I've noticed a lot of women bashing, their crazy kinds of posts, and yes, I agree with every single one of them.  However, I wanted to dedicate a thread to my insane wife that tells me I'm mean to her when i complain of a bad day, yet, if I don't talk about my day claims I don't want to talk to her anymore.  Tells me to "do what I want" knowing damn well I'm going to choose the "wrong" thing and sulk and/or yell at my stupid ass.  Calls me every name in the book of bad words, yet if I even use the dreaded "B" word (note:  only used twice) the divorce papers are coming.  Sprinkled with "we have nothing in common anymore", "do you have a girlfriend?", blah blah blah, etc.

Deep down though, I love her.

So who's with me.  You know their nuts but you can't help yourself.

Quoted: You know their nuts but you can't help yourself.

You know their nuts?

What kind of wife do you have?

Reason #4856 that I am NOT and NEVER will be getting married.
I am very fucking serious.

For crying out loud. Does she beat you too?

Without going into detail I will just say:     "I feel your pain".

Quoted: For crying out loud. Does she beat you too?

What the fuck kind of a question is that?

He ran into a doorknob.

Quoted: I've noticed a lot of women bashing, their crazy kinds of posts, and yes, I agree with every single one of them.  However, I wanted to dedicate a thread to my insane wife that tells me I'm mean to her when i complain of a bad day, yet, if I don't talk about my day claims I don't want to talk to her anymore.  Tells me to "do what I want" knowing damn well I'm going to choose the "wrong" thing and sulk and/or yell at my stupid ass.  Calls me every name in the book of bad words, yet if I even use the dreaded "B" word (note:  only used twice) the divorce papers are coming.  Sprinkled with "we have nothing in common anymore", "do you have a girlfriend?", blah blah blah, etc. Deep down though, I love her. So who's with me.  You know their nuts but you can't help yourself.

Pathetic.

You wouldn't know a healthy relationship if it bit you in the ass.

Retrieve your manhood and write this on a piece of paper and give it to her the next time she threatens divorce.....DIVORCE=FAVOR......then say nothing and go shootin' with your buds.

The reason so many guys on ARFCOM bitch about women is that they are married to bitches and are too stupid, or pussy-whipped, or just plain co-dependent to do anything about it.

And, really, you're not being a "good guy" by putting up with that from her. You're letting her be an undeveloped, unstable, emotionally abusive screw up, all in the name of "love". Again...

Pathetic. Simply pathetic.

Quoted: I've noticed a lot of women bashing, their crazy kinds of posts, and yes, I agree with every single one of them.  However, I wanted to dedicate a thread to my insane wife that tells me I'm mean to her when i complain of a bad day, yet, if I don't talk about my day claims I don't want to talk to her anymore.  Tells me to "do what I want" knowing damn well I'm going to choose the "wrong" thing and sulk and/or yell at my stupid ass.  Calls me every name in the book of bad words, yet if I even use the dreaded "B" word (note:  only used twice) the divorce papers are coming.  Sprinkled with "we have nothing in common anymore", "do you have a girlfriend?", blah blah blah, etc. Deep down though, I love her. So who's with me.  You know their nuts but you can't help yourself.

Wanna get your relationship back on track, do ya? Punch her in the stomach every day when you get home from work.

Grow some fucking balls dude........scooot!

Quoted: I've noticed a lot of women bashing, their crazy kinds of posts, and yes, I agree with every single one of them.  However, I wanted to dedicate a thread to my insane wife that tells me I'm mean to her when i complain of a bad day, yet, if I don't talk about my day claims I don't want to talk to her anymore.  Tells me to "do what I want" knowing damn well I'm going to choose the "wrong" thing and sulk and/or yell at my stupid ass.  Calls me every name in the book of bad words, yet if I even use the dreaded "B" word (note:  only used twice) the divorce papers are coming.  Sprinkled with "we have nothing in common anymore", "do you have a girlfriend?", blah blah blah, etc. Deep down though, I love her. So who's with me.  You know their nuts but you can't help yourself.

