It sounds to me like your seat die is out way out of adjustment and you have the seat die turned in too far and are making contact with the crimp shoulder before you should. Take your seat die and remove the seating stem.
Put a case into the shell holder and run it all the way up WITHOUT the die in the press.
With the case all the way up, screw down the seat die WITHOUT a seating stem until you feel the crimp shoulder contact the case mouth.
Back off the seat die one full to two full turns and lock the die in place.
Now, put in the seating stem in and adjust until the bullet is at the proper depth. Do not worry about if the bullet is at the crimp groove or not. Just get it to the correct 2.250 OAL.
Now, seat your bullets to this depth but DO NOT CRIMP.
If you want a slight amount of crimp you need Lee's factory Crimp die if your bullet is not at the crimp groove. The Lee die will crimp even without the bullet's crimp groove lined up with the mouth.
If using the CH-4D die, seat all your bullets first.
Then remove the seating stem or back it way off.
Unlock the die and adjust the die down until the crimp shoulder just bumps the case mouth. If the crimp groove is not lined up with the case mouth, you want to turn down the die about 1/8 turn, no more, just enough to remove the bell you put on the case mouth but not enough to crimp. I have found that the .458 SOCOM does not tend to cause bullet set back or extraction under recoil so a crimp is not really needed.