fine. Here's the link to each state: https://www.dfps.state.tx.us/adoption_and_foster_care/Adoption_Partners/Helpful_Resources/websites.asp There's even links where you can rescue Canadian children from the frozen north. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 2:37:20 AM EDT
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No takers? Ok, we'll try another group of siblings.
http://www.dfps.state.tx.us/Application/TARE/Group.aspx/Siblings/33088 As it happens, both girls love animals. So good candidates to adopt a dag from ARFCOM after you adopt these two. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 2:51:30 AM EDT
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I applaud what you are doing.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 2:52:48 AM EDT
[#3]
Op is race-baitin'.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 2:53:45 AM EDT
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I applaud what you are doing. Yup 
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Posted: 12/19/2014 3:42:54 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Op is race-baitin'.
@ this point, think I'm gender-baiting. Do you want the top 3 girls to grow up in the Dindu culture or under your loving care? Your call. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 3:45:38 AM EDT
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Lest I be convicted of gender baiting:
http://www.dfps.state.tx.us/Application/TARE/Group.aspx/Siblings/77569 |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 4:31:32 AM EDT
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My heart breaks over stuff like this.
That children need is a problem for me. Color, age, and gender doesn't matter, what does is the fact I can't save them all. Raised my own, now have grandchildren, fostered Two other kids and brought them up to be productive members of society. Look, I'm 57 and my wife and I spent enough of our life and time raising kids . @ this point, think I'm gender-baiting. Do you want the top 3 girls to grow up in the Dindu culture or under your loving care? Your call. No, that's cheap and uncalled for. Rather than play the sensationalistic game, how many have YOU fostered? |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 4:42:05 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: My heart breaks over stuff like this.
That children need is a problem for me. Color, age, and gender doesn't matter, what does is the fact I can't save them all. Raised my own, now have grandchildren, fostered Two other kids and brought them up to be productive members of society. Look, I'm 57 and my wife and I spent enough of our life and time raising kids . No, that's cheap and uncalled for. Rather than play the sensationalistic game, how many have YOU fostered? Quote HistoryQuoted: My heart breaks over stuff like this.
That children need is a problem for me. Color, age, and gender doesn't matter, what does is the fact I can't save them all. Raised my own, now have grandchildren, fostered Two other kids and brought them up to be productive members of society. Look, I'm 57 and my wife and I spent enough of our life and time raising kids . @ this point, think I'm gender-baiting. Do you want the top 3 girls to grow up in the Dindu culture or under your loving care? Your call. No, that's cheap and uncalled for. Rather than play the sensationalistic game, how many have YOU fostered? I was being told I was race baiting. I'm scheming to adopt an 11 year old in a couple of years, if I'm so lucky. Fostering is not something I could do, and applaud you for doing so. But we're so good @ saving dogs, I figured human children were worth more to ARFCOM. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 4:48:07 AM EDT
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Sorry for sounding like the SOB I am, but it's a rather touchy spot with me.
Please forgive my ire. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 3:57:02 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Sorry for sounding like the SOB I am, but it's a rather touchy spot with me.
Please forgive my ire. No worries. If we're half as successful w/ children here as we are with dogs, ARFCOM would become the premier adoption website in the US. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 3:59:31 PM EDT
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I'll admit, I don't want babies. But I kind of want to hoard these kids.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 4:11:18 PM EDT
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I saw this thread last night and followed the link. Spent about an hour on that site just looking at the different kids. Some of them were almost adults. My stupid question is, why would the older ones want to to be adopted on the cusp of adulthood? No family at all? If it were me I think I would just lone wolf it. I have very little blood family as it is. Serious question.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 4:15:58 PM EDT
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I saw this thread last night and followed the link. Spent about an hour on that site just looking at the different kids. Some of them were almost adults. My stupid question is, why would the older ones want to to be adopted on the cusp of adulthood? No family at all? If it were me I think I would just lone wolf it. I have very little blood family as it is. Serious question. They're older, but they're still kids. And kids need love. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:31:21 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: I saw this thread last night and followed the link. Spent about an hour on that site just looking at the different kids. Some of them were almost adults. My stupid question is, why would the older ones want to to be adopted on the cusp of adulthood? No family at all? If it were me I think I would just lone wolf it. I have very little blood family as it is. Serious question. Decades ago I agreed to be a court appointed lawyer for a really nice kid who was neglected. He was with a grandmother, but she felt she was too old to adopt. I felt bad for the kid and said that to one of the social workers. She was kind of friends with me and said "So adopt him." I laughed and she said "Why are you laughing?" I told her she was crazy, I was a twentysomething single dumbass trying to keep the power on at my office that I had opened months ago, how would I care for an 8 year old. She told me "Yeah, you think he's better off in the system than in your crummy bachelor pad? I don't." I just laughed but that kind of haunted me, the system certainly did not turn out to be a better place for him.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:33:34 PM EDT
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From what I've seen, it's pretty hard to adopt a kid. Even if you can offer them better what they have, it's deemed 'not good enough.'
