Posted: 9/2/2004 7:57:27 AM EDT
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My wife is going through menopause. How long does this usually last? She is about to drive me friggin nuts. She is either burning me up or freezing me to death. She can't remember anything either. She is bleeding for weeks at a time too. Yes. She has been seeing her doctor. She is trying to avoid hormones if possible. I need answers. HELP! P.S. Is the pie as good after as it was before? |
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Well, I hate to give you the bad news, but menopause can last years, depending on the woman. It would be best if you could find out how it went for her mom, that would give you a more accurate idea of what to expect. She really needs to take care of herself right now. Make sure she is eating well and resting, and the symptoms will get better. After it's over, you won't have to worry about the monthly cycle anymore, and her moods will level off. The only down side may be a little dryness, but that is easily remedied. |
Google it--it can last ten years.  A product called "Estroven" is helping my wife. It's some kind of soy-based estrogen "replacement" and it has made a HUGE difference. Those who know my wife know her as the sweetest, most loving and wonderful woman in the world. About a year ago she started to become, well, mean and hateful--for no apparent reason. I was at a complete loss to figure out what *I* had done to cause her so much angst. I knew what it had to be, but suggesting it made things MUCH worse. Finally, she realized she was not herself and talked to the women at work, who told her the husband usually makes the first diagnosis when menopause rears its ugly head. They suggested the Estroven. Her comment after taking the pills (and they are cheap!) summed things up nicely--"Man, I'm not sitting around thinking about killing people any more!" Oh, one word of advice--DO NOT refer to them as "your crazy pills." Bad juju that.  
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Quit wasting you friggin time GET THE HORMONES! This natural BS is BS and living with a she devil that once use to be your wife just doesn't have to be that way. You want natural become a drunk and learn to tune her out which is what our fathers did to cope with it. Sorry to be bitter but we are one of those couples that tried it the hardway. Thank God for those damn pills.  You hear of these divorces after 25-30 years...........well here's the root cause! Tj |
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Been there, done that...twice. Aren't I just freaking lucky? (drug induced to help a disease). I sympathize with you and your wife. It was one of the most hideous things I have been through. The first time I tried it with the hormones, the second time without. There are plenty of hormonal things and herbal things out there. If she doesn't want to try the hormones then def. try the Estroven. To be honest, both with and without the hormones it sucked. |
Godammit, I hate hearing crap like "natural is better" ! WHY DO PEOPLE THINK THIS ??? Hormones are hormones, whether they come from plants or a pharmaceutical company is irrelevant. The only advantage the "natural" versions have is that they are not legally restricted like "real" medicines... the downside is that they are not regulated for safety or efficacy by the FDA, so who the f**k knows what you are putting into your body. If you take this crap, you are a dumbass. Just my 2 cents worth. 
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So tell us how you really feel. |
He's right, but I've seen better deliveries....someone needs to read more Dale Carnegie books..... |
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Yuh, acutally you're wrong. The plant sterols are not as potent as the man made hormones. Also there are sigificant risks associated with hormone replacement therapy (hrt). It has been shown with several studies that there is a much greater risk of breast cancer in women who are using hrt. Also there is greater risk of a thrombrolytic event (blood clot), which could lead to strokes and the like in women who have high blood pressure. Estrogen doesn't seem to protect women from such heart problems as was once thought. The natural hrt's help to a lesser degree, but remember menopause is a natural process, one that evolved in the human race most likely to prevent late life pregancies. Late life pregnacies are dangerous to both woman and child, and menopause is Nature's way of proventing harm... Oh BTW I'm a phamacist just so you know... -sc |
It's my body, so I can choose what to put into it. And as far as being a dumbass, well, name calling is an expected response of the ignorant or intolerant. And re the FDA, weren't they the ones who approved thallidomide? |
First of all, that is my wife you just trashed and you can take your two cents and shove em up your ass! Eionor asked for a WOMANS perspective not a damn loud mouth cry baby wanna be female! You need to read the rules about coming into the womens forum and stirring up shit. You wanted shit, well, you got it. You want to jump on someone, jump on me. Why don't you take your balls out of your wifes purse and try it again.  I can't stand cowards and you are a coward. This is my first negative thread on ARFcom but that is just the way it goes. |