Sounds like my wife. I feel for you bro. Mine went nuts at about 44 years old. She is 50 now and finally starting to act normal again.

ETA: Some women go through this. If you love them you put up with them. I went out and bought a Harley to show her who was boss.  That really pissed her off, so I went out and bought a Mach1 Mustang. She started getting worried. Now she just accepts that she can not control me and she is getting over it.

shes a woman , theyre all crazy..

Quoted: Quoted: For crying out loud. Does she beat you too? What the fuck kind of a question is that? He ran into a doorknob fell down the stairs.

Thats the one my Wife has heard at work, anyway.

Ummmm,

Not the direction I was going for.  I didn't say I didn't get what I wanted either.  After 14 years of being together, she still wants to have sex, I obviously have a 1969 firebird i bought DURING marriage, a boat she hates and a gun safe full of guns (granted I don't discuss the number of them).

Point is I bend and she bends.  In the beginning, I would do all kinds of romantic BS like writing poems, yes, I said poems, etc. and in college my roommates wouldn't know I was even home b/c we were in my bedroom from sundown to sunup.  But now I don't do that anymore and it does bug her.  Now I'm not an ass hole or anything, but if you get accustomed to a certain thing, anyway.  Then when she started to be, well, crazy and that was after seven years of marriage and kids, i didn't know what the hell to do, but then I learned to walk away or direct the discussion in the most logical way possible, which both piss her off.  Even if you are right, calling your other, or anyone for that matter, a name just shows your own ignorance and gives a wife amunition later.

So do any of you guys have women or sex?  I mean come on.  Marriage isn't for everyone and especially those unwilling bend and compromise on their own.  

I am rowing that boat.

The closer I get to wanting to get engaged to my girlfriend the more I think that I should just walk away from this site

Quoted: The closer I get to wanting to get engaged to my girlfriend the more I think that I should just walk away from this site

Apparently so.  is this site full of closet homosexuals?  Commitment freaks?  

For god sakes, you guys please don't get married and don't procreate.  I predict that some of you strutting around pounding your chests will find that girl that "seems" like she is into guns, porn, or whatever you are then you'll "fall in love" Then wake up in that one bedroom appartment with the sherriff looking for you and your back child support.

They all change, some intentionally, some hormonally.  Can't predict when, but it does happen.  If someone wants to get advice on deciding on marriage, then again, if you need advice on that, don't, but if you do, ask a happily married guy.  Don't ask a bunch of single, don't take shit from a woman, I'm a real man, etc. guy.

Quoted: I've noticed a lot of women bashing, their crazy kinds of posts, and yes, I agree with every single one of them.  However, I wanted to dedicate a thread to my insane wife that tells me I'm mean to her when i complain of a bad day, yet, if I don't talk about my day claims I don't want to talk to her anymore.  Tells me to "do what I want" knowing damn well I'm going to choose the "wrong" thing and sulk and/or yell at my stupid ass.  Calls me every name in the book of bad words, yet if I even use the dreaded "B" word (note:  only used twice) the divorce papers are coming.  Sprinkled with "we have nothing in common anymore", "do you have a girlfriend?", blah blah blah, etc. Deep down though, I love her. So who's with me.  You know their nuts but you can't help yourself.

You're addicted to that pussy.

Sorry to be so crude, but its the truth and you need to face up to it.
You are on the verge of marriage (Read: Throwing it all away. At least Half)
You two will not last two years.

First rule is you don't marry anyone you have not lived with for at LEAST two years.
It takes that long to really get to know someone.
From what you stated in your post, you know her well enough to...
RUN FORREST RUN <- like hell dude. And don't look back.

Thank GOD you found the strength to take a pause, and look at the situation. Now look at it from us with likely far more experiences than you've had. You're about to get "took". It's likely going to take you a number of years to find a good woman. Meanwhile, there is more than plenty of ass to tap... find consolation in that, revel in it... and don't look back.

Rule #2 is... if it did'nt work the first time, it definitely won't work the 2nd.
I never re-visit past mistakes. It's always bad.

Move on and conquer brother.

Well, we know who wears the pants in that family.


