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Posted: 9/12/2004 9:03:04 AM EST

My old roommate, who I lived with for a little under a year, came out of the closet a few months after we went our separate ways. This was no surprise to me of course, as when you are in such close contact with someone for such a long period, you begin to pick up on the signs. Also, the gay porn links and google searches I would find on my computer when I came home were another indicator.

He was, and still is, a terrific guy, and I am not uncomfortable around him at all. No, he never made any moves on me or flirted or anything like that. I was completely fine with sharing a living space with him, and I would consider rooming with him again if we didn't live in different cities now.

So, anyone else have any gay friends or relatives? Has it been difficult, or are you comfortable being around them?

Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:04:32 AM EST
No I don't. It's not that they bother me but I do not care about their lifestyle.

Smae reason I don't have liberal friends.

SGat1r5
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:05:17 AM EST
Nope. The only one who would have qualified died of AIDS back in the 80's.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:05:56 AM EST
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:06:10 AM EST
A nephew.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:07:07 AM EST
I have a couple of gay aquaintances, they dont hit on me so we're cool. Plus they know all the chicks, so it helps to know them
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:07:48 AM EST
There's a lot of gay in my fiancee's family and circle of friends.

Her sister is gay, and is living with another chick.

Her aunt is gay, and living with another woman.

Her best friend in the world was gay (died a few years ago from AIDS), and she still keeps in touch with a lot of their friends.

A really good friend and colleague of hers at her university is gay.

So I know - through her - five gay people really well, and a smattering of other ones that I've met a few times.

Then I also have a couple of colleagues at other universities that I know really well that might be gay, but aren't out - so that may make a couple more.

The only one I have a "problem" with ocacsionally is my fiancee's sister, but it's not related AT ALL to her being gay, but just to her being a bitch (and everyone knows that).
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:08:52 AM EST
[Last Edit: 9/12/2004 9:11:09 AM EST by raven]
Not really. I met openly gay people on a personal level for the first time in college out of state, when I was 21. Became friends with a hilarious and fun guy named Justin who was gay but when he started feeling me up and stuff after knowing him a few months and told him to cool it, he decided he didn't want to be friends anymore.

A boss of mine was gay, had a boyfriend, but he kept it very low-key. I sometimes wonder who in my high school class turned out to be gay. To my knowledge, nobody was. Alaska's pretty conservative place.

OH WAIT! I'm forgetting the obvious; my good friend's mother. She's a lesbian and has been living with a woman for almost all the time I've known her. She's great, let my friend basically get away with murder (grow pot in his room, parties, band practice, live-in girlfriend when he was 15). Her gayness and being a parent was weird at first, but I really love her now.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:11:24 AM EST
I worked in the Travel Business for over 10 years AND was in SFO for 3 of those years.

Yup, I had LOTS of gay friends and co-workers.

I am what you can call "terminally hetrosexual".

Never had any issues with any of them. Most were professional at work, and kept their personal lives out of the office. The only time that they would "let down their hair" was when we'd go out after work or be traveling on business (after hours again). Even then they we're just pretty much regular people with hopes, dreams and all the ups and downs that surround any relationship (gay or straight).
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:12:39 AM EST
Yup. I could care less. Even at a really good houseparty he throws a couple times a year, I will have a conversation with him while some other dude is playing with his hair. There are enough semi and unclothed women at the party, especially later on in the evening, to shrug off any guys doing verboten things.

Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:14:14 AM EST
fortunately enough, not that i know of
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:15:20 AM EST

No.

I guess they're like conservative Democrats... I keep hearing about them, but I don't know any.

Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:15:45 AM EST
after college, my roommate of four years turned gay. it appeared to be an obvious women/lack-of-sex issue.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:16:15 AM EST
I am in the Bay Area and don't have any gay friends or acquaintances.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:17:10 AM EST
[Last Edit: 9/12/2004 9:18:27 AM EST by Kamikazi]
My next door neighbors to my left (literally) are gay. I also once had an openly gay boss. Talked gay, did that limp wrist a lot. Then had a small mouring party at work cause his "parnter" died of cancer or something.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:21:14 AM EST
Yes. My uncle is gay. Also, my best friend is atleast bi-sexual('m straight). He has just yet to come out of the closet
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:21:36 AM EST
[Last Edit: 9/12/2004 9:27:04 AM EST by thompsondd]
Used to have two different sets of neighbors, one gay, one lesibian (out of a total of 5 houses on the street). They were great neighbors. All very nice, friendly people. The kept their houses immaculate. I would have done anything for any of them and know they would have done the same for my family.

