[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Need to vent. . (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 3/23/2008 12:41:34 PM EDT
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Well my problems aren't quite as bad as the others on this board. . BUT my girlfriend of three years broke up with me over a text message two days before my first final last week, and then immediately flew to Arizona to spend two weeks with her family. . . She also took "our" dogs of which I bought but she registered. (that's the lesson for next relationship) either way I'm down as hell right now. . .damn she devils. Least she didn't take the saiga 12 right? So now I'm graduating college the same way I came into it, alone and confused. . . Don't really understand because we were planning on getting a house and moving in together. I guess this last quarter was just too tough for both of us.. . I know I'm really struggling because my new Sig 226 SCT just came in and I could really care less. Guess its off to the bars for me. . . any words of advice from the AR hive? good or bad I can take it. |
+1 That is what I did. Actually I didn’t even bother removing the pictures from the frames. Just set them up and shot them to pieces. But I am sorry to hear that. Especially losing the dogs. That sucks. Buy yourself a new gun too. Shopping therapy helps. OR do a build to pass the time. |
Be an optimist and consider yourself lucky. You could have bought the house and had a few kids with her before she flaked out. That being said, you now have the freedom to go wherever you want and do whatever you want. Believe me..it could have been much worse. |
Dont put your face in a place not made for your face in the first place...... 
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Relationships require both people if they're gonna last. If you did everything you could to make it work, and she walked away, then she wasn't worthy anyways. Oh well, time to find a better one.  "We're sorry, but this is not a winning game peice. Please try again, and thank you for playing." 
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Go ahead and keep working towards that house, except when the time comes it will be all yours, just like your life now. You've been given a great opportunity to go ahead in life with no one holding you back with things like obligations, time together, and compromises. Good dogs are nice, just like a girl is fun too; but they're all over the place, and come along more often than you'd think. Clear your head, go pick up that Sig (it's a nice gun) and take it easy doing all the things that are important to you. Take care--Adam
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..... probably the hardest blow.
I wouldn't refuse............
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Your a free man, enjoy. Graduating with some sort of Degree, no house yet, no woman or kids to tie you down to any one spot, and obviously some disposable income while still in college, so things aren't that bad, Go find the job you want for the pay you want in the city/area you want. You get your shit together and Women will be lining up 'looking for a decent man' just watch out for the gold-diggers. Enjoy the college girls while you still have 2 nuts! |
AHEM! Girls are like buses, miss one, another will be along soon.....and some are bendy in the middle! Credit should be given to busmaster, as I believe it was he who said it first. |
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Glockluv...take heart, as written earlier in this thread, another one will definitely be coming along any time now. Acording to this website, http://www.epodunk.com/county_data2/mw48.html which is suppposedly utilizing data from the 2000 US Census report. The brutal truth is that there are far more women than there are men in Washington State, and that statement apparently holds true for much of the nation as a whole. As of the 2000 US Census report: Snohomish County: 644,274 people/ 5% more women than men/ 32,213 women for which there are no men. King County: 1,777,143 people/ 3% more women than men/ 53,314 women for which there are no men. Pierce County: 745,411 people/ 8% more women than men/ 59,633 women for which there are no men. Total between King/Pierce/Snohomish Counties: 145,160 women for which there are no men whatsoever. Women like to think that there are enormous numbers of guys just waiting around them to pick from...which can't be any further from the truth. Reality says otherwise...so the longer that women go trying to find Mister Perfect, the greater the chances that they'll grow old, childless, unloved and forgotten. I can't speak as to the accuracy of the website...but it looks like it was built with an emphasis toward women. Looks like you're the one that can afford to be selective...enjoy. |
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Oh wow, it's good to see that so many people can relate. Really appreciate the support as well. (also the text message simply said "our relationship isn't working out" WTF IS THAT!!) BUT unfortunately for me it just so happens that minutes before she sent me that text I was out on a break from studying (FOR MY FIRST FINAL!) and my back tire blew out so I was already a lil bent outta shape and not in the mood to sort things out. . (stupid me!) As it is I really don't hate the girl, I just miss her. we were both on our last quarter at Western, and she was bar tending full time, so we were both stressed out pretty frequently. Honestly losing a dog that you bought and raised from a puppy is a damn hard thing to go through that I don't wish upon anybody... . I went over there day before yesterday to grab my snowboard while the girl was out of the house and it was pretty obvious that both my dogs missed me about as much as I missed them. . . Really appreciate venting to you guys. Hell I figured without pics I wouldn't get much of a response! but I guess this is something that every man has gone through at one point in their lives and I appreciate the kind words. (hell even the statistics!) |
