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Posted: 8/9/2023 10:44:47 PM EDT
[#1]
A Week max,
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Posted: 8/9/2023 10:45:22 PM EDT
[#2]
From roughly March until June, I didn’t initiate. I didn’t mention sex, I didn’t say anything.
In June I told her that going 3 months without was unacceptable, I don’t believe she loves me and nothing she says can change that, and she either needs to fix herself or move out. |
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Posted: 8/9/2023 10:45:29 PM EDT
[#3]
2-3 weeks maybe, on average.
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Posted: 8/9/2023 10:45:53 PM EDT
[#4]
Never, but she doesn't tell me no when I start things either. When she is mad, it's a bit scary sometimes, but totally worth it.
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Posted: 8/9/2023 10:55:26 PM EDT
[#5]
My wife mentions it being a while since we did anything but never initiates.
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Posted: 8/9/2023 10:59:54 PM EDT
[#6]
Quote HistoryQuoted: From roughly March until June, I didn’t initiate. I didn’t mention sex, I didn’t say anything. In June I told her that going 3 months without was unacceptable, I don’t believe she loves me and nothing she says can change that, and she either needs to fix herself or move out. How’d that work out for you? |
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Posted: 8/9/2023 11:33:48 PM EDT
[#7]
Since menopause, it has to be me starting it or it won't happen.
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Posted: 8/9/2023 11:38:51 PM EDT
[#8]
They go and cheat on you with someone who will.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 12:08:23 AM EDT
[#9]
Piped
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Posted: 8/10/2023 7:29:18 AM EDT
[#10]
Quote HistoryQuoted: My wife mentions it being a while since we did anything but never initiates. The same here. Monday evening I tried to 'initiate' relations with her, but she was too busy playing games on her tablet. That sure isn't the girl I married 32 years ago. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 7:32:27 AM EDT
[#11]
1 day
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Posted: 8/10/2023 7:34:45 AM EDT
[#12]
More than a week, less than a month.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 7:36:32 AM EDT
[#13]
A couple days. We've been together for 8 years, married for 6, and still have sex a few times a week.
ETA: I'm not saying that to brag because I know some guys go at it everyday still. If that routine is broken, she'll be on me to make sure we get back on schedule. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 7:41:27 AM EDT
[#14]
A few years ago I would have said a few days or a week at most before she was jumping me. Since she is in Mena pause it can go two weeks sometimes and most often I initiate.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 7:41:52 AM EDT
[#15]
The wife is always the one to initiate at least 4 times a week, sometimes more. She doesn't even like going to bed alone and will bribe me with back or leg scratches to go to bed when she does.
I guess she likes me or something because it's been like that since day one 25 years. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 7:43:30 AM EDT
[#16]
Quote HistoryQuoted: More than a week, less than a month. This. And of course it's been an issue - so she "tries" to be more involved these days |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 7:48:07 AM EDT
[#17]
A week, max.
She needs it more often, but work stress and fatigue often prevents her from initiating. It sucks for me, but I completely understand since her job is to keep idiots from blowing up a chemical plant. I can read her well enough to know when to initiate and when not to under those circumstances. Away from work, on vacation when she is relaxed, definitely more frequent than weekly. My ex? Probably never. She treated sex like it was a reward that had to be earned. One of the top reasons why I ejected her ass. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 7:48:17 AM EDT
[#18]
The hot flashes of menopause have taken a toll on frequency.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 7:54:03 AM EDT
[#19]
Quote HistoryQuoted: From roughly March until June, I didn’t initiate. I didn’t mention sex, I didn’t say anything. In June I told her that going 3 months without was unacceptable, I don’t believe she loves me and nothing she says can change that, and she either needs to fix herself or move out. Tell it on arfcom but don't "intitiate" a conversation with her....LOL intimacy 101 brother use your noodle before you get the use the other noodle... |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:06:20 AM EDT
[#20]
Shit, I took a picture of my dick and taped it to the side of the milk jug, with the caption "Have you seen me lately?".
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:08:04 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Shit, I took a picture of my dick and taped it to the side of the milk jug, with the caption "Have you seen me lately?".  Attached File |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:09:25 AM EDT
[#22]
You struck gold. Does she have a sister?