Better to let them live in loneliness and squalor 
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:33:40 PM EDT
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I've said this before and don't expect any takers, but anyone who agrees to adopt a child freed for adoption in NY State, I will take care of the paperwork for the adoption..
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:35:06 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: From what I've seen, it's pretty hard to adopt a kid. Even if you can offer them better what they have, it's deemed 'not good enough.' Better to let them life in loneliness and squalor There is a teenage arsonist out there just waiting for you
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:35:59 PM EDT
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A kid freed for adoption? You're employed and without a criminal record, neglect charges and never been involuntarily committed for being stabby? I doubt you would have a problem Quote HistoryQuoted:
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From what I've seen, it's pretty hard to adopt a kid. Even if you can offer them better what they have, it's deemed 'not good enough.' Better to let them life in loneliness and squalor Explain 'freed for adoption' to me - Is it different from regular adoption? |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:36:45 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Explain 'freed for adoption' to me - Is it different from regular adoption? Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Quoted: From what I've seen, it's pretty hard to adopt a kid. Even if you can offer them better what they have, it's deemed 'not good enough.' Better to let them life in loneliness and squalor Explain 'freed for adoption' to me - Is it different from regular adoption? |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:44:17 PM EDT
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Go you.
It's not easy to adopt. I'm also looking into it, and we've already had (naturally) a healthy 6-year-old and 1-year-old. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:45:39 PM EDT
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A kid freed for adoption? You're employed and without a criminal record, neglect charges and never been involuntarily committed for being stabby? I doubt you would have a problem http://ocfs.ny.gov/adopt/disclaimer.asp There is a teenage arsonist out there just waiting for you
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From what I've seen, it's pretty hard to adopt a kid. Even if you can offer them better what they have, it's deemed 'not good enough.' Better to let them life in loneliness and squalor http://ocfs.ny.gov/adopt/disclaimer.asp There is a teenage arsonist out there just waiting for you
The home inspections are a real bitch. Expensive, intrusive, and you have to do it every few months. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:52:21 PM EDT
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A kid freed for adoption? You're employed and without a criminal record, neglect charges and never been involuntarily committed for being stabby? I doubt you would have a problem http://ocfs.ny.gov/adopt/disclaimer.asp There is a teenage arsonist out there just waiting for you
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From what I've seen, it's pretty hard to adopt a kid. Even if you can offer them better what they have, it's deemed 'not good enough.' Better to let them life in loneliness and squalor http://ocfs.ny.gov/adopt/disclaimer.asp There is a teenage arsonist out there just waiting for you
Or murdered. I know a few people that took in these type of kids. The stories are downright scary. Id say it's safe to say at least 90% of them have mental/Pysch issues |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:52:47 PM EDT
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I don't know if I can look at all of those faces...
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:55:41 PM EDT
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I don't know if I can look at all of those faces... You don't have to look @ all of 'em. Just, 1, 2, or 3 - for the rest of your life. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 5:56:07 PM EDT
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I feel bad for kids in need.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 6:00:45 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Or murdered. I know a few people that took in these type of kids. The stories are downright scary. Id say it's safe to say at least 90% of them have mental/Pysch issues Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Quoted: From what I've seen, it's pretty hard to adopt a kid. Even if you can offer them better what they have, it's deemed 'not good enough.' Better to let them life in loneliness and squalor http://ocfs.ny.gov/adopt/disclaimer.asp There is a teenage arsonist out there just waiting for you Or murdered. I know a few people that took in these type of kids. The stories are downright scary. Id say it's safe to say at least 90% of them have mental/Pysch issues |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 6:01:06 PM EDT
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Already been to that well 4 times. Still have a 13 yr.old girl at home.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 6:08:06 PM EDT
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This is a definite punch in the gut; almost sick to my stomach looking at the pictures, and especially reading the one sentence bios.
So looking through these pages, and being quite young myself(20s), can someone explain how adoption works on the older kids? Mind my ignorance regarding the subject. Obviously, the ones who are 15 or so still have a few years, but such as the ones who are 17 or so, wouldn't a foster-like scenario be more ideal for some of them, barring special needs requirements? Are most of them system kids, who've hopped around over the years, or are there other scenarios in which they are put into the system? |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 6:08:12 PM EDT
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My folks adopted two kids under these circumstances and fostered others.
