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I know! I think this bout with the king flu was a wake-up call. I know what they would want as far as CPR and stuff, but they both need to discuss how to allocate assets/protect assets for potential Nursing Home/medical care in the future. You can never start too soon to get the ducks lined up.
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You need some written documentation, like an advanced directive and a POLST form (look it up) regarding CPR, defibrillation, etc. If your parents don't want those medical treatments, you REALLY need those documents easily available at home, with a copy at their doctor and their lawyer. And if you have siblings, they all need to have a conversation and some agreement about what to do (or not do) in the case of a sudden emergency.
Because the default position of EMS and ER doctors (like me) is to do a full court press. CPR, shocks, intubation, meds, everything, unless we have clear directives otherwise. And the worst experience is to have several family members saying, "No, Dad would never want this. Let him go!" and there's one family member screaming at the medical team and family that, "we have to do everything. You're killing Dad by not doing everything!"
Yeah, this happens. It's a bit of a hard conversation with the folks and the siblings. But it's much better than having the conversation right at the moment of crisis.