Ok....women approach me @ the gym sometimes. I've genuinly like'ed a few that are still there. I've been a gym rat since the 70's. Do women "feel you out"? I'm a realist when I look or think about someone I think about 5yrs from now. I take care of myself because no one else will to my standards. I am not looking for a woman whom sees me as a life raft for her and her kids, or ATM card w/only one depositor. I live in MA.....yea.yea,.They're all libtards. I can't leave because the MGH hospital is here. Had I lived in AZ (I did for a while)I'd have had to come back here for the operation I had 2yrs ago. No where else could have preformed this experimental surgury on me and it needs monitoring. How ""covertly"" do you women lay out the welcome mat? Truth is essiantial,... like one babe @ the bar said,.......she was just trying to get laid!!!!!Those drinks we'rnt for nuttin!That struck me as a woman being truthfull. ETA:condensed to look less like a personal add Sp1grl I guess it would be showing your hand to the other poker player.

What are you asking?

Sounds like women are interested in you, so what's a mystery that needs solving? If you meet a nice woman, get to know her, and see if she turns out to be a decent catch. If you don't get dopey over her, and keep your eye out for those "red lights", you should be able to weed out who's genuine and who's not. People generally tip their hand  once you get to know them.

It's not rocket science, go eat dinner, talk a lot, see a movie, enjoy yourself. If she's a psycho bitch, stop going out with her. Repeat/rinse.

I'm as confused as Swingset.

Is there a question Mags?

Quoted: I'm confused, too.  It sounds like you just placed a personal ad in the Women's Forum.

Yeah, well I was the first to respond, so dibs.

Quoted: Quoted: I'm confused, too.  It sounds like you just placed a personal ad in the Women's Forum. Yeah, well I was the first to respond, so dibs.

Quoted: Ok....women approach me @ the gym sometimes. I've genuinly like'ed a few that are still there. I've been a gym rat since the 70's. Do women "feel you out"? I'm a realist. I take care of myself because no one else will to my standards. I'm over 50 and financially secure till I die(no suggardady here) (I'm "physically disabled"). Not mentally!. I own the last one of my companies and am doing OK. I am not looking for a woman whom sees me as a life raft, or ATM card w/no deposits. I live in MA.....yea.yea,. I can leave, and do for the winters here. How """"covertly"""" do you women lay out the welcome mat? Truth is essiantial, like the one babe @ the bar said,.......she was just trying to get laid!!!!!Those drinks we'rnt for nuttin!

I thought men tried to get laid.  You can never know much about a person's true integrity with out spending time with that person.  There are obviously some very shallow people out there.  Your best bet is to know what you want and not to compromise those desires for the sake of a relationship.

Quoted: I thought men tried to get laid.  You can never know much about a person's true integrity with out spending time with that person.  There are obviously some very shallow people out there.  Your best bet is to know what you want and not to compromise those desires for the sake of a relationship.

Some women do too.

I re-read my post. To try to put it another way. The women I meet these days seem like generic women. More than 50% of them have brown hair w/dyed blonde streaks, I know that sounds wierd but thats me. They "approach"... if they or I start the small talk thats all I believe it is. I do not like being conventional like dinner and a movie. That was 25yrs ago for me. I think its that I'm not good @ reading* or interpeting womens ways and all the flirting type stuff. O'that comment about the bar was I was @ a chinese restraunt/bar one nite and after a few drinks this girl became iriate, and started yelling that she came out to get laid. I guess she'd bought a guy or guys drinks and was trying to get laid that evening and was not "getting anywhere". I know not why. She was certainly no 'dog'. After re-reading this post I should shoot myself in the arse,women are all crazy and you can never figure them out right?(per GD)   LOL, you gun girls are funny......>>Literally!I wish there were more in this state, O'well

Quoted: I re-read my post. To try to put it another way. The women I meet these days seem like generic women. More than 50% of them have brown hair w/dyed blonde streaks, I know that sounds wierd but thats me. They "approach"... if they or I start the small talk thats all I believe it is. I do not like being conventional like dinner and a movie. That was 25yrs ago for me. I think its that I'm not good @ reading* or interpeting womens ways and all the flirting type stuff. O'that comment about the bar was I was @ a chinese restraunt/bar one nite and after a few drinks this girl became iriate, and started yelling that she came out to get laid. I guess she'd bought a guy or guys drinks and was trying to get laid that evening and was not "getting anywhere". I know not why. She was certainly no 'dog'. After re-reading this post I should shoot myself in the arse,women are all crazy and you can never figure them out right?(per GD)

