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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:34:54 PM EDT
[#1]
Eject.
Find a wife that likes to go to strip clubs with you. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:35:15 PM EDT
[#2]
Strippers by themselves no. Add some more action verbs and the line could get crossed easily.
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:36:46 PM EDT
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FPNI
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:36:52 PM EDT
[#4]
Strippers are fine, fucking whores at you bachelor party isn't
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:37:07 PM EDT
[#5]
The deed is done. Apologize once. If that isn't enough, then you have your answer.
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:37:18 PM EDT
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Eject. Find a wife that likes to go to strip clubs with you. This... Even though it sucks sometimes, she hogs all the action. 
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:38:09 PM EDT
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If she is acting like this now, what's it going to be like 5 years from now..........
She sounds insecure and the jealous type........eject now, or your life will be a living hell. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:38:13 PM EDT
[#8]
eject
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:38:16 PM EDT
[#9]
Uh, as long as you keep it fantasyland I'd say you should be okay. Look but don't touch. Especially considering you don't know how many guys HAVE touched.
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:38:25 PM EDT
[#10]
It's freaky how often FPNI.
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:40:11 PM EDT
[#11]
Naa strippers for a bachelor party are fine.
Strippers after the bachelor party, possibly questionable |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:40:35 PM EDT
[#12]
Leave now. And teach your buddies what "to the grave" means
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:40:39 PM EDT
[#13]
My wife knows I went to a strip club. Shit, she even threw me a handful of twenty's and one's before hand and told me to have a good time.
No male strippers at her's though. I know what happens at THOSE shit shows. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:40:52 PM EDT
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Strippers by themselves no. Add some more action verbs and the line could get crossed easily. Watching? Paying? Ignoring? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:41:14 PM EDT
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That would depend on what details of said bachelor party were left out and how bad they were. If it was merely a stripper and you didn't fuck her, etc. Then it's whatever. But it may not even be the goings on of what happened that bugs her, it's that you didn't divulge the whole truth and she had to hear it from someone else.
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:41:17 PM EDT
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You seem to be wanting acceptance for bad behavior. She is the one you need to convince, not us or you. Would you be OK with her and a male stripper?
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:41:48 PM EDT
[#17]
Future wives always get cold feet when the bacholer party gets mentioned. this is common op. she's not going anywhere. if your relationship were rocky enough that she was ready to eject, she would have done so by now.
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:41:58 PM EDT
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The deed is done. Apologize once. If that isn't enough, then you have your answer. Came here to post this. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:42:26 PM EDT
[#19]
Eject.
Trust is the foundation. Its ok to rent, but Never buy a house with a cracked foundation. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:43:26 PM EDT
[#20]
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Future wives always get cold feet when the bacholer party gets mentioned. this is common op. she's not going anywhere. if your relationship were rocky enough that she was ready to eject, she would have done so by now. She hasn't left as a result, but she'll damn sure be sticking around and making his life miserable about it. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:43:50 PM EDT
[#21]
Porkchops is right.
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:46:08 PM EDT
[#22]
Asking a bunch of men this question? LoL 
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:48:00 PM EDT
[#23]
You are being given a gift. One that many of us get but rarely accept.
The gift of fore sight. She is showing you your future with her.... Jealous and untrusting. It will only get worse. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:50:16 PM EDT
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Did she get pissed when you told her or when word got back to her? Where you 100 percent truthful with her?
