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Posted: 5/30/2003 10:53:38 PM EDT
i want to know what you guys think.  before i get into this you guys need to know a little history. i am 28.  i have a good friend that is about to turn forty.  his daughter is turning 20 in a month.  we have always been attracted to each other(hey...  his daughter not him) but she was always too young.  she is now 19 and i dont know what to do.  she is into me but i dont know if i want to deal with someone that age.  we get along good but she is young and wants to play games.  i cant handle that shit.  im past that.  i know she likes me but how do i proceed?  i dont want to just fk her and screw up my relations with her parents.  i know her parents like me like a son and wouldnt care if we hooked up but......  i dont want to just take their daughter home with me.  help?!?!?
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 10:57:12 PM EDT
[#1]
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:06:59 PM EDT
[#2]
Quoted:
I'm married now, but I've always valued friends (true friends) MUCH more highly than wimmins.  Wimmins are easy to find--true friends are rare and precious.  I wouldn't risk screwing up the friendship.  The only exception would be if you are POSITIVE you are going to spend the rest of your life with this girl--and you can hardly know that.  Best wishes in whatever [b]you[/b] decide.  [:)]
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Shouldn't your wife be your best friend?
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:09:30 PM EDT
[#3]
yeah..... whatever [b]i[/b] decide.  thats the problem.   i think i could marry this girl but she is still young and wants to play games.  thats the problem.  should i play her 'little' games?  she came up to the bar we hang out tnite.  i know she did just to see me but i left so i didnt just sit there and hang on her. i am playing that game i guess.  i dont want to but if you remember being that age i think she will know i am onto her game.  i dont want her to think i am head over heals for her.  she will just play that and i will never have control.
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:11:50 PM EDT
[#4]
Quoted:
yeah..... whatever [b]i[/b] decide.  thats the problem.   i think i could marry this girl but she is still young and wants to play games.  thats the problem.  should i play her 'little' games?  she came up to the bar we hang out tnite.  i know she did just to see me but i left so i didnt just sit there and hang on her. i am playing that game i guess.  i dont want to but if you remember being that age i think she will know i am onto her game.  i dont want her to think i am head over heals for her.  she will just play that and i will never have control.
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Do not play games with her, she writes the rules, and you can not win!
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:12:35 PM EDT
[#5]
Go for it.  When I was 27-28, I had a crush on a high school girl.  She went on exchange, hooked up with a 30 year old American living in Argentina.  

So here I was feeling like a heel and scared to hit on this gorgeous chick because of our age difference......and she ends up with a guy even older than me.  Some bartender 30 years old.

Moral of the story.....I'D HIT IT!
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:16:22 PM EDT
[#6]
Quoted:
Go for it.  When I was 27-28, I had a crush on a high school girl.  She went on exchange, hooked up with a 30 year old American living in Argentina.  

So here I was feeling like a heel and scared to hit on this gorgeous chick because of our age difference......and she ends up with a guy even older than me.  Some bartender 30 years old.

Moral of the story.....I'D HIT IT!
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Do not listen to this man, or, ilikelegs, they would hit [b]anything[/b]![:D]
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:19:15 PM EDT
[#7]
No, man.  The point of my last point is that I held back, because I thought it was improper.  Turns out, the girl I lusted after PREFERRED older men.  After she left the 30 year old bartender/bellhop, she hooked up with another guy about 10 years older than she.  Where was I? Up in Prudhoe Bay.
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:19:17 PM EDT
[#8]
oh i would definatly hit it!  she has a tight little body.  she has bad skin... her face is a little broke out.  i wouldnt call her a zit face but there is definatly issues there.  she is cool to talk with though and the body....  did i mention her figure.  [:)]  fk man...  what to do?  guess i should add a poll.  lol.  
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:22:08 PM EDT
[#9]
If she's about the games, then I'd say take a rain check.  If she showed maturity for her age, then I'd say take a swing at it.  Being 28, you've got a world of knowledge/experience that she's yet to have.  That can make for a strange relationship, unless she's got the aforementioned maturity on her side.  I like younger chicks just like all other mid-older 20yr olds, but it's hard to find a good one.  Keep the friend, watch the daughter mature, and see if the attractions still there.  
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:22:58 PM EDT
[#10]
19 eh...just the right age for me...[nana]...if i also wasnt so damn sick of the games...
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:23:00 PM EDT
[#11]
you said "lusted".  thats what im worried about.  is that what is it considering the age difference?  i would like to get physical with her but i also like just bullshitting with her even though she just talks about her 20 year old friends.
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:26:58 PM EDT
[#12]
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No, man.  The point of my last point is that I held back, because I thought it was improper.  Turns out, the girl I lusted after PREFERRED older men.  After she left the 30 year old bartender/bellhop, she hooked up with another guy about 10 years older than she.  Where was I? Up in Prudhoe Bay.
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It was a joke![:D] I added the smiley. But I would say that sex out of marriage is a no, no.
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:27:01 PM EDT
[#13]
Just fuck her.  Believe me, you will regret it if you dont.  Go for it.

Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:32:45 PM EDT
[#14]
Quoted:
I'm married now, but I've always valued friends (true friends) MUCH more highly than wimmins.  Wimmins are easy to find--true friends are rare and precious.  I wouldn't risk screwing up the friendship.  The only exception would be if you are POSITIVE you are going to spend the rest of your life with this girl--and you can hardly know that.  Best wishes in whatever [b]you[/b] decide.  [:)]
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i agree, give her some time to sow her wild oats so to speak and see if things happen down the road, when she's a little older.
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:34:25 PM EDT
[#15]
i added a poll.  this is the first poll i ever made.  [:)]  guess i should have added more choices.  well...  i hope this stays up top.  i want to know what you guys think but i have to crash.  its 3:20.  i have to sleep.  nite.
Link Posted: 5/30/2003 11:40:22 PM EDT
[#16]
My dad said to me as I was growing up:

"Son, (He calls me son cuz I'm so bright)there are 6 rules to dating...

#1 NEVER date someone you work with!!
#2 NEVER date your friends ex!!!
#3 ALWAYS be a gentleman (no means no, open doors, be polite, etc.)
#4 ALWAYS be polite to her parents!!!!
#5 NEVER mess with your friends wife or daughter!!!
#6 DON'T bring anything home you didn't leave the house with!!! (ie: panties, diseases, babies, irate fathers, etc)

Advice from Papa Redneck..

Take it for what's it's worth..I did!!!
Link Posted: 6/1/2003 2:03:21 AM EDT
[#17]
I'd hit it to!
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