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SIIHPAPP I can't believe it took till page two for this to be posted. You guys are slipping. There could be a point here. She could sense who the Alpha Dog is in the house and is trying to win you over aggressively. She already likes: Where you live What you watch What you eat Your choice in friends She wants you. It's obvious. Walking around naked will only escalate the temptation anyway. Tag, bag, teabag. Who needs Match.com?  I'd rather saw my dick off, then pull out my fingernails with a rusty needle nose pliars. There it is disgust, mix with frustration, divert it into assertion and be prepared to call the cops again. |
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tell your roommate to grow a pair and ditch the trash for everyones betterment...after all, you stated you two were good friends. Oh yea, also check to see where the hell your balls went too. fucking man up and take care of your home, quit being such a fuckin puss. 
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| I agree with those that suggest you move out. Just relaying how the laws work down in Bexar Co., Texas - not that I agree with them. These types of matters could be considered as a "civil matter" , just depending on how long a person has stayed in the dwelling, if they're getting mail there, or have property / clothes there. The problem is that you have a room mate that is on the lease, who invites a third party there. Your room mate would have just as much right to invite whoever he wanted there, despite your objections to it. Once one of these "bums" takes up residency; generally been there at least a month , been accepted there by someone on the lease, they have clothing and/or mail / ID says that they live there , regardless if they pay rent, then they may have "rights". Some folks might choose to go through an eviction process , although it's best not to waste your time by evicting part of the problem (RMGF), as (RM) might invite problem back later because "she changed". It would be best to just evict current (RM) and (RMGF) if you choose not to move out. Down here the constable's office handles civil law matters and evictions, this can take anywhere from 30 - 90 days for the other half to be out of your property legally, and there are court fees. Even down here in Bexar Co. you may get different answers on your rights vs. their rights, as these problems can have gray areas for criminal law enforcement, therefore it's best handled by officers(constables) who deal all the time with civil law. Good luck. |
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I only made it halfway through the first page, so please forgive me if someone already suggested this and the OP agreed to it.
OP, you need to reach down and grab a handful of balls and then tell your roommate that his girlfriend is making your life miserable, and that it's a dick thing to do to give her carte blanche to do what she likes when he's not there. If she is doing this shit and he knows about it, then he shares some responsibility for it since he brought this suppurating gash into your quiet apartment and won't put her ass in check. She's his girlfriend, so it's no problem for her to be there when he's there as long as she's going to act like a decent human being at the time, but tell him that she has a home and, when he's not in the apartment, she should watch TV, eat and make a fucking mess there, not at your place. Also, I doubt the landlord would be happy to know that one of the lessees is making copies of the key and giving them out to people not on the lease. The landlord would probably be no happier with that than with you putting a lock on your bedroom door, huh? Your roommate won't do it on his own and if it's important enough for you to rant about it here, you should have long since drawn a line in the sand and forced him to toe that fucking line or GTFO with his nasty cow. |
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100% your fault at this point.
Sure, she's a pushy bitch. News flash: they exist, and you will get walked on your entire life if you can't get over your "nice guy" confusion, which is apparently that anyone can do anything, and if you allow it you're a "nice guy." After all the drama described in your first post –– police and all –– you let this bitch stay in the apartment! WTF, man. WTF. If you can move out, move out. If you can't move out, you have a choice: 1. Roll over and be her bitch. 2. Stand your ground. If that means calling the police, call the police. If that means some hard conversations with your "friend" –– yeah, he's allowing this, so it's "Hos before bros" apparently with him. WTF is he doing giving someone not on the lease a key. |
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GET OUT!
