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Posted: 8/4/2011 12:57:38 PM EDT
[Last Edit: GoatBoy]
These are previous posts taken from the Fammyman tread, but THEY APPLY UNTIL I AM DEAD
Posted: 8/1/2011 10:04:46 PM EDT Originally Posted By Merrell: Maybe we need some place here where people can go when they are really having problems (aside from the usual GD stuff) - not sure how that would work. Sort of a 'help me out' deal, maybe get a group of folks who know when to listen or something to volunteer in it in a rotating basis. When I read about what fammyman was doing with the adopted kids and their medical challenges, it just floored me. Originally posted by EdAvilaSr: My line is always open to all of you at any time IM me and I will call you to lend you an ear and a shoulder. Together, we can overcome a lot of difficulties and hard times. We have done it before and we can continue to do it. Do not despair and lose hope. We have recently had 2 cases where suicide was a serious possibility (we are sure of only one) as the cause of death. We have had attempts in the past.Thank God, both were dealt with successfully through the phone. One of them involved tc6969 on location. He (tc6969) helped with one case a few years back, so we have a reasonable model for action. If in FL, I am sure tc would get involved again to avert a tragedy like he did before If any of you have any suspicion that a fellow member is contemplating suicide, is in serious depression, etc and you feel you need help, contact any Staff member and ask them to pass the information on to me...........or send me an IM I will then try to contact on the phone someone from the HTF (mod or someone who knows the member in question) and we will initiate whatever is needed to help the member. All this will be done in confidence and only those involved (usually 2-3 people counting myself) will ever know who or what happened. If anyone is a professional at suicide prevention, we can use you. I am not one, so if you can help send me an IM and I will add you to a phone tree A couple of the things that have worked for me : - Ask the person NOT TO DRINK ALCOHOL. Booze is a stimulant in small dosages but it will depress you even more than you were if you do more than a couple of shots -Let the member tell you what the problems are -letting them get things off their chest is a good start. Often, they have few people they want to talk to or will listen to them- so hear them out. THEN, you can try to make them see how much worse off his family will be WITHOUT HIM/HER Most of us don't give 2 shits about ourselves, but our families are precious! If they see how their death would add to the already huge burden sometimes is enough to let them think about it some more and not go through it. There are other things we can do, especially if the member has friends in the site, but I don't want to discuss it here. When the time comes, please get involved and help a fellow member in need |
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Posted: 10/19/2019 1:58:24 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By GreasyEasy:
Thanks for sharing iteotwawki. It's really awesome, and inspiring to hear how you're conquering your past traumatic history. I can only imagine how much your journey through all this helps, and then saves those you foster/parent. It's very helpful to many when we share the medical treatments we've had success with like you're doing, as we men still tend to stigmatize medicine quite badly. I think that's a big reason why this is a helpful thread, as it removes the stigma that so many of us have felt at one time, or another. Thanks for being you! My childhood has definitely made me better equipped to help the kids that come through our house in foster care and handle their issues. I can remember EXACTLY what it felt like to be six years old and smart enough to know what was happening to me was wrong but having no adult around me give me enough respect to listen to me. I was just dismissed. Or punished. Or told I was imagining things. Or lying for attention. I can go right back to that time in my head and remember making prolonged eye contact with strangers/grown-ups just hoping they'd take notice of me and ask if I was okay. And if anyone can get some help from EMDR after hearing it worked so well for me ... I'd be a shit not to share it. I've gotten so many recs here on ARF for other things ... I hope it helps someone. I PRAY it helps someone. There should be no stigma at all to getting help when and where you need it. Ever. This thread should go down in history as the best of ARFCOM and what this community as a whole represents. |
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Posted: 10/22/2019 1:43:43 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By iteotwawki:And to the gent who lost his grandmother and is having a hard time:
If you need to talk to a professional about your grief please understand that it isn't a sign of weakness. You are the only person in your head and heart who knows you well enough to know if you need grief counseling. If you do ... get it. I bet there are local grief support groups you can find near you for free, too. Usually, your local hospital will have a list of all the groups in your area and that's a perfect place to start. Keep talking about it. Even if it's just talking to us or your wife. Death is a natural part of life but that doesn't mean it doesn't rip the carpet from beneath you and leave you with a concussion from the fall. I am so sorry for your loss. Please ... know yourself and get help if you think you need that. Your wife, too. Godspeed, friend. We had a week where one minute she was great and the next she might go. But while she was having a bad spell where she didn't know who anyone was and was talking about how Jesus was standing by her bed, and then she just cleared up and said something about how my dad and uncle were keeping her alive for their benefit. And it just kinda clicked. I mean, not only did I have a badass grandma, she was always talking about how she had the best neighbors anyone could ask for.  She was 91 years old. She broke her back and was stuck by lightening in her 80s, but by God she was going to live by herself. She had a hell of a run, and Elvis waved at her when he was pulling out of Graceland.
