I posted this in Team, but figured you might be able to offer some really good advice.
So my ex, who breaks up with me because she isn't ready for a relationship... calls me the other week and asks how I am.
I'm fine why?
Well I've been thinking about you and miss talking to you.
And I miss you Erica, but why the call now?
Well I miss having you as a friend.
Well Erica, I told you, like Frank said... all, or nothing at all... half a love, it never appealed to me.
Can't we be friends?
No.
Why?
Because I'm still in love with you and friends doesn't work when that is the case.
Why not?
Well, because friends translates into you want me to be your emotional tampon when shit's bad, but you don't want to give anything in return.
That isn't fair.
Maybe its not fair, but its true.
Fuck you.
No, you see... by your definition, friends don't fuck... which is why I don't need any more "friends," I have plenty of those.
Why are you being this way?
You walked out on me... broke my heart... and now want to walk back into my life because you are feeling emotionally needy, sorry just not interested.
Wish you wouldn't be this way.
Sorry toots, you made me this way.
End of call
The other day she calls back.
Are you mad at me?
What difference does it make?
It matters to me.
Nope, couldn't care less, do I have a reason to be mad?
You sounded mad the other day.
No, that was my I just don't give a shit attitude.
How can you say you love me if you say you don't give a shot.
Funny, how can you say you loved me when you walked away.
I do love you.
You have a funny way of showing it Erica.
I miss you.
Well I miss you too, but I told you, if we give this another go its on my terms... which means we sit down and talk to somebody about your relationship issues.
I don't need that.
YES, you do...
No, I mean I've worked through them.
Apparently not.
I've "found my lobster."
Oh... well... that's pretty interesting since we broke up a month ago and you said you couldn't be in a relationship and now you've found your soulmate.
Things happen.
No, not like that they don't Erica... you are either lying to me now, or you were lying to me then, in either case your credibility is shot with me.
Why can't we be friends?
I've explained that to you.
You're being unreasonable!
No, I'm being logical rather than emotionally hysterical, friendships are built upon trust and mutual support and all I'm hearing is me me me, and quite frankly, I don't trust you.
Well all I can offer is friendship.
Sorry, not interested.
So, you are throwing what we have away?
Erica, as I see it, we don't HAVE a DAMN thing.
What the FUCK?