He may be your "friend" but obviously he has ZERO respect for you, your space, or your property, and neither does she. He's just enabling her behavior. She isn't on the lease, probably can't be, and she is only a guest in YOUR home, as you pay bills and have a stake in the place, and she doesn't, and she doesn't behave like a guest should. Start looking on craigslist, ebay, or the local classifieds for a new apartment and a new roommate. |
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810.08 Trespass in structure or conveyance.––
(1) Whoever, without being authorized, licensed, or invited, willfully enters or remains in any structure or conveyance, or, having been authorized, licensed, or invited, is warned by the owner or lessee of the premises, or by a person authorized by the owner or lessee, to depart and refuses to do so, commits the offense of trespass in a structure or conveyance. |
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When your room is broken into because she was toooo much of a self centered cunt to lock the door, your dickless roommate will still be dickless and your shit will be gone. Move or have him move, this will not end well. If I were the OP, the least complicated thing I would be doing is me moving, post-haste. |
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Tell her she need to leave and not come back. Watch Dawn of the dead everynight at 3am at full volume to encourage her. Wear your pistol at all times, also when possible carry a rifle This would be brandishing right? = jail? You can't brandish in your own home. Jesus christ, you really are scared of this chick. Just move out. Fuck your roommate. |
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I also forgot to mention that when she is bitchy she makes my life hard! She makes noises to annoy me, turns the TV up, puts on lifetime (even if I am watching something). Pretty much makes it difficult for me to enjoy my life. Yesterday I stayed at a friends till 1am because I did not want to deal with her shit. I wish Florida had laws that if someone made your life hard to deal with at your home you could call the police. (she does this when my roommate is there) I say fuck that bullshit. Regain your balls and throw her trespassing ass out, and tell her to stay out. You are going to have her arrested for trespass the next time. Don't threaten her with that, just make it happen. Unfortunately, your moron room mate gave her a key, so I doubt you can have her charged with breaking and entering. Tell the room mate that there will be rules set down that she will comply with to the letter before she's allowed back in. Period, dot. Don't take any bull from the guy. The rules start with, "You are a guest, and you will behave in the customary manner of guests. If you don't like it, get the fuck out now." Then, "You are never permitted in this apartment without one of us present when you arrive. If you don't like this rule, get the fuck out now." Then, "You will clean up any mess you make for yourself or [insert boyfriend's name]. If you don't like this rule, get the fuck out now." and so on. Finish with, "These rules are non-negotiable. I [girlfriend's name] understand these rules and agree to these terms. Then have her sign off on the rules, or "Get the fuck out!" Do this. Or move out. Or shut the fuck up. You have three options. Pick one. |
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Tag to see if someone grows a set.
If you know your roommate isn't going to be in the apartment during certain hours then sit in a chair with a porn DVD playing and be polishing the high hard one in plain view when she walks in the door. Police have told her to not be there, you have told her to not be there, a man's house is his castle, he can jerk one off in the nude in his castle. Set up a hidden video camera in your room, leave a twenty wrapped in a role of ones in your room. When it gets stolen by her and you have it on video have her arrested for stealing your part of the rent (just tell your roommate it was the full rent amount), have roommate pay your half of the rent that month due to his girlfriend stealing your rent money. Problem solved. |
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You deal with a chicks issues like this on a regular basis and are getting ZERO pie out of it ?
I do not think it's your room-mate who is 'the tool' 
ETA Just 1 domestic disturbance issue that miss psycho claims occured and you can kiss your gun rights goodbye for life. You better wisen up quick pal or you are in for a good fu&%in ( and she's on top ) |
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I'm a landlord. If you break your lease and move out, they can get a civil judgement against you for the remaining rent. You'll be screwing yourself as judgements can show up on credit reports and also keep you from getting a positive reference for your next apartment. Soooo, you can either have the cops arrest her the next time she does the "appearing" act, but it will look funny that she was supplied with a key by one of the residents. I doubt if anyone would prosecute. Either way, your roommate is going to be highly pissed and you'll have to deal with that. You could tell the apartments about the situation and they could ban her from the premises - again, your roommate will be very pissed. Or - you can put a lock on your bedroom and move out in five months. Return the original door knob when you leave. During the remaining five months, let your roommate know that you expect him to pick up a greater share of the expenses because of the costs incurred by her continued presence. It's a crappy situation. Figure out which option causes you the least grief and then follow it. In the end, chalk it up to a learning experience about picking roommates. |
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Just bide your time and leave when the lease is up. If you are good freinds with your roomie, then have a discussion with him. Calm, level headed and as unemotional as you can be. I've had to tell a couple of friends that their girlfriends were breaking up "the group" dynamic with our usual friends. I (was designated by the group) pointed out who we used to hang out with and do things with and who was still around. I guess the weird a$$ monkey sex (or whatever) was too much to give up for them and they stayed with their GF's. "Yoko" gets tossed around when we discuss things these days and we no longer see or hear from those guys any more. Friendship is defined differently for some. We got it out there and off our chests and he chose. They are whipped and can't even "go out with us" when we do things like a motorcycle ride or whatever. That's cool. We tried to be nice and inclusive when they first got together but knew right away that things would not go well if she(s) stuck around. The way she(s) acted and spoke was embarrassing and demeaning toward them. I would guess they wanted a "mother hen" and got what they wanted. We have all moved on and still keep in touch with each other......except for those two guys and their "others".