On a side note, you shouldn't post private info on the site because it will just be used as fodder. Unless you are one of the big ones around here who never get made fun of for anything they post, then you best stick to threads about how cool chuck norris is, etc.....

Quoted: Quoted: The closer I get to wanting to get engaged to my girlfriend the more I think that I should just walk away from this site Apparently so.  is this site full of closet homosexuals?  Commitment freaks?   For god sakes, you guys please don't get married and don't procreate.  I predict that some of you strutting around pounding your chests will find that girl that "seems" like she is into guns, porn, or whatever you are then you'll "fall in love" Then wake up in that one bedroom appartment with the sherriff looking for you and your back child support. They all change, some intentionally, some hormonally.  Can't predict when, but it does happen.  If someone wants to get advice on deciding on marriage, then again, if you need advice on that, don't, but if you do, ask a happily married guy.  Don't ask a bunch of single, don't take shit from a woman, I'm a real man, etc. guy.

I've noticed a lot of women bashing, their crazy kinds of posts, and yes, I agree with every single one of them. However, I wanted to dedicate a thread to my insane wife that tells me I'm mean to her when i complain of a bad day, yet, if I don't talk about my day claims I don't want to talk to her anymore. Tells me to "do what I want" knowing damn well I'm going to choose the "wrong" thing and sulk and/or yell at my stupid ass. Calls me every name in the book of bad words, yet if I even use the dreaded "B" word (note: only used twice) the divorce papers are coming. Sprinkled with "we have nothing in common anymore", "do you have a girlfriend?", blah blah blah, etc

I guess some people do like to be beat and other are cutters and some stay married to abusive people and it makes them happy. It takes all kinds but I cant see what the word happy and your first post would have incommon.
Seems to be a lack of respect by both parties. Im glad we (married 10 years) are missing the drama you are are enjoying.
Good luck to both of ya its great to find a match.  

Whoa, I'm sorry bro, I got you confused with TacticalStrat he

Quoted: Ummmm, Not the direction I was going for.  I didn't say I didn't get what I wanted either.  After 14 years of being together, she still wants to have sex, I obviously have a 1969 firebird i bought DURING marriage, a boat she hates and a gun safe full of guns (granted I don't discuss the number of them). Point is I bend and she bends.  In the beginning, I would do all kinds of romantic BS like writing poems, yes, I said poems, etc. and in college my roommates wouldn't know I was even home b/c we were in my bedroom from sundown to sunup.  But now I don't do that anymore and it does bug her.  Now I'm not an ass hole or anything, but if you get accustomed to a certain thing, anyway.  Then when she started to be, well, crazy and that was after seven years of marriage and kids, i didn't know what the hell to do, but then I learned to walk away or direct the discussion in the most logical way possible, which both piss her off.  Even if you are right, calling your other, or anyone for that matter, a name just shows your own ignorance and gives a wife amunition later. So do any of you guys have women or sex?  I mean come on.  Marriage isn't for everyone and especially those unwilling bend and compromise on their own.

Theres no compromises in my house, no fighting, no issues at all. We agree on just about damn near everything. I spend what we can afford to spare. I do what pleases me and she does what does'nt piss me off. I'm lucky, but... it took a long time to get here. Until about 5yrs ago, I was with and stuck into all sorts of misc. psycho bitch-traps.

I think you should take an hour out of every week, and think about her. What I mean is, you have alot to lose it seems like... and alot of time invested... and if still sexual then things ain't that bad. So take an hour and head to the florist.. or take an hour and make her dinner for a change... or take an hour and buy her a book or a movie SHE wants. Do a little something special and just for her once a week. It'll become a good habit.

Start by getting her a day treatment at a local spa. Facial, waxing, massage, pedicure/manicure, the whole nine yards. Include that gift certificate in a Victoria's secret box. Don't buy the sexiest lingerie though... that would be for YOU... instead, buy her something sexy yet, ideal for her comfort. Then grab a dozen roses and a "thank you for being my wife, even though I can be a big asshole sometimes" card.

That little package will go a hell of a long way. Then don't forget... do a little something every week to keep it going. Good luck!

