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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:13:38 PM EDT
Anyone else here have a slobby spouse?
Mine is, and I've had it. The begging, pleading, demanding, ordering, and nice little talks about her cleaning up after herself haven't worked. I don't know if anything will. Tell me if you think it's appropriate for a 27 year old woman to live like this: "Her" bathroom    Her closet    Piles of her junk in the living room       Piles of her dirty clothes in the bedroom   Her "office" (read: junk storage room)     Piles of her junk in the dining room/kitchen area      The pile of empty cardboard boxes I took out of the dining room (they've been there for over a week)  Am I being unreasonable here? Honestly, I think I may just be whacked in the head and that I'm being too demanding. According to her when confronted about this issue (numerous times) we're in a 'partnership', which apparently means that as her 'partner' I'm required to follow around behind her with a snow shovel and clean up after her. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:15:05 PM EDT
[#1]
Run.
Run like the wind. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:15:39 PM EDT
[#2]
So how was the sex like? I only ask because if she finds this thread you're cut off.
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:16:45 PM EDT
[#3]
Yuk.
Lawyer-up. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:16:47 PM EDT
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:16:47 PM EDT
[#5]
^^^
I think the pics on the net.. with the bad title.. = no nookie for rest of life. 
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:17:57 PM EDT
[#6]
That place is a freaking mess. That's disgusting.
I think I'd give her the "or else" speech. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:18:06 PM EDT
[#7]
What a pig!
 BTW, are you a 'neat freak'? Edit: <Image removed. *Posts with images of violence or photos of scantly clad men or women should contain a warning in the title. These types of images will not be tolerated if inserted at random in other discussions. --tbk1> |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:18:46 PM EDT
[#8]
"Or else what?" she would say. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:19:03 PM EDT
[#9]
Oh dear Lord...
Kill it with fire. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:19:03 PM EDT
[#10]
I'm a neat person.
I could not live like that. Sorry. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:19:42 PM EDT
[#11]
Either clean it up, put up with it, leave her, or quit complaining.
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:20:16 PM EDT
[#12]
You should clean the house.
And by clean the house I mean throw all that shit away. If she does it again thow that shit away. Dont warn here. She will either put it up when done or she will leave you for being controlling. Probably the later. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:21:01 PM EDT
[#13]
Uhhh... you'll have to post pics of her for us to better understand the true situation. Our response will depend directly on her "hotness".
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:21:21 PM EDT
[#14]
I smell a sitcom! |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:21:48 PM EDT
[#15]
+1 It's not so much the messiness of those pics that bothers me, it is the crud and dirt. One thing to be messy, another to be dirty. ETA: I see a envelope from the Arizona Office of Child Support - she getting alimony? RUN |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:22:00 PM EDT
[#16]
"Exactly." \obscure osouth park reference... |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:22:02 PM EDT
[#17]
+1 
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:24:25 PM EDT
[#18]
Leave. Leave NOW!
So who is the child support letter to? That already is enough baggage to be wary of.. the mess just confirms problems. Ditch her, and find someone more aligned with your organizational style. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:25:16 PM EDT
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my opinion.. in all honesty... is that if the pictures are really someone you are married to .. . that person has mental problems... like the people you hear about that have 5000 cats in their house or the people that haven't thrown the trash out of 10 years...
at least around here you can hire a mexican posse and one of those drop off trash containers and they will take care of it in a day.. then you hire a brazillian maid squad to come in and mop up.... then you change all the locks and don't answer the door or phone for a week or two and hope it finds another cave.... |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:25:30 PM EDT
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What sex? Last time I got laid was a week and a half ago. Before that? Two months. Prior to that? I was lucky to get any ever two to three weeks. Funny, all that started after the wedding.  After only 1 1/2 years of marriage. YaY.  |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:25:52 PM EDT
[#21]
Put her on the crystal meth maintenance diet, she will lose weight and clean like hell .
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:26:15 PM EDT
[#22]
Holy Schnike!!!!!
 I'm not really a neat person, but DAMN! Where do you walk? How long would it take to go through that crap!!!!!?BTW if all else fails then just, 
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:26:17 PM EDT
[#23]
I could not put up with that. I'm a semi neat freak, cleaner than your average Joe, but not Felix Unger. Those living conditions reminds me of my sister in law
 , she is very unkept.
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:26:51 PM EDT
[#24]
Ouch... sucks... Gonna make it more expensive to run now... but I still suggest it. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:28:16 PM EDT
[#25]
 her to the 
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:28:51 PM EDT
[#26]
looks entirely too familiar to me.
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:29:24 PM EDT
[#27]
Slumlord is that you?