I believe we need an intergalactic intepreter now...
WTF are you trying to say?
All women are generic: One pie, 2 breasts.
That's the only way we come. You wanna know why they're talking to you? Maybe you're easy on the eyes and they want to get to know you.  Dinner? It's the last meal of the day. Movie? It's 2 hours and $30.00 you'll never get back.
Chinese food? Pricey, yummy, and filled with things you should not eat and cannot identify:blame the MSG for the girl's sexually overdriven comments.
As far as women and craziness...we must be. I re-read your posts 3 times HOPING they'd make sense.

Quoted: I re-read my post. To try to put it another way. The women I meet these days seem like generic women. More than 50% of them have brown hair w/dyed blonde streaks, I know that sounds wierd but thats me. They "approach"... if they or I start the small talk thats all I believe it is. I do not like being conventional like dinner and a movie. That was 25yrs ago for me. I think its that I'm not good @ reading* or interpeting womens ways and all the flirting type stuff. O'that comment about the bar was I was @ a chinese restraunt/bar one nite and after a few drinks this girl became iriate, and started yelling that she came out to get laid. I guess she'd bought a guy or guys drinks and was trying to get laid that evening and was not "getting anywhere". I know not why. She was certainly no 'dog'. After re-reading this post I should shoot myself in the arse,women are all crazy and you can never figure them out right?(per GD)

I watched the movie "40 year old Virgin" the other day and was shocked.  I was hoping it was more humorous then exact.  It scares the hell out of me IF there are actually women that behave like protrayed in the movie or as you mentioned above.  I have two young boys after all.  I would like to see them be some what moral and if possible chasted.

I will try to address this in the best light possible:  A gentleman is inquiring as to what is or isn't flirting at the gym, and how he is to interpret possible flirtation.

Okey dokey.  The gym is a fine place to meet quality women, as they are likely to be self-motivating and health-concious (as compared to those one might meet in a bar, for example).

I teach yoga.  Where I currently teach is an all women's health spa, but I too have been a denizen of various gyms for decades.  All, and I do mean ALL acceptable flirtation in a gym is inititated by the female.  If a guy starts 'coming on to' an unappreciative female, she complains to the management, and after a couple of more times of the same guy getting complained about, his membership gets yanked.

Women flirt in gyms by looking and smiling, also by 'just happening' to walk near a guy, or take a sudden interest in equipment near to him.

If you find this going on in your direction by a woman you find attractive, you can simply introduce yourself.  Nothing wrong with that anywhere, anytime.  The worst she can do (if not interested) in a civilised public setting like a gym is say "Excuse me, I'm in the middle of a set" or something of the sort.

Above all, you don't want to get a reputation among the staff members that you are proweling.  We find it hilarious, and will even warn the especially attractive women about guys who act like they are God's Gift.

Good Hunting, but do wait for a 'receptive' signal before approaching.  Then you can directly introduce yourself.  Do not converse about "her" body (OR yours), but DO talk about various work-out regimens, and your favorite equipment in the gym.

SP1? We need to brush up on our reading skills, evidently!


'Course, I train at home. The only thing I pick up are 15 pound weights....

