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Posted: 4/24/2017 7:14:56 AM EDT
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You know why brides are always smiling when they walk down the aisle?
It's because they know they never have to give a blow job ever again. 
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Posted: 4/24/2017 7:19:03 AM EDT
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Not married, been engaged for 4 months to a woman I have dated for 4 years. I think you have the wrong idea, I'm not done with the chase, but now the chase is focused on one specific woman. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 7:20:00 AM EDT
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+1 hopefully the thrill never goes away. Being married is one of the coolest things ever. I am 27 and have been with my wife for 11 years and married for 4 Marry your best friend. Don't just marry your gf Marry your best friend, it makes all the difference in the world |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 7:22:42 AM EDT
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Yeah, it's called growing up and being an adult. There's alot of things in life that feel good and or enjoyable that you put aside once you grow up.
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Posted: 4/24/2017 7:23:14 AM EDT
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Tag for insight on my favorite sex. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 7:24:18 AM EDT
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If you are a douche bag, it probably never goes away. If you have self control and a high moral character, it goes away when you say "I do".
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Posted: 4/24/2017 7:30:13 AM EDT
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As long as I am getting laid as often as I want / need. Nah.
That being said control it if it does. I may be a bastard but I'm a loyal bastard! |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 7:34:48 AM EDT
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The heck with the chase.
You caught it, now it's time to enjoy feasting on it. 
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Posted: 4/24/2017 7:55:22 AM EDT
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OP, if you are worried about that then you are not ready to be married. Don't do it at this time.
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Posted: 4/24/2017 7:56:07 AM EDT
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30 years old. Just got engaged a couple months ago. Been through 2 deployments together over 3 years, best girl in the world in my opinion. That being said, just being with one woman scares the ever living shit out of me. I feel like I will miss the thrill of the chase. Does it ever go away? How do you deal? If you are "missing the thrill" just a few months after getting engaged.....you need to get out of the engagement, because you are going to end up cheating on your wife one of these days. And if you have kids....they don't deserve a shitty dad like that.... |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:06:45 AM EDT
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If you're going to marry her, she should be your best friend. You should have a sense of loyalty and respect for her and yourself. If any of these things are not true do not get married.
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:13:45 AM EDT
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I ain't getting married unless I'm 50+ and she is rich and cooks me 4 meals a.day
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:15:08 AM EDT
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If you are a douche bag, it probably never goes away. If you have self control and a high moral character, it goes away when you say "I do". |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:17:24 AM EDT
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30 years old. Just got engaged a couple months ago. Been through 2 deployments together over 3 years, best girl in the world in my opinion. That being said, just being with one woman scares the ever living shit out of me. I feel like I will miss the thrill of the chase. Does it ever go away? How do you deal? You are not ready to get married. I predict an Arfcom curse thread in your future. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:39:14 AM EDT
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You want a successful marriage? Continue to chase your Wife. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:42:51 AM EDT
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That "thrill" you describe is an immature notion.
Be an adult and understand that marriage still involves romance (with the one you married). It still requires effort. It requires attention. And it requires love. Now, this works so long as you're both committed to this level. That's key. Also yes, you're both still human, so you can look at the opposite sex and still think they're attractive. You're married, not dead. But don't cross the line into flirting... or worse. If you're not prepared for this commitment be up front with your fiancée and let her know. A relationship built on lies is not bound for greatness. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:44:03 AM EDT
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30 years old. Just got engaged a couple months ago. Been through 2 deployments together over 3 years, best girl in the world in my opinion. That being said, just being with one woman scares the ever living shit out of me. I feel like I will miss the thrill of the chase. Does it ever go away? How do you deal?  Been with her about 9 years now, and it's been like that the whole time. Never once did I worry about being stuck with one girl forever. I just thought how awesome it was that I'd get to have her forever.
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:46:52 AM EDT
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Never, the thrill is a ways there. Either you fight the thrill, or give in and chase
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:47:26 AM EDT
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I enjoy the happy marriage threads.
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:51:19 AM EDT
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Been married 32 years and have never cheated. I see 2 sides to a marriage....emotional and physical. Fortunately , my wife is awesome both sides. My best buddy, and extremely attractive even at 54 years old.