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Get a cheap digital voice recorder. Leave it where she will see it. When curiosity gets the best of her and she asks about it tell her that you've been recording her and bring up the part about her admitting she'd lie to the cops.
I can promise you she won't utter one syllable around you ever again if she thinks she's being recorded. She may avoid you at all costs. |
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Get a cheap digital voice recorder. Leave it where she will see it. When curiosity gets the best of her and she asks about it tell her that you've been recording her and bring up the part about her admitting she'd lie to the cops. I can promise you she won't utter one syllable around you ever again if she thinks she's being recorded. She may avoid you at all costs. Don't try to secretly record her. IIRC this is ILLEGAL in FL. Secret Audio recordings are out. For some reason video without audio is ok. |
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Go file a restraining order against her.
I see you edited this, so I will respond anyway. Your room mate doesn't seem to mind hurting your feelings. You should be just as angry with him as her. I edited to avoid the "you're ghey" posters. (I am not) I will talk to my roommate about it. if your worried about bing called "you're ghey", then change that avatar... It seems really "GHEY", just saying... |
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Get a cheap digital voice recorder. Leave it where she will see it. When curiosity gets the best of her and she asks about it tell her that you've been recording her and bring up the part about her admitting she'd lie to the cops. I can promise you she won't utter one syllable around you ever again if she thinks she's being recorded. She may avoid you at all costs. Don't try to secretly record her. IIRC this is ILLEGAL in FL. Secret Audio recordings are out. For some reason video without audio is ok. Don't record her. Let her THINK she's been recorded. Having her worrying whether her own words could come back to bite her can be enough to obtain his objective. |
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I'm a landlord. If you break your lease and move out, they can get a civil judgement against you for the remaining rent. You'll be screwing yourself as judgements can show up on credit reports and also keep you from getting a positive reference for your next apartment. Soooo, you can either have the cops arrest her the next time she does the "appearing" act, but it will look funny that she was supplied with a key by one of the residents. I doubt if anyone would prosecute. Either way, your roommate is going to be highly pissed and you'll have to deal with that. You could tell the apartments about the situation and they could ban her from the premises - again, your roommate will be very pissed. Or - you can put a lock on your bedroom and move out in five months. Return the original door knob when you leave. During the remaining five months, let your roommate know that you expect him to pick up a greater share of the expenses because of the costs incurred by her continued presence. It's a crappy situation. Figure out which option causes you the least grief and then follow it. In the end, chalk it up to a learning experience about picking roommates. There it is. Going back to my post, get a lock on your bedroom. Put EVERYTHING that is yours in there and live out of it, she grabs YOUR soda from the fridge then put your soda in your room and use the fridge for ice to cool your drink. Make it so that EVERYTHING she consumes or uses in the apartment, when your roommate is there, is his and his alone. Don't cater to the bitch. Then, when your roommate is out, bar the fucking door so that whatshersnatch can't come in while he's not there because she is a non-invited guest. She doesn't like it? Who's she going to complain to? Management? Police? Have her show them where she is on the lease yet again and watch her get legally turned away. But there is that problem where it IS possible for somebody to establish residence, however if she's living at home with the parents and you can prove that then she's gonna have no legs to stand on I believe. All boils down to how difficult you want to make the remaining 5 months of the lease. If you're a stubborn asshole who does things on principle alone type of guy. I vote to nail the bitch to the wall and hope she doesn't turn out to be the vindictive life ruining sort that seeks to get even with you at whatever the cost. |
Listen man, if she is a basket case, as it appears that she is acting, you have EBRs that she could make some kind of complaint about, or she could tell some thief/friend of hers and your EBRs could disappear (especially since she has a key) she could accuse you of assault, she could scream rape, etc. You could be in a lot of liability risk because of this unstable chick. I'd move immediately, and if you can't, I'd set up a surveillance camera, put a deadbolt on my door and lock up my "stuff" until you can move. Columbia lib-tards think that they are "entitled" and "enlightened" and therefore bear your suspicion and your scrutiny. 