The 'gay' guys actually started out as a young married couple with a small child when we first moved in. The husband came out of the closet and the wife obviously left taking the child with her. The other guy moved in shortly after. The mother couldn't raise him on her own (or didn't want to - sometimes it seemed like both), so she signed him over to the father. She remained active in the child's life, but just wasn't the sole responsible 'parent'. The ex-wife and the new 'boyfriend', as well as the 'husband' were all old friends. It was kinda weird, but the ex-wife and the 'boyfriend' remained very good friends, giving each other birthday and Christmas presents. They all got along very well.

While I don't approve of the lifestyle, I also don't hate those who live it. (whether they were 'born' that way or 'chose' it, I don't really care). When the guys asked if it bothered me, I explained it rather simply to them; 'as long as you don't try to screw with me or my kids, and as long as you aren't humping each other in the middle of the street, what you do INSIDE your house doesn't bother me. However, if you ever do try to mess with either me or my kids, I will neuter you on the spot and render you usless to the other one.' Like I said, never had a problem out of them. Actually, I kinda miss living next to them cause they had some really HOT chicks for 'friends'.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:21:40 AM EST
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:24:38 AM EST

Originally Posted By Airwolf:
I worked in the Travel Business for over 10 years AND was in SFO for 3 of those years.

Yup, I had LOTS of gay friends and co-workers.

I am what you can call "terminally hetrosexual".

Never had any issues with any of them. Most were professional at work, and kept their personal lives out of the office. The only time that they would "let down their hair" was when we'd go out after work or be traveling on business (after hours again). Even then they we're just pretty much regular people with hopes, dreams and all the ups and downs that surround any relationship (gay or straight).



Pretty much the same for me when I worked in Mental-Health. It's (The field) something of an 'Enclave" for gays and lesbians so it's not hard to find yourself working with them. 14 yrs ago or so I was the house manager for a state pilot project doing community integration with some hard to place MR/DD clients and my entire swing shift was made up of gays.

I'll say this though. Although I've worked with and known alot of gay DUDE's that I would term "Happy" or at least not insufferable to spend a day around I don't think I've ever met or known a truly happy lesbian.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:25:47 AM EST
I have a gay uncle, but he's a complete fucking worthless sack of shit, regardless of his sexual orientation, so he's not a real good case.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:26:24 AM EST
I have a couple of gay relatives. In college I also worked at a gunshop/army surplus/police supply shop that was owned by two lesbians.

I've never met a homosexual that was a bad person simply because they were gay. There's gay assholes, bitches, cunts, just like there's straight ones. I choose not to hang out with anyone who's entire being comes from their sexual preference. That extends to straight guys that spend every waking moment trying to be a "player" just as much as it does to flaming fags or raging flannel wearing bull-dykes.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:29:05 AM EST
Only the HOMOs from this site!
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:30:15 AM EST
Nope
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:47:24 AM EST
Sister left for collage hetro came back from MI with a PHD and a lesbian relationship.

She now has her own practice and a wedding coming up next year that I have to decide wether I'm
going to or not.


GM
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:49:58 AM EST
Hells fucking no! My girlfriends all tell me I have a nice ass, there's no way the gay man would be able to resist it, so I just stay away from them altogether so that there's no conversation like "Hey Greg, have you ever had a homosexual experience? ..... Well how do you know you wouldn't like it until you try it?"
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:50:08 AM EST
My Brother-in-law is 36 years old never had a girl friend, has a six figure income and just went on vacation to Spain with his "Buddy". His mother say's he "Pickey" I think he takes it in the back doorWhat do you think? Am I wrong??
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:55:17 AM EST

Originally Posted By AvengeR15:
My old roommate, who I lived with for a little under a year, came out of the closet a few months after we went our separate ways. This was no surprise to me of course, as when you are in such close contact with someone for such a long period, you begin to pick up on the signs. Also, the gay porn links and google searches I would find on my computer when I came home were another indicator.

He was, and still is, a terrific guy, and I am not uncomfortable around him at all. No, he never made any moves on me or flirted or anything like that. I was completely fine with sharing a living space with him, and I would consider rooming with him again if we didn't live in different cities now.

So, anyone else have any gay friends or relatives? Has it been difficult, or are you comfortable being around them?





You didn't figure it out when his dick tasted like shit?





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Link Posted: 9/12/2004 9:59:56 AM EST
One of my managers at work is gay, the only thing that bothers me is when he plays annoying techno music.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 10:01:59 AM EST
When I was with the Enon Voulnteer Fire Department there was a gay fireman there. His name was George, we called him "Gay Gorge". He was a good guy and didn't mind the nick name. He was a OKAY firefighter and mostly did paper work at the station. He was more or less the station paper work bitch.