I have to be honest.....if one of those things weren't there, I'm not sure what would have happened. If she were a bitch, I would have bailed. If she let herself go.....I don't like to think I'm that shallow but maybe I would have bailed. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 8:53:21 AM EDT
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I never really enjoyed the chase, so no, I don't miss it. There have been a few times where I could have, maybe that animal part of you will want to, but you have to walk away. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:01:41 AM EDT
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I feel like I will miss the thrill of the chase. What the fuck does "the thrill of the chase" actually mean? Playing games with some chick in the hopes you get to stick it in her, only to come to realize later that she's fucking nuts and you have no possible future with her? Look, dude, I get it. There's a certain segment of our brain that sees a pretty young thing and immediately starts visualizing how pretty she'll look squirming around on our dick and calling for God. ...except it almost never works out to be quite as nice as we imagined it to be since we don't have any sort of real connection with her. There's no real "thrill" of the chase. There's just hormones that tempt you to do stupid shit in the hopes you get to fuck whatever it is that's crossing your path. But usually that ends badly. Trust me on this: Being with one woman who isn't fucking insane and isn't going to wake up one day and butt-fuck your entire future because she feels "unfulfilled" or some shit is way the fuck better than continually putting yourself into the blast radius of one fucking emotional hand grenade after another in the hopes you'll enjoy fucking them enough to justify the plane loads of baggage they're hauling around. If you've found a woman who isn't batshit, has her shit sorted out, and is going to be faithful then thank your fucking lucky stars. One woman that actually loves you is better than a hundred that will bend over for you. Sooner or later even Dan Blizarian is going to get sick of fucking instagram hoes and want a woman that actually gives a fuck about him instead of his bank account. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:07:42 AM EDT
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I enjoy the happy marriage threads. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:15:45 AM EDT
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You want a successful marriage? Continue to chase your Wife. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:42:53 AM EDT
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In a few years you're going to go out to a bar or something with some friends and that's when you'll realize how good you have it, how lucky you are to have a dependable woman at home.
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:49:11 AM EDT
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I stopped chasing all but one on January 28, 1979.
No regrets. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:52:23 AM EDT
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I never chased girls around, I always preferred long-term stable relationships.
I don't miss it at all. Love having a partner for shooting, crime, and groceries. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:54:04 AM EDT
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I love being married.
Being married makes me a better person, gave me the joy that is my son and allowed me to discover that happiness is a myth. Happiness is fleeting at best. The satisfaction and contentment being a husband and father is more than I could hope for. No moist hole will ever compare. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:54:21 AM EDT
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Building a great life together becomes the new chase. Maturity required. Unscrupulous Poon-Hounds need not apply. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:54:56 AM EDT
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30 years old. Just got engaged a couple months ago. Been through 2 deployments together over 3 years, best girl in the world in my opinion. That being said, just being with one woman scares the ever living shit out of me. I feel like I will miss the thrill of the chase. Does it ever go away? How do you deal? Flirt up the hot women at the office, lead them along until they're ready to do the deed, then put up the border wall of ice. Satisfying on many levels. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 9:57:20 AM EDT
[#31]
So, she is the best girl in the world and you still want to chase puss?
Sorry OP...you're either immature, stupid or both. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:01:12 AM EDT
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You are looking at this the wrong way. The thrill of the chase isn't gone. I've been married 24 years come July and I still chase my wife all the time. She chases me, too. I find little post-it notes here and there, letters tucked into my pants pocket, and she's been known to leave some very detailed voice messages on my phone.
Likewise, I'll stop and put a couple dozen flowers in her car or a balloon bouquet or both while she's at work. I'll write a heartfelt letter and have it delivered to her job certified so she has to sign for it. I buy her things out of the blue. I work from home but I will wake up about thirty minutes before she does, make her coffee and breakfast, and then start the car so it's warm in the winter for her. I also leave her pretty detailed voice messages. You aren't condemning yourself to sleeping with the same woman for the rest of your life. You're giving yourself so completely to a woman that she will know your every erogenous zone, your every pleasure, and every move it takes to give you release. You will also know that about her and it will make your sex life extraordinary because there will be no shyness, secrets, boundaries, or fumbling around trying to figure the 'new' out. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:09:04 AM EDT
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Once you stick it in crazy and she devotes her life to trying to destroy yours, will appreciate a woman that truly enjoys making you happy.
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:31:43 AM EDT
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Since you like the chase that desire will come and go. Don't deny it but don't set yourself up for hard decisions. When the time comes flirt with women that are working or whatever like that, so you are protected. It really is a thrill to have a woman show interest in you even if you can't act on it. So instead of getting her number you go back to work and tell the story. For my wife and I we tell each other those stories, up to a point anyway. I hate wearing jewelry plus got it caught when working on a ladder, so rarely wear it. Hers is a large fake stone, so not comfortable. She works from home so only wears it if she is putting on makeup. One of those my wife told me is the guy at the meat counter of her favorite grocery store always rushed to help her and was super friendly. She neither encouraged nor discouraged, just appreciated the extra service. I was with her one day and he has snubbed her ever since. There has to be some trust and more time together before you can swap stories or be casual on wearing rings.
