Posted: 3/5/2003 1:18:31 PM EDT
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actually a lot of problems. as many of you know, last november my father was killed in a car accident. so now i am living alone with my mother. she can't drive on her own, because she is diabetic and so is blind in one eye and her vision is poor in the other. she is also suffering from kidney failure, and will be going on dialisys in a few short weeks. heres my problem, i am the only one who can help my mother to thie extent i can, and i just recived deployment orders. how in hades am i going to take care of her when i am (30,000?) miles away? she obviousely has many needs and my sister , with a family of her own couldn't possably tend all of them. whats a guy to do? |
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isn't there some sort of waiver for situations like this? i would get in contact with the following people: your Chaplain, Legal Officer, your Mom's doctor, possibly a civilian lawyer. i know you are eager to do your part with the defense of our Nation, but how can you possibly do that and do a good job of it, with thoughts of your Mom nagging at you at every minute? i would even consider maybe writing a letter to your Congressman. maybe work out some sort of deal with your sister if all the above is exhausted. after all, she is her Mom too! |
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my sister has a full time job, (with the occasional dubble shift because she cant leave the office unatended) two kids with helth problems and a dead beat husband who has stated unequivocally (sp.) that he will not allow my mother to live with them. (there are some frictions between them). but i do have a sibling. thats why my CO wouldn't give me the hardship discharge. and now my only hope for a discharge is when i get to the mobe station (ft. drum) and present my case to the batt.CO. but i still have to leave at least for a week or so. SS around here is as slow as molases in jan. going uphill in reverse with a bad transmission and bald tires. i can't wait, my time is short. we have also purchased a house, because it is more accomodateing to her dificulties, but it need lots of work before we can move in. i was hopeing that any deployment would wait till about early apr.. one more thing anyone in NY know about how much it would cost to board a large, 10 month old, very playfull dog? mother simply can't handle her alone. i am a member of the local reserve unit in plattsburgh. thanks again |
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is she able to care for herself at all?how old is she? does she have assets listed in her name? if she is medicare eligible and she is getting dialysis she should be able to get some home care under medicare. but im not sure how much. you may also want to consider putting her in an assisted living(not nursing home for those that will bnlow a gut)center while you are deployed if you cant get any other accomodation. the catch is that if she has assets in her name she will be paying with those till she is below the threshold to be medicaid eligible. the problem you may face is that she is a diabetic in renal failure and an assisted living center may veiw that as more a candidate for a nursing hoome because of the care level needed. good luck youre in a tough position |
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well i belive i MAY have mother tentatively taken care of. still not sure on the dog. as it stands now. i wont be getting a discharge even if i tried for it. so i will dedicate my full attention to fighting this dam'n war. my new motto is "LET"S GET IT DONE SO I CAN GO HOME." LOL |