I have a family member that is extremely depressed. Everytime this person talks to their daughter on the phone they start crying etc, they watch Fox news and see whats going on in the world and start crying etc. They blame the world for all of their troubles. It's our fault that their son has down syndrome, their spouse left them 30 years ago and its our fault that they don't have any money, their ex is making tons of money and its the ex's fault that they are poor and have no ability to manage their finances etc. Its bad to say the least, this person thinks that its everyone elses responsibility to take care of them. They have a HUGE sense of entitlement that they have created, but since nobody else agrees they just crawl into their shell and feel sorry for themself.
Their son is disabled and this person stays home with him day in and day out to take care of him. That is all their life revolves around. This has also caused health issues as well such as huge weight gain and heart problems.
I think that this person going to counseling would be greatly beneficial to them, even if they went to a group setting at a church. But this person refuses to do anything of the sort. They don't think anything is wrong. I don't think they are suicidal but they are very short tempered and very hard to deal with.
Example:
This person was invited to my daughters cheer competition (She got 1st place in the state division!! Thats my girl!!!), anyway, this person arrived with another family member and my wife and myself arrived in different cars as well. My wife told this person that we would be sitting on the left. So this person came separately and when they entered from the South side of the building they sat on their left. My wife came after that and came in the North side of the building and sat on her left as she walked in, which happened to be the correct side that the judge said my daughter would be facing.
Before the competition this person told my wife "You probably don't want to sit with me", which is completely untrue of course as we all wanted to sit together. So after the competition started my wife and I could not find this person, we looked high and low on the benches and finally spotted them on the wrong side of the gymnasium. We waived and waived and finally got their attention. They stood up mouthed the words "fuck you", flipped us off and walked off.
My wife and I just looked at each other like "What the holy fuck was that?". We did not see the person again. The competition lasted a few hours and afterward we went looking for them because they had driven there with my brother n law. He was their only ride home. After about a half hour we decided to leave because the place was empty and we could not find them.
Come to find out this person walked from the school we were at to their house, which was about 3 miles away after they flipped us off. It was like 15 degrees outside and the wind was blowing a good 30MPH. So now this person is completely upset because she blames my wife and brother n law for this incident. Nobody loves them and everybody hates them so they walked home by themself and it took over an hour.
We really want to get this person in the right state of mind, it would be helpful for not just them but for the entire family because we want to involve them in our childrens lives, but we just can't when they are constantly spouting off hateful stuff about my wife and brother n law in front of all of the kids.
Any suggestions on how to get someone to seek help?