Quoted: The closer I get to wanting to get engaged to my girlfriend the more I think that I should just walk away from this site

Don't let some of these guys get to you. I've been married 25 years. My wife is my best friend, my confidant, partner in business, and the mother of my child. I would move heaven and earth for both of them.

Joesph Barth wrote this. I think applies here. "Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up."

This is one of my favorites: "Getting a dog is like getting married. It teaches you to be less self-centered, to accept sudden, surprising outbursts of affection, and not to be upset by a few scratches on your car."

Quoted: Quoted: The closer I get to wanting to get engaged to my girlfriend the more I think that I should just walk away from this site Don't let some of these guys get to you. I've been married 25 years. My wife is my best friend, my confidant, partner in business, and the mother of my child. I would move heaven and earth for both of them. Joesph Barth wrote this. I think applies here. "Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up." This is one of my favorites: "Getting a dog is like getting married. It teaches you to be less self-centered, to accept sudden, surprising outbursts of affection, and not to be upset by a few scratches on your car."

Where in any of my posts did I put anything about being abused?  

I realize that puting personal info on this site can result in less than desired responses, but I never really got "personal".  I just pointed out that my wife on certain occasions, as most women, live by their emotions, which results in "insanity".  Believe me, on a day to day basis we are fine.  The POINT was for those guys, and I guess there aren't any here, that even in spite of the occasional irrational outburst, still love their wives.  I won't go into detail, but what you don't know is that during the "rougher" patches there were some very extreme life changing events that took place.  Like I've been saying, women rule by emotion and any emotional event can cause insane reactions.

Quoted: Where in any of my posts did I put anything about being abused?

Well gee, do you think this is normal or good:
-"my insane wife that tells me I'm mean to her when i complain of a bad day, yet, if I don't talk about my day claims I don't want to talk to her anymore."
-"Tells me to "do what I want" knowing damn well I'm going to choose the "wrong" thing and sulk and/or yell at my stupid ass."
-"Calls me every name in the book of bad words"
-"Sprinkled with "we have nothing in common anymore", "do you have a girlfriend?""

That is not a normal, healthy relationship. But you put up with it like a doormat.

Quoted: Quoted: Where in any of my posts did I put anything about being abused?   Well gee, do you think this is normal or good: -"my insane wife that tells me I'm mean to her when i complain of a bad day, yet, if I don't talk about my day claims I don't want to talk to her anymore." -"Tells me to "do what I want" knowing damn well I'm going to choose the "wrong" thing and sulk and/or yell at my stupid ass." -"Calls me every name in the book of bad words" -"Sprinkled with "we have nothing in common anymore", "do you have a girlfriend?"" That is not a normal, healthy relationship. But you put up with it like a doormat.

No it's not put up with, unless of course you mean that I should walk out the door and never come back.  These are examples, of mostly single occurances, not repeated daily things.  I will say "insane" is a bad choice of words, i only use it since that has been the common usage for women around here.  
This is about exageration.  I applaud all you guys that are in a relationship that don't have a SINGLE disagreement.  Whatever.  I am serious about the name calling though, but not b/c I'm scared of her or anything, but out of respect and since I know that no disagreement gets anywhere with name calling.  When the discussion/argument is over and I've kept my cool, she will apologize for saying what she did.  Then we hook up.  Besides, I know that when she resorts to name calling, it's because I'm winning and she can't say anything else.  This is NOT a daily or even weekly occurance.

I approached this subject all wrong I guess.  I meant to be a funny/sarcastic post that ended up being a "you're a doormat" attack me post.    What I didn't say about the times that the irrationality sets in revolves around me getting home MUCH later at night, and usually drinking.  One time in particular, I said I wanted to play poker after work one day.  Well she said, it's up to me, so I do.  Well I was out really late, intoxicated and didn't answer my phone.  As a result, she went off.  As a guy, you think, so what.  As woman, which is my point, get feelings hurt and lash out.  

Your thread seems like a cry for help.

Exactly.....

Help, I'm surrounded by women haters and commitment phobes