He had a boyfriend that he would bring to the yearly company dinners and occasionaly to the station. We would tease and ask who was wearing the dress this year, LOL.

He worked as a prison guard at a male juvenile prison for a living. He got caught solicting teen porn. Some Postal Police agent posed online as a gay guy and offered pictures, then told him he was 17 after they were in the mail. The sad part was that the pics were being sent to his mail box at the fire station.

And what was really strange was that the fire cheif from the next station over worked with the US Attorneys office as a special investigator. He did surevalence and internet crime stuff, the cheif would constantly drop hints to George that he needed to be careful online and not get caught up in trading pics online. I guess this was before they had anything solid on him.

I wasn't mad at him for it, that could happen to anyone gay or strait.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 10:02:22 AM EST
A guy I've known since we were kids decided 2 years ago that he was Gay after being
married for 20 something years . I haven’t really sat down and talked to him about it because I've moved since my divorce and don't see him that much any more . It's kind of strange though ....... I remember back when we were in our late teens and early 20's he always got the Hottie babes , Now I'm guessing it's because he had more in common with them then I or anyone ever knew . I still consider him to be my friend , but I don't think I will ever understand what makes him or anyone make that choice
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 10:04:04 AM EST
I have a cousin who's gay. Several gay's in my wife's family. I work with several. I get along with all of them OK. I don't understand it, but whatever. It's their life.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 10:08:23 AM EST

Originally Posted By Treadhead:

I'll say this though. Although I've worked with and known alot of gay DUDE's that I would term "Happy" or at least not insufferable to spend a day around I don't think I've ever met or known a truly happy lesbian.



That made me think real hard about my Gay aquiantances and co-workers.

I never really thought about that but you're right. The guys tended to be funny, relaxed and socialable. The women tended to be uptight, always on edge and acting like they were over-compensating in almost everything that they did.

Hmmmm.....?
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 10:08:40 AM EST

Originally Posted By chrome1:
A guy I've known since we were kids decided 2 years ago that he was Gay after being
married for 20 something years . I haven’t really sat down and talked to him about it because I've moved since my divorce and don't see him that much any more . It's kind of strange though ....... I remember back when we were in our late teens and early 20's he always got the Hottie babes , Now I'm guessing it's because he had more in common with them then I or anyone ever knew . I still consider him to be my friend , but I don't think I will ever understand what makes him or anyone make that choice



That's actually something that pisses me off. People that get married and have these fake lives when in reality they are gay. It just seems like such a shitty thing to do to someone. You have them waste their younger years with someone they thought they would grow old with, and the whole time you know in the back of your mind that you don't or can't really love them. Pretty scummy.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 10:10:46 AM EST
My brother's gay and, for lack of a better term, went nuts trying to reconcile that with his deep Catholic beliefs. He's got this 'self-hating' angst roiling just under the surface - you can see that he's barely able to keep in under control. When we meet, he's fine for a few hours then **BOOM** he flies off the handle. He's that way with everyone in the family.

Needless to say, we don't see each other much. Shame really.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 10:21:39 AM EST
I have a question for your question - why call homosexuals gay? Whats so happy about aids???By calling a homosexual a homosexual you are not name calling you are being accurate and not PC. just wondering.....
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 10:27:54 AM EST

Originally Posted By norman74:

Originally Posted By chrome1:
A guy I've known since we were kids decided 2 years ago that he was Gay after being
married for 20 something years . I haven’t really sat down and talked to him about it because I've moved since my divorce and don't see him that much any more . It's kind of strange though ....... I remember back when we were in our late teens and early 20's he always got the Hottie babes , Now I'm guessing it's because he had more in common with them then I or anyone ever knew . I still consider him to be my friend , but I don't think I will ever understand what makes him or anyone make that choice



That's actually something that pisses me off. People that get married and have these fake lives when in reality they are gay. It just seems like such a shitty thing to do to someone. You have them waste their younger years with someone they thought they would grow old with, and the whole time you know in the back of your mind that you don't or can't really love them. Pretty scummy.




It really is an interesting question as to WHY people would do that.

I'm guessing it's either because they don't really understand their sexuality, or are so busy denying it that they think doing "the right things" like getting married and having children will resolve their dilemma/confusion. Some of them probably do - and stick it out in a hetero relationship, and other obviously can't handle it - and eventually bail.