Quoted: Quoted: I will try to address this in the best light possible:  A gentleman is inquiring as to what is or isn't flirting at the gym, and how he is to interpret possible flirtation. Okey dokey.  The gym is a fine place to meet quality women, as they are likely to be self-motivating and health-concious (as compared to those one might meet in a bar, for example). I teach yoga.  Where I currently teach is an all women's health spa, but I too have been a denizen of various gyms for decades.  All, and I do mean ALL acceptable flirtation in a gym is inititated by the female.  If a guy starts 'coming on to' an unappreciative female, she complains to the management, and after a couple of more times of the same guy getting complained about, his membership gets yanked. Women flirt in gyms by looking and smiling, also by 'just happening' to walk near a guy, or take a sudden interest in equipment near to him. If you find this going on in your direction by a woman you find attractive, you can simply introduce yourself.  Nothing wrong with that anywhere, anytime.  The worst she can do (if not interested) in a civilised public setting like a gym is say "Excuse me, I'm in the middle of a set" or something of the sort. Above all, you don't want to get a reputation among the staff members that you are proweling.  We find it hilarious, and will even warn the especially attractive women about guys who act like they are God's Gift. Good Hunting, but do wait for a 'receptive' signal before approaching.  Then you can directly introduce yourself.  Do not converse about "her" body (OR yours), but DO talk about various work-out regimens, and your favorite equipment in the gym. Okay, this i get.  That's good advice, psy.

She forgot to mention that it CAN lead to saying silly things like, "Thaboosalabob."

Quoted: Quoted: I re-read my post. To try to put it another way. The women I meet these days seem like generic women. More than 50% of them have brown hair w/dyed blonde streaks, I know that sounds wierd but thats me. They "approach"... if they or I start the small talk thats all I believe it is. I do not like being conventional like dinner and a movie. That was 25yrs ago for me. I think its that I'm not good @ reading* or interpeting womens ways and all the flirting type stuff. O'that comment about the bar was I was @ a chinese restraunt/bar one nite and after a few drinks this girl became iriate, and started yelling that she came out to get laid. I guess she'd bought a guy or guys drinks and was trying to get laid that evening and was not "getting anywhere". I know not why. She was certainly no 'dog'. After re-reading this post I should shoot myself in the arse,women are all crazy and you can never figure them out right?(per GD)   I believe we need an intergalactic intepreter now... WTF are you trying to say? All women are generic: One pie, 2 breasts. That's the only way we come. You wanna know why they're talking to you? Maybe you're easy on the eyes and they want to get to know you.  Dinner? It's the last meal of the day. Movie? It's 2 hours and $30.00 you'll never get back. Chinese food? Pricey, yummy, and filled with things you should not eat and cannot identify:blame the MSG for the girl's sexually overdriven comments. As far as women and craziness...we must be. I re-read your posts 3 times HOPING they'd make sense.

This is not a post about pie or breasts please. The statement about "generic women" went to looks. More than 50% of the girls w/brown hair put blonde streaks in it. Mostly the younger ones, and it ruins their hairs natural shine IMO. No I realize my posts are'nt dead on coherent and might need the FTF element to fully convey the context of my meaning.I think the multiple brain traumas when I was young and foolish contributed to that,its called (sp)"epicondilitis" I'm told.

Reading this thread reminds me of a song I heard a long time ago, "Mujer de Bandera" by Hombres G.

It was about some guy attracted to a female body builder.  Apparently she was never interested and beat the tar out of him every time she caught him prowling around.  Despite the beatings, he just couldn't help himself and kept trying to flirt with her.

Quoted: ...More than 50% of the girls w/brown hair put blonde streaks in it. Mostly the younger ones, and it ruins their hairs natural shine IMO....

I agree that it's a shame so many women feel the need to put blond streaks in brown hair that was just fine the way God gave it in the first place.

Of course, I just happen to have a thing for brunettes (hence I married one).

Quoted: Quoted: ...More than 50% of the girls w/brown hair put blonde streaks in it. Mostly the younger ones, and it ruins their hairs natural shine IMO.... I agree that it's a shame so many women feel the need to put blond streaks in brown hair that was just fine the way God gave it in the first place.So true! Of course, I just happen to have a thing for brunettes (hence I married one).

+1
(because I took the time to read this thread)
BTW I thought it kinda sounded like a "personal add" also

H1

It's reeeeeeaaalllly important to stay on the good side of the staff and trainers.  

If it becomes obvious that a guy is scoping out the gals instead of working out and "generally" socialising, we can be brutal behind a guy's back.  

Maybe you can befriend the trainers and staff.  They can be a great help in pointing out who is and isn't already committed, and who might be receptive, not to mention who to watch out for as in man-eating drama queens.

@ PM:  What's a thaboosalabob?

Quoted: What?