All of my other grandparents had some bad shit going on when they went, but Granny had made her peace and was ready to go. I'm going through the normal depression and anger that goes along with this kind of thing, but I have to say, for the most part, this is probably the most together my shit has ever been. But the other night me and my wife wound up talking about if we saw it coming when out parents got divorced. She was kind of blindsided when her parents split up, and Ray Charles could have seen mine coming. Despite the fact that I'm one of those people that buries their problems as deep down as they can and tries to drown them in alcohol, I wound up spilling my guts to her about all the fucked up shit that's gone on between them. From the, your dad is asshole, watch your grandma die from cancer to the fighting about mowing the grass because mommy's baby is going to go to college and not have to work. By the end of our talk she wasn't surprised that I drink like I do. |
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Posted: 10/22/2019 2:17:46 AM EDT
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I appreciate everything everyone does on here to both post their thoughts and to truly care about and help others. The sincerity here is amazing. It is great to be able to read though this and see the kindness in humanity. To everyone that has posted here to help someone, thank you.
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Posted: 10/25/2019 11:39:48 AM EDT
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I really don't know how to approach this subject, I have not read the entire thread but this issue has hit home with me today.
I have a young man who works with me every day. Good kid, conservative, loves freedom. He did a hitch in the Army in Afghanistan. He & his close combat buddies try to stay connected post deployment. He learned this morning that one of his buddies took his life yesterday. He's pretty shook up & I don't blame him at all. His friend left behind a wife & 3 young children. This just breaks my heart. We talk a bit about what might lead a man to make such a drastic choice but my coworker didn't really have any answers. That was disheartening as well. I have never served & I don't have any experience with what he & many of our young men went thru but I understand the horrors of combat but I will never be able to speak of them with any authority. I can give an ear to this young man if he wishes to ever open up to me. Is there a support network for these young men coming back from deployment. My coworker mentioned reintegration classes but they didn't offer any mental health care & were basically a series of questions if he was having any different feelings or emotions. We all hear about the VA & the difficulty Vets have getting in for treatment. Is there a alternate network for Vets to actually speak to a Vet about the things that they had to endure in combat? I wish I had some better answers for this young man. 
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Posted: 10/25/2019 2:55:36 PM EDT
[Last Edit: GreasyEasy]
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Plank_Spanker:
I really don't know how to approach this subject, I have not read the entire thread but this issue has hit home with me today. I have a young man who works with me every day. Good kid, conservative, loves freedom. He did a hitch in the Army in Afghanistan. He & his close combat buddies try to stay connected post deployment. He learned this morning that one of his buddies took his life yesterday. He's pretty shook up & I don't blame him at all. His friend left behind a wife & 3 young children. This just breaks my heart. We talk a bit about what might lead a man to make such a drastic choice but my coworker didn't really have any answers. That was disheartening as well. I have never served & I don't have any experience with what he & many of our young men went thru but I understand the horrors of combat but I will never be able to speak of them with any authority. I can give an ear to this young man if he wishes to ever open up to me. Is there a support network for these young men coming back from deployment. My coworker mentioned reintegration classes but they didn't offer any mental health care & were basically a series of questions if he was having any different feelings or emotions. We all hear about the VA & the difficulty Vets have getting in for treatment. Is there a alternate network for Vets to actually speak to a Vet about the things that they had to endure in combat? I wish I had some better answers for this young man. A few resources you might want to look into, or pass along: https://ptsdusa.org/get-help/ "Warrior Groups are fellowships for combat veterans and their families to share their experiences, testimonies of healing, compassion and hope in overcoming the invisible wounds of war. Participants are required to be military combat veterans or family members of those who have served in combat and be willing to face the challenges of managing post-traumatic stress and related conditions. " https://iava.org/why-join/  Attached FileMore links can be found here: https://www.neptunesociety.com/resources/list-helpful-veteran-resources-support-groups |
