The Glock 26 is the gold standard for a small gun that can accept extended magazines. It really isn't that thin when compared to single stack guns, but it isn't that bad. With Glocks, there is a shelf on both the magazine and inside the mag well in the frame that interact and make overinserting the magazine impossible and a grip adapter on the magazine isn't necessary. You can put one on the magazine if it makes it more comfortable but it isn't necessary for function. A VERY good design choice on Glock's part and I wish every manufacturer would do that.
My wife has a Ruger SR9C. Pretty nice gun and is nice and thin for a double stack gun. It is also fairly compact with the 10 rd magazine inserted. It can take 17 rd magazines from the full sized SR9, but a grip adapter is necessary to prevent overinserting the magazine and possibly damaging the gun. She has had some problems with light primer strikes in her gun, but they seem to be getting less frequent as she shoots it more, so we're waiting to see if the gun "wears in" before sending it back. While not a common problem, from doing some reading, it seems that light primer strikes on the SR series isn't unheard of, so be aware of that and make sure you shoot the gun a bit before relying on it, if you decide to go that way.
For the single stack guns, the only real option for extended magazines is the Glock 42 and 43. ETS makes aftermarket extended magazines for both, 9 and 12 rd capacity IIRC. Aside from magazine follower and spring combos for some other guns (like MagGuts spring/follower combos), that's about your only real option for extended mags for single stack guns that I know of.
While I understand the desire to spend range time shooting instead of reloading magazines, if your wife is going to be carrying a small single stack gun, she really needs to be practicing with the small magazines she would be carrying. On the small guns with extended magazines, the feel can change quite a bit, namely making it easier to shoot than with the smaller mags. I'd think it would be better to practice with the smaller mags to make sure you can shoot the gun as it would be carried, with the smaller mags. Of course, as long as you have a wife wanting to shoot, you have a winner and you should encourage that. Just my $0.02 worth, take it for what it's worth and don't discourage her from shooting. Good luck.
Bub75