 Attached FileQuote HistoryQuoted: The wife is always the one to initiate at least 4 times a week, sometimes more. She doesn't even like going to bed alone and will bribe me with back or leg scratches to go to bed when she does. I guess she likes me or something because it's been like that since day one 25 years. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:09:29 AM EDT
[#23]
I am with a 29 year old
I get attacked when I get home sometimes |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:14:23 AM EDT
[#24]
A week is her limit.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:16:03 AM EDT
[#25]
Quote HistoryQuoted: The same here. Monday evening I tried to 'initiate' relations with her, but she was too busy playing games on her tablet. That sure isn't the girl I married 32 years ago. That was the downfall of my marriage....that damn tablet and candy crush. I don't understand how women can be so absorbed in that particular game. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:17:05 AM EDT
[#26]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Tell it on arfcom but don't "intitiate" a conversation with her....LOL intimacy 101 brother use your noodle before you get the use the other noodle... Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: From roughly March until June, I didn’t initiate. I didn’t mention sex, I didn’t say anything. In June I told her that going 3 months without was unacceptable, I don’t believe she loves me and nothing she says can change that, and she either needs to fix herself or move out. Tell it on arfcom but don't "intitiate" a conversation with her....LOL intimacy 101 brother use your noodle before you get the use the other noodle... The fact that she completely failed the test escapes you doesn't it. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:19:54 AM EDT
[#27]
I'd say less than 24 hours, but of course I'd have to consider our work schedules.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:20:52 AM EDT
[#28]
My wife wants it more than me. Wants it twice in the same day like I am still 20 often. Been together 20 years you think she would be sick of me by now.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:21:17 AM EDT
[#29]
Quote HistoryQuoted: The fact that she completely failed the test escapes you doesn't it. I'm mixed on this. Clearly she failed the test, which is concerning. But playing games and beating around the bush instead of confronting issues and being honest is something women do. I'm going with both parties fail. 
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:21:54 AM EDT
[#30]
I don't know and don't want to find out.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:21:54 AM EDT
[#31]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Since menopause, it has to be me starting it or it won't happen. Hormone replacement is the answer, unless YOU are a smelly mayotanker. We're in mid 50's fucking more than we ever have. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:29:05 AM EDT
[#32]
Sex camel is the term I use.
If we had a few drinks, and broke into the conversation of “I you could, with zero repercussion or expectations, shag someone (non-celebrity) right now, who would it be?” I’m pretty certain the honest, alcohol enabled answer would be a blank stare. There’s simply no innate drive; solo, pair, team, group, whatever. Meanwhile, I’d need to open excel and start a spreadsheet by zip code, or proximity to home, day of the week, or something to keep it organized. Do I want to have relations with the lady at the Chinese takeout? Not really; but if she locked the front door and made herself available, it would take about 45 seconds for me to warp her wok. Sure, the call of “do your part” will likely come chiming in, but I’ll put it this way….if there’s a car that I have to air up the tires, jump the battery, and top off fluids, and put gas in it before every use, I’m probably going to make a lot more effort to consolidate trips, or just take one of the other 3 that are ready to go. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:32:04 AM EDT
[#33]
I left a sexless marriage (maybe once a year). I will never go back to that scenario again.
Started dating a 45 year old (my age) a couple years back. We had sex constantly. Now its slowed. After being rejected by my wife for a dozen years, I've still got some hang ups with initiating. Its been a month since the GF have had sex. She is aware of my past predicament. I've brought this up before and I'm going to do it again this weekend. Whatever is going on, needs to be fixed. She's prime for menopause at 46. She can start getting shots, pills, whatever...but I'm not going to be in a sexless relationship again. Good luck OP. Its not an easy conversation to have. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:40:13 AM EDT
[#34]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Tell it on arfcom but don't "intitiate" a conversation with her....LOL intimacy 101 brother use your noodle before you get the use the other noodle... Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: From roughly March until June, I didn’t initiate. I didn’t mention sex, I didn’t say anything. In June I told her that going 3 months without was unacceptable, I don’t believe she loves me and nothing she says can change that, and she either needs to fix herself or move out. Tell it on arfcom but don't "intitiate" a conversation with her....LOL intimacy 101 brother use your noodle before you get the use the other noodle... I rather spitefully wanted to experiment with how long she would neglect me. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:40:22 AM EDT
[#35]
I left a bitchy judgmental woman that wouldn't initiate and try to make me feel bad afterwards. 31 years of that shit was too much (among other issues), and I ejected.