It isn't easy. If you feel drawn to doing it I have a lot of respect for anyone willing to help a kid, and they really do need your help. It's appalling really how many kids need help in this society and don't get it, it's one of the reasons we have so many dysfunctional adults. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 6:13:23 PM EDT
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Mommy and daddy lost the child due to neglecting or abusing the child and not bothering to straighten their shit out to get the kid back. Most of the kids are a mess, psych problems etc. Child is in the custody of the state and with foster parents or in a facility ie orphanage type place Quote HistoryQuoted:
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From what I've seen, it's pretty hard to adopt a kid. Even if you can offer them better what they have, it's deemed 'not good enough.' Better to let them life in loneliness and squalor Explain 'freed for adoption' to me - Is it different from regular adoption? And at some point in life (often times) mommy and or daddy want their kid(s) back followed by years of headache. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 6:31:04 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Already been to that well 4 times. Still have a 13 yr.old girl at home. God bless you. Would you do it all over again? |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 6:33:10 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: And at some point in life (often times) mommy and or daddy want their kid(s) back followed by years of headache. One thing I have learned is you don't touch a child with a drop of Native American blood. 10 years down the road the tribe may decide they want the kid and the Federal Courts will support their claim. But kids w/o Indian blood, if you have a copy of their loss of parental rights, you SHOULD be ok. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:23:23 PM EDT
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I saw this thread last night and followed the link. Spent about an hour on that site just looking at the different kids. Some of them were almost adults. My stupid question is, why would the older ones want to to be adopted on the cusp of adulthood? No family at all? If it were me I think I would just lone wolf it. I have very little blood family as it is. Serious question. they want to belong. somewhere. with someone. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:28:05 PM EDT
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I applaud what you are doing. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:31:02 PM EDT
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Thanks for the depression laden post, now I feel like a piece of shit for procreating instead of adopting. Seriously. Good kids in need of a stable home, it's the most selfless thing anyone can do.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:33:19 PM EDT
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Bump.
This thread makes me sad but it's an honorable thing you are offering Aimless. If I had unlimited income and didn't have four of my own we would be adopting them by the truck load. No child should have to grow up without a family.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:36:30 PM EDT
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Can they link ammo ?
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:40:26 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: And at some point in life (often times) mommy and or daddy want their kid(s) back followed by years of headache. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: From what I've seen, it's pretty hard to adopt a kid. Even if you can offer them better what they have, it's deemed 'not good enough.' Better to let them life in loneliness and squalor Explain 'freed for adoption' to me - Is it different from regular adoption? And at some point in life (often times) mommy and or daddy want their kid(s) back followed by years of headache. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:41:48 PM EDT
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We got the boy we always wanted when he was 18 mo., fostered him for a year and then adopted him. He's 6 1/2 now. Oh and he likes guns!!
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:43:36 PM EDT
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This breaks my heart.
I hope and pray they will all find a loving home soon. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:45:04 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Thanks for the depression laden post, now I feel like a piece of shit for procreating instead of adopting. Seriously. Good kids in need of a stable home, it's the most selfless thing anyone can do. There is a young man who was a victim of sexual abuse who still keeps in contact with me. He has never been in trouble. He works honestly at low paying jobs, like fast food, keeps his nose clean and seems to be doing well under some tough circumstances. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:45:39 PM EDT
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Can they link ammo and mow the yard? ? Damn I am going to hell.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:47:25 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: One thing I have learned is you don't touch a child with a drop of Native American blood. 10 years down the road the tribe may decide they want the kid and the Federal Courts will support their claim. But kids w/o Indian blood, if you have a copy of their loss of parental rights, you SHOULD be ok. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: And at some point in life (often times) mommy and or daddy want their kid(s) back followed by years of headache. One thing I have learned is you don't touch a child with a drop of Native American blood. 10 years down the road the tribe may decide they want the kid and the Federal Courts will support their claim. But kids w/o Indian blood, if you have a copy of their loss of parental rights, you SHOULD be ok. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 9:58:58 PM EDT
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My wife would adopt in a heartbeat.
She brought it up last night. (seriously) At this point in my life, I just would like to see my new grand baby get married and maybe have a child before I'm gone. I don't want to put her (my wife) in the position of having to raise child without me if something happens to me. It is a chicken shit excuse I know. I used to tell people who wanted to send money to pay for a dog's vet bills or something like that to send the money to a place that helps children with daily needs. If anyone is ever feeling generous, donate to Neal McCoy's East Texas Angel Network. It is a very worthy cause and they don't waste money and help a lot of kids. Every little bit helps tremendously and while it is awesome to adopt and the people who do it are extra special and are truly the best of humanity, there are other way to help too. 
Another thing we do is donate to the homeless shelter to help give those children gifts for Christmas. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 10:21:01 PM EDT
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Just sent off the paperwork to adopt our second child.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 10:22:41 PM EDT
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Remember all children are innocent, it takes an adult to screw them up.
My former brother adopted two and they have turned into amazing kids. to the penguin
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Posted: 12/19/2014 10:30:23 PM EDT
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I have to get a few things in order first, but I would like to adopt again.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 10:31:33 PM EDT
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So what does it cost to adopt these days? I know what I cost back in the 80's so I imagine it would be much more. I know you'd handle the paperwork but just thinking about loud.
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Posted: 12/19/2014 10:45:40 PM EDT
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So what does it cost to adopt these days? I know what I cost back in the 80's so I imagine it would be much more. I know you'd handle the paperwork but just thinking about loud. For the first one we only a to pay a filing fee at the courthouse ($70 I believe). So far with the second we haven't spent a dime. |
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Posted: 12/19/2014 10:50:11 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: So what does it cost to adopt these days? I know what I cost back in the 80's so I imagine it would be much more. I know you'd handle the paperwork but just thinking about loud. I have no idea what an adoption agency charges like if you mean getting a Chinese baby Oh you would need a background check through, Er, the interstate something or other compact. Might be free or you might a have to hire a private social worker
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