Maybe she's embarassed now that she knows that others know what went down and she accepted it.. Are friends and / or family giving opinion / advice to her? |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:51:37 PM EDT
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You seem to be wanting acceptance for bad behavior. She is the one you need to convince, not us or you. Would you be OK with her and a male stripper? I'm not looking for acceptance, I'm fine with what occurred. I also posted I'd be fine with her getting a dance from male strippers. Simply was wondering what the hive thought about strippers this day and age or if I'm still in the golden age of male over here. Everyone is so PC all the time on what's ok, I think she's overreacting because she's insecure. There were dances galore, but no fucking, sucking, stroking. A grab of some tits and ass as part of the show but that's about all. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:52:19 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: She hasn't left as a result, but she'll damn sure be sticking around and making his life miserable about it. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Future wives always get cold feet when the bacholer party gets mentioned. this is common op. she's not going anywhere. if your relationship were rocky enough that she was ready to eject, she would have done so by now. She hasn't left as a result, but she'll damn sure be sticking around and making his life miserable about it. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:52:59 PM EDT
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That would depend on what details of said bachelor party were left out and how bad they were. If it was merely a stripper and you didn't fuck her, etc. Then it's whatever. But it may not even be the goings on of what happened that bugs her, it's that you didn't divulge the whole truth and she had to hear it from someone else. This is what I'm thinking. When she's getting details piecemeal from another party and it doesn't jive with what you've already told her, of course she's going to wonder what else you may be *hiding.* |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:53:36 PM EDT
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Future wives always get cold feet when the bacholer party gets mentioned. this is common op. she's not going anywhere. if your relationship were rocky enough that she was ready to eject, she would have done so by now. Couldn't have said it better. She'll get over it. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:54:57 PM EDT
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So, are strippers really something I should be feeling bad about or worried about the fate of the big day? Did you make-out with, have sex with, or receive a blow job from said strippers? If not then HELL NO. Your fiance is over reacting big time. My wife wouldn't care if I went to a strip club on a Wednesday night to celebrate absolutely nothing. She's questioning marrying you because you went to a strip club for your bachelor party? 
ETA: Ah I guess if you lied to her about what you were doing that night that would send up some red flags on her part I guess. All depends on what you said you were doing and what your friend told her you guys did. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:55:15 PM EDT
[#30]
Sorry OP, I cannot relate. My wife was afraid the best man would be too tame planning my bachelor party, so she recruited some of my more outgoing friends to take over and insisted that they take me to a strip club.
She and I trust each other completely, and I did not do anything I could not tell her about. We've been married now 15 years. If your relationship does not have that kind of trust (from either side), you may want to think about what the future holds with marriage. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:56:47 PM EDT
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That would depend on what details of said bachelor party were left out and how bad they were. If it was merely a stripper and you didn't fuck her, etc. Then it's whatever. But it may not even be the goings on of what happened that bugs her, it's that you didn't divulge the whole truth and she had to hear it from someone else. /thread |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:56:54 PM EDT
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Watching? Paying? Ignoring? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Strippers by themselves no. Add some more action verbs and the line could get crossed easily. Watching? Paying? Ignoring? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile I said some verbs, those ones would almost certainly be acceptable. If you would like I could start a list of verbs that would be unlikely to be acceptable in this context. Perhaps I can even get a couple days off of the site. 
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:57:20 PM EDT
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Did you make-out with, have sex with, or receive a blow job from said strippers? If not then HELL NO. Your fiance is over reacting big time. My wife wouldn't care if I went to a strip club on a Wednesday night to celebrate absolutely nothing. She's questioning marrying you because you went to a strip club for your bachelor party? Quote HistoryQuoted:
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So, are strippers really something I should be feeling bad about or worried about the fate of the big day? Did you make-out with, have sex with, or receive a blow job from said strippers? If not then HELL NO. Your fiance is over reacting big time. My wife wouldn't care if I went to a strip club on a Wednesday night to celebrate absolutely nothing. She's questioning marrying you because you went to a strip club for your bachelor party? No, she's questioning marrying him because the details coming from another guy who was there are different than what OP told her. Even if it was 100% innocent (which I believe it was) she's a little rocked right now because it looks as though he's hiding something. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:57:24 PM EDT
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Came here to post this. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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The deed is done. Apologize once. If that isn't enough, then you have your answer. Came here to post this. There's some truth to this post, but.... This isn't about the strippers. This is about you lying by omission. She is now looking at what we call a red flag and trying to decide if it's an anomaly or part of your character. She's also probably trying to decide whether she's willing to take the risk of marrying someone she believes she may not be able to trust. So, if you haven't lied before, it's probably worth a shot for you to tell her that you fucked up, have learned a valuable lesson and it won't happen again. She will then make her decision and you will have done what you can. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:57:59 PM EDT
[#35]
What the fuck? Fuck no a stripper is not a wedding-ending offense.
