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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:03:08 AM EDT
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fuckin' internet man...
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:05:34 AM EDT
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That's pretty messed up man. I bet you've got to be pretty torn up inside. I know if I caught my wife doing something like that I'd be pretty torn up. (I'm not married, or even seeing anyone right now, though)
I think maybe there's some counselling you should seek with your wife. Find out what the problem is, and see if there's a chance to fix it. On the other hand, I'd be setting up my home network in such a way that I could see what/where all of my family members look at on the web, and I'd be blocking certain sites. I won't be known as 'dad', I will be known as 'The Administrator'. |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:07:11 AM EDT
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It took me a few moments to realize you meant "on the telephone" ETA: I'm really sorry about the whole situation, me making light of your verbiage notwithstanding. |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:09:24 AM EDT
[#4]
The more I read stuff like this, the more I could care less about getting married.
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:11:05 AM EDT
[#5]
+1 |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:17:06 AM EDT
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Good luck. Because there is a marriage and kids, I encourage you to try and work it out (actually the responsbility for working it out is hers, but you;ll likley do the work). But I'm usually pessimistic about people changing because they have been caught. Get tested for STIs. |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:20:56 AM EDT
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Get rid of her or you'll regret it later.
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:24:52 AM EDT
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And another one's gone, and another one's gone.....
Another one bites the dust. One thing for sure. Reading ARFcom every day convinces me conservative folks do not have the lock on family/marriage/morality they think they do. Seeing the number of marriages spiraling down the shitter just on this forum makes me really sad....especially for the kids and family it chews up. |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:30:41 AM EDT
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Ban that site! Obviously the site is what is causing these terrible problems. Sorry for the shit sandwich you were served, but let's cast blame where it belongs. |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:31:06 AM EDT
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Please trust me when I tell you that you need to freeze her ablility to spend money on her own. I have known so many people who think this problem is not as serious as it is. I recommend looking at this as a crisis. She is willing to DESTROY her kids life, her marriage, and herself in order to escape to never-never land. I strongly recommend counseling for the both of you before someone ends up dead. A guy here in Illinois thought his wife stopped and one day he came home and had his head blown off! You may be a Christian, but she no longer is if she was. She first has to repair her mind, and then her soul. If I was in your shoes, I would view her as a drug-dealer in the house. She will lie about anything to avoid judgement and conflict unless she emmotionally feels the need. I would definitely pick up a book on sex-addition to understand her thought processes. I am sorry if this sounds judgemental or like I am trying to tell you what to do, but I wouldn't want something bad happen to an ARFCOMmer. |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:33:20 AM EDT
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This is like the third thread about that site in two days, isn't it?
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:36:50 AM EDT
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blaming the site is like blaming the gun manufacturers for someone getting murdered with a gun. What your wife did was wrong, but SHE did it. It's a shame that a site like that gets so much business. People that cheat are cowards. Every committed relationship goes through hard times, people need to learn to communicate with each other to hash out the problems, instead of running away from them and into someone else's arms.
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Posted: 9/11/2005 9:45:06 AM EDT
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I don't blame the site. It is merely a facilitator or enabler if you will. I do blame my wife. Adding to the problem is she is on anti-depressant meds and has become bi-polar. I found out at least one close girlfriend has been urging her to get help.
I feel a responsibility to see this through. The damage has already been done. Maybe it can be repaired. For those who say ditch her, what advice can you provide for dealing with my two innocent kids? No doubt I'm 50% responsible for this. I recognized the bi-polar problem awhile ago and should have forced her to find a different shrink. Worst part for me is that I remain in love with her. She has completely broke down now for two days sobbing at time as to how she has "broken her vows". Don't know if #3 man involved sex. Am not however, naive. |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 10:08:20 AM EDT
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Posted: 9/11/2005 10:09:59 AM EDT
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http://www.ar15.com/forums/topic.html?b=1&f=5&t=388801
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Posted: 9/11/2005 10:11:14 AM EDT
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I cant agree that you are at fault here and dont let her put it on you. Everyone has to be responsible for their actions , people dont just fall into affairs. Before you guys can move forward from this she has to take 100% of the fault and responsibility. I'm sorry but being depressed etc... doesnt mean you have to find people outside your marriage for sex. Get both of you into counseling good luck |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 10:13:40 AM EDT
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DUPE!!
