Posted: 10/4/2007 6:47:23 AM EDT
| Ok, so my friend, another military wife, is pregnant again. We both just had babys the end of last year, and shes pregnant again, due in May. Neither of us got baby showers, having had just moved to this duty station and not knowing anyone, or having family close. My family sort of made up for it by flying me home and throwing a welcome to the family party for my little girl, but she never got hers. I know you don't typically throw a shower for a second child, but would it be unaccept able to throw one being that she never had one for the first baby? |
Opps! Am I showing my age? Something I remember hearing my grandma say once -- a long, long time ago! 
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No problem. Besides, I doubt you're any older than I am, and I don't consider myself all that old.  My wife and I often give gifts of diapers to friends and neighbors if we don't know what else they might need. Seems like, no matter how many previous children you've had, you can never have too many diapers for when the next baby comes. |
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I've thrown showers for my friends who have already had children. I think its nice. I think a baby whether its #1 or #5 is special and sometimes things are not planned and having a shower can let the mother know that their baby is special even if its a surprise. Patty |
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I had a baby shower for my first and the same friend threw what she called a "sprinkle" instead of a shower for my 2nd. It was just on a smaller scale than my first but I still did the gift registry and everything. I didn't have one for my 3rd or 4th and I could have used one then - everything by that time was either out of season or worn out from the first 2 LOL!! -Mrs.Monk |
Yeppers! I had showers for both of my boys. It was welcome, lemme tell you! While I hate attending showers (I'm not into all that "girlie style" bonding stuff) I recognize the need for them. Babies are expensive! My boys are 10 and 5 now, and I see new baby stuff all the time that was not even invented when I had my kids and if I were to be expecting now, I'd love to have some of those things. Congrats to you (a bit late) and to your friend! |
| Thanks all. I think I will go ahead and throw one. Maybe it will get her more excited about baby number two, she wasn't really ready to have another, hopefully this will help. So to the men that read this, Since we still don't really know a whole lot of women in the area, would men attend if we made it a BBQ type thing, or is it still to "girly"? |
If it's a BBQ, men would be more disposed to attend. Especially if you let the men do the barbecuing and allowed them an escape during the more girly parts of the get together (the gift giving/opening). |
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YES throw her a baby shower. One she needs the support since she is away from home. Usually on second or even third babies we do a tea instead of a shower and it's diapers wipes shampoo and a few little things if the baby is a different sex. We have done a toddler bed for the older child and another car seat for the new baby coming on board. A lot of us gave gift certificates for home made meals and or deliverable fast food restaurants. All those things come in handy I had no help with my two and they were 16 months apart.  I make sure the young moms have some little get together.At work we do a lunch for expecting dads and do the same. Diapers wipes umbrella stroller stuff they will need for two little ones. Especially if we know they have no family here.  |