In part, the social stigma and pressures of the past against homosexuality probably contributed to some of this - where these people got married and had children because they "ought to" - I dunno, despite my fiancee's many gay relatives and friends, I don't really care enough about it one way or the other to really try to understand it.


However, I'm sure a guy walking out on his marriage because he's gay (or the woman leaving because she's lesbo) is ANY WORSE than people walking out on their marriages for all sorts of other reasons - like dumping a 20-year marriage to poke a 19-year old cheerleader or something.

Link Posted: 9/12/2004 10:33:46 AM EST
Used to know a couple of people who were gay. Don't talk to them anymore, but it's not because they're gay.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 11:13:27 AM EST

Originally Posted By DK-Prof:
However, I'm sure a guy walking out on his marriage because he's gay (or the woman leaving because she's lesbo) is ANY WORSE than people walking out on their marriages for all sorts of other reasons - like dumping a 20-year marriage to poke a 19-year old cheerleader or something.




My problem with it is that its deceiptful. Granted, alot of these people are probably lying to themselves as well as their partners, but it's still shitty. To lie for years and years to someone that's possibly the father/mother of your child is pretty low.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 11:22:17 AM EST
Yes I have relatives who are gay. They are pretty cool.

On the living a lie thing, it used to be quite common. It can be very dangerous being outed in a small town or rural America.

In urban areas, and since we are more permissive, it is easier to come out.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 11:27:30 AM EST
No. Dont care to have any either.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 11:36:33 AM EST
The GF's sister is gay, and for a while when I lived in St. Louis (which has a HUGE gay population) I was showing condos on the side for a developer (in the Soulard area) and I showed a lot of ONE BEDROOM condos to TWO guys. Some were obviously gay, some didn't project the "image".

My GF at that time and I always joked that if I dropped anything at all I should just kick it until I got to a corner to pick it up.

When I lived in the Bay Area I worked with a lesbian and a gay guy (out of 65 people in the office), both were otherwise normal individuals and didn't attempt to project their beliefs or lifestyle on anyone.

So, all in all, if they leave me alone I leave them alone.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 11:37:37 AM EST
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 12:11:11 PM EST
There is a lesbian couple in my tavern pool league.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 12:24:18 PM EST

Originally Posted By 0351-ROCKETS:
I have a question for your question - why call homosexuals gay? Whats so happy about aids???By calling a homosexual a homosexual you are not name calling you are being accurate and not PC. just wondering.....



Since AIDS is and always has been a predominantly heterosexual disease in the entire world, and is rapidly becoming so in the US also this question makes you look like a dumb democrat that parrots cliches without thinking.Trying to deny the common parlance for a taxonomic techiclaity is the sign of a narrow mind. (It's fairly common among enthusiasts of various denominationa. You know the guys that come untwisted or get twisted when somebody refers to a weapon in a picture as an M-16 and some rivet counter jumps him [whine] "that's an M-4 not an M-16[/whine] [whine] Thats a Firebird MK-IIII, not a Firebird Wazoo, they made MK-iis in 68-70 and Wazoos after that, see they moved the name plate two inches lower."[/whine]
In other words who the hell cares? Do you spend your life walking around correcting folks on other issues or is this one the only one that's got your shorts twisted? Just wondering?
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 12:31:37 PM EST
My grandfather remarried after my grandmaother died. ONe of her sons was gay. IVe only met him once or twice but hes a really nice guy.

I have a good reason to believe that at least half the board members here including team members are gay. Does it bother me? No. Will I tease them for being gay? Of course not.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 12:34:21 PM EST
No but we had the Lesbian Fest in town today.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 12:36:04 PM EST

Originally Posted By Paul:
No. My friends are either military or retired military or otherwise moral people.


Link Posted: 9/12/2004 12:54:16 PM EST
No. I think a cousin by marriage is a flaming homo, but that is no surprise. I haven't seen him in probably 10 years and don't give a rat's ass if I ever see him again.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 1:33:23 PM EST
Yep...mostly lesbians though, most gay men get on my nerves.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 1:34:26 PM EST
I work with a few gay guys and girls. No issues. Majority of them are nicer than their heterosexual counterparts. All are outstanding at their jobs. None have "tried anything". One older gentleman recently lost his.. er.. "partner" of almost 50 years to alzheimers. His grief was no less true and no less valid than that of any widower in the same situation.
Link Posted: 9/12/2004 1:39:47 PM EST
Not anyone in my family (that I know of), but I know this one woman who is lesbian/bi...we're good friends, and she's pretty hot and all...we can talk about the raunchiest things, too...it's like talking with one of the guys...and yes, I've seen her naked...
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