Posted: 6/3/2007 10:07:04 PM EDT
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I need to set the stage for an incident that happened yesterday: My daughter (20) used to live with my ex-wife until about 2 weeks ago. She moved out an is living with a new boyfriend (24). My ex is moving to another city about 20 miles away to be closer to work. She called my son (23) to help her move boxes and called my daughter to come get the rest of her stuff. Daughter said she didn't have the gas to get there. WWIII started. My ex and my daughter just don't get along. Words were said that upset my daughter. So, boyfriend decides to call ex and chew her out. Ex was furious! Called me to have me call daughter and have her call her. I called and daughter didn't want to. I told her to give it a couple hours and call mom and go find a way to get the gas and get her stuff. A couple hours pass and I call daughter. She tells me her and boyfriend are on their way to get the stuff. I tell her to have BF drop her off and she get's her stuff and puts it out by the curb and she calls BF when she is ready to be picked up. I said this because I know my ex. She's spitefull and mean as hell. Especially when you anger her. Now, I will tell you 2 sides of the rest of the story: Son calls me and says he just had to pull a gun on daughters BF. Say's BF entered the home with daughter and started calling mom c***, bad mother and flipped her off. Mother, ex-step daughter (25) and son told BF to leave. Son said he told him about 6 times that he had to leave. BF then went to his vehicle and grabbed a knife. Started waving it at ex making threats. Son then runs to his vehicle and grabs his .45 (Legal to carry under seat in holster in AZ), racks a round and holds it by his side and tells him to get rid of the knife and to leave. Daughter grabs muzzle and tells son she doesn't want anyone getting shot. Son tells her to let go because he didn't want it going off. She let go. Daughter and BF get in vehicle and leave. (Vehicles are parked curbside and this altercation took place on the driveway of the residence) Daughters version: BF was going there to apologize to mom. Mom started the insults. BF only told her she was a bad mother. Son told him to leave and he was leaving. When he was leaving he flipped off mom. Son got mad and went to his truck to get his gun. Racked a round, pointed it at him. BF decided he needed to defend himself and ran to his vehicle and retrieved a knife. Daughter struggled with son over the gun and finally let go. Both daughter and BF left after that. Daughter had called and told me this right after I spoke with son. I asked her what she was going to do. She said she was on her way to a phone place to get another cell because mom took hers away. (Mom was paying the bill) Afterwards: Ex calls police while I am on phone with son hearing his story to make a report that her and her son's lives were just threatened. Police show up and get statements from son, ex, and ex-step daughter. Then they had to write out statements. All 3 matched to the tee. Police confiscate firearm and tell son the County Attorney will be in touch within 10 days. They give ex Victims Rights pamphlet to ex and tell her to go get an Order of Protection on Monday. Son tells police he felt his life was in danger as well as the life and safety of his mother. Police talk with BF on cell phone. He agrees to meet them and give his statement. They meet and write statements. Knife is confiscated and they are told the will also wait 10 days for the County Attorney to decide whether or not to prosecute. (BF's mom is CID for a police dept.) Fast forward several hours: Son receives text on phone. Something to the fact that he's a p**** and how does it feel to lose his .45. And it also stated that the message sender has an AK in his trunk. More curse words were in the message, but I forget. Few hours later another text comes to his phone and it's another threat saying he is going to finish the job with even harsher curse words. I look up BF's record online. I see one conviction and probation for marijuana in 2003. There is another charge, but it was dismissed and there is no info on it. Ex said he had an Order of Protection from his ex roommate, but it didn't show up on the police computer. (daughter also confirmed this later) I also do a reverse look-up on the web and it shows the phone number the text messages came the very service my daughter said she was headed to to get another phone.  Daughter called me last night from her new phone and the numbers didn't match. I am figuring he got a 2 for 1 deal or something at the phone store because his old phone number was known by my ex.. (Pure speculation)..Son called the officer that took the initial report and reported the messages. She advised him not to delete them and go file an Order of Protection on Monday morning.Folks, I am really worried for my son. I know in my heart he was protecting himself and his mother. He is one of the most mellow people I know. Never confrontational. (My genes  ) I am also certain my daughters story is what "she saw"... She lies occasionally, but I really don't think she would lie to the police knowing she might also face jail time.. My son is really scared and so am I... We have both spoken with police friends and all of them say that if they think something was really bad, someone would have been hooked up right then and there. They also said son had a right to draw his weapon because BF had a knife. The also wonder why BF brought a knife to a gunfight if BF's story is the correct one??? AZ law states you can threaten or use deadly force in the defense of yourself or another. It also states you can THREATEN to use deadly force in the defense of your property... Please give advice on what you might have encountered in a situation like this. I know my daughter is a dingbat at times and her BF is a shitbag, so by pointing this out, you're not telling me anything new. Thanks everyone for your response.. |