Is it somewhat true.. that what a woman says, isn't really what she wants?
I could list off the girls that go down the list of what they find "attractive" in men.. but, will run off with a guy (in dating/relationship/just screwing) with guys who don't even come close to fitting that description.
Example: (I've run into these types a good amount)
Girl says she wants a good guy.. a guy that will treat her with respect that she deserves as a woman, with dignity, make her feel "special" etc.
However, she'll be the first one to run off with the guy that treats her like crap, doesn't call her unless he wants something... insults her, makes her feel insecure/low-self-esteem.
When the guy that comes around that matches the first description.. he is listed as "friends".
Now; this might be just immaturity. (18-24 range). Its very much on the part of their insecurity... wether they just had it, or stemmed from really bad relationships that shot their self-esteem through the floor.