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I believe that what SCRIOS posted is right on the money. Now that you have your degree...worry about finding the job that you want and gathering as much money as you possibly can. Then obtain the trappings of success...house, property, car, etcetera. Be the best man that you can possibly be and have fun. Don't be one of those co-dependent wuss-bags that needs a woman around to define who he is. A confident and successful man attracts the hoe's like flies to a freshly-laid steamer. Just watch out for the gold-diggers, grave-diggers, nut-balls, flakes, and just plain bitches...which constitutes at least 95% of the women out there. |
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It was far better to end the relationship with a text message than to be served divorce papers, and then for her to demand the house, the kids, the dogs, and $alimony$. You really should consider yourself lucky in this regard. Vent. A lot. All you want. Get it all out. Don't bottle it up. Go for a run. Go shooting. Hang out with people that you trust. Go for a long drive or motorcycle ride (if you have a bike). Go hiking. Build something. Tear something down. Stay busy and distracted when you need to be. Drink, but make sure someone else will drive. This is a bad time to risk a DUI. I'm not saying you will, but just in case. |
Oh wow, that's exactly what I need to hear. . That's what I was thinking last night, I hate those people so much but I can't help feeling I was one of those guys. . Either way solid advice. |
It will all be ok, my wife of three years tells me on valentines day that she wants a divorce, because she can't live with me. I do most of the cooking and child care all while trying to get into the academy (SPD) come to find out she has been carrying on an emotional relationship with a guy who has 2 kids, lives with his current girlfriend and lives in San diego. WTF No matter how bad it seems some other poor dude may have it a little worse! |
Amen to that!!!! Sage advice right there! Once you have yourself together and think that you're ready to have a woman around on a semi-permanent basis (just pork 'em and forget 'em until then) in order to have kids and such... If I had it to do over again, I think I would hook up with a foreign girl...Russian, Filipino, Australian. Those women actually appreciate you and appreciate being here and many of them have good educations and they are generally much cooler than stuck-up spoiled-rotten American women. If you absolutely must have an American woman, make damn sure she is independent and has herself together as well...her own education, job, money and such; that goes for the foreign girls too, they'll just have to find work when you get them here. Whatever you do, don't EVER allow them to stop working because they'll rake you over the coals in alimony (they call it "maintenance" in this state) because the system thinks they need "support" until they can "find their way in the world" or some such silly nonsense. Don't get hooked up with one of those lazy-assed good-for-nothing no-money-no-job parasitic bitches who believe that they have a right to suck you dry financially just because she allows you the "honor" of having sex with her. Don't get one of those "kit" prenuptual agreements, spend the money to hire a family law laywer to write you an iron clad prenuptual agreement...and if the bitch won't sign then she doesn't love you for you...she loves you for your wallet, so kick her ass to the curb immediately. The legal system in this country has twisted this country in such a way that it is now a woman's world and we men simply live in it. There are a surprising number of books out there that specifically train women on how to best screw-over their husbands in divorce court. No matter how much you think you love the bitch nor how much you "believe" she loves you (at least at the time anyway) you must defend yourself and your assets as best you can because the minute the 'ho gets bored with you...you're in trouble. |
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Here's a fairy tale with a happy ending! Once upon a time in a land far, far away a man fell in love with a beautiful princess. He loved and honored this woman and showered her with love and expensive jewelry and other gifts to show his appreciation of her. One day he went out and bought an expensive diamond ring and proposed to the young princess. She imediately turned him down and said she had found another and she wanted nothing to do with him. The next day he went out drinking with his buddies and went hunting and fishing and never got married and lived happily ever after! |
Hoe's are not the goal. They are the obstacle.
Not true. If you think this it true, YOU are the problem. |
Thanks, but I am forgetting something: Stupidly high $child$ $support$ that doesn't even get spent on the kids, just used as her mad (at the ex husband) money. 
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LOL! Precisely my point about the 95%-ers... In my case the ex simply vanished for nearly a year simply because I refused to spend any more of my hard-earned money on her habits. Had to hire a PI to track her down to sign papers. It was then that she found out that I was in the process of divorcing her and she drove back up here from Nevada to contest it. Even though she had abandoned her children and I had primary custody by default, one of the first things she did was march right down to child support enforcement and register as she had it in her head that she would immediately assume custody of the kids the second she re-entered the state or something. In the end I was awarded primary custody due to her ongoing chemical dependency issues that were well documented. Interesting thing is that she hasn't paid a single dime in child support in 2 years and 11 months and support enforcement hasn't lifted a finger to make her pay it either...even though she has been working a $21/hour full-time job the entire time. If I dared to miss a support payment or two, I know for a fact that my wages would be garnished and/or I would be in jail. Just goes to show you that support enforcement is a womens' advocacy group out to crucify men at every conceivable turn and that here in the US it is a womans' world that we men live in...so watch your backs, gentlemen. |
Take it from me. It can easily be much worse.
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