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Posted: 9/11/2005 10:14:39 AM EDT
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I would stay and try to work it out. It's better to try your hardest, then to always wonder if it could've worked out, had you only... I've gotten trampled a lot with this philosophy, but I have no regrets. You made a vow, you seem like a good christian, and you still love her... The decision seems obvious to me. Good luck, darlin! |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 10:21:22 AM EDT
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Got any pics of her to post here. In case we meet her we need to know to stay away.
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Posted: 9/11/2005 10:21:39 AM EDT
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Posted: 9/11/2005 10:24:10 AM EDT
[#21]
chill out Maynard. Dude is talking about his own personal experience. |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 10:24:53 AM EDT
[#22]
DUPE!!
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Posted: 9/11/2005 10:30:37 AM EDT
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... Why does it appear so many people in this world have lost their ethic coding and wander about without a moral compass in life?
... I just don't understand this behavior at all - this is fundamental GOOD v. EVIL stuff |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 2:24:05 PM EDT
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I'd get rid of her now. More than likely you will never completely trust her again, and you will wonder if she is on someone else's root, and she probably will be.
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Posted: 9/11/2005 2:29:12 PM EDT
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They advertise that website on Television up here (well it may be on the US channels, I have satellite)
I find it despicable and wrong, our society is going to hell in a handbasket |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 6:20:11 PM EDT
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I am going to raise the
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Posted: 9/11/2005 6:23:24 PM EDT
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+2 especially since you're a fellow Christian. |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 6:29:31 PM EDT
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Ya know, I dont think someone who joined ar15.com in 2003 would wait 2 years to direct people to a website........ |
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Posted: 9/11/2005 7:21:16 PM EDT
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introducing the topic by starting off with "anyone heard of this website" seems a little contrived. I can understand wanting to vent about your cheating wife on the internet though
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Posted: 9/13/2005 2:46:20 PM EDT
[#30]
Heron163 ...
Contrived? It's a real story I am sad to say. As an update, spoke to #3 man yesterday. His wife has cancer. Asked him how he would she would feel. My wife called him with me already on the line and explained I knew everything. She may have pre-called him but he sure sounded like someone whose short hairs were being firmly yanked. I asked if it had progressed from more than warm and fuzzy e-mails, text messages and a nervous lunch. He nervously said no. Told him I would find out if it went beyond same and would be predisposed to take further action. After a couple more days reflection, I realize you cannot make someone love you. I also do not "own" her. The first counselor session is next week. I don't know if I'll ever trust her again. Maybe with time, the pain will lessen. Right now, I want to be the best dad I can be to my two kids. My wife broke down crying and for the first time apologized directly to me. Maybe, this will work out. Maybe next week her shit will be in the front yard. I won't know if my marriage is salvageable until I try. |
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Posted: 9/13/2005 2:56:54 PM EDT
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Forgot to add. He called her back less than two minutes after we hung up. He wanted to know if I was going to tell his wife. LOL He was on the line first this time. I told him a little anxiety goes a long way. when I got a "uuuhhhh" response, I told him I had that info tucked away but unless I get provoked, wouldn't use it.
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Posted: 9/13/2005 2:57:24 PM EDT
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I'm glad you two are seeking a counselor. Since you said you are a Christian, goto Church. Don't miss a Sunday. Do things together, and with the children. Sorry to say, you must either shut the internet down for a while or get rid of it all together.