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Posted: 10/25/2019 7:44:49 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By GreasyEasy:
One of the most devastating things to learn is when one of our brave vets takes their lives. I'm sorry the young man who works for you has to experience such a devastating loss. A few resources you might want to look into, or pass along: https://ptsdusa.org/get-help/ "Warrior Groups are fellowships for combat veterans and their families to share their experiences, testimonies of healing, compassion and hope in overcoming the invisible wounds of war. Participants are required to be military combat veterans or family members of those who have served in combat and be willing to face the challenges of managing post-traumatic stress and related conditions. " https://iava.org/why-join/ https://www.AR15.Com/media/mediaFiles/475204/VeteransCrisisLineLogo_png-1137217.JPG More links can be found here: https://www.neptunesociety.com/resources/list-helpful-veteran-resources-support-groups Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By GreasyEasy:
Originally Posted By Plank_Spanker:
I really don't know how to approach this subject, I have not read the entire thread but this issue has hit home with me today. I have a young man who works with me every day. Good kid, conservative, loves freedom. He did a hitch in the Army in Afghanistan. He & his close combat buddies try to stay connected post deployment. He learned this morning that one of his buddies took his life yesterday. He's pretty shook up & I don't blame him at all. His friend left behind a wife & 3 young children. This just breaks my heart. We talk a bit about what might lead a man to make such a drastic choice but my coworker didn't really have any answers. That was disheartening as well. I have never served & I don't have any experience with what he & many of our young men went thru but I understand the horrors of combat but I will never be able to speak of them with any authority. I can give an ear to this young man if he wishes to ever open up to me. Is there a support network for these young men coming back from deployment. My coworker mentioned reintegration classes but they didn't offer any mental health care & were basically a series of questions if he was having any different feelings or emotions. We all hear about the VA & the difficulty Vets have getting in for treatment. Is there a alternate network for Vets to actually speak to a Vet about the things that they had to endure in combat? I wish I had some better answers for this young man. A few resources you might want to look into, or pass along: https://ptsdusa.org/get-help/ "Warrior Groups are fellowships for combat veterans and their families to share their experiences, testimonies of healing, compassion and hope in overcoming the invisible wounds of war. Participants are required to be military combat veterans or family members of those who have served in combat and be willing to face the challenges of managing post-traumatic stress and related conditions. " https://iava.org/why-join/ https://www.AR15.Com/media/mediaFiles/475204/VeteransCrisisLineLogo_png-1137217.JPG More links can be found here: https://www.neptunesociety.com/resources/list-helpful-veteran-resources-support-groups Thank you |
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Posted: 10/25/2019 7:53:32 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Plank_Spanker:
@GreasyEasy Thank you I'll keep you guys in mind as I come across potential helpful info as well. Glad that young vet has somebody like you with his best interest in mind. Just having somebody you can relate to, and talk with openly without fear goes so far in helping out folks thinking about self harm or suicide. Isolation has stolen so many lives that otherwise could have been saved. You're likely doing more than you know for this young man. |
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Posted: 10/25/2019 9:22:50 PM EDT
[Last Edit: Anastasios]
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@Plank_Spanker
Here is the link to the National Center for PTSD (VA). The page is Treatment Programs offered by the VA. There is a great deal of info on other pages, including self help. Don't discount the VA because of stories you've heard. I've seen it save lives, firsthand. https://www.ptsd.va.gov/gethelp/tx_programs.asp |
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Posted: 10/26/2019 12:21:14 AM EDT
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I don't know what's going on this time.
