Posted: 5/14/2007 7:14:33 PM EDT
| This morning our friend and neighbor that usually takes our two girls to school with his daughter never showed up. My wife called me at work and told me his other neighbor had called and she had not seen him or his little girl yesterday afternoon or this morning and asked if I would come check. I walked in and found him dead on his bed with a gun in his hand. Called the dispatch to get the sherriff and coronor. He had been having custody problems with his ex-wife and we think she must have got his daughter and he just could not take it anymore. The first deputy that responded was also a deacon at my church and our pastor was there pretty quick. I have worked a coule of scenes with friends dying from wrecks and a heart attack but this is the first time I have walked in on a suicide. I am dealing with it but it is like every other one. It will take time and a little talking to get it out of my mind. I just can't imagine what someone is thinking to do that. I know it is going to hit his little girl hard. |
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I can never understand suicides as well. Just heard over the weekend that one of my old coworkers that I used to work, and sweat next to, had committed the same. He was a nice guy and a genius at his job. Just a simple mistake on his part, after drinking, led him into some trouble with the law. He might've dealt with it better if his face and name wasn't all over the news the next morning, but who am I to say. May his soul rest in peace. A great loss for the United States Air Force. Guess that post about suicides on the rise, in the spring time, is true. |
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Sorry to hear about your friend. Many of us deal with these things on a regular basis but have the benefit of detachment. Even then it gets to you. You have no such "benefit." I hope this resolves for you and his family in time. Like others have stated, talk with your friends and others... share the burden. |
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Thanks for all the kind words. I tried to reply last night and my connection was down. We had the funeral today and his daughter, 8 yrs old, was there. Her mother brought her by after the funeral to visit my girls and you could tell it had not sunk in with her. I have two coworkers at the office that are volunteer firefighters also that I can talk to and from previous experience I know that by talking about it and time it will fade even though I will never completely forget. I can still close my eyes and plainly see his body laying there. But through the support of friends and a strong faith in God I will get through it. This is a small town and it hit a lot of people hard because he was well liked and would help anybody. A couple of my wife's friends who have daughter's in his girl's class have been by talking to her because they are shook up. It is just going to take time. |