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:31:09 PM EDT
[#28]
I've been in homes like that a few times, usally getting the dead people out! Pretty soon when they cut off the water for non-payment she'll be shitting in those plastic bags from the grocery store and flinging them in the corner. Hey................where is the stack of newspapers, she gotta have one of those in there. I hope she doesn't smoke, dead within the year.
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:32:30 PM EDT
[#29]
Man, you've got to lay down the law. Either you get her in line NOW, or you never will.
You take the car keys. You keep them in a locked container (a gun safe, if you have one) that she has no access to. You have to treat her like a grounded teenager. She IS grounded. And yes, that also means withholding the physical pleasure of your company from her unless she keeps things clean. It's very easy to keep things clean, but you have to do it AS YOU GO. When done in the bathroom, take two minutes to clean it up. Clothes NEVER hit the floor. Loads are washed as soon as the load is of adequate size, and once washed, they're dried immediately. Once dried, they get folded and put up immediately. Nice envelope showing in the first picture, BTW. That reveals some personal information that we don't need to see. CJ |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:32:49 PM EDT
[#30]
Wow
I normally don't comment on other people's spouses/habits/lifestyles but you posted this in GD! That is almost a "mental" type issue. That is seriously extreme sloppiness. I would absolutely freak if I were you. Good luck resolving your differences in housekeeping.
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:32:53 PM EDT
[#31]
Did you live with her before you got married?
Was she like this from the beginning of your relationship? |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:33:08 PM EDT
[#32]
If i were you i'd suggest a "Maid"
 
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:34:23 PM EDT
[#33]
He doesn't need a maid, he needs a bulldozer.
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:35:27 PM EDT
[#34]
Boot, meet ass. Curb, meet wife. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:37:49 PM EDT
[#35]
Ahhhh.. once the ring is on her finger.. she knows that frequent sex has ended. Ring on the finger = Man's balls being given away. 
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:37:56 PM EDT
[#36]
my sister-in-law lives like that...
needless to say, we don't visit her very often |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:39:09 PM EDT
[#37]
Thats crazy.
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:41:37 PM EDT
[#38]
No wonder you're so grouchy!
Looks like my ex girlfriend's place... Same frequency of intimacy too. Notice that I said ex. ETA clean up behind her and see how she reacts. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:42:18 PM EDT
[#39]
No self respecting human would live like that. She has SERIOUS mental issues.
I really have no advice here... 
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:45:49 PM EDT
[#40]
Add overflowing ashtrays, and numerous coffee cups, some half full of coffee, some half full of milk, all at least a week old, and that would look like my wife's handiwork.
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:50:40 PM EDT
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People who live like that will never change....ive got a sister like that , and my wife has been like that for 20 years...no matter what you say,no matter what you do....they never change.
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:54:06 PM EDT
[#42]
[Pedro]Is she hot?[Pedro]
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:55:06 PM EDT
[#43]
There is an easy fix. Just tell her you saw a mouse runing around in all that debris. She'll flush that crap out faster than you ever could...
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Posted: 9/18/2005 3:56:11 PM EDT
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Don't be too sure. I once dated a girl who had a pet rat. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 4:00:18 PM EDT
[#45]
Man I thought I was bad....but that is twice as bad as me
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Posted: 9/18/2005 4:02:03 PM EDT
[#46]
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Posted: 9/18/2005 4:04:17 PM EDT
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thing is YOU live like t hat also,, come on man,, tell her clean her shit up or she is out! plain and simple..no fuckin way id live like that!
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Posted: 9/18/2005 4:06:00 PM EDT
[#48]
In a way, this thread touches a nerve with me. You see, my wife and I have *FAR* different ideas of what is clean and what is not. While not nearly to the level of the pics in this thread, my wife does not maintain my house as I would like. And, yes, when I am the breadwinner and she does not have to work outside the home, that is EXACTLY what is in the job description for "Housewife", before any of you jump my shit for expecting my wife to maintain our home.
It nuts me up, it pisses me off, and sometimes I really, really get angry. BUT. I have to bring myself to reality, also. While not as neat as I would like, it is always sanitary. We are a loud, active, busy family of 4 with two little kids, one 10 and one 4. My wife is very active in their little lives, and is very active with our extended family. My 10 year old is precocious, and my 4 year old has a slight developmental delay(coupled with BRILLIANCE on the other side)that requires some extra attention. My wife is lovely, she is good hearted, she is selfless, she is a blessing to me and our children and is my best friend. So what if the house fails to live up to my standards on a consistent basis. |
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Posted: 9/18/2005 4:06:23 PM EDT
[#49]
Now that is a slob if I've ever seen one.
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Posted: 9/18/2005 4:08:23 PM EDT
[#50]
my ex kept house like that. I would clean daily and come home to find it looking almost as bad as before I cleaned. Note I said ex..............................
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