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Get a cheap digital voice recorder. Leave it where she will see it. When curiosity gets the best of her and she asks about it tell her that you've been recording her and bring up the part about her admitting she'd lie to the cops. I can promise you she won't utter one syllable around you ever again if she thinks she's being recorded. She may avoid you at all costs. Don't try to secretly record her. IIRC this is ILLEGAL in FL. Secret Audio recordings are out. For some reason video without audio is ok. Thats it!, get a cheap cam then set it up and record her..... |
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Get out. You can't have her trespassed if she was invited by your roomate. Especially if she was given a key. If you are going to do anything about her you have the have the support of your roomate, who sounds like a doormat. You should be GTG on the walking around nude in your own house, I would leave guns out of the equation.
BTW, where in FL are you? |
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She then said "I will make up lies against you" so you stay in jail.
This ENDS EVERYTHING. OK... I've been down roads like this. I was an old frat guy 15 years ago. Every guy eventually wants out of the frat house and to get his own apartment. That usually means a roommate. You choose this roommate from your group of friends. These are people that you like and trust. Living with them where you share bills and pay rent is the FASTEST way to END the friendship. I've had a number of roommates from my old friends. Do you know how many of them I was STILL friends with after living with them? That's right... NONE. The #1 reason for the deterioration of the friendship was a girlfriend, followed closely by not paying their way. At the age that you have to have roommates, guys are stupid. Don't take offense at that. It's true. I was, too. Your friend is finally getting someone to play with his wee-wee on a fairly regular basis. This makes him insane. It is like being a drug addict. I once dropped a class that I needed to have to graduate because it was an 8:00 class and I was missing too much class from the late-night loving with a new girlfriend. I figured that in times of feast, prepare for famine. Oddly enough, my professor agreed with me and I took the class the next semester. But back to your friend... This guy has noogie on the brain. In his confused brain, he is already thinking that this is the one he will spend his life with. In this thought-process, he has already considered that he MUST defend the future Mrs. RM or it will end. It will end and take the noogie with it. At this period in your friend's life, he cannot be trusted. He is clinically insane in his addiction to RMGF's coochie. And he probably has low self-esteem. After all, you said that she was a butt-troll. Now... You have a friend that WILL defend RMGF. Even if he knows she is wrong, he will be overly sympathetic to her. You have RMFG who has explicitly stated that she WILL lie to get you into legal trouble. How long will it be before she plants something in your room and "lets the cops in?" You can BET on this happening if she gets in a fight with the RM and decides that it has to be YOUR influence on him that caused the fight. At this point, you are surrounded by liability. Now... Let's be clear on a couple things. -A damned girlfriend has NO right to ANYTHING in your house. She has NO rights PERIOD as it pertains to your private residence. -She is NOT on the damned lease unless YOU let that happen and were aware. She isn't this person's damned wife, so she needs to STFU about ANYTHING she is entitled to. -If your RM thinks the same way that she does on the above statements, he is an F'ing idiot and you need to keep this person FAR from you. -You CANNOT be charged with indecency for being nude IN YOUR OWN FREAKING HOME. Otherwise, you would be charged for taking a shower! YOU have the expectation of privacy in your own home. SHE HAS NO RIGHTS that supercede that in your house. -If any action is legal in your own home, she has NO RECOURSE for you choosing to do that thing when she is there. Now all that said... Talk to the landlord. FIRST ask if it is possible to get you OFF the lease and put another person on. If yes, talk to the RM and RMGF. Find out if SHE wants to live with the RM and YOU leave. I expect that she will say that she can't or can't afford to. This serves two purposes: 1.) It reinforces that she DOES NOT have ANY rights. You pay, you play.... You mooch, STFU. 2.) If she CAN, you get out painlessly. Now, if the landlord will NOT get you off the lease and/or the RMGF won't take your slot, talk to the Landlord about the situation and TELL them