Posted: 1/4/2010 4:06:02 AM EDT
Soooo, was turning a particular age difficult for any of you? I'm soon to be 45 and...well...
I can't put my finger on it, but nothing feels the same. The past 15 years have been the greatest of my life but the last couple of months I have questioned everything. Maybe it's normal? Is it normal? 
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I am not sure it's the same thing, seeing as I am not to that age yet, but when I turned 23/24 I really started to look at my life and wonder what the heck I was doing with it. I then decided to get a degree and have since graduated, twice, and I have a job that pays 3 times as much. My life is so much better now that I decided to do something. Now that I am nearing 30, my biological clock is starting to pick up speed. I am about to be married (YAY!!), and even though I am scared of the thought of being with the same guy for the rest of my life, I am excited about getting to experience life with him. But, that could just be me being young and foolish. I do, however, think its completely normal to make it to certain points in our lives and freak out a bit. Just the same as finally making it to a certain age and celebrating it, i.e. 13, 16, 18, 21. |
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My mother always told me that after forty life goes to Hell, fast. It then gets worse with menopause and smooths out around 60. Good luck - I'm not looking forward to it.  Sure, I have slowed down a bit and I have a few aches and pains here and there (who doesn't?). However, from an academic/scientific/mathematics standpoint, I have learned far more during the ages of 35-45 than in my earlier years and I am far more competent with different technologies. I definitely work out a lot more, and possess much more stamina (of course in my younger years I smoked  ).
No way in hell could I swim 55 laps at a stretch back then. I think it is simply a matter of taking care of yourself, exercising your body and your brain, keeping your skill-set as current as possible, pursuing your interests, and having some fun. I know many guys that have completely pickled all of their brain cells in booze and bong-water and have let their bodies totally fall apart to such an extent that they get winded simply getting out of a chair. Nobody can reverse the effects of time, but you can surely slow it down and make the second half of your life a healthy, interesting, and fun as possible. |
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i'm certainly not old, but at 21 my body is a long ways away from where it was 3 years ago even. I am back down to the size I was when I was 18, but my body shape is worlds different... and I have a couple lines on my face.
ah well. I look forward to each passing year. Each year is better than the last for me. |
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When I turned 30 I didn't think much of it but the next couple years that passed by, well, each year, I felt the weight of the world coming down on my shoulders more and more, so to speak and now I'm realizing, how events that I'm recalling in conversations with people, that seemed to happen just yesterday (1999, 2000, 2004) were actually almost 10 years ago. Where did all the time go? It all seems to be catching up with me all the sudden.
So I think I can sort of relate to what you're saying. There's so many changes too. I used to be able to eat anything I wanted and nothing happened. Now I'm gaining weight, sometimes I get dark circles under my eyes, I always feel tired or exhausted with the responsibilities of life and when my girlfriends call about some drama in their lives, I really don't want to hear it. I feel much more stressed now that I'm in my early 30s than I ever did in my 20s. Plus, some insomnia too. (Like tonight) Hopefully, it's just a stage and you'll feel your old self again soon. It's 2010, it might turn out to be a very good year for you. 
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Well, physically, everything is fine. There's really nothing happening out of the ordinary. I do what I love for a living. I'm married to the man of my dreams. I can retire in 10 years if I choose. Other than the daily drama of children that think they're grown-up and aren't, everything is good. It has been a very difficult year with the kids. The older they get, the more they can hurt you it seems. But I figure that's normal.
So, really, I shouldn't complain at all. I just have this nagging feeling that something is wrong in my world. I have no idea what it is, and that's the difficult part to deal with. It's not a passing thought. It's been hanging around for a couple of months. Maybe it's the big B-day coming up. Maybe it's just winter. Maybe I've just lost it. Maybe I'll figure it out one day. Thanks for the input. It's much appreciated.
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I just realized yesterday that the peeps my husband and I like to hang out with (movie nights, wii, sushi ect...) were in 4th grade when I was a freshman in college and he was in his senior year of high school. That blew all of our minds a bit and was pretty funny.
/trumpet players //what do you expect? 
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Well, physically, everything is fine. There's really nothing happening out of the ordinary. I do what I love for a living. I'm married to the man of my dreams. I can retire in 10 years if I choose. Other than the daily drama of children that think they're grown-up and aren't, everything is good. It has been a very difficult year with the kids. The older they get, the more they can hurt you it seems. But I figure that's normal. So, really, I shouldn't complain at all. I just have this nagging feeling that something is wrong in my world. I have no idea what it is, and that's the difficult part to deal with. It's not a passing thought. It's been hanging around for a couple of months. Maybe it's the big B-day coming up. Maybe it's just winter. Maybe I've just lost it. Maybe I'll figure it out one day. Thanks for the input. It's much appreciated. Go find some cool stuff to do...adventure is FUN!!!! Do an African safari and mix-it-up with some big, nasty bitiin' critters. Big-game hunting...better yet, dangerous game hunting. Learn to fly, sky-dive, open-water scuba, snow-board! Strap on a sand-rail or a killer dirt-bike and haul ass through the desert! High-power rifle, f-class or 3-gun competition! Go rock-crawling, four-wheeling, off-road jamborees, find a gnarly bottomless mud-hole and launch a high-horsepower truck through it! It's all about adventure. Live! |
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Soooo, was turning a particular age difficult for any of you? I'm soon to be 45 and...well...