Besides, strippers on the level (does such a thing truly exist?) don't do shit to you, at least not the kind of shit that male strippers get away with at bachelorette parties. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:58:14 PM EDT
[#36]
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I'm not looking for acceptance, I'm fine with what occurred. I also posted I'd be fine with her getting a dance from male strippers. Simply was wondering what the hive thought about strippers this day and age or if I'm still in the golden age of male over here. Everyone is so PC all the time on what's ok, I think she's overreacting because she's insecure. There were dances galore, but no fucking, sucking, stroking. A grab of some tits and ass as part of the show but that's about all. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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You seem to be wanting acceptance for bad behavior. She is the one you need to convince, not us or you. Would you be OK with her and a male stripper? I'm not looking for acceptance, I'm fine with what occurred. I also posted I'd be fine with her getting a dance from male strippers. Simply was wondering what the hive thought about strippers this day and age or if I'm still in the golden age of male over here. Everyone is so PC all the time on what's ok, I think she's overreacting because she's insecure. There were dances galore, but no fucking, sucking, stroking. A grab of some tits and ass as part of the show but that's about all. Yeah I can tell you now strippers aren't what she has an issue with. You left out grabbing another woman's tits and ass during "dances galore" and then dub it "part of the show"? 
You, sir, dug your own grave. You've embarrassed her and hearing about it from someone besides her future husband is making her question her trust in you. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:58:41 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: I'm not looking for acceptance, I'm fine with what occurred. I also posted I'd be fine with her getting a dance from male strippers. Simply was wondering what the hive thought about strippers this day and age or if I'm still in the golden age of male over here. Everyone is so PC all the time on what's ok, I think she's overreacting because she's insecure. There were dances galore, but no fucking, sucking, stroking. A grab of some tits and ass as part of the show but that's about all. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: You seem to be wanting acceptance for bad behavior. She is the one you need to convince, not us or you. Would you be OK with her and a male stripper? I'm not looking for acceptance, I'm fine with what occurred. I also posted I'd be fine with her getting a dance from male strippers. Simply was wondering what the hive thought about strippers this day and age or if I'm still in the golden age of male over here. Everyone is so PC all the time on what's ok, I think she's overreacting because she's insecure. There were dances galore, but no fucking, sucking, stroking. A grab of some tits and ass as part of the show but that's about all. So it WASN'T look but don't touch-the touch was in there too. Ultimately, it's between you and her, and it sounds like you guys never set your boundaries beforehand. If that's a deal breaker for her, then it is. The only blame she bears is (apparently) never setting firm boundaries from the beginning. My personal opinion, and worth exactly what you paid for it, is that whole "other girl" thing is something you should leave behind permanently once you get to the engagement level of a relationship. If you can't do that, you shouldn't be in an exclusive relationship to start with.  Nick |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:59:05 PM EDT
[#38]
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There's some truth to this post, but.... This isn't about the strippers. This is about you lying by omission. She is now looking at what we call a red flag and trying to decide if it's an anomaly or part of your character. She's also probably trying to decide whether she's willing to take the risk of marrying someone she believes she may not be able to trust. So, if you haven't lied before, it's probably worth a shot for you to tell her that you fucked up, have learned a valuable lesson and it won't happen again. She will then make her decision and you will have done what you can. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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The deed is done. Apologize once. If that isn't enough, then you have your answer. Came here to post this. There's some truth to this post, but.... This isn't about the strippers. This is about you lying by omission. She is now looking at what we call a red flag and trying to decide if it's an anomaly or part of your character. She's also probably trying to decide whether she's willing to take the risk of marrying someone she believes she may not be able to trust. So, if you haven't lied before, it's probably worth a shot for you to tell her that you fucked up, have learned a valuable lesson and it won't happen again. She will then make her decision and you will have done what you can. But this is correct. Will she ever be able to fully trust you now? You done fucked up. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 12:59:37 PM EDT
[#39]
Wait wut? Women don't like their man hanging around strippers? Shocking.