I've lost plenty of people, but none of them have ever tore me up like this. I've actually been doing the things you're "supposed" to do, talking about all the shit that's been eating me up my whole life, not drinking, and not laying in bed and getting up and trying to get motivated. I feel worse than I ever have. Talking about all these forgotten memories has made me remember all the forgotten depression and rage I thought I'd forgotten. Not to mention, Granny's finally dead, let's go through all her shit and see who the fuck wants what. I also found out this past weekend my uncle that has cancer, who last I heard, everything was going great; it's gotten to the point where he's doing bad enough chemo where he's covered in sores from it, and can barely eat because of the sores in his esophagus. I guess this is payback for spending years watching everyday as my grandma die from that bullshit, now I just get an occasional update that his shit is all fucked up. Maybe if this shit kills him they'll remember to tell me about it But what else should you expect when you're the black sheep of the family because you'd rather make your own way than have mommy pay for everything. It's not my fucking problem you can't keep up with the Jones' because I live in a trailer I can afford rather than being in debt up to my eyeballs to make people jealous on Facebook. |
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Posted: 10/26/2019 12:40:19 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Plank_Spanker:
@GreasyEasy Thank you Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Plank_Spanker:
Originally Posted By GreasyEasy:
Originally Posted By Plank_Spanker:
I really don't know how to approach this subject, I have not read the entire thread but this issue has hit home with me today. I have a young man who works with me every day. Good kid, conservative, loves freedom. He did a hitch in the Army in Afghanistan. He & his close combat buddies try to stay connected post deployment. He learned this morning that one of his buddies took his life yesterday. He's pretty shook up & I don't blame him at all. His friend left behind a wife & 3 young children. This just breaks my heart. We talk a bit about what might lead a man to make such a drastic choice but my coworker didn't really have any answers. That was disheartening as well. I have never served & I don't have any experience with what he & many of our young men went thru but I understand the horrors of combat but I will never be able to speak of them with any authority. I can give an ear to this young man if he wishes to ever open up to me. Is there a support network for these young men coming back from deployment. My coworker mentioned reintegration classes but they didn't offer any mental health care & were basically a series of questions if he was having any different feelings or emotions. We all hear about the VA & the difficulty Vets have getting in for treatment. Is there a alternate network for Vets to actually speak to a Vet about the things that they had to endure in combat? I wish I had some better answers for this young man. A few resources you might want to look into, or pass along: https://ptsdusa.org/get-help/ "Warrior Groups are fellowships for combat veterans and their families to share their experiences, testimonies of healing, compassion and hope in overcoming the invisible wounds of war. Participants are required to be military combat veterans or family members of those who have served in combat and be willing to face the challenges of managing post-traumatic stress and related conditions. " https://iava.org/why-join/ https://www.AR15.Com/media/mediaFiles/475204/VeteransCrisisLineLogo_png-1137217.JPG More links can be found here: https://www.neptunesociety.com/resources/list-helpful-veteran-resources-support-groups Thank you I too am a combat veteran, a few pumps in Iraq back in the day, ect. I also worked at the VA for 11 years as a counselor. There are resources available for our veterans, they just have to ask. And to anyone else, you have my number. |
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Posted: 10/26/2019 3:04:11 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By aztrooper:
We moved Wessono today. A big thank you to the AZHTF members who showed up on a very hot day to do some heavy lifting. @spyderboy03 @dread_scott @wingnutx Thank you gentlemen, your help was much appreciated! Wessono has an appointment tomorrow, and is in a safe place. And to all that provided logistical and funding to assist, you are much appreciated. Whenever I think this world is going into the shitter, it is people here more than anywhere else who inspire me, and show that humanity, compassion, and common sense still rules the day. |
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Posted: 10/26/2019 7:46:37 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By evo7011: If you want to give him my number, feel free to. 304-638-1443. Day or night, no questions asked. I too am a combat veteran, a few pumps in Iraq back in the day, ect. I also worked at the VA for 11 years as a counselor. There are resources available for our veterans, they just have to ask. And to anyone else, you have my number. 
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Posted: 10/27/2019 9:33:22 AM EDT
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Back under the knife tomorrow. My amputation site got infected due to lack of circulation. The best case scenario tomorrow is they cut off the rest of the toes on that foot, middlcase is a midfoot amputation, worst case is I lose the foot somewhere on my shin.