I can't put my finger on it, but nothing feels the same. The past 15 years have been the greatest of my life but the last couple of months I have questioned everything. Maybe it's normal? Is it normal? I think at 45 you just start to notice some of the differences. I didn't feel any different but looked in the mirror and those laugh lines were deeper, a few more grey hairs showed up and a trip to Vicoria's Secret revealed that I had past the "push up" stage and was now in an oozing over kind of place.
Also I noticed that my BS tolerance level has lessoned as well. Just having that life experience makes me notice it more I think. You can be fabulous at any age. The key is to find the humor in it, be comfortable with who you are. We can't stay 25-30 our entire lives and I wouldn't want to either. Stop questioning and have fun. I am knocking on that 50 door hard and I will be darned if that is going to dictate my life. Age is a number. 
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danico,
How old is the oldest child? Is this one about to fly out of the coop? Heading off for college or an apartment of their own? My wife and I were a little weirded out when the first and then second daughters flew out of the coop. Are you possibly sub-conously (SP?) foreseeing the future. A house without kids around? You mentioned that the kids are starting to act up, which is just one part of the leaving the nest. And my mother was a real bitch, while I was a real ass during that last year. Thats what it takes sometimes to cut the apron strings that mothers sometimes have on their sons mostly, but some times daughters too. So, is the oldest a son? What ever it is, I hope this feeling of un-easiness goes away without any drama. |
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My oldest is 21 and has been out of the house for awhile. My youngest is soon to be 18 and will be heading out as well. They are both girls and the past few years have been full of drama. I'm sure they would tell you I'm a bitch but I never saw it as my job to make them like me, so I'm good with that. I didn't like everything my Mom said when I was a kid, either.
I never would have told her that, though. That would have been dangerous back in the day. I don't know. The day before yesterday was good. Yesterday sucked. Today has yet to be determined. I'm gonna try and think of something super-exciting...livin on the edge crazy to do. I should be doing end of the year paperwork for taxes and crap, but I think I will spend the day thinking in between clients. This too shall pass... |
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I'm 43. Age is just a number. I've met women in the 30's who look and act older than I do. But let's face it, regardless of age, some days are better than others. And that's really all there is to it. Some days, ya look around and think, "What a wonderful life." Others, you look around and think, "WTF...is THIS what I signed up for?" But that's NORMAL! Now physically...I keep in shape. I think we have to: If you don't like the reflection, you aren't gonna like the person. And ya gotta like yourself or nothing else is gonna fall into place. I also recommend keeping up your appearance. Get your hair done. Wear some lipstick and mascara or whatever it takes for you to look in the mirror and say, "I feel pretty." It isn't vanity. It's... okay maybe it IS vanity, but there's nothing wrong with it, IMHO.  Surround yourself with people who make you feel good. My friends are the family I CHOOSE. And they keep me sane. They tell me to shut up when I need it and they let me piss and moan when I need it. They also make me laugh. And that's important. My advice is to treat yourself and those you want around you well, and enjoy the time you have here. Because really, what else have we got? Push the doubts away. It really is that simple. |
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Yeah, the big 4-0 is coming up, and I'm a bit apprehensive. I weight lift 5 days a week, eat religiously well, but can't sleep as soundly as 5 years ago. That slows my healing from the day's activities.
The laugh lines have bothered me the past few months; finding that I need to rework my makeup techniques. Speaking of that, I tried the before makeup/progression pics from an earlier thread, and decided to skip that.
Indeed, as others have said, some days you feel great, others are OMGWTFBBQ?! Some things stress me out more than my 30's, but others roll off me like never before. It's all perspective and taking good care of yourself. Going to the range at least once a week is a huge help. Also, I'm fortunate to have a loving, supportive and amazing husband. 
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Quoted: I did not back slowly out of that thread: I ran like my ass was on fire out of it! Yeah, the big 4-0 is coming up, and I'm a bit apprehensive. I weight lift 5 days a week, eat religiously well, but can't sleep as soundly as 5 years ago. That slows my healing from the day's activities. The laugh lines have bothered me the past few months; finding that I need to rework my makeup techniques. Speaking of that, I tried the before makeup/progression pics from an earlier thread, and decided to skip that. Indeed, as others have said, some days you feel great, others are OMGWTFBBQ?! Some things stress me out more than my 30's, but others roll off me like never before. It's all perspective and taking good care of yourself. Going to the range at least once a week is a huge help. Also, I'm fortunate to have a loving, supportive and amazing husband. edit - spelling |