I shoot WWB FMJ and Remington UMC Hollowpoints. Both have functioned 100% in my gun so far. I wouldn't mind using either for carry ammo.
When it comes to picking a defensive round, I think people should use what they can afford to practice with. I've shot hundreds and hundreds of rounds of WWB. I can't afford to do the same with Gold-dots or Hydra-Shoks so I can't prove their reliability in my gun.
With that said, I think a lot of people over-emphasize the difference a fraction of an inch of expansion will make. If you shoot a guy in the arm, chances are it won't make a difference when it comes to stopping the attacker. If you shoot a guy a fraction of an inch away from his heart, then yeah, that extra bit of expansion might be enough to kill him.
But it's not like the guy you shoot with Super-Dooper-Expandorizers is going to fly across the room, and with his last dying breath, say, "Damn you Super-Dooper-Expandorizers... Your premium expansion abilities were the only thing that could have killed me..."
Whatever you shoot, just practice.