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:33:12 AM EDT
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I'm going to be honest here and talk some truth that ain't PC... There are men and then there are men. Some men are happy to be in a stable, calm, predictable world. Other men sail ships across the ocean, climb mountains, and crave challenge. The second group tends to do things like discover new worlds, fight wars, slaughter jihadists, and so on. Men who crave victory will always crave victory. They can manage it...but deep inside, that craving is there. It hurts and it burns and it wants to be fed. It is reflexive...not always deliberate and it will always circle back, no matter how hard you push it down. Risk seeking behavior follows those men. They will do things for fun that are simply dangerous and stupid. They will take chances where the risk does not outweigh the gain/loss. Whatever that "risk" is for you...good luck. War, sex, fast cars, flying, whitewater...whatever your drug, you will crave it forever. You can channel that energy into being an awesome father and the best husband in the world...but it will still be there waiting to tap that adrenaline and show you a mountain to climb, an ocean to cross, and a war with your name on it. Good luck. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:33:35 AM EDT
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You find the right one and I guarantee it only gets more thrilling Being married is one of the coolest things ever. I am 27 and have been with my wife for 11 years and married for 4 Marry your best friend. Don't just marry your gf Marry your best friend, it makes all the difference in the world Quote HistoryQuoted:
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+1 hopefully the thrill never goes away. Being married is one of the coolest things ever. I am 27 and have been with my wife for 11 years and married for 4 Marry your best friend. Don't just marry your gf Marry your best friend, it makes all the difference in the world I'm 26 been with my wife 11 yrs married for 5 |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:34:05 AM EDT
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Tag for insight on my favorite sex. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:34:23 AM EDT
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Just find a chick that lets you bang other chicks with her.
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:36:22 AM EDT
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I always found "the chase" to be woefully depressing. I stumbled across my wife at your age, and am happier for it. We've both watched so many of our friends get divorced over the years, we appreciate having found each other. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:39:33 AM EDT
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I definitely fall into category 2. I share these sentiments as well. Thank you And by the way that post is a crock. It fits some men, and other I know have managed to balance both. I am married 24 years to my best friend. My advice to you is don't get married. You seem to be too selfish at this point(the counter point to the romanticized post you fell in love with). *also curious how many new worlds you have discovered, how many wars you fought in, or how many jihadists you have slaughtered. Not making light, serious question. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:47:42 AM EDT
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I got tired of 'the chase'. Just one bimbo after another.
Finally found my wife and never looked back. Been married almost 2 years now and have a 4 month at home and life couldn't be any better. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:47:46 AM EDT
[#42]
 Eric Clapton & B.B King - The Thrill Is Gone - live at The White House |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:48:54 AM EDT
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lol you'll never stop chasing your wife . She'll play you like a fiddle if she's like most women .
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:50:36 AM EDT
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been married for 33 years. No complaints. the thrill isn't what it is about. You'll figure that out eventually, or you will be divorced.
your focus may be the wrong one. best thing I ever did was get married. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:52:53 AM EDT
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Not really, sometimes I wonder if I could catch a hottie, but I've been practicing not getting myself on a date for 20 something years now.
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:53:31 AM EDT
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I never really enjoyed the chase, so no, I don't miss it. If my marriage were to not work out (ie, she gets tired of me  ) I know I won't bother trying again.
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:54:13 AM EDT
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 Attached FileWas looking for the right words but found a pic instead. This is our 34th year of marriage, she was 18 and I was 20 when we were married. We have endured many deployments, illnesss and all of the other minutiae that make up a long term relationship. In a word, if you are doing it right the chase never ends. It's present at 0500 when I kiss her good bye and again at 1900 when I kiss her hello. Every time I open the door for her and in candid moments like the one in the pic above captured by our DIL. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:57:27 AM EDT
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First you need to figure out what you want in life.
Do you want a stable relationship? Do you want to chase tail for pleasure? Do you want a companion? Do you want to be left alone? Do you want a lady in the street and a demon in the sheets? Do you want a baby maker? Are you ok by yourself? Do you work better with another person around? Lots of things you need to figure out. And until you figure yourself out, and what you value, you will not be able to decide if a long term marriage is for you. And the incongruity will never allow your happiness. If you pick one that is not who you are, you will never be settled on the inside. |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 10:57:54 AM EDT
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Op , you have a woman is is giving you her life . Her one life. Her only life . That deserves a hell of a lot more respect than , "omg I won't be allowed to pick up bar skanks anymore , wtfbbq what am I gonna do?" What you should be thinking : This wonderful woman that I think is awesome is giving me her life , holy fucking shit, am I worthy of THAT? And then you set out to prove that you are . |
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Posted: 4/24/2017 11:01:55 AM EDT
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Don't get married, OP.
You'll still do it, but I gave you fair warning. |
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