You spend time here and she spends time elsewhere on the internet. Get the picture. Do things together. Go back to whatever you two have in common and work from there. You guys got married for a reason, go back to it. You have kids, you should try for them before you two have it out in court. Too many people call it quits to fast. Don't be one of them. Good luck and god speed. Prayers sent. eta: get a baby sitter and do a date night. Once a week if possible. Nothing fancy. Pick another night, once a week and have the family sit around and play a game. You get the picture. Spend more time together! IM if you want to talk. |
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Posted: 9/13/2005 3:19:39 PM EDT
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she is not your wife anymore.
the truth is you are a paycheck/roof over her head. bipolar and depression is just an excuse for what she did. she cheated on you and that is all there is to it. if she can't be trusted enough to stay faithfull she has no business being a parent. you need to take your child and go. they are always so sorry and then they want it to be like it was. they cheat and it ends up being our fault. they only care about themselves. your religion will not change things. she has always been that way you just found out about it. you can sacrifice your life and stay but you and your child will be better off if you both go. |
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Posted: 9/13/2005 3:41:56 PM EDT
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Unless he owns it, pretty unlikely that he'd have an account here for two years to wait for a chance to plug a website, without even a hotlink or etc to get himself credit for the reference. Odd things to share on the internet, but I don't think he's trolling for the website. |
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Posted: 9/13/2005 4:05:04 PM EDT
[#35]
+100, if they aren't happy and are having these thoughts have the decency to be up front with it. 
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:23:09 AM EDT
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my apologies to evilriflefan... one thing I have learned about the internet is that people do tend to revel in the relative anonymity and post really personal stuff
  best of luck with your stituation |
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:27:02 AM EDT
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I would advise you to leave the men who have persued relations with your wife alone as well as the site. The problem is with your wife. Albeit we are suppose to forgive our trespassers isn't it acceptable that our debtors first ask for forgiveness and seek retribution?
Patty |
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:27:26 AM EDT
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I got 8253 reasons and growing by the day 
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:31:09 AM EDT
[#39]
Counselor will be a nice waste of money. Did they miss a Sunday already, I am not sure why the lord did not lead her out of temptation prior to now? I wish you luck but, IMHO, the damage is done. |
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:35:17 AM EDT
[#40]
tag
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:39:13 AM EDT
[#41]
You shouldnt worry about the guys she is meeting. It seems like a good idea to get back at the guy but there will always be another guy waiting for an opening and you cant fight them all.
You should be worried about why she is meeting other men. You will never stop guys from wanting to bang her untill she stops looking. Good luck I hope yall make it. |
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:41:42 AM EDT
[#42]
+1 Agree completely. |
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:43:36 AM EDT
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what is happening
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:44:20 AM EDT
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I think everyone is overlooking the big picture.
The perfect opportunity for an open marriage  ETA: Maybe try swinging...it's quite exhilarating |
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:46:33 AM EDT
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Is this the real "desperate housewives"?
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:47:14 AM EDT
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Not a lot. What's happening with you?
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:48:56 AM EDT
[#47]
Document everything and kick that bitch to the curb.
Did it once, will do it again. |
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Posted: 9/14/2005 11:51:07 AM EDT
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a lot
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Posted: 9/14/2005 12:00:27 PM EDT
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her crying and sobbing is all a mask....and hell yes u OWN her...she aint gonna change...get rid of her or chain her ass to the water heater and only release her when ur home from work for a surpervised visit...also have the kids point and laugh while she is chained to the water heater..for psychological effects
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Posted: 9/14/2005 12:11:30 PM EDT
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OKay, I'll admit. I went to this site just a sec ago because of this thread. I wanted to see what it had to say. I did not make an account, or attempt at cheating on my wife, but what i did do is click on the man seeking woman in NC, PA, and TX. I'm from TX, wife is from PA, and we're living in NC right now. there were about 150 people registered for NC, and PA, and a little over 300 for TX. To make this scientific, I then clicked I'm a woman seeking a man in the same 3 states. the results came back as the same everytime. "there are more than 1000 registered in this state." Are men really this sick? I told my wife just after and she was not suprised. I guess I'm not either, but it's still kinda sick how many men are willing to cheat on their wives. What for? Some snatch? Is it REALLY worth it? I know I'll never know...
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