Wish me luck please |
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Posted: 10/27/2019 1:56:50 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66:
Back under the knife tomorrow. My amputation site got infected due to lack of circulation. The best case scenario tomorrow is they cut off the rest of the toes on that foot, middlcase is a midfoot amputation, worst case is I lose the foot somewhere on my shin. Wish me luck please So sorry you're having to go through this all. You are no doubt providing us all inspiration, and a great template for how to face life's toughest problems. Thanks for being you, and stay strong brother! I look forward to many more years of your funny post especially. |
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Posted: 10/27/2019 4:52:35 PM EDT
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Posted: 10/28/2019 5:44:17 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66:
Back under the knife tomorrow. My amputation site got infected due to lack of circulation. The best case scenario tomorrow is they cut off the rest of the toes on that foot, middlcase is a midfoot amputation, worst case is I lose the foot somewhere on my shin. Wish me luck please Thinking about you brother, and saying another prayer for you. I hope everything today went smoothly! |
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Posted: 10/28/2019 8:00:41 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66:
Back under the knife tomorrow. My amputation site got infected due to lack of circulation. The best case scenario tomorrow is they cut off the rest of the toes on that foot, middlcase is a midfoot amputation, worst case is I lose the foot somewhere on my shin. Wish me luck please |
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Posted: 10/30/2019 6:42:10 AM EDT
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Thanks guys, they stopped cutting after the toes were gone,I haven't seen it unbandaged yet, and still can't put weight on it.
I think I may get sandals next year, (no flip flops, they wouldn't stay on.) |
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Posted: 10/30/2019 2:28:43 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66:
Thanks guys, they stopped cutting after the toes were gone,I haven't seen it unbandaged yet, and still can't put weight on it. I think I may get sandals next year, (no flip flops, they wouldn't stay on.)
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Posted: 11/3/2019 7:53:44 PM EDT
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Just a quick reminder, life is still worth living, and God is still good.
I wake up every day grateful to still be at least 6 feet above the dirt, but slightly disappointed that I ever got as low as I did in May. Don't let stress rob you of your happiness, it's just not worth it. 
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Posted: 11/3/2019 8:42:35 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By SaltwaterCowboy:
Just a quick reminder, life is still worth living, and God is still good. I wake up every day grateful to still be at least 6 feet above the dirt, but slightly disappointed that I ever got as low as I did in May. Don't let stress rob you of your happiness, it's just not worth it. |
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Posted: 11/3/2019 9:11:00 PM EDT
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Posted: 11/4/2019 4:51:11 AM EDT
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I went hunting this past weekend.
At the risk of sounding like a dirty hippy, getting away from all the daily bullshit and out into nature was what I needed. I had some equipment malfunctions and split the chest hair one a nice 8 point and missed out on a halfway decent doe waiting to see what kind of horns a little basket rack 6 point had. But despite how hard Granny's death hit me, and how I've been sharing stuff with my wife and bringing up bad memories from my past, and all the bad shit that's been eating me up inside since I saw about 12, sitting there watching a couple little does that weren't worth shooting eating corn and a bunch of birds flying back and forth It's the first time I've felt at peace in a long time. |
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Posted: 11/4/2019 10:46:25 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By BornToLooze:
I went hunting this past weekend. At the risk of sounding like a dirty hippy, getting away from all the daily bullshit and out into nature was what I needed. I had some equipment malfunctions and split the chest hair one a nice 8 point and missed out on a halfway decent doe waiting to see what kind of horns a little basket rack 6 point had. But despite how hard Granny's death hit me, and how I've been sharing stuff with my wife and bringing up bad memories from my past, and all the bad shit that's been eating me up inside since I saw about 12, sitting there watching a couple little does that weren't worth shooting eating corn and a bunch of birds flying back and forth It's the first time I've felt at peace in a long time. My daily routine includes a 2+mile walk through town, and/or at least a 1.5hr bicycle ride (during the appropriate seasons). Even though the walk through town is just in town, it's still God's creation and I spend time saying hi to strangers, greeting pets, watching clouds and ravens and squirrels, looking at flower gardens, etc. The worst thing we can do is sit in the house. |