The fact that you had them at your bachelor party is not a huge deal and is pretty much commonplace but what happened there? Fucking, blow jobs, etc ? If so then yes you have things to worry about. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 1:00:01 PM EDT
[#40]
Should have kept your hands to yourself OP
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Posted: 9/27/2014 1:00:22 PM EDT
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You are being given a gift. One that many of us get but rarely accept. The gift of fore sight. She is showing you your future with her.... Jealous and untrusting. It will only get worse. I think she was given the gift of foresight.
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Posted: 9/27/2014 1:00:24 PM EDT
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What the fuck? Fuck no a stripper is not a wedding-ending offense. Besides, strippers on the level (does such a thing truly exist?) don't do shit to you, at least not the kind of shit that male strippers get away with at bachelorette parties. Oh, bullshit. There have been enough stories here about posters' own bachelor party (or ones they've been at) shenanigans to know that's not true. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 1:00:38 PM EDT
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If you had sex with one or more of the strippers, you're an idiot and she's right to be pissed off.
If you didn't have sex with one or more of the strippers, she's being an uptight harpy. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 1:00:54 PM EDT
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No, she's questioning marrying him because the details coming from another guy who was there are different than what OP told her. Even if it was 100% innocent (which I believe it was) she's a little rocked right now because it looks as though he's hiding something. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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So, are strippers really something I should be feeling bad about or worried about the fate of the big day? Did you make-out with, have sex with, or receive a blow job from said strippers? If not then HELL NO. Your fiance is over reacting big time. My wife wouldn't care if I went to a strip club on a Wednesday night to celebrate absolutely nothing. She's questioning marrying you because you went to a strip club for your bachelor party? No, she's questioning marrying him because the details coming from another guy who was there are different than what OP told her. Even if it was 100% innocent (which I believe it was) she's a little rocked right now because it looks as though he's hiding something. Got it. OP, what did you tell your fiance about the night? And what did she hear from your friend? |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 1:01:00 PM EDT
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The deed is done. Apologize once. If that isn't enough, then you have your answer. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 1:02:43 PM EDT
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It's a control tactic. Don't be a sucker. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 1:02:59 PM EDT
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You are being given a gift. One that many of us get but rarely accept. The gift of fore sight. She is showing you your future with her.... Jealous and untrusting. It will only get worse. I think she was given the gift of foresight. It's amazing how quick some are to jump to blaming the women for being jealous and insecure without ever looking at the behavior that made them that way. But a guy posts that his wife came home half an hour late for work and was acting funny and there's 8 pages of *eject* and advice to put a keylogger on the computer, a GPS device on the car and a preemptive visit to a lawyer. 
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Posted: 9/27/2014 1:03:12 PM EDT
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If she is in a position to threaten calling off the wedding, and you are desperate to please her to keep the wedding going, something weird is already going on with this dynamic.
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Posted: 9/27/2014 1:04:00 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Yeah I can tell you now strippers aren't what she has an issue with. You left out grabbing another woman's tits and ass during "dances galore" and then dub it "part of the show"? You, sir, dug your own grave. You've embarrassed her and hearing about it from someone besides her future husband is making her question her trust in you. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: I'm not looking for acceptance, I'm fine with what occurred. I also posted I'd be fine with her getting a dance from male strippers. Simply was wondering what the hive thought about strippers this day and age or if I'm still in the golden age of male over here. Everyone is so PC all the time on what's ok, I think she's overreacting because she's insecure. There were dances galore, but no fucking, sucking, stroking. A grab of some tits and ass as part of the show but that's about all. Yeah I can tell you now strippers aren't what she has an issue with. You left out grabbing another woman's tits and ass during "dances galore" and then dub it "part of the show"? You, sir, dug your own grave. You've embarrassed her and hearing about it from someone besides her future husband is making her question her trust in you. |
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Posted: 9/27/2014 1:07:06 PM EDT
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Eject. Eject. Eject.
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