Thanks everyone for the replies. It is over and done with now, and she was just fine with it, and is looking forward to turkey dinner. The real problem was because I am so soft hearted, and was not raised in a hunting or farming family. This is all foreign territory to me. My father-in-law is very good to my daughter, but he didn't deal with things the way I would have. I tried to stress to her from day one that the turkey was a future meal, and didn't really want her to look at it as a pet. He called it "her" baby, and pet. She took to his idea much more willingly than my idea of future meal. She has always been a tough little stinker, and doesn't want to seem wimpy in front of her grandpa, so that is part of why I did not know how to comfort her. It is at times hard to tell how much of her toughness is a show for grandpa, and how much is just real. She enjoys hunting and ect. She has a lot of experience with this sort of thing, but on the other hand is still a little girl. I have never lied to her about where her food comes from. When she was very small she asked me what a bologna looked like out in the wild, and that is when I started explaining to her that meat comes from animals, and we eat animals. I did not force her to say goodbye as someone stated above. When I said I had to take her, it was because it was important to her. She did that and was happy that she did. She did not cut its head off either. Being a city girl who's mom cooked almost every meal in the microwave, this was a scary thing to go through with no idea of what to do. I think we got through it very well.
She is even looking forward to helping her grandpa with raising future meals next spring. I did mention to him that this would all be a lot easier if he did not call them her pets when he gets them.