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Posted: 11/6/2019 10:14:04 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By wtfboombrb: That's how you do it. Get up, get out of the house, and marvel at God's creation. I'm going for a walk in the woods today if it's not pouring rain. My daily routine includes a 2+mile walk through town, and/or at least a 1.5hr bicycle ride (during the appropriate seasons). Even though the walk through town is just in town, it's still God's creation and I spend time saying hi to strangers, greeting pets, watching clouds and ravens and squirrels, looking at flower gardens, etc. The worst thing we can do is sit in the house. But I've been trying to be less connected to everything. I got rid of my Facebook a long time ago, and went back to a flip phone (I went from 2k+ text messages a month on a flip phone to a couple hundred a month on a smart phone when I moved in with my wife while we were dating, I can still text fast on a flip phone), and there's just something relaxing about knowing you're not going to get a hold of me if I want you to. Especially at deer camp, which didn't get cell phone coverage until recently when some people started clear cutting their land. |
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Posted: 11/7/2019 1:47:36 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66:
Thanks guys, they stopped cutting after the toes were gone,I haven't seen it unbandaged yet, and still can't put weight on it. I think I may get sandals next year, (no flip flops, they wouldn't stay on.) |
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Posted: 11/7/2019 2:26:55 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66: Now today, I was diagnosed with gas gangrene and back under the knife at the speed of light. Are you already out of surgery, and if so how are you feeling? Between your incredible toughness and strength, and our prayers you're gonna see better days hopefully in the near future. You deserve it, and then some to say the least! Keep fighting friend, you're one hell of a tough man! |
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Posted: 11/7/2019 11:23:21 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66:
Now today, I was diagnosed with gas gangrene and back under the knife at the speed of light. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66:
Originally Posted By edb66:
Thanks guys, they stopped cutting after the toes were gone,I haven't seen it unbandaged yet, and still can't put weight on it. I think I may get sandals next year, (no flip flops, they wouldn't stay on.) |
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Posted: 11/8/2019 2:47:47 AM EDT
[Last Edit: edb66]
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Debridement is done. My foot (whats left)is swollen and sore. They were supposed to reclean it and close it up on Friday but decided to let it drain until Tuesday while flushing me with Gods own supply of antibiotics.
At least I get oxy. |
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Posted: 11/8/2019 2:48:50 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66: Now today, I was diagnosed with gas gangrene and back under the knife at the speed of light. |
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Posted: 11/8/2019 2:55:34 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66:
Debridement is done. My foot (whats left)is swollen and sore. They were supposed to reclean it and close it up on Friday but decided to let it drain until Tuesday while flushing me with Gods own supply of antibiotics. At least I get oxy. It's great to hear that you're on the road to healing that foot. Look forward to the next check up! 
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Posted: 11/10/2019 11:48:42 PM EDT
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For those struggling with PTSD, I came across a good article about SGB treatment. Something that might be worthwhile to investigate for those suffering.
https://www.militarytimes.com/off-duty/military-culture/2019/06/18/medal-of-honor-recipient-praises-revolutionary-neck-injection-treatment-for-ptsd/ |
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Posted: 11/11/2019 12:24:29 PM EDT
[Last Edit: edb66]
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Looks like the gas gangrene is gone. With any luck, I'll get closed up tomorrow. Wish me luck again please. Right now the front of my foot looks like a toothless bulldog eating a can of stewed tomatoes.
