Aloha Spider,
I think that it is a good idea to come out and interview, you will at least get an initial impression of the place. I can not help but voice a couple of points....As for your wife stressing about moving, that is a very common reaction to the idea of moving here. What I have found is that once you move here, all of a sudden all kinds of family and friends want to come and visit! With the cost of long distance calls ever falling as well as the internet, keeping in touch with my family all up and down the east coast is very easy. With family emailing as well as calling, we stay in touch several times a week.
Despite the rumors to the contrary, the folks in Hawaii are wonderful. Come, make a home in the community, all of a sudden you will have an electric rice cooker that will stay on the top of your kitchen counter. There will be a pile of rubber slippers (flip-flops) in front of your door, and your best shirt will be made by Reyn-Spooner. You will be "Uncle" to a whole bunch of kids, and you will get all kinds of "Aunties" and "Uncles" yourself. There will be cook outs and pot luck dinners where there is sooooo much food. There will be so much fruit in your kitchen that it will go bad. All the football games are done by noon, so you have the afternoon to go to the beach. Your baseball cap collection will quintuple, your car will always have sand on the floor, and you will soon have all sorts of snorkel gear floating around. One of the worst things that I found too was that going to a fish counter in a market on the mainland you realise that none of that fish would sell in Hawaii because it looks so old.
i watch the evening news faithfully here, read all sorts of mainland newspapers online, then I go outside and watch the sunset or the moon rise over the water, and I think as I have many times over the years, "they just dont understand it "
Yes, this is home now.
wabi