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TheKill I'd like to know how many years you have been married for?
Trust me a woman can get a men fly's come to shit if you lose her you will be kicking yourself in the ass for the rest of your life.
Woman want you to care for them. If you want her that bad don't Fuc* around and call her. She might go out tonight an meet a guy and then where are you? I know where you are you are in the dog house.
Just trust you heart.
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Been married for going on 3 years. I bent my own rules and went against my instinct to do it and have been paying for it since. She didn't really want *me*, she wanted to buy a house, drive a nice car, yadda yadda. In other words, she wanted a life style change, from being poor and having drug addict boyfriends who steal her money, to fulfilling her dreams of getting married, buying a house etc. and saw someone who could do it. I am a pretty good guy, I make pretty really good money, don't treat women like total sh*t, don't sit in the bar every weekend, and don't do drugs/get in trouble with the law. This last one is pretty rare!!!!! Pot is friggin everywhere. I HAVE MY SHARE OF FAULTS, BELIEVE ME. However, it seems to me, that she isn't willing to accept and deal with me for who I am. Even if the above is true about her, you would think that she would be willing to accept some of my faults to gain the positives.
I go out of my way to try and talk to her every single day. Find out how her day went. IF she is pissed off (most of the time) I ask her what is bothering her (usually get "nothing"). If she needs something, I do it. I pay the bills. I buy the food. Yadda Yadda Yadda. I try to spend time with her as much as I can. In the meantime, one of my jobs is my dream job, but right now it isn't paying much, and is a lot of hassle. Let's just say, it would be like if one of you guys figured out you had a real honest God given talent for shooting, and were trying to get on a shooting team somewhere. Say you are almost as good as Rob Leatham. You were meant to do this. You are putting a sh**tload of time and energy into getting into the major leagues, you have to get off work and then drive 4 hours to a match, shoot it, and drive back again 4 hours to work another shift (to pay for the house SHE wanted), and your wife tells you to piss off, and would rather watch soaps than come to the next shoot and support you. Because she doesn't like the noise.
My point is, I went the extra mile with this one, and look where it got me!!!! My wife now has a nice car and we have a house I didn't want in the first place (just one of a long list of things I did 'for her')! In the meantime, my wife hates me 90% of the time, thinks these things I have done for her are 'my job' and she is perfectly happy to ignore me on a daily basis! IF I would have followed my own rules, I would have kissed her goodbye WAAAAAAAAAY before it got this far. But NOOOOOOO, I had to "follow my heart"!!!! And now that we are married, I do NOT want to get a divorce, I feel it is wrong, and short of her cheating on me, I couldn't do it in good conscience. So I keep trying.
In reality, I guess love makes you blind, and then all bets are off!!! Some better advice than I gave before would probably be, trust your instinct over your heart.
Sorry for the rant, you pushed one of my hot buttons a**hole!!! ;-)
NOTE WINK!!