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Posted: 11/11/2019 12:29:31 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By GreasyEasy:
For those struggling with PTSD, I came across a good article about SGB treatment. Something that might be worthwhile to investigate for those suffering. https://www.militarytimes.com/off-duty/military-culture/2019/06/18/medal-of-honor-recipient-praises-revolutionary-neck-injection-treatment-for-ptsd/ |
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Posted: 11/11/2019 12:31:19 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66:
Looks like the gas gangrene is gone. With any luck, I'll get closed up tomorrow. Wish me luck again please. Right now the front of my foot looks like a toothless bulldog eating a can of stewed tomatoes. |
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Posted: 11/11/2019 3:43:31 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66:
Looks like the gas gangrene is gone. With any luck, I'll get closed up tomorrow. Wish me luck again please. Right now the front of my foot looks like a toothless bulldog eating a can of stewed tomatoes. |
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Posted: 11/11/2019 10:36:32 PM EDT
[#37]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By wtfboombrb: Are all the toes gone now? |
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Posted: 11/11/2019 10:49:18 PM EDT
[Last Edit: GreasyEasy]
[#38]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66: All left toes have been gone for about a week now. I have a huge cavern in the front of my foot. Tomorrow, they'll debride any dead flesh and hopefully close the foot up so I can start healing and rehabbing the thing. |
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Posted: 11/13/2019 2:28:36 AM EDT
[#39]
Not as bad as some folks have it, but I took a new job to get off of being on the road four days a week, and the new boss apparently didn't like something with me (his stated complaint was I wasn't working on X, when he'd told all of us in group meetings that our #1 priority was Y, and hadn't asked about X in any of those meetings or had it up as an active project for me, I'd been spending all of my time working on Y which had a mid-November fixed due date), and despite having been told I was welcome back at the first job, they informed me that since I'd finished up the major stuff I had been working on before I left, they didn't need me back. So I've been out of work two weeks with no real nibbles from the job submissions I've put in, which has both wife and I a bit depressed, especially coming right after some unexpected truck repair expenses. We've got about another month of expenses before needing to accept help from her father, which I SERIOUSLY hate to do.
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Posted: 11/13/2019 2:50:34 AM EDT
[#40]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By LoneWolf545:
Not as bad as some folks have it, but I took a new job to get off of being on the road four days a week, and the new boss apparently didn't like something with me (his stated complaint was I wasn't working on X, when he'd told all of us in group meetings that our #1 priority was Y, and hadn't asked about X in any of those meetings or had it up as an active project for me, I'd been spending all of my time working on Y which had a mid-November fixed due date), and despite having been told I was welcome back at the first job, they informed me that since I'd finished up the major stuff I had been working on before I left, they didn't need me back. So I've been out of work two weeks with no real nibbles from the job submissions I've put in, which has both wife and I a bit depressed, especially coming right after some unexpected truck repair expenses. We've got about another month of expenses before needing to accept help from her father, which I SERIOUSLY hate to do. It's easy to get overwhelmed at first when life deals you significant blows in a short period of time like it has to you guys, but as each day goes by you'll soon adjust to taking it day by day, step by step until you guys are back into the happier, more positive life you envisioned living when you left your last job. I know it will happen for you, as you sound like a determined, very capable man. The world needs men like yourself, and there will be an opportunity for you hopefully in short order. In the meantime, you got a much larger support system then you likely know, including many of us here, so things are gonna be okay. Remember it's never as bad as it seems, and it's never as good as it seems. It takes a lot more than this to defeat a good man such as yourself, and this won't beat you if you just keep on waking up each day, and attacking it with vigor. |
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Posted: 11/13/2019 2:51:56 AM EDT
[#41]
Curses, foiled again, the wound in my foot is "too wet" for them to close it up yet. So I'm gonna chill until Friday and we'll try again.