Noth'n beats the pic of the bunny with a pancake on his head

Quoted:
It's reeeeeeaaalllly important to stay on the good side of the staff and trainers.  

If it becomes obvious that a guy is scoping out the gals instead of working out and "generally" socialising, we can be brutal behind a guy's back.  

Maybe you can befriend the trainers and staff.  They can be a great help in pointing out who is and isn't already committed, and who might be receptive, not to mention who to watch out for as in man-eating drama queens.

@ PM:  What's a thaboosalabob? I do not know? That now seems apparently overlooked by my insensitive arse. Because its the female regulars I am talking about. I've been there since it opened in 99. Plus theres been a huge influx lately not your usual  NewYears crowd that dies off in 10/12weeks. Actually a friend owned it 50%.....it went from 1 location to 14. He went in to MGH for a angeogram and died of ????? the next day @ 47after he'd hit it big with these New England locations. I did not mean it to come off looking like a personal add I hope the editing I did to it fixed that.

Quoted: Quoted: It's reeeeeeaaalllly important to stay on the good side of the staff and trainers.   If it becomes obvious that a guy is scoping out the gals instead of working out and "generally" socialising, we can be brutal behind a guy's back.   Maybe you can befriend the trainers and staff.  They can be a great help in pointing out who is and isn't already committed, and who might be receptive, not to mention who to watch out for as in man-eating drama queens. @ PM:  What's a thaboosalabob? I do not know? That now seems apparently overlooked by my insensitive arse. Because its the female regulars I am talking about. I've been there since it opened in 99. Plus theres been a huge influx lately not your usual  NewYears crowd that dies off in 10/12weeks. Actually a friend owned it 50%.....it went from 1 location to 14. He went in to MGH for a angeogram and died of ????? the next day @ 47after he'd hit it big with these New England locations. I did not mean it to come off looking like a personal add I hope the editing I did to it fixed that.

I used to train at Gold's Gym, Mags. Lotta muscle in there. I was in there for about a year...I had gotten into the best shape of my life, and I watched an incredibly good looking jarhead for months while there. Drop dead gorgeous hunk of man in every way. Now, I am NOT a woman who looks twice at most men, I assure you. Besides, I *AM* married...most days happily
Mr. Incredibly good looking jarhead, whom I'd admired from afar, decides to address me one day. Because I'd been lusting silently and unnoticed for months, when it came time for me to open my mouth and speak, all that came out was, "Thaboosalabob."

To him, I will forever be that "weird" girl at he gym.

I told that story once here, and the ladies liked the T-Word. So that's what some of use to describe good looking men, "He's T-Worthy!"

Didn't mean to tease you overly much on your post. I missed the punchline. Psy saw it and she's right. We always knew which ones were the "playas" in the gym

Quoted: I think the multiple brain traumas when I was young and foolish contributed to that,its called (sp)"epicondilitis" I'm told.

I don't think those two things are related.  I believe that you've had multiple brain traumas.  I doubt that epicondylitis, tennis elbow, would be the result.

Quoted: Quoted: I think the multiple brain traumas when I was young and foolish contributed to that,its called (sp)"epicondilitis" I'm told. I don't think those two things are related.  I believe that you've had multiple brain traumas.  I doubt that epicondylitis, tennis elbow, would be the result.

I do not doubt your correct 9X19(my favorite HGun caliber BTW).Googled would confirm such. However thats how I remember the pronunciation. Its when you've had multiple trauma's, brain or elsewhere, that are'nt addressed properly @ the time of injury and time takes its effect on you later in life. You know us "MEN" are invinsable as teens looking for fun!! Riding dirt bikes in the 70's trying to outdue ea other w/a wild crew of about 20guys. I was in top 3 for crashes, and 3 REAL japbike road crashes 1 putting me in a coma for 3months w/last rights and alot of like minded activites not caring about the consequenses crap.I now realize what that must have done to my parents. I'm thinking I might start a who has the most current medical injuries/conditions thread in GD. I'm thinking I might win!...but I doubt it, theres always someone worse off is my man'tra. BTW I do have both tennis elbow, and golfers elbow. I appeieciate all the input here guys/girls I mean.