Not in a relationship now because 31 years has left a fucking mark which will never buff out. If I decide to date again, if, and she can't initiate at least once a month (my expectations are low) I am gone. Not worth the squeeze anymore. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 8:56:26 AM EDT
[#36]
2 weeks....we talk
2 months ...to the doctor 4 months or more...lawyer. Exactly how our talk went. When the topic came up ( friend was in a 6 month dry spell) We are different types,we know it... I'm the one who will say " hell I love eating pussy..." shell blush and get all embarrassed. And we joke alot to each other. She asked me why I married her... Told her she sucked a good dick. It worked when we got home lol |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:11:41 AM EDT
[#37]
Quote HistoryQuoted: From roughly March until June, I didn’t initiate. I didn’t mention sex, I didn’t say anything. In June I told her that going 3 months without was unacceptable, I don’t believe she loves me and nothing she says can change that, and she either needs to fix herself or move out. With all due respect, I can recall many of your relationship threads/posts because they are so out of the ordinary. Your honeymoon thread, her family stealing from you, the lack of intimacy threads, her not displaying any affection thread, etc. Previous threats to kick her to the curb. This is just another at the end of an already long list of complaints. Curious to see if you ever actually do anything about it. I suspect the list will just keep getting longer. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:13:08 AM EDT
[#38]
Quote HistoryQuoted: That was the downfall of my marriage....that damn tablet and candy crush. I don't understand how women can be so absorbed in that particular game. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: The same here. Monday evening I tried to 'initiate' relations with her, but she was too busy playing games on her tablet. That sure isn't the girl I married 32 years ago. That was the downfall of my marriage....that damn tablet and candy crush. I don't understand how women can be so absorbed in that particular game. So it’s like GD is to men?
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:20:27 AM EDT
[#39]
It's kind of an expectation at our house. If I didn't initiate or want sex, she would wonder what the hell is wrong with me.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:23:59 AM EDT
[#40]
Quote HistoryQuoted: With all due respect, I can recall many of your relationship threads/posts because they are so out of the ordinary. Your honeymoon thread, her family stealing from you, the lack of intimacy threads, her not displaying any affection thread, etc. Previous threats to kick her to the curb. This is just another at the end of an already long list of complaints. Curious to see if you ever actually do anything about it. I suspect the list will just keep getting longer. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: From roughly March until June, I didn’t initiate. I didn’t mention sex, I didn’t say anything. In June I told her that going 3 months without was unacceptable, I don’t believe she loves me and nothing she says can change that, and she either needs to fix herself or move out. With all due respect, I can recall many of your relationship threads/posts because they are so out of the ordinary. Your honeymoon thread, her family stealing from you, the lack of intimacy threads, her not displaying any affection thread, etc. Previous threats to kick her to the curb. This is just another at the end of an already long list of complaints. Curious to see if you ever actually do anything about it. I suspect the list will just keep getting longer. Funny enough, this has actually yielded some fruit. I told her we need to start actually taking the time to be intimate rather than her grudgingly telling me to hop on. I’m nearing 40, she’s a few years older than me, and from my understanding of the female anatomy actually getting ready to have sex don’t just take a while, it takes longer as you get older. No wonder she wouldn’t enjoy it and would want to avoid it if she’s not physically ready. Heck, if she just grabs me and starts hammering on it, I’m not going to enjoy it. We found an app that basically game-ifies foreplay, and we’ve been using that to good effect for a few weeks. Even with the family stress she’s been under recently, she’s still making time for us. Will it continue? No idea. I just hang in there. |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:27:33 AM EDT
[#41]
A couple of days and she’ll be chasing me down in knee socks and pigtails.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:29:21 AM EDT
[#42]
Quote HistoryQuoted: From roughly March until June, I didn’t initiate. I didn’t mention sex, I didn’t say anything. In June I told her that going 3 months without was unacceptable, I don’t believe she loves me and nothing she says can change that, and she either needs to fix herself or move out. That's just weird. Wouldn't she be curious why you didn't want to have sex? |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:30:10 AM EDT
[#43]
My wife knows I take sex very seriously.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:30:28 AM EDT
[#44]
Quote HistoryQuoted: A couple of days and she’ll be chasing me down in knee socks and pigtails. lucky bastard |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:31:08 AM EDT
[#45]
I am almost positive I know some folks that hadn't made love in like 7 years.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:31:47 AM EDT
[#46]
A month, give or take. She tended to get randy right before that time of the month
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:32:44 AM EDT
[#47]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Shit, I took a picture of my dick and taped it to the side of the milk jug, with the caption "Have you seen me lately?".  I'm gonna try that, no really |
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:33:29 AM EDT
[#48]
Quote HistoryQuoted: A month, give or take. She tended to get randy right before that time of the month When your woman is frisky, that's when it's risky
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:37:37 AM EDT
[#49]
My ex used sex as a weapon. I'll never allow myself to be subjected to that again.
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Posted: 8/10/2023 9:39:52 AM EDT
[#50]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Shit, I took a picture of my dick and taped it to the side of the milk jug, with the caption "Have you seen me lately?". LMFAO
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