EVERYTHING. Moreover, put it IN writing to have put in your file. That gives your lawyer evidence to supena that will pre-date the issue and support your upcoming case defending yourself from rape and/or assault charges. - I would call the police and get a restraining order on her the very next time I saw her snooping. The first one to the police usually gets to be the "victim." - After the restaining order, I would then lock my crap up. After all, she WILL not adhere to the restraining order and stay away from BF's house. You, however, have started a paper trail that will help you WHEN she starts planting things and calling the cops. - Depending on how this goes, you can PROBABLY expect her to accuse you of rape, assault, etc. at some point. You better have gotten your paperwork in order and talked to the cops. - Inform RM that you ARE leaving the INSTANT that the lease if over NOW. Give him time to get another roommate LONG before it is time to move. -EXACTLY how much does she pay of your rent and utlities? If she claims that she has "rights," or that she IS on the lease, give her a BILL for her 1/3 share of the rent and utlilties. Tell RM that she IS NOT to enter until she is paid up. - If RM gives you FLAK, tell him that HE can pay her share, his share, and you will pay your 1/3 until the lease is up. - Oh, and DO inform the RM that you WILL: a: remain nude all the time that you are in the apartment. b. watch porno in the living room. (as an added plus, make SURE you sit on her coat if she thows it on any furniture.) -Do yourself a favor: Get a cheap, rat-hole effiency aparment if you cannot afford to get an apartment on your own. It is MUCH better than putting up wiht this crap. –– John |
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Quoted: Get out. You can't have her trespassed if she was invited by your roomate. Especially if she was given a key. If you are going to do anything about her you have the have the support of your roomate, who sounds like a doormat. You should be GTG on the walking around nude in your own house, I would leave guns out of the equation. BTW, where in FL are you? I would find someone you trust in the area to store them for you in the safety of their home. If you want something for defense, keep your cheapest one around. She could easily steal them to fund her drug habit, or just let the word out and someone else could steal them. Her drugs could cause you trouble... Next time she is there, call the police and get her thrown out. Get a restraining order. Jam the door when you are home... that's a good idea. If she kicks and screams, call the police and tell them a crazy person you don't know is trying to kick your door down, and that you fear for your life. Stand back and laugh as she gets tackled... then bagged for drugs. |
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This is probably not what you want to hear, but it is partially your fault for putting up with this bullshit for so long instead of nipping it in the bud. I jokingly said this once... "What if you came here and started snooping around and I shot you?" She said if I did this she would call the police. She then said "I will make up lies against you" so you stay in jail. so no guns..... If you shot her and she could still call the police, you need to stop using 9mm. LOL.... .44mag. 
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walk around naked when she’s there and he isn’t. I thought this would be illegal? I mentioned this too and she said it would be indecency. Ok...what is her degree from columbia in? Obviously nothing she can use to get a job. SHE IS WRONG. You can walk around nude in your apartment all day long with your windows wide open and it isn't indecent exposure. Just don't go to a window and call people over to look at your junk...then it would be illegeal. So tell her to STFU. Why didn't the cop haul her off when you called them again? I'm suprised the cop didn't cuff her and haul her off for criminal trespass...especially when she starts to tell the cop his job and that she is sooo much better than him because she has a degree.....ug. I would have hooked her up. |
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Have here charged with trespassing, obtain a restraining order against her, and then move when the lease is up. Do this ^ ^ ^ I'm a little puzzled because you sound like a very intelligent man, but you're having a real problem dealing definitively with this situation. I think you somehow feel obligated to put up with all this shit because of your friendship with your roommate. Look at it another way: What kind of friend is he if he's making you put up with all this? I'd ditch both. This isn't some idle advice either because I did exactly that with a long-time friend. |