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Posted: 11/13/2019 2:57:33 AM EDT
[#42]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By edb66:
Curses, foiled again, the wound in my foot is "too wet" for them to close it up yet. So I'm gonna chill until Friday and we'll try again. I'm a broken record now, but you're due some rest and recovery from this deal. With some luck, and some prayers maybe it'll be a good news weekend! |
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Posted: 11/13/2019 1:34:52 PM EDT
[#43]
“People with depression often struggle to find meaning in their lives. They don’t think anyone needs them or cares about them. This almost always isn’t true. Don’t underestimate your value in the world. Just because you can’t see your potential, doesn’t mean it’s not there. Everyone has something to contribute, even if they don’t know it. You can always commit suicide tomorrow. Today, you have things to do. The world needs you even if you don’t need it.” |
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FL, USA
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Posted: 11/14/2019 1:35:30 AM EDT
[Last Edit: WildBoar]
[#44]
ETA fuck that dont want red flagged
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Posted: 11/14/2019 1:43:33 AM EDT
[Last Edit: WildBoar]
[#45]
yeah nevermind
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Posted: 11/14/2019 2:00:35 AM EDT
[#46]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By narphenal:
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By narphenal:
“People with depression often struggle to find meaning in their lives. They don’t think anyone needs them or cares about them. This almost always isn’t true. Don’t underestimate your value in the world. Just because you can’t see your potential, doesn’t mean it’s not there. Everyone has something to contribute, even if they don’t know it. You can always commit suicide tomorrow. Today, you have things to do. The world needs you even if you don’t need it.” I still stick by the shirts we were going to get in my senior English class; Life is a series of struggles and then you die. |
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Posted: 11/14/2019 2:26:43 AM EDT
[#47]
@WildBoar
I tried to send you a PM, but your inbox was full. My ear is open if you ever need to talk. |
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Posted: 11/14/2019 1:35:56 PM EDT
[Last Edit: DK-Prof]
[#48]
Here’s a post that a previously banned member posted recently, and which really resonated with a lot of people:
—-—————————— I suffer from a mental illness. Always have. Always will. I have to accept that. I’m here to advocate to anyone that suffers from this to talk to someone. Anyone. Talk to your friends. Talk to your family. If you have a spouse, TALK TO THEM for sure. Communication is always paramount in any relationship but thinking you’re sparing your significant other by keeping your depression from them, I will guarantee make it worse. I can attest to this firsthand to my everlasting shame. Here’s the thing with chronic depression. It’s not grief. It’s not sadness. Those feelings are fleeting and generally short term and, while they can be quite comparable in the “gut” feeling, they just are not the same. Anyone that is depressed simply knows that you CANNOT explain what depression is to a non-depressed person. I don’t mind, I am thankful when people DON’T get what I’m saying because that means they’ll never, ever suffer from this shit. With that being said, I will give it a shot for y’all. The best way to describe depression is a constant feeling of guilt, shame, failure, you’re always alone, there’s no one there. It is the idea that you don’t want to die while simultaneously you do not want to live any more. It’s NOT the same as suicidal thoughts. That’s just further down the scale and is a possibility. We’ve seen it on here. I didn’t care for Grin or MrCleanForHire as they tried too hard and were known to lie. Looking back, I think I could have seen why they did those things I didn’t care for, I was staring into a mirror. Unlike them, I have not chosen suicide. I will make no judgments on them for their choices, it’s the most godawful shit to ever even contemplate. You don’t want to admit you are mentally ill. It’s stigmatized, you’ll be ostracized by some folks. You basically can’t get certain jobs in private or government if you admit you have issues, even if they give lip service to ADA or EOE and other stuff that’s supposed to prevent discrimination. You know they will discriminate. You worry about guns, obviously. Keep in mind, there is NO issue owning a gun and being mentally ill, it’s only if you’ve been adjudicated by a court and basically involuntarily committed somewhere. Yet, there’s the stigma and, now, the ever increasing statism and reactionary laws that could make the situation worse with bullshit red flag laws. How many times on this very website have people pointed out mass shooters were mentally ill “look what medicines they took!” I don’t disagree, someone that commits mass murder is mentally ill but it isn’t just depression. Some of these medications could be detrimental too. No one freaking knows, not the danged scientists that formulate and study this. We’re living in an age where depression is basically treated like leeching and fixing the “humors” of the dark ages. It’s pathetic. Of course, the final caveat is that you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink. If YOU are not ready for change, then nothing I say or do will matter. If you are, if you’ve had enough, make those moves. You can’t really get any worse, can you? My main motivation is hope. Hope for a better tomorrow. Tomorrow may be the worst day yet, but when tomorrow comes, I just hope again that the following day is better. If you have hope, you have everything. And thank you Gunslinger808 and Annarchy for opening your door to me when I was in dire need. You and your wife couldn’t help me in any way verbally BUT just being there was the best thing you could ever do and I thank y’all from the bottom of my heart. Same for Naamah and YTKA. I will vouch for all of their characters as being some of the best people I’ve ever had the pleasure to call friends. I love each and every one of you. Here's to another day of living and the hope of a better tomorrow. |
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Posted: 11/14/2019 6:04:11 PM EDT
[#49]
Thanks, DK. I didn't get to see the original.
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Posted: 11/15/2019 12:37:08 AM EDT
[#50]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By DeathHates: Thanks, DK. I didn't get to see the original. |
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